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>but you do notice a lot of people treat it like a job application
Sadly, I think we're now seeing this as a standard. Because just like an HR person at a company, you get to choose between about two or three dozen, well, applicants, and you are only going to have a limited time to concern yourself with each one of them. And being spoiled for choice that way IMO also means that you are less willing to let something run its course and get to know the person better while not being put off by annoying quirks they may have and that are apparent from the beginning. Why invest all that time, when you can just as easily move on to the next person. But I maintain that it's merely an illusion of choice, and that it gets you no further in finding the right person for you than in the old days.
I remember a time when online dating consisted of putting an ad on some local events web site in your area, and then you would wait impatiently for three or four people to e-mail you. And the odds were against you in the first place if you were a lad writing to a lass with a very attractive photo of herself. Even that was kind of radical in the late 90s to early 2000s, because growing up, when I was a weelad, putting an ad in an actual paper looking for a partner always had kind of a connotation of desperation attached to it. You had exhausted all the ways of finding a partner within your social circles, or you were just too ugly or too messed up in the first place to find somebody among them, so that was your last straw. Kind of funny how that has changed. But like I said, it needs to be taken with a grain of salt, and finding Mr. or Ms. Right to me seems no easier than back then. Just the parameters of it have changed.