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I will take a guess and say because they are centered around women. Women are the ones who plan, arrange and carry out Western wedding ceremonies. In eskimo cultures, from what I witnessed, a wedding is more about parents giving their daughter away to their future husband. That in itself is not without problems if we judge it by our modern Western standards, because it isn't about women choosing their future husband, but about parents, as I said, giving away their daughter. Anyway, the parents of the bridal couple are generally in charge of the festivities and all the planning. And they seem to get on with it very pragmatically. Or maybe their cultures and traditions just leave very little room for variation, that's also a possibility.
But put white middle class Western brides in charge of a wedding, as they are when "Western" people marry, and what you end up with is a whole weekend's worth of drama, daftness, silly wedding reception games, atrocious speeches, and guests quietly contemplating shooting themselves in the head. And that isn't counting the months of drama beforehand which everybody around the bride will have to endure. Who sits next to who becomes an unsolvable puzzle, colour combinations of table cloths and carnations suggested by the groom nearly end in the couple's separation, and disagreements about the font on the wedding invitations will continue far into the wedding night itself. I actually witnessed all of this myself with various friends and their weddings.
It's in our culture. 50 years of women's emancipation, and women still grow up with the vision in their head of what their wedding day will be like. By the time the day comes, they will have had anywhere from 20 to 30 years to contemplate it. While guys really only start thinking about their wedding day when they have met somebody who is hell bent on tying the knot, when you think about it.
So women will have had all this time, all these decades to prepare for that one big day of their lives. And yet, it turns out completely shit.