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>The body language you use and the attitude you adopt towards your surroundings does far more to protect you than any form of actual toughness. Doesn't matter how scrawny you are or if you're rippling with muscles. It's just knowing what will make you a target.
By the same token, that kind of "bad boy from the hood" posture, attitude and self-projection will make you stick out like a sore thumb in higher circles, upper middle class and beyond, where you don't usually have to worry about getting into a serious physical fight in the first place, let alone at night in a bad part of town.
People from lower classes often complain that it feels to them like there is a secret code among those who came from better upbringings, which in one way or another will keep lower class people from moving up the social ladder and truly becoming "one of them", despite their own best efforts. I would go as far as saying that probably 40 to 60 percent of it is simply posture, projection and mannerisms. Even if somebody masks it very successfully, there will always be dead giveaways about their upbringing the more time you will spend talking to them. The way they will behave in conversation with somebody, their choice of words, their accent, even their sense of humour. You name it.
In short, your council estate antics may have served you well growing up on an actual council estate. But if you want to better yourself and leave that world behind, then you are going to have to drop all of it. Unfortunately, that's much easier said than done, which is why, as I said, you usually can't fake it for long.