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>> No. 18262 Anonymous ## Mod ##
5th March 2014
Wednesday 8:27 pm
18262 Please check the old pages for similar threads Locked Stickied
before creating a new one.
Failure to do so may result in angry shouting.
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>> No. 29363 Anonymous
2nd February 2020
Sunday 12:12 pm
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Go here if you want to talk to someone one-on-one: https://discord.gg/Nwn8b29

>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 29830 Anonymous
10th July 2020
Friday 10:40 pm
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>As a lateral thinking solution, just pick up the phone and call someone, like a psychopath.

You jest, but I honestly feel like just phoning someone out of the blue in the year of our lord 2020 would give the impression I'm on the edge of a mental breakdown.
>> No. 29831 Anonymous
10th July 2020
Friday 10:44 pm
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I left facebook a few years ago, and phoning people who I haven't seen in ages to stay in contact instead is much better emotionally.
>> No. 29832 Anonymous
12th July 2020
Sunday 12:14 pm
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I took my own advise and called a friend out of the blue yesterday, it was great, we talked for an hour about everything and nothing.
in your >>29830 face mental break down boy.
>> No. 29833 Anonymous
13th July 2020
Monday 5:54 pm
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All I can do is get high and the only time I feel someway normal is on low doses of LSD. Productivity is shot, I just want to sit and do nothing, to just have time to process everything happening but even days of that don't seem to be enough. I get right back into the real world and I feel terrible, everything's so shit. I know I should pack it in as I'm probably just overdoing the drugs but I honestly can't take being sober at this point. When the weather clears up I'm going to the moors to do a whack load of shrooms and hoping that sorts me out one way or another.
>> No. 29835 Anonymous
14th July 2020
Tuesday 7:58 pm
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Each time i come here to talk about whatever's on my mind, I think fuck it and just load up a videogame or youtube.
It's like i'd just be browsing my mind for something to post. Insincere. Won't commit. It's not really worth the effort to bring something up which can easily sit in a quagmire of percieved problems. Focus on them and they're defined, leave them and it's just soup. Sprinkled with some herbs and it's not so bad.

I don't know if this is a problem. fuck it.

>> No. 29802 Anonymous
23rd June 2020
Tuesday 12:55 pm
29802 Therapy, again
I know that there is at least one psychotherapist reading this. I have spent the last years trying in vain to get some decent therapy. I have some serious issue and need somebody that would dig into the deep recesses of my mind, figure out what the fuck is wrong with me, and confront it until I can be well again. Now when I tell a therapist about my problems the only response is "well I'm sorry you feel that way, have you thought about getting a hobby or trying some relaxation meditation?" The therapists I have seen can only repeat what is written on the NHS website verbatim. No one of them seemed able to understand what I was saying and give a meaningful advice, it was just parroting those vapid and shallow self-help tips of that website.

Is there any way to get decent mental healthcare in UK without spending 90 quids at hour?
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>> No. 29804 Anonymous
23rd June 2020
Tuesday 5:53 pm
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This is something I've wondered about for a long time - much so infact that I've even considered learning tarot cards for myself - in the sense that you observe your reaction and thought process to the ideas proposed by a random card spread, rather than fortune reading. It seems like the kind of thing that'll be vulnerable to bias and feedback loops, though maybe you could counter these with meditation, I don't know.
I recognise that's is pretty woo, but whatever - atleast you could have a little laugh and forget about working on your problems for a moment.

I've found my deep seated confusions to calm considerably when i've spent months about the country side - having their buzz reduced helps you notice 'your self' that much better. Delve into those confusions and don't stop at the first convenient answer; try to link what comes up with childhood memories; seek to refute rather than confirm; etc. After a while you might get to notice that little twitch you make that indicative of decipt or discomfort - so you've found a vulnerability worth investigation. Again there's the bias but you can recognise a good deal of yourself by doing stuff like this.

It all does feel dismissive - essentially entertain yourself until death so you don't have to stare the abyss that appears as a human soul (or some shit). It's really a spiritual matter which our culture has yet to to address (or done so poorly with christianity?).

I'm going all over the place here.
>> No. 29806 Anonymous
23rd June 2020
Tuesday 7:05 pm
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Mate, how stoned/drunk are you?
>> No. 29814 Anonymous
29th June 2020
Monday 9:18 pm
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Have you thought about dosing on LSD and joining a cult?

>> No. 26758 Anonymous
7th June 2018
Thursday 12:03 am
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I've been with my gf for the past 4 years. I am 26, she 24.

I love her dearly, I don't think I'll find any one like her, she has shown so much forgiveness, so much love and care for me.

However... I am desperately looking to shag other girls. I haven't done that... although I have 'mildly' cheated numerous times by kissing girls on nights out etc. Recently however it's been really eating at me. I have an insane sexual appetite, she has quite the opposite. I've tried to address this with her so, so many times, she says she is going to work on it, and nothing happens.

I'm going to Tokyo on holiday soon. Last time I was there I resisted an incredible amount of urges, and caved to some others... I did feel guilty about these things, for a while, then it passed. I feel I have to process some sort of decision beforehand because I am an absolute animal when drunk. I change into someone who gives zero fucks in that moment.

I don't want to break up with her. I don't think I CAN. She's an ideal long-term partner, objectively speaking. She is intelligent, considerate, loving, achieving. I love her to bits. I would regret it.

I understand the common advice would be to "break up with her and shag away", but if I think about life in a calculated, sterile, 'sensible' way, then the optimum choice, the one that makes the most sense for my quality of life, my long term well-being, is to stay with her and just cheat occasionally to get it out of my system. Now I understand that isn't a very nice thing to say, but life advice generally revolves around making decisions, often difficult, that better yourself. Is that not right? Why does it differ on such an important area, relationships?
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>> No. 29797 Anonymous
13th June 2020
Saturday 8:16 pm
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Lolly Badcock will cure your curtain aversion. You'll realise quicly you'd be okay with gammon hangers flopping about on your face if someone like her was talking filth to you while doing it.

Surely the more fannies you see, the less you think about how they "should" look, as you'll never find two the same. And a neat innie one feels no better or worse on my knob than a floppy outie one.
>> No. 29798 Anonymous
13th June 2020
Saturday 8:56 pm
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Arsehole > fanny.
>> No. 29799 Anonymous
14th June 2020
Sunday 1:42 am
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A female mate talked about going to one of those hot spring spas there and being surprised at the sheer volume of hair going on (I remember her doing this "poof" motion with her hands), it sounded like even trimming pubic hair was the exception. Mind that was nearly 10 years ago now, I wouldn't be too surprised to hear that tube sites had changed everything there too.

I'm not sure that Japan, of all countries, could ever be a poster child for healthy attitudes towards sex or genitalia.
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15th June 2020
Monday 7:34 pm
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> I'm not sure that Japan, of all countries, could ever be a poster child for healthy attitudes towards sex or genitalia.

If rubbin' an octopus on a terrified teenage girl's crotch is wrong, hey, I don't wanna be right.
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15th June 2020
Monday 9:17 pm
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>> No. 29619 Anonymous
7th May 2020
Thursday 8:24 pm
29619 Last of a dying breed?
ladm9s and lassm8s

I've always tried to live my life as a good person. I had a decent upbringing, I have a clear moral compass and I've always tried to treat others the way I'd like to be treated.

I've never EVER treated anyone differently based on their race, religion, gender or sexual orientation, and always believed in equal rights. I've also never assumed any superiority or that I have extra privilege because I'm a white male. I had to work my socks off at school, had to turn up for work and actually do my job well, etc.


I find that in recent years,I feel as if I am automatically viewed as a problem just because I'm a white male. I feel like white males have become 'the enemy' and a very bad thing, and that really annoys me. As a knock - on effect, I am getting very apathetic towards feminism, LGBT+ (whom I now find myself referring to as 'the Alphabet crowd') issues etc, and just getting sick of them every time I see something like, for example, the recent furore surrounding The Last of Us 2, or any kind of media where the 'woke' agenda is very obviously being pushed at the expense of what is actually best for said media. I've gone from being totally fine and supportive with these issues/causes to borderline hating them because it feels like their progression is ultimately going to eradicate or severely marginalise white males. I'm getting particularly sick of transgenders and their bullshit being entertained as something other than what it is - mental illness that should be properly, medically treated.

I'd be interested in hearing some thoughts on this. Does my feeling like this make me a bad person? Anyone else feel the same way?

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(A good day to you Sir!)
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>> No. 29659 Anonymous
8th May 2020
Friday 11:15 pm
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N1 m8, alt right won't know wot hit it
>> No. 29660 Anonymous
8th May 2020
Friday 11:24 pm
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>The academic logic behind the current post-modernist politics is to abolish prejudice by robbing labels of their power by making them over numerous and fluid

You'd be quite wrong, that's what they say the intention is of course, but everything about their discourse and action reveals a completely essentialist worldview where in fact labels are more important than anything else. Here's perhaps the best left wing take I've read on the matter:

>> No. 29661 Anonymous
9th May 2020
Saturday 7:11 pm
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You would be surprised how pervasive these things have been since 2016, mate.
>> No. 29775 Anonymous
12th June 2020
Friday 9:57 am
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/pol/ philosophy (the part of it that isnt just larping or venting) and alt-right sentiment is a natural resistance to what OP is describing. If you can't recogise the rise of radical leftism in our society, you're not paying attention.

Best thing to do is just ignore it, though. That goes for (you) >>29656 too lad, if you don't like what you deem to be the rise of radical right-wingism, twisting your knickers into a knot over it won't help. Just ignore it.

These things ebb and flow.
>> No. 29782 Anonymous
12th June 2020
Friday 1:48 pm
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>Best thing to do is just ignore it

It isn't though.

>> No. 29754 Anonymous
6th June 2020
Saturday 11:03 pm
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Is the practice of meditation, in the pursuit of "enlightenment" a kind of self-induced schizophrenia? I started meditating last year and I've come to view the vast majority of problems people complain about as a kind of melodramatic form of mental scaffolding that they shackle themselves with just to give their brains something to do. If I hadn't learned acceptance through my meditative practices, I'd be annoyed at how whiny everyone is.
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>> No. 29757 Anonymous
7th June 2020
Sunday 12:12 am
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If you go deep into it of course. There''s a reason there are whole schools of thought about the correct way to progress in terms of a serious practice. I think for most people who do a little bit of mindfullness or whatever it won't be an issue but if you're deep diving you're gonna run into some legitimate and challenging weirdness.

I think there's probably other lads on here that would be able to elucidate a bit better, I only paddle in the shallow end for my own purposes. But I mean you're basically fundamentally fucking with your own internal thought processes and nervous system, so yeah it can be serious fucking business if you're not careful.
>> No. 29765 Anonymous
7th June 2020
Sunday 10:55 am
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A while back I read an article somewhere discussing the practices of certain organisations running courses on meditation.
In particular in the UK there have been a few places running hotels in the theme of Tibetan monasteries, where people can pay a couple of grand, they get a few lectures in meditation from some old guru-type, and then they are locked up for a week just being let out an hour a day for food and exercise in silence.

Large numbers of people going on those courses are suffering from serious psychotic breaks and having to be sectioned, because they've been dumped right in the deep end without the sort of one-on-one support and guidance that you would get in a real monastery.

>the vast majority of problems people complain about as a kind of melodramatic form of mental scaffolding
I'm a dabbler in mindfulness at most, but even at the level I'm at its made me see this in people
>> No. 29767 Anonymous
7th June 2020
Sunday 1:23 pm
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Part of me thinks it's hilarious and the type of relive my gap yah hipster wanker who'd pay for that deserves sectioning to begin with.

I'm not sure what the other part of me thinks. I've never meditated, I've just taken loads of psychedelic drugs over the years.

>> No. 29680 Anonymous
22nd May 2020
Friday 11:06 pm
29680 Social Distancing and a love Life
Can any of you lads able to recommend some imaginative ways to do dating with social distancing in effect. I reckon that with the recent loosening of restrictions you can maybe sit in a park and not look at one-another but is that the best you can do?

I decided to put this in /emo/ because I live alone and honestly I'm feeling a bit lonely at this point. There's online dating but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do, can conversations keep flowing when you're not doing much all day? How does it even work?
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>> No. 29752 Anonymous
6th June 2020
Saturday 10:35 pm
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Fuck sake, after 3 weeks of wasting time on dating apps I'm there but the thunder and lightning started up today. Any ideas on how I can make a convincing date tomorrow in Central London? It's not fair.
>> No. 29753 Anonymous
6th June 2020
Saturday 10:55 pm
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>Social distancing is for shops and that, not for prospective shags.
>> No. 29755 Anonymous
6th June 2020
Saturday 11:57 pm
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You can still arse piss and socially distance.
>> No. 29756 Anonymous
7th June 2020
Sunday 12:07 am
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Go for a walk somewhere. Along the river maybe or see some of the sites etc. Central is a bit of a shit place to wander around but fuck knows atm. Hyde park? Regents park?
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7th June 2020
Sunday 2:00 am
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That would be lovely but my predicament is its going to piss it down.

>Central is a bit of a shit place to wander around

There's plenty of parks and a stroll along the Thames is quite nice.

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>> No. 29715 Anonymous
2nd June 2020
Tuesday 2:39 pm
29715 Coronavirus has done a number on me
I was fine with it at first, moved back with the parents away from my cramped London flat, found some weird novelty in it but coronavirus has started to take its toll on me. Has this happened to anybody else?

My job I was moving to abroad got canned because they shut their borders, I've no idea what the future looks like,my girlfriend I don't really think I love wants to move in together but I just don't think it's for me, I can't go to the job I want, I can't even go travelling, I'm just stuck in my job. I have one at least, I get it, but I just want the gym back, my office with a huge monitor back, haircuts and being able to get a plane anywhere.

It's just worn me down, feels a bit relentless and whilst it's helped me have a good think about my life I've hit my limit. Any coping strategies you lads are employing?
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>> No. 29746 Anonymous
4th June 2020
Thursday 6:33 pm
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>Thank you mate - really appreciate this post.

No worries, was probably helpful for me to post it as well.

In terms of meditation guides it's kind of hard to say, think you probably just need to try a few things and see what works for you. Lots of people have told me like that headspace app has worked for them and there's a million guided meditation things on youtube.

Personally I've worked out my own little routine that starts of just counting breaths and then if I start to feel settled I do some other breathing stuff and that's about it. When I first started trying to get into a proper practice I found going to a drop in group session was really useful just in terms of doing it in a group and being forced into a longer meditation than I'd do myself. Obviously not an option atm though. My main thing is to try and go into it with the right intention as in to try not to see it as a chore or a thing you HAVE to do, but rather as 10/15/20 time for yourself where you're allowed to not worry and stress about stuff. Which is easier said than done obviously.

And as I said in the previous post I've fallen out the habit myself so am a bit of a hypocrite. I think trying to maintain the habit can be the hardest thing, for me at least. But when I do I feel a bit better in my head.

>I was probably just hoping somebody would chime in and say 'yeah same, it fucking sucks you're not alone.'

You're not, and I'd imagine there are plenty of other lads on here who are feeling the same but might not even feel up to typing up a post. And just anecdotally speaking to mates irl lots of people are having a hard time in all sorts of ways.

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>> No. 29747 Anonymous
4th June 2020
Thursday 9:19 pm
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I think I've kept sane because I've just been too busy with work to worry. I'm not actually getting much done at home but then nothing focuses the mind like a deadline.

Maybe you can try keeping yourself busy with an online course. The sense of progress and just generally keeping yourself occupied is something I've found helpful throughout my life. That said, I think everyone has been getting those moments though where you just want to get out the house and live your life again.

Seconding the good nights sleep. As my commute has been cut right down I've been able to get much more sleep than I used to. It makes a world of difference.
>> No. 29749 Anonymous
6th June 2020
Saturday 10:54 am
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You're not alone.

If you don't want to try headspace then there's this:


Which I made into podcast form for ease: https://fourble.co.uk/podcast/reltech
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6th June 2020
Saturday 11:22 am
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Also because you're missing the gym, you can try this site which tailors exercises according to what equipment you have https://www.fitnessblender.com

Or the NHS site https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/exercise/gym-free-workouts/
>> No. 29751 Anonymous
6th June 2020
Saturday 4:57 pm
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I actually managed to do 15 minutes for the first time in a few weeks and feel more chill. Might try another 15 once it gets dark if I haven't got half pissed first.

Do any of you bodhisattva lads have any tips for maintaining the habit? I often keep it up for a few weeks and then inevitably just let it slip, I mean I guess it's just self discipline really isn't it? It just often feels a lot easier to crack a beer.

>> No. 29163 Anonymous
1st January 2020
Wednesday 8:49 pm
29163 How to thicken helmet skin?
I want to thicken the skin of my helmet to reduce the sensitivity of my benin. I've been circumcised which has helped to reduce sensitivity a bit but I want to reduce it more.

Would soaking it in surgical spirit every day help? Would it increase my chances of getting dick cancer or something?

What about rubbing it with sandpaper for a few minutes every day?
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>> No. 29687 Anonymous
28th May 2020
Thursday 10:15 am
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Nah, next thing up is self-circumcision. I'm developing a device that will cut off the skin exactly where I want.
>> No. 29734 Anonymous
3rd June 2020
Wednesday 1:46 pm
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I put nettles under my foreskin once. It wasn't as interesting as I expected. Infact it hurt, a lot.
Toothpaste is an interesting one, especicially when it mingles with your pre-cum and seeps down your urethra.
>> No. 29740 Anonymous
3rd June 2020
Wednesday 6:29 pm
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Want me to post you a bhut jolokia when I've got a few grown later in the year?
>> No. 29743 Anonymous
3rd June 2020
Wednesday 8:37 pm
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By that time, OP will be slamming his mangled dick in a door to flatten it enough to appeal to tapeworms, or something similarly daft.
Either that's a well-written prank page, or maybe it _is_ what OP wants.
>> No. 29744 Anonymous
3rd June 2020
Wednesday 10:56 pm
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You are Will Kellogg and I claim my five pounds.

>> No. 29701 Anonymous
31st May 2020
Sunday 1:49 pm
29701 Thank you
Thank you /fags for being there. I want to thank every single contributor for being just like every other cunt you come across. I wouldn't change it for the world.
I've had serious MH issues this last year and it's been bad. But you lot have carried on chatting shit about rinsing pasta. We have one unifying attribute. Our God.

Our Moaty who art in Heaven
Hallowed be thy name
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>> No. 29707 Anonymous
31st May 2020
Sunday 8:06 pm
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You didn't miss much.
>> No. 29708 Anonymous
31st May 2020
Sunday 9:36 pm
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I, for one, found it hilarious and I don't really even like pasta.
>> No. 29709 Anonymous
1st June 2020
Monday 12:07 am
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It is easy to laugh when you don't care what a monster diluted sauce lad is.
>> No. 29710 Anonymous
1st June 2020
Monday 1:45 am
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It has been 10 years lad, let it go.
>> No. 29748 Anonymous
5th June 2020
Friday 8:56 am
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>> No. 29688 Anonymous
29th May 2020
Friday 1:59 am
29688 Red Dwarf - Psi-Moon
What would your psi-moon look like? What monsters lurk within your psyche? What demons born from neuroses would be made flesh?

Here's the script if you're unfamiliar with the episode: http://www.cervenytrpaslik.cz/scenare/EN-27-5_Terrorform.htm
Here's the episode: https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6t4c1g
Here's an explanation of the concept: https://reddwarf.fandom.com/wiki/Psi-moon
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>> No. 29695 Anonymous
29th May 2020
Friday 5:40 pm
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If you didn't like the first series then I don't think you'll like the rest of it I'm afraid. The humour remains much the same; torturously long similies, Lister is disgusting, etc.

In my opinion it's never been gut-bustingly funny, it's always been a little bit crap in a charming way, but if you're already turned off then forget it.
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29th May 2020
Friday 5:41 pm
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There's a massive shift in the whole show between series two and three. If you don't like it by the end of series three then you probably won't like any of it.
>> No. 29697 Anonymous
29th May 2020
Friday 8:13 pm
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Yeah but the shift is from comedy towards sci-fi, so it doesn't help with the lad's initial problem of not finding it funny.
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29th May 2020
Friday 8:31 pm
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Interesting. I always felt that it moved from being sci-fi driven sitcom to being a sitcom with sci-fi elements. The humour definitely moves towards the crasser Goalpost head, novelty condom head, "deader than A-line flairs with pockets in the knees" etc etc. rather than the "two men lost in space" odd couple humour of the first two series.

I'd definitely say series 3 onwards is a lot more accessible and similar to mainstream comedies than the first two.
>> No. 29700 Anonymous
30th May 2020
Saturday 12:40 pm
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I feel as though it's pointless thinking about such things because it's essentially observing the observer. The result is always going to be biased even if you're a buddha(?).
Don't get me wrong, I'd love to understand myself - i just don't think you could do it by imagining your perfect horror. We're already living it in our responces to reality and overarching fear of death, and all that shit.

>> No. 29674 Anonymous
19th May 2020
Tuesday 2:12 pm
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I am going to have a first (phone) appointment with Able Futures next week. Does anybody know anything about them? I am evaluating what I should and what I should NOT tell them, since they will be paid by my employer.
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>> No. 29677 Anonymous
19th May 2020
Tuesday 3:21 pm
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A first interview for therapy sessions. They provide free therapy paid for by the gov’t if you are employed.
>> No. 29678 Anonymous
19th May 2020
Tuesday 5:02 pm
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The Able Futures service is funded by the DWP, not your employer. The service is completely confidential and you don't even have to tell your employer that you're using the service. They will only break that confidentiality if you disclose that you have committed or intend to commit a violent or sexual crime.

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27th May 2020
Wednesday 6:22 pm
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Alas, the Able Futures ended up being completely worthless. I have to save my penny and pay for a private therapist. Shame on me for assuming that there was such a thing as free mental healthcare. In picture, me.
>> No. 29685 Anonymous
27th May 2020
Wednesday 6:54 pm
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I don't know what the provision is like in your area, but both myself and my partner got mental healthcare through the NHS through referral from a GP. Long wait times, but they offered an 8 week course of talking therapy which I guess could be helpful if your mental health issues aren't too bad.
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27th May 2020
Wednesday 7:05 pm
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I guess it depends on the area. When I tried they took about one year to call back. At that point I was going to move out of the area soon.

>> No. 28694 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 10:26 pm
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My girlfriend is deep in a manic depressive episode and has come to the conclusion that she should end her life in the near future once she has 'a few things in place'. I think mainly financial and childcare type things as she has a child in primary school. There have been ups and downs before but in the past she was adamant that no matter how bad it got she would never consider suicide.

She is still sending me messages but has made it quite clear that we probably shouldn't be together anymore - 'find someone better than me etc.'

She has struggled for a while and is under a crisis team but won't reach out to them and is also refusing to take her meds. I think she has only told me about her intentions so far.

What the fuck am I supposed to do? I've been there and talked her out of dark times before, but this seems pretty final.

I've kept this to myself for the last day or so because we're still communicating and it's something at least. I know the first name of her nurse in the crisis team and also can get in touch with a relative she is close to if need be. I think it would cause a lot of pain to her and her family if they knew.
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>> No. 28698 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 11:08 pm
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It's reasonable to hope there's a more discreet path to take, but ultimately, somebody who is suicidal isn't in their right mind and they are unpredictable. It will cause alarm and she'll be pissed off, especially at you if she knows it was you, but they need to know, someone in this state of mind needs people in physical proximity who can support them and stop them doing anything daft.

I had a mate top himself earlier on this year. He had two kids with an awful bitch of an ex who was half the cause of it; but after all has been said and done it's those kids who will grow up without a dad who will suffer the most. He attempted it a couple of times before he succeeded, and we thought he'd come through the worst of it when it happened. The trouble is you can't take your eye off someone for two minutes in case they decide to string themselves up; never mind when their closest friends live a substantial distance away and couldn't reasonably be there for them if they wanted to.

You might think it would do more harm than good to get her family involved, but if she goes ahead and does it anyway you'll forever regret not doing something.
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3rd July 2019
Wednesday 11:54 pm
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She has a medical problem and needs treatment. The nature of that medical problem means that she's unlikely to seek treatment of her own volition right now. Making sure she gets treatment is the moral equivalent of giving CPR to someone who has just gone into cardiac arrest - it's not technically consensual, but it could save their life and it's your duty to do so.

Contact the crisis team and let them know that she's off her meds and is actively suicidal. If you get a message that really worries you or the messages stop abruptly, call 999 and ask for an ambulance. She might not thank you for it right now, but doing nothing might play on your conscience for the rest of your life.
>> No. 28700 Anonymous
4th July 2019
Thursday 1:20 pm
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Well, I've called up the crisis team. It seems like they'll follow up with her but due to data protection and whatnot I have no further involvement. The lady on the phone was almost nonchalant asking whether it was self-harm or suivide she was threatening and how soon she might do it. Quite surreal, really.

I've also told her cousin and sent a few screenshots of messages. She's fucking fuming at me now.

I'm worried that she will lie and be deceptive when dealing with the people I've told.
>> No. 29650 Anonymous
8th May 2020
Friday 7:39 pm
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Feels a bit strange coming back to this thread after almost a year.

I've stuck with her and there have been some good times. Lately it seems a lot of bad times - medication changes, work changes, lifestyle changes, virus and lockdown shite.

Some of the ways her behaviour manifests borders on the abusive - stopping me from leaving a room, hiding keys, keeping me awake. I think a lot of this is rooted in self-hatred and being close to rock bottom - frustration with the world and with herself that gets directed outwards. She apologises and I've been close to walking out numerous times. What I struggle with is how accountable I can hold her for her own actions. Is she in control?

I'm not perfect by any means and often times don't support her enough (if anyone could?). Lately there have been very few positive days and she is so sensitive that I have been careful about what I say or do around her. Yesterday I tried to end things - after a lot of tears and pleading she agreed to stay elsewhere overnight and give me space for a few days. This morning at 7am she woke me up and I let her in. She hadn't slept and the place 'wasn't suitable'. After talking it out a lot I think we're going to take it a little slowly and see if things improve.

Part of me feels like I've just given in, the other part is maybe optimistic. I'm not sure I can see my future with her but she is certain that hers is with me.

This is more of a vent than anything else, I guess. If anyone has advice it would be welcome.
>> No. 29670 Anonymous
18th May 2020
Monday 2:10 am
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>medication changes
This implies she's taking medication at least, so that sounds like an improvement from where you were last year. Honestly, though, from what you've mentioned I'm equally concerned about your own mental wellbeing.

>Some of the ways her behaviour manifests borders on the abusive - stopping me from leaving a room, hiding keys, keeping me awake
It's hard to offer advice because there's so much potential variability here - "stopping me leaving a room" might just be an arm on the door handle for a minute or two while you're having a minor disagreement, "hiding keys" can be a petulant game and "keeping you awake" could just be irritating "are you still awake? Wow, I can't sleep. I'm just wide awake over here" etc. If, however, there are substantial physical altercations, or if she's regularly preventing you from leaving the house with the front door/car keys, or regularly and deliberately denying you proper rest, then these are serious matters and are unquestionably abusive.

We have a significant problem in this country recognising that significant numbers of men are the target of various forms of domestic abuse. If you look up examples of domestic abuse online, it is genuinely shocking how many of them use gendered pronouns, such that the man is the abuser and the woman the victim. Prepare yourself for this, and then go read, and see if any of it fits. There are also hotlines specifically for men:
Give them a go.

>> No. 29019 Anonymous
21st October 2019
Monday 7:32 pm
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I honestly can't stand it any more.

The internet is breaking my faith in the human species and I need a break from it. Doesn't matter where you go. Chan boards? Infested with alt-right mouthbreathers. Reddit? The opposite brand of people with mind-worms so powerful they think the holodomor was a good thing. Video game sites? Corporate shills and pay-pig knuckle draggers. Obscure nerd hobby forum? Autism so powerful you can't even risk making a joke. Twitter? Let's not even go there, honestly.

Talking to randoms online has always felt like a beneficial exposure to differing ideas and opinions, but nowadays I'm starting to feel like participating in anything resembling the typical modern social media culture simply isn't good for me. Maybe I'm getting old, maybe everyone is just a dickhead, maybe I'm just a dickhead; but I used to be one of the people with ideals and some hope to change the world for the better. Ten years on, the kids have decided what I believe in is outdated, and that I'm pretty much the reincarnation of Hitler for every questioning the new orthodoxies of thought.

I'll be the first to admit I don't exactly have a busy social life in the real world. I'm working on changing that, but there are times I'm not feeling up to it, so I rely on the internet as a crutch. It's those times where I feel incredibly isolated without it, but exposing myself to the widespread toxicity of the internet at large any more is almost certainly unhealthy by this point.

What can I do?
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>> No. 29036 Anonymous
23rd October 2019
Wednesday 8:51 pm
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>What can I do?

Get outside, the internets isn't real.
>> No. 29082 Anonymous
25th November 2019
Monday 3:30 am
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>Chan boards? Infested with alt-right mouthbreathers

As someone that's been on a certain imageboard on-and-off for what'll be ten years in 2020, I know how you feel, m8. I hate these people about as much as those redditors you mentioned. I just saw that this meme (a meme that was part of the reason I really grew sick of the place) is apparently now so ubiquitous that it's trended on knowyourmeme:


Maybe I'm also just getting older, but the lack of any kind of civility online is just tiring to me, now. The internet has rarely ever been civil, but *at least* I knew there was an element of freedom of expression, as older people still didn't quite understand what kids did. Now we're not even gonna have that. All the places I've browsed for years are full and under a corporate thumb that once wasn't there, and if they are there, the place quickly becomes full of childish ideologues and oh-so hilarious memers.

What I will say is that I agree very much with this lad >>29030. I'm very lucky that I have a friend who thinks similarly to me, but he's admittedly also a lot more socially mature, less anxious. He thinks many of the things I think, but he's also just a kind, grounded person. He was once a lot more addicted to chans and the internet, but he hasn't been for years, now. He focuses on the outside world, and he just seems happier for it. Thinking of him keeps me remembering that the world outside, at least as it currently is, doesn't really give a shit about most of us, and that those that concern themselves with the internet too much are the ones ultimately doing themselves harm. They think they're so smart, so learned, so funny, but they're rarely making the difference that they think they are.

I guess to just summarise: The world does keep turning. And unless we hear nuclear sirens going off or you see tanks rolling down your street; then you've got the rest of your life to go out and enjoy it. I'd recommend getting the money together to visit national parks, forests, museums, etc. Don't mind the weather, just give it a go. It'll at least remind you that you're alive.
>> No. 29575 Anonymous
28th March 2020
Saturday 1:33 am
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Ive had the same thoughts recently.

This might sound a little forward, but I feel a weird affinity with you after reading your post and I feel like I'd love to get to know you
>> No. 29576 Anonymous
28th March 2020
Saturday 3:23 am
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In the space of fifteen years, online discourse has gone from isolated communities astonished to discover how many different points of view there are around the world, to becoming a hyperpartisan, hyperpolitical clusterfuck.

I don't post much any more, because I can tell that taking sense isn't doing any good. And that's, reassuringly, why arguing on the internet has got worse- because millions of us have attained enlightenment and bugged out of it. There are lots of us out there but we don't realise it because we've stopped communicating our presence.

I think a lot of us have used the internet to cathartically purge ourselves of a lot of the ugliness we see in others and have gone on to start families and have careers and such.

Meaningful conversation with the good guys tends to be brief. The good guys don't argue. They politely inform one another of facts, briefly research to confirm veracity, and thank each other for shoring up one another's ignorance. Conversation with the bad guys is a Sisyphean exercise in masochism, where they learn nothing and the only lesson you can learn is to not bother. So their rambling bleats tend to dominate message boards and such like.
>> No. 29577 Anonymous
28th March 2020
Saturday 7:45 am
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Try getting pen pals. I had one for a while a few years back where we solely communicated via email and I found it rather cathartic. A nice break from everything else online where you're generally getting instant responses and quickly disposable stimulation; you can properly reflect and think about what you're trying to say.

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