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>> No. 18262 Anonymous ## Mod ##
5th March 2014
Wednesday 8:27 pm
18262 Please check the old pages for similar threads Locked Stickied
before creating a new one.
Failure to do so may result in angry shouting.

>> No. 27337 Anonymous
12th September 2018
Wednesday 12:09 pm
27337 'He's got to go'
Ultimatum from the missus. Our 5 month old puppy ran off, she spent 20 minutes chasing him down. Final straw, apparently.
She's livid.
Trying to work out what to do. Losing her temper and smacking him around is imho unacceptable. He's just a puppy, being a puppy. Why the fuck can't she see that (and keep him on a lead when he can escape, rather than allowing him to get into situations which piss her off so much. It's as if she likes the fight, or is too dumb to see the possibility?)
Granted, he can be a pain in the arse.
Ah, fuck's sake. I dunno. If this turns into a 'me or the dog' situation, I don't know which way I'll jump. I can't handle her temper.
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>> No. 27410 Anonymous
22nd September 2018
Saturday 8:19 pm
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OP here.
I didn't see what she did to the dog, so was relying on what she told me, in her pissed off state.
In calmer circumstances, she said she caught him, brought him home, smacked his arse, and that was it. I'd say that was the wrong order, at the least, but it wasn't what I'd been imagining.
Puppy is seriously fine. Curled up with her on the sofa watching some bollocks or other on telly. He's not traumatised, still loves us both, like only a 6 month puppy can.
He now goes to daycare on days when I'm not working from home, so she doesn't get ratty about being disturbed all the time. He _loves_ daycare. Things are good.
I was a tad low when I posted, and it probably shows in the posting.
>> No. 27411 Anonymous
22nd September 2018
Saturday 8:22 pm
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Also - I did read all the replies, and the cuntoff.
It was reassuring.
When alien zombies land and start sucking brains and laying waste to the planet, I shall expect the same.
>> No. 27412 Anonymous
23rd September 2018
Sunday 12:21 am
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Absolutely no need to strike a dog for such things.

She's a mentalist and you're a wimp beating around the bush.
>> No. 27413 Anonymous
23rd September 2018
Sunday 1:06 am
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It still seems like a red flag to be so pissed off at an innocent creature. If she doesn't understand the puppy's not trying to personally offend her, then I can't imagine her being great at human empathy either.
>> No. 27414 Anonymous
23rd September 2018
Sunday 9:34 am
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Yeah, life's not perfect - nor's she, nor am I.
There's no more accusing the dog of deliberately pissing her off, and, because (sane) reasons, I believe she really believes this.
We muddle on, and life's pretty good for all of us. Lots of other things to worry about, but this, I think, has passed.

>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 27405 Anonymous
20th September 2018
Thursday 9:15 pm
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An obvious example would be my comment here: >>/b/420459. I'm not some kind of mathematical savant, I'm just bored enough to whip out a calculator to do some pizza-related sums. You'd have to be fucking mental to do that in a real conversation or a Whatsapp chat, but it doesn't seem totally unreasonable on a board as slow and spoddy as .gs.
>> No. 27406 Anonymous
20th September 2018
Thursday 9:24 pm
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It is pretty difficult to make a short, succinct post here. It feels like if you're putting in the effort to make a post, you may as well flesh the thing out. I

often find myself exploring every avenue of thought as I type out a post, and going back to re-structure and rephrase parts. Needless to say this is not something I'd do elsewhere, but it's part of what I find therapeutic about posting here. It's meditative, reflective almost.

I've often thought that the way I post here is comparable to what a diary would have been for people in the black and white days. You reflect and gather your thoughts, but with the added advantage that others can respond and give you different perspectives to consider. I try not to use the site as a blog, of course, but then again we have developed to a point that many posters will remember and pick up on things others have mentioned, even in some cases where they are not explicitly referring to it.

It has both benefits and drawbacks I suppose.
>> No. 27407 Anonymous
20th September 2018
Thursday 9:28 pm
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>You'd have to be fucking mental to do that in a real conversation

I wish someone had told me this before.
>> No. 27408 Anonymous
21st September 2018
Friday 12:53 am
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>I try not to use the site as a blog, of course, but then again we have developed to a point that many posters will remember and pick up on things others have mentioned, even in some cases where they are not explicitly referring to it.

This is very true. I've found I can genuinely identify certain posters just from the way they've written, even if they're not talking about something specific, and I'm sure I have my tells too. This familiarity is surely why I keep coming here, but it's also probably what puts newcomers off. I make a point to stay off /sentry/ until I've replied to posts, but when I do go on I'm almost always right about who I thought I was reading.

Maybe that's just me, though. I'd be curious to see if someone could intuit who I am from this post or point to another one of my posts, or if it's just my autism uniquely sharp powers of deduction.
>> No. 27409 Anonymous
21st September 2018
Friday 9:57 am
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A few years back I realised I was quite easily traceable through always posting images relating to pretty much a single quite specific topic and made a conscious effort to save a wider variety of random crap into the junk folder on my desktop. It would be really obvious for example if the chap who constantly needs to be reminded not to forgive his abusive parents in /emo/ and always posts a picture of goulash and the lad posting in /A/ about hating every second of his life that he is sober and always posts a picture of goulash are probably the same bloke.

(Using my own issues as an example with a made-up image topic obviously)

It's important to bear these kinds of things in mind especially with social conservatism threatening to make a comeback in a big way. Simply the fact that I hate my parents would have been enough for them to completely destroy me until frighteningly recently. Lobotomised, electro-shock treatment, locked up and forgotten about forever. Be careful lads.

>> No. 27344 Anonymous
13th September 2018
Thursday 12:04 pm
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What do people do?
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>> No. 27396 Anonymous
19th September 2018
Wednesday 9:33 pm
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Get on with their life. That is trite, but you probably had a more precise question when you asked the one you did. Can you verbalise it?
>> No. 27397 Anonymous
19th September 2018
Wednesday 9:54 pm
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I do what my people would
Because my people would
But only if my people could
I would if my people would

>> No. 27047 Anonymous
12th July 2018
Thursday 2:03 pm
27047 Where to meet birds
So, I've decided to try and not be that guy, a relationship-less virgin, into my mid-20s, which doesn't leave me with very long. I'm home from uni for the summer and have decided it's time to sort my act out.

The only problem - where to meet women?

I've completed tinder in a 15 mile radius, likewise for Bumble - zero (0) matches. I've messaged pretty much every girl on OKCupid with a match >75%; not one has replied.

What can I do now? The few local schoolfriends I am still in contact with are all male, everyone at my job is male, and all the women I talk to (from uni) are either in a relationship or otherwise not an option.

Going out to clubs doesn't work because a) I don't have anyone to go with, and b) when I try and do anything but stand at the bar drinking in a club (ie dance) I look like a tortoise trying to pilot a motorcycle.

Any ideas?
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>> No. 27325 Anonymous
31st August 2018
Friday 1:18 am
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Well, the end of summer is here, and still fuck all. There's a surprise.

One last year of uni, one more year of chances (limited as they may be as I'll be busy with a Master's course).

If I still can't sort it out by the end of the year, then I'm completely fucked (or not as the case may be). I don't see many options after that point.
>> No. 27326 Anonymous
31st August 2018
Friday 8:18 am
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Have you made any progress either socially, or with pursuing fitness or hobbies?

The advice you need is probably already in this thread, it is just a case of acting on it.
>> No. 27327 Anonymous
31st August 2018
Friday 5:46 pm
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Ended up working 5-6 days a week, on my feet; not checked the scales but went down a notch on my belt, anyway.

Not sure what else I can do with my already broad range of hobbies.

Went out with mates once or twice but the work schedule meant meetups couldn't happen.

Unsure where the fitness thing comes in. I know people fatter than me, considerably so, who slay attractive women.
>> No. 27328 Anonymous
31st August 2018
Friday 6:47 pm
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>I know people fatter than me, considerably so, who slay attractive women.

They probably have the personality to compensate.
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2nd September 2018
Sunday 1:25 am
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>The only problem - where to meet women?

>> No. 26793 Anonymous
8th June 2018
Friday 6:24 pm
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An incredibly attractive girl joined my team at work and for some reason picked me to flirt with.

She has been following me around, when I go for a break, when I get lunch, she always comes with me.

She's made a point of trying to sit next to me all the time and making me feel like the funniest man on planet earth by laughing at literally everything I say. She's been messaging me outside of work with inside jokes and just, in general, being a relentless flirt.

I bit the bullet and asked her what she was doing at the weekend over messages and she said that she was doing absolutely nothing, so I invited her out to which she just ignored it and moved on.

She's just messaged me again now asking me to Whatsapp her and give me her number but I'm in too much of a bad mood.

Not really sure where this is going but I stepped way out of my comfort zone and got a good kicking. It's weird how much flirting she has initiated for her to turn me down.

It's kind of ruined my Friday. Thanks for reading.
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>> No. 27296 Anonymous
24th August 2018
Friday 10:32 pm
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I fucked her.
>> No. 27301 Anonymous
24th August 2018
Friday 11:02 pm
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Well done fella, good fuck? Was she pleased with your cum face and dick size?
>> No. 27302 Anonymous
25th August 2018
Saturday 12:02 am
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Well done lad.

I look forward to the thread in couple of years time where you agonise over whether you'll have to leave your job when you dump her.
>> No. 27303 Anonymous
25th August 2018
Saturday 12:17 am
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We need the sordid details.
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25th August 2018
Saturday 8:33 am
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>> No. 27270 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 3:21 am
27270 History kicking me in the dick

I've not used .gs for years now, but I really wanted to vent and get some thoughts on a problem that's been keeping me up at night lately.

I met my current girlfriend on Tinder probably about this time last year, and we've been going out since last September. At this point, we more or less live together, and are very much in love. I'm a postdoc at a university, meaning a fixed-term contract after which I move on somewhere else in the world, and we are already anticipating our lives together in some new, exotic location (her career is completely translatable so moving internationally isn't an issue for her).

However, some quick Facebooking reveals that a friend of hers from her graduate programme is somebody that I had a few Tinder hook-ups with shortly after I moved here, a year or so before she and I met. The two of them aren't especially close friends, but her name has come up in conversation a couple of times, and they have mutual friends with whom they are both quite close.

I don't have a clue what to do. In my head, I'm rehearsing the talk that I have with her beginning with — as I did here — my discovering this information by happenstance through social media, and even that is difficult as there's a non-zero chance that this could be a dealbreaker for her.

Have any of you guys had any experience with being a bit of a flooze catching up with you later in life when you're genuinely in love?

Cheers in advance.
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>> No. 27271 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 5:09 am
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>Have any of you guys had any experience with being a bit of a flooze catching up with you later in life when you're genuinely in love?

Yes, and the hard truth is if she actually cares about you and is a mature adult she won't give a shit. It really shouldn't be a big deal, and honestly if she can't cope with you having bonked someone she knows before you even met her, then that is a huge red flag, that is not a healthy level of jealousy.

As for when to bring it up, it really depends on how long you're willing to 'hide' something from her (though for two adults this is about as minor as not telling her your feelings about strawberry jam, honestly) and how good you are at acting surprised. If you're not good at that then just tell her now. If you are then let this person enter naturally into a conversation whenever she may.

And what to say? Just the truth. "You know Sally? Bit awkward but we dated/hooked up a couple of times a few years back. Small world" is honestly the only good approach. (I'd just straight up tell my girlfriend 'oh I fucked her' but I'm sensing this might not work for you)

If you make it a big deal in your head, or when you tell her, you're going to make it sound like it really is a big deal when it's fully not.

Do you really believe your gf might consider you having had sex with someone she's met a dealbreaker though? Or is that just you projecting a bit?
>> No. 27272 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 4:55 pm
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Everybody has a past.

But seriously, if your girlfriend really cares a good deal about you, she will know to put in perspective the fact that you had some casual bonks with somebody else before her.

If you've been with your girlfriend for a year now, that means she already has somewhat of an idea about the kind of person you are now. So what if you were screwing around before her. A lot of people do until they find somebody that they feel is a keeper.
>> No. 27273 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 5:13 pm
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Would you care if your girlfriend told you she had slept with one of your mates before she met you?
>> No. 27279 Anonymous
9th August 2018
Thursday 11:16 am
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I can say from experience that if she's the type who's immature or insecure enough to be bothered about it, you're probably best off finding out sooner rather than later. It'll only cause you hassle later on.

You should probably mention it at some point, purely to avoid looking like you tried to hide it- Just make sure it's not a completely out of the blue "Oh hey so I snagged one of your mates".

>> No. 27251 Anonymous
31st July 2018
Tuesday 6:29 pm
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Posted here a few times before about loneliness and isolation in the last two years, totally failed in my endeavour to kill myself.

I want to fuck off up north to Leeds or Sheffield or Manc, start fresh up there. It would inevitably just be the same in somewhere different, but still.

I'm just too much of a pussy to do it. I know it's only a few hours away but the only thing keeping me alive at the minute is my (one and disinterested) friend and 'close' family.

Don't know what more there is to say.
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>> No. 27256 Anonymous
31st July 2018
Tuesday 7:00 pm
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>> No. 27257 Anonymous
1st August 2018
Wednesday 4:22 am
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>I want to fuck off up north to Leeds or Sheffield or Manc, start fresh up there.

What is the goal of moving to those places? I'm not trying to talk you out of anything, I just want to know what you hope to achieve that you can't where you are.
>> No. 27258 Anonymous
1st August 2018
Wednesday 8:52 am
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People up North are generally friendlier and less cold. Most places south of Derbyshire are full on cunt country.

OP may be better in a town than a city though, probably a commuter town, as cities can be a bit soulless and impersonal.
>> No. 27259 Anonymous
1st August 2018
Wednesday 11:07 am
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Move to Manchester, it's really quite nice.
>> No. 27260 Anonymous
1st August 2018
Wednesday 1:11 pm
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If you're going to move to "the North" go the whole hog and move to Scotland. Infinitely better landscape, people and long-term future than the north of England.

>> No. 27186 Anonymous
24th July 2018
Tuesday 10:09 pm
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I've come to accept I have a problem with anxiety. Any situation outside of my comfort zone, while I believe I can psychologically handle it, triggers a "life or death" physiological feeling to things which are really mundane. It's so frustrating, it feels like a limiting factor when I'm doing everything else right.

As such I've also accepted I need help. Now I already lead a very healthy life -- gym three days per week (lifting and cardio), good food with little to no sweets, negligible amounts of alcohol (I've had all of two beers since New Year). I've also cut down caffeine to a minimum recently, one of two cups of tea per day.

I know others on .gs have been down this road, too. What can you lads tell me about CBT, medications you've tried, your experiences with anxiety generally, etc.?
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>> No. 27207 Anonymous
26th July 2018
Thursday 6:18 pm
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SSRI-induced mania is extremely rare in patients with no prior history of manic episodes. If you experience a worsening of symptoms or new symptoms after starting a treatment, you should always tell your GP.
>> No. 27215 Anonymous
26th July 2018
Thursday 8:09 pm
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I definitely wasn't trying to piss all over >>27190 (which is a fantastic post), but I felt like it was something that I should point out.

Whether my own mania and submania was entirely induced by SSRI and SNRI medication or whether (as my current hypothetical diagnosis is continually coming closer and closer to confirming) I have suffered for a rather long time from undiagnosed bi-polar disorder (and my anxiety was caused by sub-manic episodes) is still up for debate.

What I can say with absolute certainty is that SSRI/SNRI drugs made my anxiety worse to the point where I was taking near-life threatening doses of a variety of sedative medications and still feeling like I'd just smoked an 8ball of crack with Super Hans.

Your advice of "If you experience a worsening of symptoms or new symptoms after starting a treatment, you should always tell your GP." is of course perfectly correct. I just wanted to make sure people knew that there are pharmaceutical alternatives to SSRIs and SNRIs available for people who do not react well to them.

Sage for whinge and pedantry. Apologies.
>> No. 27221 Anonymous
27th July 2018
Friday 12:13 am
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I was prescribed mirtazapine for insomnia, PTSD, depression and anxiety.

I know it's a different kettle of fish as it's a NaSSA and not an SSRI, but I can only say positive things about it. Maybe it's an alternative if your SSRIs fuck with your individual brain chemistry too much.

The only downside to mirtazapine is that it makes you a bit drowsy during the day, and sometimes you can feel slightly more apathetic than you would as your usual self without it.

What I like about it though is that it has been massively effective in treating my insomnia. One 30 mg tablet every night, and I usually sleep like I'm dead. And then every morning, I feel like I am waking up from a deep, long sleep.

Oh, and it really brought down my anxiety. And my aggression, especially my autoaggressive tendencies. It's like every day just moves inside a comfortable, enjoyable, haze filled bubble for me. And I tend to enjoy every minute of it. Maybe it's because I have diagnostically confirmed schizoid tendencies to begin with, I don't know.
>> No. 27222 Anonymous
27th July 2018
Friday 12:46 am
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The best available evidence suggests that mirtazapine is slightly more effective than SSRIs for the treatment of depression (we're not sure about anxiety). It's usually reserved as a second choice option if one or more SSRIs have failed, because it carries a significantly higher burden of side effects, namely drowsiness and weight gain. For some people, this will be a price worth paying. If you're a lanky insomniac, those side-effects might actually be useful effects.
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27th July 2018
Friday 10:32 pm
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>because it carries a significantly higher burden of side effects, namely drowsiness and weight gain. For some people, this will be a price worth paying. If you're a lanky insomniac, those side-effects might actually be useful effects.

Let's say I have never been noticeably overweight my whole life. With mirtazapine, I gained about half a stone. Which I felt was tolerable, being that I am indeed more of a slim build.

The drowsiness is the worst in the morning and during the typical afternoon performance low that pretty much everybody has. I mean that time after about lunch when you are settling back into your routine at your desk. That tends to be much more drowsiness inducing now than it used to be without the mirtazapine.

Some people have actually asked why I look spaced out and detached from the outside world at times. I know this to be the combined effect of my schizoid tendencies and the mirtazapine. I was also actually stopped by police once for a minor speeding violation, and was told that my eyes looked peculiarly glazed, and if I had been taking any illegal drugs. I said no, but also didn't feel like telling them I was on antidepressants. They then gave me the whole run and performed a wipe test on me, told me to follow the movement of a pen with my pupils, and discussed the idea among themselves of asking for a canine unit to have my car sniffed for drugs. For some reason, they then decided against it after all and let me off.

>> No. 27149 Anonymous
22nd July 2018
Sunday 12:03 am
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Im 26 and I've only just come to accept I'm bisexual. That's a step I suppose, but I have this deep rooted sense that I am inferior for it. I don't know why, but I feel less than my straight peers. Like a sissy, beta skinny guy not worth a thing. I hate myself for it, it makes me feel weak and embarrassed. The only person on earth who has any knowledge of this is my girlfriend. Probably my friends suspect things. Bu! t I feel horrendous. I wish I was born a girl. That way I could feel like I do now without guilt. I'd be normal. I wouldn't hate myself for being a failed man. How do I get over this?
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>> No. 27154 Anonymous
22nd July 2018
Sunday 1:51 pm
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It's just the conflict of your typical masculine identity, with something that you see as typically feminine. You'll get used to it. I used to feel a similar way about indulging my massive petplay fetish, but you get used to it- As daft as it sounds in your present headspace, being open and honest with yourself really makes a big difference. Live your truth as the millennials would say.

You may even find that you can even feel much more confidently "masculine" before, with the security to get your rocks off in just exactly the way that best pleases you. It's a liberating feeling to no longer be trapped by the mentality of the average straight lad, who won't even let a bird finger his bum in case it triggers an identity crisis.

How does your girlfriend feel about it, if you don't mind me asking? If she likes it then you're onto a winner, a new life of awakened hedonism awaits.
>> No. 27191 Anonymous
25th July 2018
Wednesday 10:36 am
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Speaking as a 27-year old bilad I fucking love being bisexual, not because of anything trite like it opening up more doors sexually (I've done all that now and I'm happy just being in a relationship) but I just love getting the horn off seeing men I find attractive.

If you have an actual image issue (I don't know who you are or what you already do) then I'd recommend going to the gym. Once you're in a routine in which you can regularly see the results you learn to love yourself a lot more and you become a lot happier. Exercise and working out feels like it fed into my bisexuality in a positive way and if you feel uneven in some way it might help. I'm not saying you should build yourself up to the point you want to start blasting your way round sexually, just trying to recommend something that might boost your confidence further.
>> No. 27194 Anonymous
25th July 2018
Wednesday 11:19 am
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Hbomberguy's latest video is about H. P. Lovecraft, but in the first third of the video he also comes out(?) as bi, and relates his feelings about his sexuality to the feeling of being considered an outsider as in works by, and inspired by, Lovecraft. You might find it relatable.

>> No. 27195 Anonymous
25th July 2018
Wednesday 11:38 am
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>he also comes out(?) as bi

I assumed he was gay, so if anything he's just stepped back onto the threshold.
>> No. 27197 Anonymous
25th July 2018
Wednesday 11:46 am
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>a new life of awakened hedonism awaits.
Whatever you do OP, don't fall down this rabbit hole of degeneracy. No one cares if you like men, just don't let it define who you are, or ruin your existing relationships.

>> No. 27138 Anonymous
19th July 2018
Thursday 2:34 am
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My 15 year old doggo is going for a 'check up' tomorrow, I don't think he's gonna come home. I just had a really emotional goodbye with my faithful friend of 15 years. He's the best dog ever. I'm crying my eyes out. I know it's for the best, I don't I've ever seen him unhappy until now.

Why can't dogs live forever?
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>> No. 27142 Anonymous
19th July 2018
Thursday 9:52 pm
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I'm sorry your furry pal is in a bad way, chap. It sounds as if he's probably enjoyed his life considering how much you clearly love him. Don't ever feel embarrassed for crying; pets are family. You have my sympathies.
>> No. 27143 Anonymous
19th July 2018
Thursday 10:52 pm
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My father lost two in quick succession last year. One was particularly hard, as she'd been part of the family from the age of two months to her death just shy of 14 years.

Every dog is the best dog ever. That's why we call them "man's best friend". If the worst should happen, take time to grieve just as you would as if you'd lost a close family member, because at 15 years together, that's exactly what he is.
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20th July 2018
Friday 12:43 am
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OP here, My pooch is no more. Absolutely heartbreaking. I know time's a healer but my god this hurt even through I'd spend months, no years preparing myself for this. Everyone's been really nice even my boss. My family are devastated dealing with there great is hard in itself. I'm seen as a strong stoic type but just reduced to a big hulking bag of tears.

Thanks for your kind words ladm9s.
>> No. 27147 Anonymous
20th July 2018
Friday 6:11 pm
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You've lost a faithful friend and loyal servant. If you feel you're struggling, call the Blue Cross helpline on 0800 096 6606.
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21st July 2018
Saturday 12:57 pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss mate, truly.

>> No. 27103 Anonymous
15th July 2018
Sunday 10:10 pm
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This is going to be a silly thread but I just want to get it down somewhere. I work very hard from day to day. I have a physically and emotionally demanding job, and I also put in time to gym (it requires a fairly high level of fitness), and I'm taking a correspondence course in the evenings/weekends.

Most of what I do, I do privately by choice. I chose my career, what to study, etc.. All my goals are set by myself, and I hold myself to a high standard in most things. I feel stupid even typing it out, but some days I come home, I'm wrecked, and I just want someone to cuddle and tell me I'm doing a good job. I'm so used to running off intrinsic motivation to do things, but I do often crave a recognition of my effort. I do occasionally get it in nice comments and so on, but consistent support and affection would be better.

I dont even know what I'm getting at, exactly. When I think of things that are missing, the first that springs to mind is that it has been a couple of years since my last relationship. But I'm not even sure these are the sort of things I could reasonably expect from a partner, especially when I wouldn't have much time to give back.

Reading back over this my only thought is to suck it up. Plenty of people do what I do without someone to pat them on the back at the end of the day. Yet knowing someone cares is important to your health. What am I really in need of?
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>> No. 27126 Anonymous
16th July 2018
Monday 2:46 pm
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You puritan bastard. /emo/ has a proud and storied tradition of advising people to fuck their relatives, but me describing the urge to be mothered in Oedipal terms for jokes is the bridge too far? Naff off, Reverend.
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16th July 2018
Monday 2:54 pm
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The original auntie fucker wanted to fuck his aunt. This guy hasn't said anything about wanting to be mothered. It's about choice.

There is nothing inherently motherly about the support and affection which OP claims to desire. How can you have a relationship of any kind, between any people, without some measure of those things? Why bother with a relationship at all otherwise?
>> No. 27128 Anonymous
16th July 2018
Monday 3:09 pm
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The original Auntie fucker told us his Aunt came onto him and he didn't know what to do, thought she was alright looking, etc. We convinced him she was up for it and it was probabaly fine.

The OP has described what most people would call needy, which has it wrapped up neat. Needing reassurance about your job or your life is something that is usually covered by having a healthy self-esteem. Looking for a relationship where the other person provides that support is a mothering relationship and that is what OP says he wants. I've been wth several guys who would get that support from their mother when I couldn't or wouldn't give it, so it rings true.

It's not a massive leap to suggest he wants a mother figure in his life based on what he has told us and my experience with men who want to mothered and you're the one chimping out here not him, so what exactly is your issue beside your oddly puritan views?

Do you want to tell us about your relationship with your Mother, Reverend?
>> No. 27129 Anonymous
16th July 2018
Monday 7:32 pm
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This might be the worst /emo/ thread I've ever seen. Can we just not.
>> No. 27130 Anonymous
16th July 2018
Monday 8:26 pm
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The phrase "don't feed the trolls" springs to mind.

>> No. 26986 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 9:21 pm
26986 Low functioning autism
M8s, I think that I am fucked.

I live in a shitty council shared accommodation. Some weeks I get good flatmates. Last week was not one of those weeks. I got a British guy, approx 28 years old, he looked much older.

First, he was so fat that he looked like a pregnant lady. Second, he was wearing a shirt several sizes too small and his fat rolls were dangling out. Third, he smelled like an open sewer. I tried to ask him something three times, all three times he smiled robot-like and said: "Hi, I am Anthony!"

The next day his smell was even worse. I told him to take a shower, and he said: "Yes, in the morning." I replied: "No, we have to live in the same house. You smell like a dead man. Take a shower now." He looked at me like I tried to rape him.

Later he grabbed all his belongings and stormed out of the house, throwing his keys on the kitchen counter and looking at me like he was going to to kill me. I went behind him spraying some air refresher and he got even more offended. By the way, the ex-con other tenant agreed with me and said that I was alright in telling him to wash.

Now, the problem is that the crazy cunt went crying to the idiot social worker and to the scummy "Asian" landlord managing the place. The social worker just told me that he was "a bit slow" and that I had to be more lenient. I still had no word from the landlord, but he's the kind of person that would rent his proprieties to Satan himself if the council paid him.

Any advice on what to do? I am permanently disabled with multiple invalidating health problems, there is no way I can get a job or afford a private rent. I won't survive a week on the street or in an homeless hostel.

Fuck autism. Fuck social workers. Fuck scummy landlords. And especially fuck me for being poor, disabled and forced to endure this shit.
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>> No. 27040 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 9:04 am
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I know a couple of people with one autistic kid and one normal one though.
>> No. 27042 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 11:44 am
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I don't think they know the differance between autism and Adhd.

(A good day to you Sir!)
>> No. 27043 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 11:55 am
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How hard is it to imagine a scenario where parents vaccinated one child and not the other?
>> No. 27046 Anonymous
12th July 2018
Thursday 1:04 pm
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I know a lot of families where one child is treated like gold and the other is treated like shite. It's the norm amongst dysfunctional families.
>> No. 27068 Anonymous
13th July 2018
Friday 5:28 pm
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If my sister were struck by a bolt of lightning it would be my fault.
If I were struck by a bolt of lightning I must have done something to deserve it.

>> No. 26973 Anonymous
7th July 2018
Saturday 6:49 pm
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A gay friend has confessed he has feelings for me, but I'm straight. I suspected this might be the case. He's already said his feelings obviously aren't reciprocated, so I'm hoping that's a sign I wasn't giving any unintended messages.

a) How do I handle this? He's a work colleague and a valuable friend. I don't want to hurt any feelings more than they need to be if I can avoid it.

b) It's not the first time this has happened (both gay men and straight women) and I'm beginning to wonder if it's something I'm doing. I do tend to favour closer one-to-one friendships than having lots of mates, and I'm worried this is being misinterpreted.
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>> No. 26974 Anonymous
7th July 2018
Saturday 7:03 pm
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I had a best friend who was gay and had feelings for me. We ended up drunk at a house party and, before you knew it, he was inside me. It ended up ruining the friendship.

I wouldn't advise it.
>> No. 26975 Anonymous
7th July 2018
Saturday 7:48 pm
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Thanks... He seems aware I don't want anything to happen between us. It looks like this one may be salvageable. He seems to have taken my response as well as could be imagined.
>> No. 26976 Anonymous
7th July 2018
Saturday 9:47 pm
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It's probably a crush. Just don't mention it or make a big deal of it, jokes might give him hope, but it might be worth having a chat about boundaries going forward so >>26974 doesn't happen. The kind of frindship you seem to have sounds similar to my own with women. I am gay, but have had lots of women fall for me because of how I treat them compared to straight men, which is probably a similar situation to you having this lad develop a crush on you.

We are wired to become attracted to anyone who we consider a compatible mate, even if we are only aware of that attraction subconsciously, so it's nothing you're doing per se it's just that you have qualities as a friend they would also seek in a partner.

I've never developed a crush on a straight make friend, but my mates are all arseholes I'd never date. I've had confusing thoughts about certain women I've grown close too, but they were all tomboys who were a right good laff.

To put it perspective, you're probably just a nice person to be around m8.
>> No. 27070 Anonymous
13th July 2018
Friday 6:54 pm
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Thanks for this post, I do appreciate it. Fortunate has been kind to me here, as we booked off our holidays concurrently and have had the opportunity to just communicate by text without any in-person awkwardness for a few weeks. I am hopeful things will be more or less as they were when we see eachother again.

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