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>> No. 18262 Anonymous ## Mod ##
5th March 2014
Wednesday 8:27 pm
18262 Please check the old pages for similar threads Locked Stickied
before creating a new one.
Failure to do so may result in angry shouting.

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>> No. 26051 Anonymous
10th January 2018
Wednesday 3:42 pm
26051 schizophlegm
Creepy situation, but I am compos mentis and sound of mind, I assure you.

I recently changed my address, I'm now living with some acquaintances a ways away north, and I suspect that someone, resident or otherwise, has bugged my bedroom, and possibly the bathroom. Don't ask me why because it would take more time to explain than it's worth at this moment - but being a juicy story, if you guys give good advice and help me locate these mics or whatever, or eradicate them from my every day worries and anxieties, then I will tell all.

Lets not bring up paranoia though please best beloveds we are Proud British MansTM and just like Mr Farages Faragé egg of concerns about muck and scum washing up on our shores, I am concerned that the people with all their rights and privileges are trying to fuck with me. It's not quite a gaslight because I havent directly mentioned it yet, over a lengthy period of time I have circumstantial evidence and things said during private interactions with people, but that's not proof that this is happening. I don't want to involve any authorities at this moment in time, I need to either sniff it out or clear it out of my head.

So guide me, .gs. netstat? some software that 13 year olds use to crack games? One of those plastic guns that do nothing those guys use, the alien hunters that Louis Theroux put on weird weekends? A ouija board interaction with my deceased nana (she was lovely so she wouldnt stand for this sort of thing and put a stop to it)? Or do I learn wicca and curse them to have haunted dreams of Saville tainted corpse snatching?

Some advice, please.
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>> No. 26064 Anonymous
11th January 2018
Thursday 1:37 am
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>>26062
I have that exact combination of SDRs too - we should like, start a thread somewhere and compare notes. The HackRF One is a really nice bit of kit.
>> No. 26065 Anonymous
11th January 2018
Thursday 3:24 am
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>>26064>>26062

Get yourselves down to your local amateur radio club. You can learn more about radio, get licensed to transmit and play with someone else's £5000 Icom base station rig.

https://thersgb.org/services/clubfinder/
>> No. 26066 Anonymous
11th January 2018
Thursday 8:22 pm
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Can you still buy those radios that broadcast on the Military's secure channel? I remember years back a lad on here mentioning a phrase you could use to troll them into triangulating you PoO and then 5 mins later a Navy Seaking would land on your head.
>> No. 26067 Anonymous
11th January 2018
Thursday 8:47 pm
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>>26066
The phrase is "bongo bongo charlie skidmark."
>> No. 26068 Anonymous
11th January 2018
Thursday 9:17 pm
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>>26066

The military were still using the Clansman system up until about 2010, so in theory anyone could have listened to and broadcast on their frequencies, even though it's illegal to do so (good luck catching someone merely listening in though) Indeed a lot of Ex-MOD vehicles got sold with the Clansman still installed when they were transitioning to the secure Bowman radios - though that took about six years to switch to. The mind boggles.

Police and other emergency services largely use a weird, shit, unreliable network provided by Airwave, which is basically just a crap mobile network where all the handsets cost a grand. It's basically impossible to listen in on, though, which is good. I never quite understood why in America you can listen to police chatter, even stream it online. Perfect for criminals.

Interestingly, I've heard that police helicopters broadcast their air to ground communications on microwave frequencies, meaning it should be technically possible, with the right equipment, to view a feed from their cameras.

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>> No. 25980 Anonymous
1st January 2018
Monday 4:15 am
25980 Miserable
I'm so messed up I'm beyond depressed. There's something fundamentally non-functional within me. Nothing works and no one cares, least of all me, and that goes for both counts. I'm worked up to the point of having chest pains. I'm not even crying or angry, just bewilderingly hopeless.
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>> No. 26046 Anonymous
8th January 2018
Monday 7:46 pm
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>>26045
Good one, Elliot.
>> No. 26047 Anonymous
8th January 2018
Monday 8:16 pm
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>>26046
Is snark the only purpose in your life now, lad?
>> No. 26048 Anonymous
8th January 2018
Monday 8:20 pm
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I'd hang myself, if anyone's bothered.

>>26047

Not me, SpreeKillerLad. Soz I don't feel like being the Dylan to your Eric.
>> No. 26049 Anonymous
8th January 2018
Monday 8:30 pm
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>>26048
That's a bad way to go, mate. I'd advise against it. One of my classmates done it.

Honestly, you're best placed to take a few cunts out. No school bullies, cunt bosses, bastard landlords? Nothing? Good time to start a list I'd say. Write down all the cunts. Even cunts who cut you off while driving, if you can remember their license plate numbers.

(A good day to you Sir!)
>> No. 26050 Anonymous
8th January 2018
Monday 8:51 pm
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>>26049

Alright, GCHQlad, anyone in particular you want me to ice? Five grand a pop mind you and that scales up for public figures.

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>> No. 25093 Anonymous
8th July 2017
Saturday 10:47 pm
25093 010 something nice thread
We have the whinging thread in 101 and the minor angst thread here, how about a thread for small things that have happened we're happy about?
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>> No. 25672 Anonymous
20th September 2017
Wednesday 11:48 am
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>>25671

>They won't even notice my odd voice or complete lack of personality.

That's par for the course, you're a fresher. You've all got odd voices and no personalities. Speaking as a former mature student, you're all absolutely ludicrous specimens. If you don't have a ridiculous self-imposed nickname, blue hair and some crap patter about your gap yah, then you're well above average in the "not being a bellend" stakes.

>dating a woman who I might even marry

Definitely don't do that. Settle for someone for cuffing season if you want, but get yourself back on the market in April. Don't squander your prime shagging years on the first girl who shows any sort of interest. You're surrounded by nubile and slightly naive girls who are intoxicated by independence and Yaegerbombs. Make the most of it.

>a fully grown-up-bloke-man

Ha! You will look back on your university years with a deep, profound sense of embarrassment; if you don't, you've made a terrible mistake. Students are supposed to be annoying little gobshites who cut about town in a leopard-print onesie, drink cider out of a welly boot and have cringeworthy conversations about Sartre and house music. If you don't make a complete tit of yourself, you'll miss out on most of the fun. Embrace the cringe.
>> No. 25673 Anonymous
20th September 2017
Wednesday 12:07 pm
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>>25671
Good luck lad. I wouldn't rely on the Goddess to provide you with anything other than chaos though. That is more her purview. Maybe if you were planning to drop acid before going.
>> No. 26011 Anonymous
3rd January 2018
Wednesday 1:09 pm
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Today I had a really good wank and it has really lifted my spirits. My balls ache, and my bell end is sore, but in a good way the way they do if you cum really hard.

I feel satisfied and positive.
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3rd January 2018
Wednesday 3:17 pm
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This album is nice and makes me very happy. That’s all.
>> No. 26014 Anonymous
3rd January 2018
Wednesday 3:52 pm
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Got a new years kiss from some girl I actually fancied.

Feels good man.

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>> No. 25991 Anonymous
2nd January 2018
Tuesday 12:12 am
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To cut a long story short, there's this girl I've been seeing for 8 months or so now. Far from my first rodeo, but my longest one to date. It's been really great so far for the most part - I always enjoy seeing her, and she always seems happy to see me.

The problem is that, whereas being with other girls always increased my confidence and general happiness, somehow being with her has just led to me becoming more insecure and filled with worries. She's by far the most attractive girl I've ever dated and I just never feel good enough for her.

Rather than getting better it seems to have gotten worse recently. I use any small thing to convince myself she's going to leave me, like most women do once they get to know me. I'm genuinely amazed she ever dated me in the first place. I want to get her out of my head so it will hurt me less, but I can't find anything to replace her.

Reading this back makes me sound a bit mad, but it's an honest account of the loops my mind goes in when not fulfilled by some distraction. Have many of you here felt similar before - is it just one of those things that sorts itself out? I'm not sure how much I should talk to her about it, in my head she'll just think I'm somewhere between overly clingy and mad if I tell the truth.
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>> No. 25998 Anonymous
2nd January 2018
Tuesday 11:18 am
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>>25992
We should respond to every /emo/ thread like that. That is our stock response now. They've just got anxiety.
>> No. 25999 Anonymous
2nd January 2018
Tuesday 11:19 am
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>>25995
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Zl5vpy__dQ
>> No. 26000 Anonymous
2nd January 2018
Tuesday 4:44 pm
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>>25992

This post was hidden from /*/ before I opened up the thread but that's exactly what I thought when I read OPs post; it's almost a perfect description of the negative thought loops that I get into when my anxiety and depression are flaring up.
>> No. 26001 Anonymous
2nd January 2018
Tuesday 5:27 pm
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>>25998
I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not, but OP is describing anxiety. Maybe they have heard it said before, but maybe they haven't.
>> No. 26005 Anonymous
2nd January 2018
Tuesday 8:18 pm
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>>25999

This is bloody brilliant. Thank you.

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>> No. 25808 Anonymous
2nd December 2017
Saturday 10:04 pm
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Bit of a strange situation I've got myself in here lads.

I was on a night out recently with friends and got to chatting to these two lasses. We were all a bit pissed and rather suddenly, one of the girls was slurring a bit and then fell straight backwards onto the floor and hit her head. Me and the other girl she was with then picked her up and we walked her out of the club holding one arm each to steady her. We got her out onto the street and walked a short distance to a taxi place which put her into a taxi on her own fairly quickly. From there, I walked back to near the club with her friend, asked for the first girls name and sent her a message over facebook. The second girl went home in a different direction from there - walked maybe.

Been chatting to her a bit since then and turns out she ended up with a concussion, bless her. Now, she's just sent me a message asking for more details about the taxi place, what car she got in etc. and might want me to repeat some of this to the police - over the phone or in writing I'm not sure.

Now, I've no experience of dealing with the police other than just to keep your mouth shut if you are accused of anything and ask for legal counsel to not give them any rope to hang you with. However, in this situation I'm fairly confident that there are multiple independent witnesses such as her friend, the woman on the taxi desk or the bouncers who let me back in the club 5 minutes later, not to mention possible CCTV footage that removes me from the equation completely.

Any advice?
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>> No. 25837 Anonymous
4th December 2017
Monday 8:41 am
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>>25836
It's still going to come across badly if he just refuses without an excuse like "I've heard some horror stories about this sort or situation from some mates so I don't think I can help unless I know what's going on" which is true. It's a lot more reasonable than just shutting down.
>> No. 25838 Anonymous
4th December 2017
Monday 10:33 am
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>>25837
No-one is saying he should 'shut down'! Look, the police can always fuck off because as I've said there is no reason for him to talk to them apropos of nothing unless they come to him first.

As for the lass, she is concerned about something, so he should give her the facts she wants like what taxi firm was used and what car she got in or what happened to her friends and so on. But if she starts asking personal questions about his behaviour or what he was wearing or who he was with and stuff like that, then I think he has a right to demand why she is asking, both because he should know what position he is in, and because it's simple etiquette to be told these things.
>> No. 25975 Anonymous
18th December 2017
Monday 11:14 pm
25975 Quick update
I told her the next day that I'd help if needed.

After a week or so I asked how she was doing and she seemed ok for the most part. The police 'would have liked' to speak to me, but were unable to as she didn't have a number for me (and didn't ask). Not too sure what to make of that.

Is this level of ineptitude par for the course with the plod, or a bit fishy on her part?

I was feeling rough when I posted, so maybe the fever brought out a bit of paranoia.

Anyhow, thanks for the advice lads.
>> No. 25976 Anonymous
19th December 2017
Tuesday 1:03 am
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>>25975
Plod can generally find you if they know who you are, so clearly they weren't that interested.
>> No. 25977 Anonymous
19th December 2017
Tuesday 6:52 am
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>>25975
>The police 'would have liked' to speak to me, but were unable to as she didn't have a number for me

She's fishing for your number. She's clearly down to fuck.

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>> No. 24845 Anonymous
27th April 2017
Thursday 5:32 pm
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My life has gone downhill ever since I met a Brazilian Ju Jitsu fighter at Westfield and saw him selling copies of big tissue. It's strange but the way I remember it was that I was set for everything but at December in 2011, things became worse. Nothing mattered and I couldn't eat much as well as wondering whether the nootropics I was taking would actually end up in me being hospitalised. It becomes extraordinarily strange when I realise a lot of it was recorded on this here website, on the IRC itself. I want to understand exactly what was happening in 2012. There's some more things that happened which include kidnapping, torture and brainwashing (as well as strong secret service intimidation) but I wanted to find out exactly why my life became strange.


I remember absolutely everything as well as absolutley nothing. If you get my gist.
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>> No. 25970 Anonymous
18th December 2017
Monday 12:53 pm
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>>25969
Oh right. A filter. Pardon me.
>> No. 25971 Anonymous
18th December 2017
Monday 1:25 pm
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>>25966
Oh and you helped get Donald Trump elected too?

You acknowledge in that post you need help - a random image board is not the place to find it.
>> No. 25972 Anonymous
18th December 2017
Monday 1:28 pm
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>>25966
>A lot of users on here have made their fortunes from me though.

I missed out on this - are all you lads getting rich off this shit?
>> No. 25973 Anonymous
18th December 2017
Monday 1:35 pm
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>>25972
The parallels to Emily Gyde are uncanny - remember she thinks she wrote the Harry Potter novels.
>> No. 25974 Anonymous
18th December 2017
Monday 8:45 pm
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>>25973

That would actually explain a lot.

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>> No. 25951 Anonymous
14th December 2017
Thursday 6:29 am
25951 Homelessness
Any and all resources and information regarding being homeless in the U.K would be appreciated. A lot of advice online is very US-centric and a lot of the laws are different here, not to mention I'll be in London and not the wilds of Colorado or wherever so I don't envision needing water purification tablets or whatever. But I'm terrified I'll think of something obvious the moment I fuck off out of this house for the last time and sling my keys down the nearest drain, for example I forgot to put a sleeping bag on my list of supplies until just now.

Please bear in mind, I'm not looking for advice on how to avoid homelessness. I just want to fuck off forever but can't kill myself (except maybe slowly, drinking myself to death under a bridge) so this is it.
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>> No. 25961 Anonymous
14th December 2017
Thursday 3:44 pm
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>>25958
What are you a doctor of, out of curiosity?
>> No. 25962 Anonymous
14th December 2017
Thursday 4:59 pm
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>>25961

Applied maths, but my area of expertise straddles the line between maths and computer science.

It was all a bit of an accident, if I'm being honest. I stumbled into maths mostly out of a lack of self-confidence. I had a shit time at school, my parents were a bit cunty and my later experiences just reinforced my distrust of other people. There's not much room for subjectivity in maths, which is weirdly comforting if you're lacking in confidence and a bit paranoid.

If you've written an English or history essay and get bad marks, there's the possibility that your tutor just doesn't like you. In my mind, that possibility could easily snowball into a cycle of paranoia and self-loathing. This is shit, I'm shit, these cunts are out to get me, I don't belong here, they're going to make sure I fail, I deserve to fail, I'm worthless, I'm wasting my time trying. A mathematics tutor could hate your fucking guts, but they can't really argue with your work - either it's right or it isn't.

By some fluke, I turned out to be a fairly competent mathematician.
>> No. 25963 Anonymous
14th December 2017
Thursday 9:14 pm
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> I went to rehab, then moved into a hostel. I got a flat from the council. I went back to college, did some voluntary work and eventually got a job. I did an OU degree course while working in a shop, then I went to university and did a Masters, then a PhD. It took the best part of fifteen years, but I went from living in a bin to lecturing at a university.

That is pretty amazing.

OP, right now I feel similarly. Like the whole world is conspiring against me and that anything I do to improve my lot will be nullified when people discover the "real" me. I want to escape too, so much - but the wilds of Colorado sound more appealing than London!

There are certainly mental conditions that people have that society is apparently not interested in dealing with - and for which the response of people in aggregate is to condemn or ignore.

There is hope, however, because many individuals within society do in-fact care about you, and will be able to relate to you and help you. Yeah, its just really hard to find these people, because on the surface they look just like all the others, but they are out there.
>> No. 25964 Anonymous
14th December 2017
Thursday 11:06 pm
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>>25963

>That is pretty amazing.

It sort of wasn't though, which is what amazes me. Each individual step was quite scary, but not massively difficult. The hardest step by far was the first - listening to a support worker who offered to send me to a rehab unit. Everything else just sort of happened. The rehab unit referred me to a hostel, the support worker at the hostel got me into a flat, the JobCentre sent me to a college open day and then to a job interview, my supervisor suggested that I try the OU, my OU tutor suggested that I do a masters, my masters tutor encouraged me to apply for a PhD.

I don't want to downplay the amount of hard work involved, but all of the critical moments in that journey were just a matter of asking for help and taking whatever was offered. It's a cliche, but when you've hit rock bottom then the only way is up. I reached a point in my life where I was willing to give anything a go, because I was more afraid of the status quo than the unknown.
>> No. 25965 Anonymous
14th December 2017
Thursday 11:14 pm
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>>25956

>my parents were genuinely malicious actors

Mine too, they are completely and utterly insane. Destroying themselves and their own family has been the single most important thing in their lives for some odd reason, they're true scum.
The frog and scorpion fable really is accurate, evil people will destroy themselves in order to destroy others. You would think that having kids that turn out better than them might be some source of pride and will at least get them some reflected glory, but they are sub sentient and can't entertain something as abstract as that. It isn't even abstract to a real person, it's instinct.

>I'm sure I'm not the only person here with experience of being fobbed off by our overstretched mental health services.

I've come to the conclusion that aside from prison, loony bins, or some kind of emergency, there actually isn't any unless you pay. I think the NHS puts out propaganda to oversell itself to justify the funds it wastes, and physically offers little in that regard. It's also become extremely fashionable to be into solving mental health issues right now so there's a hightened pretense that something is being done. People can get prescribed some anti depressants fairly easy, and I've heard it works for a fair amount of people but it's important to find a type of pill that suits you.

As for people not believing in depression, the problem is the title. It has become associated with basic gloom or sadness and is hijacked at times by attention seeking pretenders who keep that going. In my experience it's more like powerful bodily and psychological emptiness, and is for the most part aside from any emotional dynamic. It feels like being a piece of metal so rusty that it's got holes in. The word depression is too vague and low intensity for my liking, it needs a more accurate word.

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>> No. 25929 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 10:16 pm
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Right so a friend of mine had her gmail hacked (re: password guessed), some photos of her when she was underaged stolen and this guy's trying to blackmail her for more. From what she's said he's totally incompetent and covered his tracks really poorly (or a genius laying down loads of false leads but I doubt it), is there any advice I can give her besides go to the police?
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>> No. 25938 Anonymous
9th December 2017
Saturday 7:08 pm
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>>25936

> She didn't have 2-factor set up on gmail

I'm not talking about two-factor auth per se (which implies you receive a confirmation code by text every time you log in) but rather a security feature that won't let you in from an unknown location without verifying yourself either via recovery email or SMS.

If the lass in question didn't have a recovery email address or phone number associated with the account then she made the account forever ago and also she's a silly sausage. The fact that her password was "guessable" is also worrying.

> This is most of the information so far https://imgur.com/a/O0ppj

Jesus lord, wtf did I just read.
>> No. 25939 Anonymous
9th December 2017
Saturday 7:34 pm
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>>25936
Wow, she's a very clever girl to have strung him along for that long.
>> No. 25940 Anonymous
9th December 2017
Saturday 7:53 pm
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>>25936
This is a bizarre read.
>> No. 25941 Anonymous
9th December 2017
Saturday 8:12 pm
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>>25938
She did make the account forever ago and she's confirmed the password was awful. I've talked her through setting up better security, but as >>25939 notes she's not completely stupid and had done that even before I spoke to her.
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9th December 2017
Saturday 8:16 pm
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I just noticed the images uploaded in a weird order despite having been sequentially numbered filenames. That must be confusing, sorry.

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>> No. 25847 Anonymous
5th December 2017
Tuesday 6:17 pm
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I need a good method to calm down or still my mind. I'm prone to panic attacks and would love to be able to to control it through any techniques you guys have.
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>> No. 25926 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 7:06 pm
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>>25925
>What do they mean by "ejaculation"? Is that by masturbation or sex?
It means ejaculation. That's not a complicated term mate.

I imagine the difference, as unrelated as it is to the actual science mentioned above, has to do with the same thing as men being able to exercise harder when a woman's around, again, a momentary burst of hormones.
>> No. 25927 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 7:54 pm
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>>25925
Pseudo-science? It's a cohort study you mong. It's from similar studies that we get such pseudo-scientific nonsense that smoking during pregnancy is associated with a higher risk of infant mortaility.
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8th December 2017
Friday 11:34 pm
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>>25927

They based their argumen on what is 'natural', and sapping 'sexual energy'. I don't think they actually understand what pseduo-science is, it is just a phrase someone used in an argument with them once.
>> No. 25937 Anonymous
9th December 2017
Saturday 11:14 am
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I can't speak for other SSRIs but I wouldn't recommend Sertraline and I'll personally never take an SSRI again. I had MONTHS of withdrawal symptoms even after tapering down. There was no benefit and I'd rather not be a zombie with a broken willy. Even if they'd helped, the horrific withdrawal set me back so much it would've made any improvement pointless. Ultimately my anxiety is far worse now and the minor depression symptoms I had before have become major ones.

It isn't worth it for me to try another type, I was lied to about what these are and what they do. I used to think everyone who denounced SSRIs were of the "man up" variety and I wish it hadn't taken this experience to open my eyes. Maybe they can "help" some people, but trading my entire personality for relief isn't worth it to me.
>> No. 25943 Anonymous
10th December 2017
Sunday 1:52 am
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I do appreciate these comments, chaps. I had thought I was being daft for stopping the SSRIs, but it's true, they were making my life worse, for sure. I might not have been as sad, but I was more anxious than I've ever been, not to mention the willy worries.

My missus is a mental health nurse and seems to think the people describing these symptoms aren't doing themselves any favours in the long run by stopping the medication. That seems to be the thinking of most in the trade, which I find troubling.

When my GP laughingly described one of the 'very rare' side effects of sertraline to be sucidal thoughts, perhaps I should have trusted my gut and never taken them.

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>> No. 25856 Anonymous
5th December 2017
Tuesday 11:41 pm
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honestly lads I've no idea what to do on this.

25 yo, with a girl for the past 4 years, my first girlfriend. I do genuinely love her, but she's the only girl I've slept with. A part of me wants to leave her and go out and shag myself silly, have a bit more adventure to my life at a time where I've finally gained the skills to do it, but I can't really imagine life without her. I've proclaimed my life-long love more than once, and when saying it, I meant it. I do love her. But its a long fucking time man, forever. She certainly isn't perfect, but then who is? I've been minorly unfaithful in the past and it fucking *hurt* me afterwards, otherwise I'd settle for just cheating on her occasionally. I try and take life with a practical view or cold, depending on your sensibilities, and if you could live happily with a wife and keep your self entertained with sidechicks then isn't that really the way? This is more one-sided to "leave her" than it really is. I genuinely love the girl, I've genuinely thought happily about our future. I'm so fucking unsure. I know going out there and chasing other girls is nothing but fleeting but at the same time so is fucking life. If I'm frustrated at 25 imagine 40? I'll be wanking it in the shed for fucks sake, except I'll be fat and bald. I shouldn't make decisions drunk, I've learnt that at least, I usually feel different sober. I live with the girl, it isn't easy.
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>> No. 25918 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 3:22 pm
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>>25916
>If she doesn't seem to appreciate that then it will be indicative of someone quite selfish, and not someone I'd be willing to ultimately settle with anyway, and I will voice that with her too but again, nicer.
1. How do you not know if she's selfish or not at this point
2. Don't say that second part it's just emotional blackmail
>> No. 25919 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 5:14 pm
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>>25916
It all sounds a bit too overt if you ask me. Yes frank honesty is marvelous but, you do actually want her to stick around and do what you want.

Simply suggest new things in the bedroom that you've read up on and would enjoy. Take the initiative and remember that if she's a bit of a prude you've got to break her in slowly otherwise she can and will kick unless she's completely spineless. None of this ultimatum following a hurtful comment on her skills business, that will just end in tears. None of that 'I'm the victim here' because it's the definition of unattractive.

It's like putting it in a birds virgin arse, you start slow and patient with a pinky to get her comfortable and break that mental barrier before slowing moving more and more extreme until shes shoving cola bottles up her arse while on the phone to you...Then you find out that you've created a monster and it escalates until she leaves YOU for being too prudish.

I'm rambling here but when I read this stuff I can't help but see every mistake I've ever made playing out again.
>> No. 25920 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 5:30 pm
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>>25919
>It's like putting it in a birds virgin arse, you start slow and patient with a pinky to get her comfortable and break that mental barrier before slowing moving more and more extreme until shes shoving cola bottles up her arse while on the phone to you

Rim them. Trust me, the way to get women round to anal is to use your tongue rather than your fingers. If you slobber it up good and proper it means you don't need to use any additional lube, either.
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8th December 2017
Friday 5:43 pm
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>>25918
This. Honestly OP, not trying to be a dick or anything but you don't seem that mature emotionally. What she wants too matters as well, perhaps there's areas she thinks you could be putting more effort in. By all means talk about it, communication is good, but communicate well.
>> No. 25922 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 5:54 pm
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>>25920

I feel like rimming is higher up on the scale then your garden variety anal. If someone was put off by the idea they might never kiss you again.

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>> No. 25908 Anonymous
7th December 2017
Thursday 11:19 pm
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Absolutely everyone I know is doing better than me, they earn more money, they have more responsibility, they have relationships, they have some degree of satisfaction, they have social lives

and I'm fucking stuck out here having spent time and money on my shit SHIT fucking postgrad CRAP to earn a shit wage with no life with no nothing, i fucking hate my fuckign life, its a fuckign waste, what the fuck am i fucking livign for but the next fucking day#'? its fucking crazy, what teh fuck is the fucking poiitt I dont work toward anything, I have nothing to work toward byut some ethereal 'future', WHAT fucking future, what fucking present
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>> No. 25910 Anonymous
7th December 2017
Thursday 11:22 pm
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Sleep it off and rewrite in the morning when you can type properly.
>> No. 25928 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 8:21 pm
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>>25908
Do whatever you like. Maybe that will make you happy.
>> No. 25933 Anonymous
8th December 2017
Friday 10:51 pm
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>>25908
If you're doing a postgrad but still somehow think you're a failure, I think you're a prime candidate for counselling. Seek support from your university.
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11th December 2017
Monday 12:05 am
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>>25933 What this guy said, it helps a LOT more than you'd think. Avoid drugs/drink too.

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>> No. 25895 Anonymous
7th December 2017
Thursday 2:39 pm
25895 How to stay sane in a rut
Alright lads,

Having a bit of trouble getting into the daily grind - it feels like all I do is work, eat and sleep. My jobs total up to about 65+ hours a week on average.

I'm trying to save up for next year, as I've given myself until September to make some sort of decision. There's light at the end of the tunnel, but the stasis right now seems a bit unbearable.

Been getting angry at myself for not having enough time to spend with the missus and my friends.

My work environments are both skeleton staffed, with teamwork being important for our own safety. I'm not getting withdrawn from my co-workers, but I can feel my brains getting turned into the hive mind, and that really scares me.

I don't want to isolate myself from the people around me, but I'm scared that if I don't, then I won't have enough money put away for myself when I do need to make a change.

(for clarification's sake, any decision I make in September will be more of the same - I've applied to loads of shipping companies for cadetships. I'm 25, and I need to have money put away to take the pay hit during training)

How do you deal with getting turned into a husk of your former self through supplanting your self for money?
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>> No. 25897 Anonymous
7th December 2017
Thursday 4:07 pm
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You gotta have a lot of goals. Small and big ones.
>> No. 25898 Anonymous
7th December 2017
Thursday 4:42 pm
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Eyes on the prize m8.

September is only nine months away. Nine months seems like a long time looking forwards, but it seems like nothing in the rear view mirror.

Think back to March of this year, nine months ago. I don't know about you, but that time seems to have flashed by. It seems like last Christmas was practically yesterday. Nine months is 3% of your life so far. If you live to be 75, it'll be 1% of your entire life. You'll spend a greater proportion of your life in the bathroom. If you can keep that in mind, you'll be grand.

As regards your social life, I'd suggest making an effort to invite people over to your place. You don't have to be out pubbing and clubbing to be sociable.

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>> No. 25839 Anonymous
5th December 2017
Tuesday 1:39 pm
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Every day when I go running along my (very long) road, I see the same Chinese girl out doing the same.

I really want to get to know her, but I have no idea how to not come across as a creepy bellend. I've never been able to just chat up girls any way, but I want to give this a go. The problem is I can just tell she doesn't speak a word of English.

We run past each other daily and have made eye-contact, I've smiled at her and she's smiled back but that's the very exhaustion of my ideas unfortunately.
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>> No. 25843 Anonymous
5th December 2017
Tuesday 3:10 pm
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https://translate.google.com/#auto/zh-CN/hello
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5th December 2017
Tuesday 3:11 pm
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followed by this https://translate.google.com/#auto/zh-CN/lets%20fuck%20bitch
>> No. 25845 Anonymous
5th December 2017
Tuesday 4:07 pm
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>>25840

Will give it a go. It's just difficult because well, we're both running. I have to actually *stop* her to initiate a conversation. Maybe it's just not right to do anything at all.

>What gives you that impression?
There are lots of Chinese students in my area, and from experience they have little to zero English communicative skill.
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5th December 2017
Tuesday 4:57 pm
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>>25845
Yeah Chinese students do tend to have poor English in my experience, but it varies, and you did say she couldn't speak "a word" of it. If that was really true she wouldn't be able to study here.
>> No. 25849 Anonymous
5th December 2017
Tuesday 6:43 pm
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Give her a christmas card with your contact details in it.

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