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>> No. 18262 Anonymous ## Mod ##
5th March 2014
Wednesday 8:27 pm
18262 Please check the old pages for similar threads Locked Stickied
before creating a new one.
Failure to do so may result in angry shouting.

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>> No. 24631 Anonymous
25th March 2017
Saturday 10:38 pm
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Getting circumcised soon at the age of 35 due to gammy foreskin.

Is it gonna be bad? Will I wake up screaming when I get a hard-on?
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>> No. 24660 Anonymous
27th March 2017
Monday 5:19 pm
24660 ME = OP
On the website it says the discomfort is mild but the doctor just told me by email to get a load of max strength ibuprofen.

Dis gonna hurt.
>> No. 24661 Anonymous
27th March 2017
Monday 5:26 pm
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>>24660

It'll be for the best in the long run. It's a wise investment.
>> No. 24662 Anonymous
27th March 2017
Monday 5:58 pm
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>>24661
He's going to get 10% off so it is best to buy now.
>> No. 24663 Anonymous
27th March 2017
Monday 6:57 pm
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>>24656
If you've got a medical need, isn't this covered on the NHS?
>> No. 24664 Anonymous
27th March 2017
Monday 7:51 pm
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>>24663

It's probably not since my foreskin works properly now, it just looks crap. Going private I can also choose what style of circumcision to have. With the NHS they'd probably just give me the quickest, cheapest chop they can.

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>> No. 24266 Anonymous
23rd February 2017
Thursday 10:48 am
24266 Well fuck...
Jesus Christ I am having a fucking hard time at the moment...

My fucking bitch of a girlfriend came round to my place the other day and went mad raging because the laplander in the shop wouldn't let her use her card and made her get cash out instead. So then we went back to what USED to be my place and she continued raging shouting at the top of her voice about the laplander. The fucking thing is my neighbours just so happen to be of that race.

Next thing the fucking landlord comes round and says that there has been a complaint about her and that we need to keep it down. After this we go to the kitchen and start cooking, and some black guy that lives in the next room comes in and he's all like "hey girl" which pissed me off no end. Fucking thing is though, he is massive. So I do my best to defend my position but ended up getting knocked the fuck out and thrown down the stairs. All the while this bitch is standing there loving seeing two blokes argue over her.

Anyway, the landlord came again and fucking evicted me. Then she fucking left me stranded and refused to let me into her place. Since then I have been sleeping rough and I do not have a clue what to do. I've lost my phone, I've developed a huge alcohol problem and I don't even know what to do about any of it. Sorry for repeating myself I'm on a bit of a rant.

Has anyone got any suggestions?
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>> No. 24626 Anonymous
24th March 2017
Friday 8:09 pm
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>>24567

What's the problem with UC?
>> No. 24627 Anonymous
25th March 2017
Saturday 7:24 am
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>>24626

Y'alright IDS?
>> No. 24629 Anonymous
25th March 2017
Saturday 4:44 pm
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>>24627

Seriously, what's the problem? I'm going on it soon.
>> No. 24635 Anonymous
26th March 2017
Sunday 12:25 am
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>I stayed at the woman's place and went home last night after a bit of inevitable drama. At least it was at her place and I got a bit of revenge for myself.

Watching you lad.
>> No. 24644 Anonymous
26th March 2017
Sunday 3:01 pm
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>>24626

Oh you'll find out... Such as not getting paid for a couple months. Payments not turning up at all, or not on time. Payments being incorrect amount. It's been a nightmare for all of my mates that is why I've clung on to my ESA for so bloody long.

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>> No. 24560 Anonymous
20th March 2017
Monday 8:47 am
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What do women think of men who aren't very sexually experienced?

I'm in my mid 30s and I've only ever had sex with one girl back when I was 14. Although I'm pretty good looking and women do give me signs of interest I've suffered social anxiety all my life and haven't been able to take things any further with them. Lately I've been making more of an effort to become social and I think I should be able to get a bird. Should I tell them I'm not very experienced or just go for it? I'm sure any woman will notice how inexperienced I am anyway. Will most women find it cute or sad?
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>> No. 24623 Anonymous
24th March 2017
Friday 1:54 pm
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>>24622

What you're saying with this graph is that even at the best of pre-industrial times, people aged 70 made up only about a quarter of the population. That isn't very high. And at least past age 75, your life expectancy dropped off quite steeply, whereas nowadays apparently a whole third of the population in developed countries, e.g. the U.S., live to be 85.

And that at least partially corroborates my point that it was somewhat rare for people to live to age 70 or over in those days. Also, this graph doesn't say whether it refers to prehistoric or current hunter-gatherer cultures. And what about people who aren't or weren't part of any of these groups?
>> No. 24624 Anonymous
24th March 2017
Friday 5:30 pm
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>>24623

The graph shows how common each age of death is different societies. The most common age of death in modern hunter-gatherer societies is about 70 and was it presumably similar in recent prehistoric societies.
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24th March 2017
Friday 5:38 pm
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>>24624

It may have been the most common age of death in relative terms; in absolute terms, though, only one in five to one in four people lived to age 70 or 75, while one in three people in the U.S. in 2002 lived over a decade longer than that.

I stand by my argument.
>> No. 24628 Anonymous
25th March 2017
Saturday 2:31 pm
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I never thought this thread would've ended up here but I'm not surprised either. Never change, gs.
>> No. 24630 Anonymous
25th March 2017
Saturday 8:38 pm
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>>24628

When did a thread ever not end in a cunt off, or a vulgar display of geekery.

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>> No. 24605 Anonymous
23rd March 2017
Thursday 9:26 pm
24605 Old People Problems
My old Nan and Granddad used to live together, and barely went anywhere or had a social life. Then two years ago he died, and now she barely goes anywhere or has a social life. This is a problem now though because she is on her own so she is lonely and depressed.

How do I get her to get outside her comfort zone and go find some social interactions? I think she is scared and set in her ways and depressed and so can't be bothered, and I understand that because I have been there before - but I can't tell her to get a job or join a sports club like I did.

Halp.
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>> No. 24606 Anonymous
23rd March 2017
Thursday 9:46 pm
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>>24605
You need to to take her to things yourself.
Find some local group she would like and go with her.
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23rd March 2017
Thursday 10:14 pm
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Hey,

Have you considered this from Age UK? It's basically staffed by volunteers and somebody will go and spend time with her once a week or so to give her a bit of company.

http://www.ageuk.org.uk/health-wellbeing/loneliness/befriending-services/

Sorry to hear about that though.
>> No. 24608 Anonymous
23rd March 2017
Thursday 10:35 pm
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>>24607

A befriending service might be a good option. It's also worth looking into day centres, luncheon clubs and similar activities. If she's still in good physical and/or mental condition, she might enjoy the U3A. They're a co-operative group run by and for older people who want to keep active.

http://www.u3a.org.uk/

If you have the time to spare, it might help to take her out on a few jaunts, just to get her into the habit of going out.

It's worth bearing in mind that post-bereavement depression is still depression - if you can convince her to see her GP, it could be a real help. Older people often have a very outdated view of mental health and don't realise that there's help available.
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24th March 2017
Friday 9:11 am
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See, when I'm ninety I'll be able to emulate Mass Effect on my phone and my dementia will make it like a whole new experience every time.

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>> No. 24533 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 10:39 pm
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What do you live for?

I'm going back to uni to study as an adult but I fear I might get hit by the same problems I had the first time I tried this; I'm bad at socialising and doing anything feels a bit empty when you don't have anyone to really share it with. I'm quiet, conversation is difficult for me, my anxiety issues keep cropping up unexpectedly and I'm conspicuously different to most people in the area I live, which won't change when I move as they're also in different bits of the UK.

Even thinking about the most basic potential goal in life - having children - gives me a feeling of otherness, like I'm missing a fundamental understanding of social interaction. I just haven't made the sort of connections with people where I could imagine something like that happening and I'm nearly 30 now.

I don't know. The only thing I've learnt in the past few years is how to work when I'm deeply unhappy, I can't see much of a reward at the end of it all though. All I really know I want for my old age is someone to be with, working on my career to get money is just a necessity to make the other bits less stressful. At least I have that motivation right now.
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>> No. 24536 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 12:04 am
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>>24534

I already do pot, but I get very quiet on it. So much better than alcohol for de-stressing though.
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17th March 2017
Friday 12:09 am
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>>24536
Eh, you'll do fine. Just blaze with your housemates if you can and remember that once a month you have to write a 2000 word essay.
>> No. 24544 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 1:09 pm
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>>24536

>I already do pot

Well we've found your problem I think. You get quiet and shy on the stuff, and if you smoke regularly it will be affecting you sober too. Weed does not mix well with an anxious, artist personality type.

Weed is a nice drug I know, but if you're that kind of person you have to be careful with it. I had this realisation myself a couple of years back and honestly, since I stopped getting stoned every night I've been much, much more sociable.

And for heaven's sake don't call it "pot", you're not on Saved By The Bell.
>> No. 24545 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 3:41 pm
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBxloSkObYc

I went to university at 30 after a protracted period of mental illness, alcoholism and homelessness. I was absolutely terrified for the first week or so, but things very quickly clicked into place.

I went in feeling really intimidated by these vaunted halls of learning, but quickly developed the confidence of being one of the few adults in the room. I felt out of place, but in an entirely healthy way. Half of these kids didn't know how to use a washing machine. Some of them had never bought a drink in a pub. They were all infinitely more scared than I was and they weren't good at hiding it. I figured that if these spotty gobshites could do it, it'd be an absolute piece of piss. I was right.

On the social side of things, I think you'll find it surprisingly easy, even if you're quite anxious and awkward. Everyone there feels out of their element to some extent; you have the advantage of a decade of life experience. The mature students on your course will chum up with you quite readily, because you're almost guaranteed to be less annoying than the kids with floppy hair, self-invented nicknames and tedious gap yah stories.

Turn up at the freshers fair, pick out half a dozen societies that seem vaguely interesting and you'll have a packed social schedule by the end of your first week. Pick at least one thing that's totally unfamiliar and out of character - salsa dancing or paragliding can be a remarkably effective treatment for social anxiety. You've learned to play the role of a shy person, but you can unlearn that role by doing things that are out of character.

As >>24544 says, knock the weed on the head. It's not good for your mental health in the long run. See your GP about your anxiety and sign up for counselling when you get to university. Most of all, don't get hung up on the idea of being different. Try to embrace the fact that you're a unique human being with a unique set of life experiences. You don't have to be like everyone else to be happy; judging by the state of society, the opposite might be true.
>> No. 24551 Anonymous
18th March 2017
Saturday 9:13 pm
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Maybe you are really just a bit underdeveloped regarding your mastery of social interaction, OP. Some people are, and although they would like for themselves to be more like everybody else, they can't see how to accomplish it.

There are (group therapy) classes for/against social anxiety. Where you basically develop skills of casually interacting with other people in everyday situations while learning to dial down your anxieties. That might be worth looking into. Some of those classes even teach you how to pull birds successfully approach members of the opposite sex.

I was going to start my post with a suspicion that you may be on the autism spectrum and might have Asperger's in particular, but I didn't want to piss you off scare you off right out the gate. That's another thing you could consider. Because there are also many ways to overcome a lot of the limitations that Asperger's poses on your ability for social interaction.

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>> No. 24546 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 10:57 pm
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I'm graduating this year and I can't find anywhere to live

house prices are ridiculous, I can't work a minimum wage job and afford to live while paying £500-£600 a month for a flat. most landlords don't take housing benefit. I just got broken up with, so no partner to live with. all my friends are stoners and drug addicts that I don't want to shack up with. I can't go back to my parents home because I don't have one.

All I want is a shitty fucking bedsit somewhere near a shitty job, and even that looks unattainable

what should I do? kill myself?
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>> No. 24547 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 11:01 pm
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>> No. 24548 Anonymous
18th March 2017
Saturday 12:19 am
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>>24546
£500-600 per month for a flat? Fuck me I'd kill to get a place of my own for that cheap.

Otherlad is right, house shares are your best bet. Worth looking up facebook groups for house shares in your area too.
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18th March 2017
Saturday 12:38 am
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18th March 2017
Saturday 12:59 am
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>>24548
>House shares are your best bet.

I'm amazed this isn't even the first option. I earn 24k a year and I never ever considered getting a place of my own, let alone on minimum wage. I pay £450 a month all bills included in southern England (outside of London but within 10 miles of it) and think it's perfectly reasonable. To maintain a whole house on my level of responsibilty would be laughable.

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>> No. 24427 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 8:08 am
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How to acquire gf when 35, still live with mum, no job, no social circle, suffer anxiety but good-looking, big willy, intelligent and sexy?
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>> No. 24515 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 1:23 am
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Eh, i'm in the process of moving back in with my mom. I just need to get out of flat I'm currently in because its making me ill. I've said the move will be a stepping stone to elsewhere but the time frame is 6 months to a year and I'm already regretting it.
>> No. 24531 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 7:43 pm
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>>24515

I moved back in with my parents 6 months ago, and I am having trouble finding the motivation to move back out. Its comfortable here, and really cheap, I get on with my parents and younger sister, and everything is predictable and easy.
>> No. 24535 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 11:59 pm
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>>24531

Congratulations, you've discovered why the traditional European family structure is superior to the pervasive and insular American "every man for himself" family ideology.
>> No. 24538 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 12:42 am
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>>24535
What? Who the fuck gets on with their parents and siblings as an adult apart from this freak? We'd drive each other mad if I moved back in.
>> No. 24539 Anonymous
17th March 2017
Friday 2:16 am
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>>24538

I remember being called a "teenlad" or something akin to that for moaning about how little I like my parents on here a few months back. I was just in a surly mood, but I still mulled over the conversation. Anyway, the conclusion I came to is that part of growing up is realising that your parents are just human beings, and that they are potentially as awful or as ace as any other human beings. One thing you do have to remember is that unless they're total scoundrels they still raised you, probably as well as they could. Shit, if you're a thirty-five year old loon who brags on his dick to strange men on the internet, they might still be raising you. What I'm getting at is, that for the last five months or so it's been my life long ambition to get rich enough to own a massive house to look after my one-day elderly parents in, and they broke up when I was seven, so it's going to have to be seriously massive.

Do you get me, man?

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>> No. 24469 Anonymous
13th March 2017
Monday 6:25 pm
24469 This country is grey and depressing
I'll preface this by saying I adore the UK for many reasons. The countryside is pleasant. The people are friendly. You do alcohol right.

But there is one thing about this country that is quite literally dragging me back into depression, and that is the weather. I moved from California to be with my partner, and whilst I was certainly not expecting the weather to be comparable, I did not expect it to be so bleak, so hopeless. Every single day is either grey, or grey and rainy. I actually prefer the days it rains, because the drip drop, the active weather, reminds me I'm still alive. I would prefer a storm a day to the blanket of grey nothingness. Is there even sky above these isles? No one does anything here. The weather simply does not permit it to be enjoyable. And it's an incredible shame, because if you DID have a bit of sunshine, then there'd be few places on earth I can imagine being more enjoyable to live.

How do you cope with this?
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>> No. 24524 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 3:19 pm
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>>24519

British weather is exceptionally benign. The temperature rarely exceeds 35c or falls below -5c. We don't experience hurricanes, tornadoes, tsunamis or blizzards. I can't think of anywhere on earth where the whether is less likely to kill you.
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16th March 2017
Thursday 3:27 pm
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I really don't understand why people take the weather so personally. I don't really care if it's grey. I'd rather it were grey than hot and sunny all the time (but then I hate the heat and burn easily). That's just as boring, just different.
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16th March 2017
Thursday 3:29 pm
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>>24525
One thing I will say is that I don't like January/Februrary much (unless it snows). I think it's because the expectation of Christmas has been lost, as the greyness and bleakness of November/December is somewhat sparkly and cheery because of the upcoming Christmas.
>> No. 24527 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 3:40 pm
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>We don't experience... tornadoes

It obviously wans't your point but-

"The UK experiences on average 34 tornadoes a year, the most per area of land mass in the world."

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2015/jun/16/scientists-find-uk-tornadoes-are-most-likely-to-occur-west--london
>> No. 24529 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 5:58 pm
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>>24527
Just as in many other respects, British tornadoes are usually pathetically shit. If you're lucky, one might grab a few tiles off your roof, but they're rarely dangerous enough to cause any real damage.

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>> No. 23109 Anonymous
12th August 2016
Friday 2:16 pm
23109 Fear of vulnerability.
Everything I do, whether it be thought, speech or action can be read to determine my personality, nd when something is known intimately it can be manipulated intimately. (I'm sure I don't need to say how this is especially so on the internet. Consider how we have comparatively few attacks in the UK, combined with the attempted snoopers charter (remember, rulers don't play by the rules - an attempt to legalise something is really an attempt to legitimise action already being taken)).

Everything I say, feeds 'them' more information to fill my profile.
I want to go to the doctor but, again, it gives 'them' more information on how to manipulate me. Consider mental health appointments to be the churchly confessions of old - all that gossip and knowledge of crime concentrated into the hands of those with power.
If they're so omnipotent, wouldn't they know me already?

They are(is?) fear personified.

There are things I need desperately to talk about which our society violently suppresses. We create our own problems; if we could talk openly I could learn, were as now (I hesitate to say) I'm struggling, or at least very confused. I see ignorance (telling word) in people and its seriously affecting my life. For once in my life I genuinely feel its not be but everyone else.

I feel like reason has no place left in our society at large and it scares me.

And once again it comes down to the greatest sin, sexuality.

This is the point, get people to be afraid of reason and they control themselves! This wasn't done to us, rather we did this to oursleves.
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>> No. 24451 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 9:31 pm
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>>24437

Emily? Is that you? Give my regards to ARMSTRONG.
>> No. 24454 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 10:09 pm
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>>24451
Oh, MILLER.
>> No. 24468 Anonymous
13th March 2017
Monday 8:21 am
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>>24438>>24451>>24454
I kind of understood that and it wasn't Are Em level although it sounded a bit melodramatic.

OP, a thing to bear in mind is that everyone has secrets, everyone has shame. The scapegoats society chooses tend to be those who willingly put their head in a noose, don't let that be you. 'Reason' and human societies are mutually exclusive and we just have to learn to accept the old atavisms which keep returning. Take it easy and try not to worry so much.
>> No. 24514 Anonymous
15th March 2017
Wednesday 11:39 pm
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OP here.

Like I said, this is a phase I go though. I'm feeling much better than I did back in august(!), though I still often stop myself from posting and talking of things that interest me (though not in the below paragraph, evidently).

Its really interesting to consider our desire for validation through communication. Then to consider why I, or anybody, would resist that. What does it ultimately mean to deny human nature? There is some notion of transcendence, which deep down I don't really believe in.
This, to me, gets really interesting when you consider recorded psychological phenomena. We act as if knowing about the placebo effect (as a concept) stops it from happening; that knowing of cognitive bias prevents it. I realised recently that science doesn't 'exist'; it is only a measure (like how inches don't exist). It only seeks to measure phenomena, not explain or give meaning to it. Essentially its the kid who keeps asking why.

I'm really grateful for the influences in my life that continue to help me overcome these problems.
To paraphrase Alan Watts; "Whoever thinks they need a psychiatrist needs their head examined". These days when I'm struggling I remind myself "only if I insist".

Thanks for the support.
Forgive the smiley.
:)

Fuck me, now I'm worrying about the image I thought to attach. A derailed train to indicate the paragraph above where I go a bit 'off track'. Considering my first post this could be mis-construed. Or am I being unreasonable?
>> No. 24532 Anonymous
16th March 2017
Thursday 7:47 pm
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YABU

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>> No. 24440 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 4:41 pm
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I can't ever stop thinking.

I can't cut loose, ever. It doesn't matter how much I drink -- though the overthinking prevents me from drinking too much most of the time.

I can never enjoy a night out (even if I enjoy the music, which is rare) because I'm just constantly going over stuff in my head, usually thinking how much of a cunt I must look.

I just want to be able to just forget about how I'm getting home, or over conversations I've had months ago, or if I'm acting right for the situation, or if I've just said or done the wrong thing, or what I'm going to do tomorrow and extensively planning it, but I can't, ever. People always say to me "you always overthink everything, just be yourself and cut loose"; I can't though.

I don't dance because of a crushing anxiety that I'll look like a cunt.

I've reached out for help with anxiety and heard nothing from the NHS for months and had appointments with my job counsellor (who isn't very useful anyway) cancelled repeatedly.

What the fuck can I do? A lobotomy is looking good right now.
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>> No. 24465 Anonymous
13th March 2017
Monday 12:22 am
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>>24449

How did you go about getting an ADD diagnosis?
I've not been officially diagnosed with it, but I'm gonna go ahead and say I definitely have/had a severe anxiety disorder (working on it after many years of self reflection and realising how abnormal my functioning/thinking was), and I think a lot of my personality could be described well through ADD symptoms.

I've also got a diagnosis for aspergers.
>> No. 24466 Anonymous
13th March 2017
Monday 12:22 am
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>>24460

Obligatory warning: MDMA can interact dangerously with most antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications. Recreational drug use is not risk-free and is not a substitute for proper psychiatric treatment.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serotonin_syndrome
>> No. 24467 Anonymous
13th March 2017
Monday 1:30 am
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>>24460

I can attest that it is indeed age. It happens with everything, hangovers get worse, and everything from a heavy coke night to acid trips leave you increasingly fragile as you age. It takes me several days to recover from the low self-esteem and social anxiety after any sort of bender now.

I have concluded, during these periods of agonising self reflection, that it is inevitable and unavoidable to become more emotionally sensitive as you grow older, having more experiences and memories under your belt. There's more for your mind to dwell on, and arguably you have a better capacity to understand the implications of your deeds. When you're a young lad you can easily laugh off that awkward night out where you nearly slept with your co-worker, when you're a few years older you know it's going to be something you both think about whenever you're in the same room, what if, why didn't you, you're probably still going to one day... It's hard to escape your own thoughts, as the OP well knows.

That, and, "getting older" as a person who likes to take drugs means you are, over a longer and longer term, using drugs. Drugs don't tend to be great for your emotional stability.
>> No. 24474 Anonymous
13th March 2017
Monday 7:37 pm
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>>24458
>>24460
As someone whose immediate family works with drugs (and the bad things that can happen should one abuse them) I've had it beaten into me that drugs are bad, and I worry that along with this whole destructive thought cycle, that subconscious beating will manifest and it'll be a bad time.

I do want to try MD/LSD at least once but don't know if I'll ever be ready.

In terms of alcohol, I rarely drink much, though I do drink often. I hate the feeling of being drunk because I don't feel in control. I feel like, again, when I'm thinking about how I'll get home and if everyone is going to be safe, that having more alcohol will end badly -- even if it won't.
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13th March 2017
Monday 7:38 pm
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>>24447
P.S. having watched this I became acutely aware of how uncomfortable I was in the meditation segment. Being aware of my own body was just... well... I can't describe it but the feeling was a bit of a sensory overload.

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>> No. 24353 Anonymous
5th March 2017
Sunday 3:26 pm
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Is incest between mother and son illegal in the UK? I want my mum to suck my dick and she'd probably do it if I asked her. I'm in my 30s and she's in her 50s and still fit. Would this be wrong and illegal?
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>> No. 24374 Anonymous
6th March 2017
Monday 5:57 am
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>>24369

Ay lad, 'tis been that way since the Romans left. NFF.
>> No. 24429 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 9:42 am
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>>24367

Sandwich lovers...they're all interbred!
>> No. 24430 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 9:50 am
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>she'd probably do it if I asked her

What are you basing this on?
>> No. 24431 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 10:01 am
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>>24370
Go on.
>> No. 24436 Anonymous
12th March 2017
Sunday 1:41 pm
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>>24431
Please no, I don't think I want to hear this.

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>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 24399 Anonymous
9th March 2017
Thursday 10:16 pm
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You know that thing where you're just completely blagging it through life, and somehow you're just getting away with it all? You know, you bullshit all day at work, you lie your way through awkward situations, you make things up as you go along and hope it works out.

Does it ever get on top of you just simply how much you're completely, absolutely fucking phoning it in at times, but somehow totally getting away with it? I have this crushing paranoia sometimes that I'll turn up to work or sit down for a pint and they'll just collectively go "Look. We know you're a fraud. We're on to you."

I've always supposed it's because everyone else is going through life in the exact same manner, but I don't know lads. Sometimes I just have one of those days where I get away completely clean with something that I really should have been called out on, and I can't help but sit there questioning it all.
>> No. 24400 Anonymous
9th March 2017
Thursday 10:25 pm
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>>24399
I dunno. Give us an example?
>> No. 24402 Anonymous
9th March 2017
Thursday 10:52 pm
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>>24399

Might want to reseach this lad. Might put you at ease to understand it better.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome
>> No. 24404 Anonymous
10th March 2017
Friday 6:40 am
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>>24399
'Good old neon' by David Foster Wallace is a great short story on this theme.
>> No. 24555 Anonymous
19th March 2017
Sunday 5:46 am
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Just going to bump this thread. For the first time in almost a year I've had actual isolated time to myself. It hasn't gone well. I had a lot of alcohol and it resulted in lots of shouting, bruised knuckles and lots of tears. For the past almostyear I've been socialising a lot, traveling through different countries and all that, I think it distracted me. Turns out that if I'm left by myself I'm exactly the same as before I set out to do all that, If that makes sense. Left to my own devices I think I'm just done and it's a matter of time.

You can't change the things that have happened to you, and past a certain point you can't change how they affect you. More importantly, you just don't care and whatever happens, happens. I'm fucking off elsewhere soon and I'm probably going to die in the middle of nowhere, somewhere in the world. I am ok with this, I think.

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>> No. 24294 Anonymous
24th February 2017
Friday 5:51 pm
24294 bi-romantic?
I was in straight relationships until I was in my early twenties - all of them failed because I wasn't happy. I loved my boyfriends dearly, but I couldn't stand to have sex with them after the initial period and it would eventually break down.

I figured it might be my fault - then I fell in love with a woman, had my first gay relationship, realised I was very gay and I actually loved sex.

I've 'fallen in love'/developed 'crushes' with men before, men who I've dated, men that I haven't, men that I've just been friends with. In hindsight, I figured they were just very strong feelings of platonic love and affection that I confused for something romantic (I never allowed myself to entertain the possibility that I was gay for many years) because I didn't know any better.

But recently, I've developed strong feelings for a man again, and I still feel like I've fallen into romantic love. This man is a close friend, but he's more than that to me. I miss him when he leaves the room. I love all his flaws and awkwardness. I love to hear his voice, I dream about him at night, I want to cuddle him and keep him by my side and even kiss him. But not really any more than that. He's a handsome and fit man, but I don't like men's bodies. I want to kiss him but I recoil at the thought of touching or being touched by him in a sexual way. I've occasionally had thoughts of making love to him, but with all the mechanics of the act censored out in my mind and with the consideration that I would feel no actual sexual gratification yet I would be satisfied by the experience just because it's with him.

What's wrong with me? I really hate all this lgtbqa++++ build-your-own-sexual-identity bullshit, but here I find myself unable to define my own sexuality. Sometimes I really wish I was bisexual, but I'm not. Am I 'bi-romantic'? Am I going to go my whole life falling in love with men that Ill never be able to physically engage with?
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>> No. 24320 Anonymous
26th February 2017
Sunday 12:17 pm
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OP, are you sure that you have not been molested as a child? Some people manage to block the experience out, and then wonder why they manifest strange sexual behaviours later.

Maybe you can find a man willing (or desperate) enough to accept an asexual relationship?
>> No. 24321 Anonymous
26th February 2017
Sunday 7:05 pm
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>>24294
How do you feel about the idea of a cock inside you?

Does the idea make you feel uncomfortable, or intimidated?

And if so when did you start feeliong this way, and have the feelings intensified or weakened over time?
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26th February 2017
Sunday 7:40 pm
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You've got to take a cock in or two, girl. You've got to take a cock in or two.
>> No. 24326 Anonymous
27th February 2017
Monday 2:09 pm
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Sex is a bit like dance in that a good partner can grab just about anyone and make it work, but the longer you practice together as a pair the better, easier, and more natural / fluid it gets.
>> No. 24397 Anonymous
9th March 2017
Thursday 12:39 pm
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>What's wrong with me? I really hate all this lgtbqa++++ build-your-own-sexual-identity bullshit, but here I find myself unable to define my own sexuality.

Or you could just ask yourself if it really matters what you, or other people define you as.

Why resign yourself to the pointless need of labelling and defining things? You could just as easily simply think of your sexuality as "fluid". That may not be a satisfying answer for people who will ask you if you are gay, straight or bi and then expect you to deliver an answer that allows them to neatly pigeonhole you into one of those three categories,, but what matters is that you will be comfortable with your own self image. As somebody with a fluid sexuality, or whatever else you consider calling yourself, to yourself.

The irony of our times is that while heteronormativity has increasingly been broken up, even with all those new categories of sexual preference that some people believe have emerged, you are still expected to slot yourself into one of those fixed categories. While it doesn't exactly appear clear what the benefit is of swapping one fixed category for five or six equally rigid categories.

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