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I've been with my gf for the past 4 years. I am 26, she 24.
I love her dearly, I don't think I'll find any one like her, she has shown so much forgiveness, so much love and care for me.
However... I am desperately looking to shag other girls. I haven't done that... although I have 'mildly' cheated numerous times by kissing girls on nights out etc. Recently however it's been really eating at me. I have an insane sexual appetite, she has quite the opposite. I've tried to address this with her so, so many times, she says she is going to work on it, and nothing happens.
I'm going to Tokyo on holiday soon. Last time I was there I resisted an incredible amount of urges, and caved to some others... I did feel guilty about these things, for a while, then it passed. I feel I have to process some sort of decision beforehand because I am an absolute animal when drunk. I change into someone who gives zero fucks in that moment.
I don't want to break up with her. I don't think I CAN. She's an ideal long-term partner, objectively speaking. She is intelligent, considerate, loving, achieving. I love her to bits. I would regret it.
I understand the common advice would be to "break up with her and shag away", but if I think about life in a calculated, sterile, 'sensible' way, then the optimum choice, the one that makes the most sense for my quality of life, my long term well-being, is to stay with her and just cheat occasionally to get it out of my system. Now I understand that isn't a very nice thing to say, but life advice generally revolves around making decisions, often difficult, that better yourself. Is that not right? Why does it differ on such an important area, relationships?