>>12137

M8, did you not see >>12136 ?

The other things pale in comparison. Someone ought to cut his balls off.

>>12152
I saw it, and I stand by what I said. "Tried to" suggests that he failed, so: so what?

>>12153>>12136
I would also like to know whether he succeeded or failed. If he failed then yeah careful now. But if he succeeded then down with the sort of thing. He's a cunt and someone should be an even bigger cunt to him.

>>12073
How dumb are you for lending someone £3000?

>>12155
The guy's a good friend. I'll get it all back eventually, but to be honest it doesn't bother me that much, at the time I was on shitloads and I don't spend much. He was in hard times and in danger of going under. Still not doing great, but he's getting by. I'm happy with small amounts every now and then.

>>12146
Ok, it's just the 'they're not even legal here.' that threw me.

Ha.

I've made a few threads here in recent months about a girl I was hung upon on. Eerily similar histories between the two of you including present difficulties. I don't think I've managed to be of much help to her and I probably won't be to you either.

You should have an abortion as it seems to be your only practical choice. You don't seem financially or mentally prepared to be a parent and at present it's not a person. Sentiment shouldn't come into it, it's a very major decision to make.

Research into young mums has found that having a baby helps them sort their life out; they're more likely to return to/continue education and seek employment, but this is because they tend to be from a disadvantaged background and would do poorly in education anyway; having a baby is a turning point that gives them a focus, responsibility, direction and stability.

Having said that, you seem to have a lot on your plate and I wouldn't consider a baby until you have sorted your life out somewhat.

Maybe I'm misunderstanding the severity of the argument, but could you not go to your parents for help at this point?

>>12150
The argument was just the last straw where everything came out, it had been building up for years. I don't get on with either of them, my mothers a spiteful cunt and my dad's an even bigger cunt, raging alcoholic. They live in a world of their own, oblivious to everything going on around them an treat everything like it's just a phase that will pass and that I'm being a bitch doing these things on purpose. (There's no talking to them, I've tried countless times.)

And I've just gotten a phonecall off the hospital saying they have a bed for me tomorrow and I'll be brought into admissions... fuck my fucking life, seriously.

>>12086

I dearly wish they'd make more Snuff Box. Fantastic series.

>>12135

I just watched a load of the sketches on youtube as I hadn't seen them on tv. Outside of the one posted above, the rest seemed pretty poor.

>>12138
As poor a defense as it is, they're a lot funnier in the context of the show itself.

>>12139
I'd saying calling the others pretty poor is an understatement and don't believe any amount of context could save them.

>>12141
It's probably hard to concentrate on youtube with 8 dicks in your mouth.

>>12130

> It might be a childlike notion but sometimes I find it hard to believe that society can function at all without some inherent level of happiness in the majority of people.

Quite the contrary, society requires misery. Why else would people turn up at work?

In the 1950s, the great political vision in Western Europe was for a "leisure society", where most people would only work a couple of hours a day. We saw that per-worker productivity was skyrocketing and assumed that we'd work fewer and fewer hours for the same pay. Instead, we worked the same number of hours for more pay.

We've become vastly wealthier in almost every respect, because the cost of goods relative to average earnings has plummeted. Our great-grandparents lived in half-furnished houses, painstakingly saving to buy even the humblest of items. A set of cups and saucers cost a week's wages; Saving up for a dinner service took a year or more. They darned socks and patched elbows because they just couldn't afford new clothes. It was quite normal to have only two suits and half a dozen shirts. They often ate only bread and butter for tea and considered a roast of meat a rare treat. They bathed in a tin bath once or twice a week. On cold nights, they slept fully clothed.

Somewhere along the line, necessities became luxuries. Within living memory, few working people had central heating or indoor toilets. The only chance most people had of travelling abroad was to join the forces. What was the norm for our grandparents would be considered the most squalid poverty today. We feel miserable if we lack things our grandparents wouldn't have dreamed of owning. The leisure society will never arrive because most of us will never consider ourselves wealthy enough. We'll continue to work as many hours as we can sustain, because there will always be new things to buy.

All human endeavour rests upon the fact that we will find ourselves miserable in any circumstance. Almost all modern industry is ultimately superfluous, but we are ceaselessly driven to own more and consume more, even if that is our undoing.

I have never understood why people believe they'll be happier with a more nomadic lifestyle. Almost inevitably it's not true, when put into practise.

I think we have to stop technology from taking over parts of our lives where it isn't healthy to occupy, I understand what you mean, but I'd rather be playing diablo 3 on my pc and struggling to patch it than getting my head broken by a mace.

As >>12127 says, it's all well and good to look back at simple times with rose tinted specs but all it took back then was a small cut and before long your hand has gone black and fallen off or worse still poisoned your blood and you are dead.

I'll happily take 80 years of boring shit over 25 years of life on the edge.

>>12131
SO COMRADES COME RALLY

I really don't see why you don't give the OTC/TA a go first lad. I'd say it should be something everyone should have to do before they go into the regulars but I think that would make a bit too much sense.

Anyway I wouldn't consider the military something you would ever do for money considering the pay considering the pay is well and truly shite. Have you not been tempted by other factors such as getting paid to travel the world and spending the vast majority of your time fucking about? Have you not got any other ideas considering even getting into the military is not some cakewalk but something that will take roughly a year to sort out?

OP here.

To clarify I would be a Medical Officer and will be graduating as a Doctor. The pay is disgustingly good compared to other junior doctor positions.

Great insights so far. I need to think long and hard about this one.

>>12118

Fuck me, lad. I know the medical profession is stupidly hyper-competitive, but I doubt you'll ever be struggling for cash as a doctor. I say take one of the other junior doctor positions, preferably one you're fundamentally comfortable with.

>>12119

You won't earn over 40k in your first 3 years as a normal doctor. You won't earn over 50k until you're a consultant, which is at least 8 years post graduation. I'll be nearly 30 by the time I'm qualified, I'll be wanting some money faster than would otherwise be available.

Struggling, no, but it's a bit more complicated than it seems.

>>12121

Lots of people don't end up earning over 40k in their lifetime, yet plenty manage to be happy. Perhaps you need to re-think your financial motivations on a fundamental level.

Don't sacrifice your integrity and happiness for such a short-term goal, you still have it made in the long run. You're not sacrificing success, only saddling yourself with potential regrets down the line. When you're old and grey I'm sure you'd much rather think back on your life knowing you didn't take the easy option, and got what you wanted in life without betraying your values.

In my view, attention seeking as >>12096 suggested would be indicated more by actual actions. Fantasies about getting attacked are more along the lines of anxiety issues, as a form of escapism. Have these been occurring at stressful times, exam periods for instance?

It could be a lot of things really, or it could be nothing. Recurring dreams or thoughts happen often to many people, it can be hard to specialists to pick out anything meaningful from them, and even harder for a layperson.

>>12100

I've been very stressed lately. I'm on a bit of a tightrope regarding employment and estimate being just 3 or 4 weeks away from having to sign up to jobseekers allowance and probably end up getting a shelf-stacking job at Asda a few months later.

>>12101
You're probably longing for any way to get out of your current situation then, a few weeks recovering in hospital would be perfect (in a highly irrational and short-term way)
I've gone through similar periods in the past, though mine have been along the lines of freak accidents happening on the way to work.

I'm afraid I don't have any useful advice though.

>>12095

Your desire to be physically dominated by a man is a sublimated expression of your secret homosexual desires. You don't want to get beaten up, you want to get shagged up the arse, but your subconscious can't cope with that idea.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thoughts

It sounds like fairly normal intrusive thoughts, like anything that pops into your head it only gets worse if you pay attention to it.

I used to have similar thoughts about getting battered by a group of lads and then watching them go on to rape the Mrs -I soon snapped out of it by realising the cause of it was my own obsession with what a fucked up dream actually meant

>>11942

in dealing with, with no apparent*

>>11942

I've also been an irritable prick lately and it's not endearing me to anyone.

>>11923
Love the graphic. Describes psychedelics perfectly.

>>12094
I'm pretty sure it's meant to be narrative theory.

>>12108
You don't say?

I'm not the OP but I just wanted to mention that there have been some very coherent and scholarly postings in this thread.

For what it's worth, I would recommend mindfullness practice (meditation lite) and exercise [citation needed], in addition to the other good ideas espoused here thus far.

>>11388

Excellent suggestions. Exercise in particular is a true panacea and there are few forms of physical or mental distress that aren't improved with regular moderate exercise.

>>11384
>>11385

Sure, and I approve. I think I was just being touchy. This lady doth protest too much, perhaps.

>>11345
So OP, how did things workout?

>>11345
I sniggered at the picture, clearly it tickled me.

>>12037
I'm not talking about logic, I'm talking about the burden of proof and standards of debate. You'll note that I said "don't", not "can't".

>>12038
Then the burden of proof is on him to show why death is logically superior to "increased agency" which is his joyless way of saying "life". That was the original statement that this whole debate came out of, was it not? By your logic, he's been asking us to prove a negative all along.

>>12054
No.

Could everyone please leave this thread and come back when they've read an introductory text on formal logic?

Cheers.

>>12058
n1l4d

>>11966

>this has just put a downer on everything.

Well, of course your confidence has been knocked. Fortunately for everybody alive, failure is something brilliant that allows us almost infinite things.

As has been pointed out, you should be able to retake the year without much getting in your way. Usually, an honest chat with your tutors can help things majorly. So, try to get that sorted if you want to. It should be easy, but if there's a problem, come back here and we can work on that further. I know that SLC will fund you for another year if you fail.

Now, for the failure. You can now, evaluate this. I don't mean sit and write a comprehensive report, I mean just think freely and without guilt about your actions. You now have all the answers to build upon things and make things better for yourself. I had a similar experience, I did 3 months of a course, dropped out and moved back home with my Grandparents. For two years, I worked in a shit job, remembering how much easier things were at university, and how much I had going for me there. Slowly, I managed to get past everyone saying "LOL U FAILED DIDNT U" and began to realise that I wasn't really ready for anything that was happening, consiquently I'm in a much better position for studying and beyond, given that I took so much time out and thought a fuck load. It does feel horrible to fail, but it is also the only way to further yourself, so get aquiainted with how much it can teach you. If you fight against it, you'll end up bitter and putting all your energy into complaining about things. You aren't going to do that, son.

>>11966
>it's nice to just have a hug or something
Where do you live? If you're less than a fiver train ticket away, I will hug you.

>>11992

I second this.

>>11970

A friend of mine re-did his second year.
Twice.

>>11971
>>12008

I might be an idiot but I'm not stupid. I've talked to my tutors, and I'm on an arts course so it works differently to exam assessed courses as we have no exams.
I was on a final retake for one project and managed to fail it again which has left me with fewer credits than are required to continue on to third year.

I am a little bit fed up and not really sure where to go from here. Get a job and live by myself somewhere, hopefully; I couldn't bear living at home. I have a portfolio I can continue working on, but it's nowhere near presentable as I was expecting to have another year or so to put it together properly.

Really I think it's down to indecision and a lack of direction that I failed. I can't see what I'll be doing in a couple of years and I really don't know what to work towards. It was the same on my course. I guess you could say I'm just a bit of a downer and glum about everything, but I often found myself just working on projects for the sake of getting them done and not feeling especially satified with them because I wasn't pleased with the initial idea.

Eh I don't know. I've been feeling pretty low on energy the past few weeks too but I am guessing it's just because I'm in a bad mood.

>I don't think I can tell O the real reason I don't want to be with her, can I?
Why not? Not being over your ex isn't exactly the worst reason out there.

Also, if you're going to break up with her for your ex, you might want be definitely sure that she actually wants to get back with you.

Just say that you're not over your ex and therefore can't be in a relationship with O.

It's going to hurt either way and the sooner you're honest with her, the better.

I agree with these two posters, I think admitting the truth to her is best, because in this instance the truth won't hurt that badly.

Tell M what you want to make sure it will work for both of you, and then bite the bullet with O.

Turns out you can't just make U turns like that.

I dumped O by text after having not seen her for four days. She was a bit annoyed about the manner of it, but she said that she didn't have feelings for me anymore either.

Spoke to M tonight. I didn't realise the emotional pain I'd caused her when I got together with O. I really wish I hadn't got together with O... Anyway, we see each other in a very different way now. She admitted that she'd lied about not wanting a long distance relationship because she didn't want to end the relationship in disagreement.

We are going to try to get back together and hopefully things will go well. I'm optimistic but worried.

>>12010
>I dumped O by text
Oh fuck off. Aren't you old enough to know better?

Anyway if she's complaining about 'emotional pain' that's a bit of a cheek, as she wasn't clear about what she wanted to you (just as neither you were to her), so she couldn't have expected you not to try and move on. What's this 'seeing each other differently'? You both still love each other, you both made a misunderstanding, what's supposed to be different now?

>>11724

http://www.youtube.com/v/iT9yf-Qa_1M

>>11724
Any updates OP?

>>11956
Well I looked in the mirror and I'm still rather ugly. I'll check again in a few hours to see if there are any changes.

>>11957

Now lad, what do they say about doing the same thing and expecting a different result?

>>11958
Quantum mechanix blud

>>11950
That bastard would not fucking leave me alone. Needless to say, the jokes are shite.

I bought a self-published book of poems, short stories and songs from a nignog in the street in Las Vegas last year who was raising money to visit England.

>>11952
Are they any good?

>>11953
His grammar isn't perfect but some of them are quite good. They're all overly sweet feelgood. He was a nice chap, when he clocked that we were from England he harassed us twice as hard.

>>11952
>>nignog
>>money to visit England.

So you are an actual bongo enabler. Well played lad.

>>11914

I can see why you'd think that, but last night I pretty much disregarded everything. I know when there's pretty much unanimous advice of 'Leave it, try and find happiness yourself, it'll probably blow up in your face', then you guys are on to something, it's just very hard to accept.

I might as well try and clarify things so:
1) She was in a two year relationship, she'd never cheated on that guy before me (I believe her, she would have told me, she told me a lot worse). I guess I should have 'seen it coming' but it just didn't feel like that would happen. We weren't in a proper relationship so she was just playing the field after she broke up with her first boyfriend, which was when things got messy and so on...

2) If he doesn't break up with her then I'm not sure whether I'd actually try to mess with things. It could possibly leave me content that she's with a selfish shit, but I honestly can't predict what I'd do since I've never been in this situation before. Either way, she's repeatedly said I 'could ruin her' and that she has 'nothing on me', which I think are both exaggerations, but either way she's kind of given me some power, which is power I don't want as it's the kind which can only be abused. I'm tired of being nice.

>>11913

Cheers for the sympathy.
I'm almost 21, my brothers are 8/9 years older than me, and seeing their lives I know it's silly to expect that I'll be properly happy when I'm so young, and that I've got loads and loads of time to find someone I want to be with. I just don't really like being single. I'm pretty sure if I don't keep on indulging in 'risky behaviour' then I'll easily be better off in a decade or so, it's the emotions of the now which are so frustrating.

>>11915

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OP, as an experienced (and because posting here, unbelieved) dealer with women, I have simple advice and a little story:

The advice is that most women feel no sorrow or remorse for men in your situation. They laugh to their friends and boast about this guy (YOU) who can't get over them.

I know this happens as I have many female friends from different walks of life. The most recent example is an excerpt from conversation I had with a female friend a few weeks ago:

Her "He sent be an essay today"

Me: "He was begging, right?"

Her: "Yep".

Me: "Poor guy"

Her: "He said he wants to commit suicide."

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>>11917
>then not being able to fix it. That may be a bad way of looking at it but that's what my mind reverts to. If I've put so much into this and still failed, then I'm pretty shit.

Ohhhhh no no no. Don't get into this blame game. You might've been depressed, you might've been a needy cunt, but that in no way absolves her from the decision she made to cheat on you. Everyone has problems and everyone is mental and needy at times; it's not your fault that she chose to leave. She decided to do that. Not you.

>>11918
You are not being useful.

>I know it's silly to expect that I'll be properly happy when I'm so young

You've much to learn young man.

>>11919

I'm not OP but I am in a similar position and I found it useful. I think what you mean is that you don't like seeing people give blunt truths.