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I realise I find it extremely difficult to accept praise, but any criticism no matter how thoughtless cuts extremely deep.
Why am I so skeptical of the nice things that people say, in just about any context? And why do the harsh or disrespectful interactions stay in my mind?
Occasionally I will feel good when someone I care about or admire praises me. On the other hand a stupid joke made by a stranger, or a comment from someone I barely know, has a far greater emotional impact.
It could be to do with my general beliefs about social relationships. I believe we generally become more compassionate with people we take the time to know, so subconsciously I'm often on guard against the more cruel side people show when they can get away with it. Expecting something can make it that much worse when it happens. The same belief would lead me to undervalue genuine praise from people who matter, precisely because they're closer (more likely to 'just be nice').
Could this also be to do with my general self-esteem, and how I've structured my self-worth?
Could it also be a general human thing, where our sensitivity to loss or threat is much greater than our appreciation of what's gained (as in 'loss aversion')?