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>You should know that relationships look very different from the inside
Very true. When one of my relationships as a youngerlad ended, most of our friends were kind of gobsmacked that we were breaking up. For the better part of three years, we were the dream couple in our circle of friends, loved by some as proof that true love still existed, reviled by others for making their own relationships look dowdy in comparison. And what was true enough was that we had quite harmonic periods. Off and on though, unbeknownst to most people. And that was the point. The ugly truth was, although we seemed so beautiful together, we were quite poorly matched, in that we actually had very few common interests, or even things to ever talk about over dinner on a night in by ourselves. In fact, it was often as if we needed constant interaction with others when we were together, in order to not get bored with one another. The sex was satisfying, I think we both agreed on that, but when you got really down to it, that was the only thing we really actually had in common. The attraction to each other's naked flesh.
The fact that all you really truly enjoy doing together is bonking your brains out is no basis for a long-term relationship. It's not that hard to keep up appearances when all your friends see of you is the weekend nights you spend together at parties or down the pub. But behind closed doors, none of that can belie the sad truth that you are spending your time with somebody who just isn't the one for you, and never will be.
So we broke up. There weren't many hard feelings luckily, and we both agreed that those were our problems and that they were irreconcilable. But us splitting up was about as much of a shock to everybody around us as it would be if William and Kate got a divorce.