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>> No. 26169 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 7:47 pm
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Im having a really strange problem that i have never encountered before, and didnt even realise actually ever really happened.

Ive been in a relationship with this girl for about 5 or 6 months and everything was going great. We both had the same feelings for each other etc.

We lived together in temporary accommodation for 4 months and then she got moved to a different place round the corner to a place that has keyworkers as she is bipolar. At first i wasnt allowed access to the building as i didnt have any photo id. I eventually got this and we resumed relations for 3 days a week. Then i got banned from the building for going to her place whilst having been signed in by another resident. Stupid way to be treated as adults.

Now the problem is that we are lucky to meet 2 or 3 times a month and its all on her terms or so it seems. She calls me up to meet me when she wants sex and sneaks into my place. Now, it may sound like every blokes dream being used in this way but what i miss is the companionship and i feel robbed of an opportunity at happiness as we really did get on so well.

Things are that ridiculous i have to write her handwritten letters as she smashed her phone up at Christmas during one of her episodes.

She says the only way around this is to find permanent accommodation as we cant be meeting on the street at our age or in this weather and even when we have done its not like we can do much...

In essence, im heartbroken as in all my years ive never been this much in love. If i could just get over it and forget her that would make me happy as a second option but i cant get her out of my mind, i just think about her 24/7. Also, security at my place are also bastards and wont let her contact me even though they know we have been together for some time so when she comes looking for me ill be in my room none the wiser.

Can anyone tell me what course of action they would take in this situation?
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>> No. 26170 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 8:07 pm
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Rule One of /emo/:

AVOID MENTAL SLAGS.



If it's obvious to you that everything is happening on her terms, then it isn't going to suddenly turn into a healthy relationship. If you moved in together, things would still be on her terms, but you'd be stuck with her in your house. Rip off the plaster, get her out of your life and look for someone who actually wants a real relationship.

Also, speak to the CAB about your housing options.
>> No. 26172 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 8:57 pm
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>>26170

Its not that shes mental as such. Its just a headfuck as the relationship was amazing when we were together. She says she finds being apart difficult too. That is what hurts so much that we both want to be together but there are these obstacles in the way. Ive tried seeing a couple of other women in the mean time but they just dont feel the same. Its annoying when you cant control your feelings. I also wouldn't really want to start another relationship as knowing my luck the opportunity would come up for us to be together again. We are just too old to be meeting on the street. Initially we were meeting in a local car park and having sex and continuing our relationship but it just all felt wrong. I was really trying to draw a line under all this when she was then able to sneak into mine by chance and we both had an amazing night together and i dont necessarily mean just sexually, more the fact that we were in bed together talking and watching tv. If it was just sex i could move on easy as there are a few girls in my place i can get it from.

Re my housing situation that is on the verge of getting sorted which gives me some hope.

Apologies for my punctuation and formatting im using a phone and cant even see the text box.
>> No. 26173 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 9:19 pm
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At a glance (sorry to be that guy BUT) it sounds all like BS to me mate, she sounds like a manipulator too scared to break up. I know from experience... If she really wanted to be with you more often, not when she just wanted to have sex, she would manage it. Sorry mate.
>> No. 26174 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 9:28 pm
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>>26170
>AVOID MENTAL SLAGS

I know this is a dank new meme, but let's not Beverley Allit the fuck out of it.
>> No. 26175 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 9:45 pm
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>>26174
This isn't a new meme, it's common sense advice since the dawn of time.
>> No. 26176 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 10:31 pm
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>>26175
AKA don't put your dick in crazy.
>> No. 26177 Anonymous
13th February 2018
Tuesday 11:40 pm
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>>26173

Well we just had a conversation about this on the phone after what ive read here. I applied pressure and said it cant continue cause its doing my head in and she got all upset and said no way does she want to break up and finds the situation as impossible as i do but same as me cant think of a solution that will allow us to be together again.

Im just hoping to get rehoused and then this problem would be solved. If as you mention she did want to end the relationship she is the type of person that would say so. And to be honest it would be a whole lot easier to deal with than this situation :(

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