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>> No. 26986 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 9:21 pm
26986 Low functioning autism
M8s, I think that I am fucked.

I live in a shitty council shared accommodation. Some weeks I get good flatmates. Last week was not one of those weeks. I got a British guy, approx 28 years old, he looked much older.

First, he was so fat that he looked like a pregnant lady. Second, he was wearing a shirt several sizes too small and his fat rolls were dangling out. Third, he smelled like an open sewer. I tried to ask him something three times, all three times he smiled robot-like and said: "Hi, I am Anthony!"

The next day his smell was even worse. I told him to take a shower, and he said: "Yes, in the morning." I replied: "No, we have to live in the same house. You smell like a dead man. Take a shower now." He looked at me like I tried to rape him.

Later he grabbed all his belongings and stormed out of the house, throwing his keys on the kitchen counter and looking at me like he was going to to kill me. I went behind him spraying some air refresher and he got even more offended. By the way, the ex-con other tenant agreed with me and said that I was alright in telling him to wash.

Now, the problem is that the crazy cunt went crying to the idiot social worker and to the scummy "Asian" landlord managing the place. The social worker just told me that he was "a bit slow" and that I had to be more lenient. I still had no word from the landlord, but he's the kind of person that would rent his proprieties to Satan himself if the council paid him.

Any advice on what to do? I am permanently disabled with multiple invalidating health problems, there is no way I can get a job or afford a private rent. I won't survive a week on the street or in an homeless hostel.

Fuck autism. Fuck social workers. Fuck scummy landlords. And especially fuck me for being poor, disabled and forced to endure this shit.
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>> No. 26988 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 10:01 pm
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Wait, so you told this guy he 'smells like a dead man', and you think he was offended because he was autistic? You shouldn't be talking like that to anyone you've just met, let alone someone you have to live with. it sounds like you're the one with no fucking social skills mate. No wonder you have a constant rotation of flatmates.

Do you honestly think there was no more tactful way of broaching the subject of personal hygiene with him on the second full day of you knowing the guy?
>> No. 26989 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 10:18 pm
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Yeah, probably not the best idea to tell someone that they smell like a corpse shortly after meeting them.

I'd suggest talking to the council or your local housing associations about getting re-housed. If you claim the daily living component of PIP or the middle or high rate care component of DLA, you should be entitled to the self-contained LHA rate even if you're under 35.
>> No. 26990 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 10:24 pm
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>>26989

Also, you could apply to the council for a Discretionary Housing Payment to make up the difference between your LHA entitlement and the cost of private rent. They don't have to offer it, but your disability increases your odds.

Getting in touch with Shelter or Citizens Advice might be a sensible decision.
>> No. 26991 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 11:06 pm
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>>26990
>>26989

Just one word: Birmingham. The local council refused all my applications with the flimsiest of excuses. Last time they told me that they did not recognise my signature on a document so they had to send it back and it got lost on the mail. Incidentally, they only told me when it was too late to appeal. I called them daily until that day, and they always told me that everything was good and that I had to wait. Fucking cunts. I only got my housing because I authorised a "charity" to claim on my behalf.

>>26988
I tried to give him some hints, but he was too autistic to take them or maybe he just did not care. Maybe you are trolling, but try to live and cook in a place where an obese autistic hobo left a waft of putrid smell.

By the way, my rotation of flatmates is due to theft, nonpayment of fees, criminal damage, trying to scam the council, hard drug use and loud partying until 4AM.
>> No. 26992 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 11:29 pm
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>>26991
The fact that autistic people have difficulty picking up hints does not mean the only alternative is to declare to his face that he wears the funk of rotting carrion. Again, I find it difficult to sympathise with you when you apparently can't think of a better way to have put it to him.
>> No. 26993 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 11:39 pm
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>>26992

Jesus Christ, I am not his father, his social worker or one of his autistic friends. I just needed him to wash so I could cook without gagging from his carrion smell. I am not being paid to mollycoddle that little shit. I do not think he was very respectful with his hobo-like behaviour. Respect goes both ways, you know?
>> No. 26994 Anonymous
9th July 2018
Monday 11:44 pm
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>>26993
>mollycoddle
You're too far gone.
>> No. 26995 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:03 am
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I don't understand. Is the guy with autism the OP or his new flatmate?
>> No. 26997 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:28 am
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>>26995

just fuck off
>> No. 26998 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:33 am
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>>26988

I know that as a Brit this is quite a difficult concept to understand, but please bear with me. Believe me or not, in several other parts of the globe people are NOT supposed to have a body odour noticeable from several meters apart. Also, people in the rest of the world tend to shower several times at week (daily on warm weather) and busses tend to not smell like abattoirs.
>> No. 26999 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:33 am
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>>26995
OP, I think. One would hope suffering from physical conditions would lead to some sympathy for those suffering from mental ones.

Telling someone they smell will almost always be hurtful. Telling them they stink like a corpse is unlikely to ever get a good reaction. Running behind him spraying air-freshener is plainly offensive.

Just stay in your room and burn frankincense, the most pleasant smell in the world. When you go out, just brace yourself for the stench. You cannot change other people, but especially not autists who are set in their ways.

In any case, welcome to shared accomodation, it's shite. I once lived with a massive egg-nogger, who used to endlessly blast jungle beats out of the half-dozen amplifiers he had piled below my coffin-sized bedroom. Everything would shake.

Out of interest, what disabilities do you have? Is there no work you could do from home, such as transcription, for example? There are some affordable private rents, even for those on benefits.
>> No. 27000 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:54 am
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I think you lads are being much too harsh on OP. Being stinky is big problem with a simple solution and while our account is probably a slightly watered down version of events, I don't think there's anyting wrong with telling someone who smells like a medieval epidemic to sort it out, or at least there shouldn't be.
>> No. 27001 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 1:03 am
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>>27000
You're probably right about being a bit too harsh on OP.

Autists are a little like children though, you need to find the right angle to persuade them from. Commanding and aggressive language won't go down well. Try to find his aspirations. I bet he wants a girlfriend, respect or reliable friendship. If you bond with him a little, I bet he could be persuaded to stay a little cleaner. You'll never completely change him though.

They can be a bit like cornflour, autistic people. If you whack them too hard, or speak too categorically, they become all the more rigid in their opposition. Reason has nothing to do with it.
>> No. 27002 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 1:11 am
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>>27000

Thanks. Probably you are not a local. I have seen several locals with standards of hygiene and cleanliness that would put and hobo on shame.

>>26999

> empathy
No empathy at all. I was bullied and abused to total insanity as a child.

>Telling them they stink like a corpse is unlikely to ever get a good reaction. Running behind him spraying air-freshener is plainly offensive.
Stinking like a week old corpse in a shared space is way more offensive. Maybe you Brits see that as normal fact of life, but decent human beings have different standards.

>You cannot change other people
I was not looking to turn him into a decent human being (being born a Brit that would require reincarnation). I was just asking him to put his flabby body under the shower and wash himself. I even offered him some shower gel.

> what disabilities do you have?
A botched surgery fouled up my back. Transcription work pays about 2 pounds at hour. I would make more money by begging in front of a LIDL.
>> No. 27003 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 4:53 am
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>>27002

>I know that as a Brit this is quite a difficult concept to understand
>Maybe you Brits see that as normal fact of life
>being born a Brit that would require reincarnation

The fact that you keep saying stuff like this on a very obviously british imageboard leads me to believe you're an incredibly abrasive personality, and have no concept of tact or any real social skills. I suspect that you have no intention of listening to any advice on here that isn't "just kill the fatty lol" so I'm not sure how else we can help you. You have refused to listen to anything approaching a moderate opinion and cannot seem to fathom the concept of being offensive to someone with obvious mental problems. Please leave this place and do not come back.
>> No. 27004 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 5:43 am
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>>26999
>In any case, welcome to shared accomodation, it's shite. I once lived with a massive egg-nogger, who used to endlessly blast jungle beats out of the half-dozen amplifiers he had piled below my coffin-sized bedroom. Everything would shake.

SEE ME SEE ME ME ME ME ME DI HIT MAN AH COME

Sorry, I'll stop shitting up /emo/.
>> No. 27005 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 6:03 am
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I WASH MYSELF WITH A RAG ON A STICK.
>> No. 27006 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 9:48 am
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>>26986
Why is Asian in quotation marks?
>> No. 27007 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 11:36 am
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>>27003

Try to reread the post. The smelly fattie is already gone and is not coming back. I was asking for help in dealing with the idiot social worker (a well meaning woman that got completely burned out by an horrendous workload) and with the "Asian" landlord.

>>27006
It's the euphemism used by newspapers.
>> No. 27008 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:04 pm
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>>27007
Your responses to the advice you've been given so far would suggest you don't appreciate an honest critique of your behaviour and that you don't like British people despite living in Britian, so what could we possibly tell you in the way of advice being "brits" you would listen to or respect?
>> No. 27014 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:29 pm
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>>27007

My advice would be to be less openly rude to people in the future and tell your landlord that this is what you plan to do. But I already know you won't take that advice as you do not appear to understand that you're being unpleasant. (yeah, I know - the fat bloke's the unpleasant one, sure, it's alright, you're the victim)
>> No. 27015 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:37 pm
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>>27014

Fucking hell, I hope that you are just trolling. I cannot imagine that you are serious. Would you really smile and be tolerant towards somebody that is leaving a waft of rotting smell IN YOUR KITCHEN? The place where you cook and store your pots and pans? Do you live in a place where it's socially acceptable to not wash for weeks? Do you even have running water in your house?
>> No. 27016 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 12:57 pm
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>>27015
Can you please deport yourself.
>> No. 27019 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 1:28 pm
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>>27015

You still seem to be unable or unwilling to process that what you did is also not socially acceptable, nor an effective way to persuade someone to comply with your requests. I suspect you'd have a far easier time with people if you were able to grasp the concept that 'smiling and tolerating' someone is perhaps the easiest way to get them to do something you ask of them. That said. I cannot deny I sympathise with anyone having to deal with someone with poor hygiene particularly one who might not understand the impact they're having, but the fact that you're so abrasive in your tone and even your responses on here makes it very difficult to know what else to say to you. As you have already said, you believe you have no ability to empathise so I suppose there's little point in me explaining it any further than this : if you do not assuage your landlord's concerns you will be out on the street, so I suggest that you do. Tell them you overstepped a line, you were understandably frustrated by this persons lack of hygiene but you regret being so aggressive and it will not happen again.

It's not particularly important whether or not you believe any of that, as I sense you're already going to tell me yet again that you do not - just pretend that you do when your landlord asks.
>> No. 27020 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 2:05 pm
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>>27019

Thanks, finally an answer from somebody that remembered to turn on his brain today! The landlord has not called, but he is not the kind of person that gives a rat's ass about his tenants. As long as the council pays, he's renting a shitty hovel for an incredibly overinflated price. I think he will just try to cajole a month's rent from the council (since the little fat smelly 'mong ran away without informing the landlord) and give the room to some other lost soul. At least the other tenants, a brit ex con and his wife, are decent people.
>> No. 27021 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 2:08 pm
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>>27020

>finally an answer from somebody that remembered to turn on his brain today

Same person you were calling a troll and an idiot earlier on, but sure.

I know this is /emo/ but fucking hell you're a knob
>> No. 27022 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 3:26 pm
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>>27020
Sage for Ameritroll.
>> No. 27026 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 5:47 pm
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>>27022

I am not a burger, m8.

>>27019

Everything solved itself, lads. The brain-dead support worker came, asked me some dumb questions. I told him that I had no idea what happened, the last tenant just left without saying a word and leaving his keys on the kitchen counter (true). He ticked a lot of boxes and left happy. Now he's grilling the ex-con because he was smoking weed in his room. WIN!
>> No. 27027 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 5:51 pm
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>>27026
How can you be such a grade A cunt and yet at the same so fragile you felt the need to post this terrified thread?
>> No. 27028 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 6:06 pm
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>>27027

Because I have all good reasons to be afraid. I am physically disabled and I am at serious risk of homelessness, a condition where I cannot survive. You would be way more scared than me in my situation, you fookin wank stain.


>> No. 27030 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 6:12 pm
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>>27028

If I was that scared I'd probably not be such a dick to the people I share my living space with then.
>> No. 27031 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 6:54 pm
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>>27030
Innit.
>> No. 27032 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 7:02 pm
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>>27028
You are such a fucking wanker. Go back to where you came.
>> No. 27033 Anonymous
10th July 2018
Tuesday 8:43 pm
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>>26989
I'm curious, what country are you from? You type like someone who grew up in an English-speaking country.
>> No. 27036 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 2:12 am
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>>27033

Southern Europe, but I had a good education before ending up as a dolescum in a shitty city.

However, I have an opinion that will probably be a little unpopular: I think that all those "autistic" children that pop up everywhere are just the result of lazy parenting from parents that are too dumb and lazy to do any actual parenting. Thus, the kids grow up feral, without any boundary, any concept of social norm and any concept of morality or civil behaviour. The psychiatrists cannot just slap the "parents" and tell them that IT IS THEIR FUCKING FAULT if their rotten crotchfruit cannot stay still or stop yelling for more than ten seconds, so they make up some fancy named disorder. I've seen a lot of parents letting their hellsgremlins roam feral around, while ignoring them and looking for a quick shag on Tinder. No wonder that later in life they will become useless!

I am quite sure that my former flatmate was one of them. His useless chavy parents never taught him how to respect other people or conform to social standards, and now he's so fucked up that he cannot even live in a shared housing. Some people really get no chance in life.

https://i.imgur.com/z8uHhI2.mp4

(A good day to you Sir!)
>> No. 27037 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 2:30 am
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest the accident which caused his disability was a head injury.
>> No. 27040 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 9:04 am
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>>27036

I know a couple of people with one autistic kid and one normal one though.
>> No. 27042 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 11:44 am
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>>27040

I don't think they know the differance between autism and Adhd.

(A good day to you Sir!)
>> No. 27043 Anonymous
11th July 2018
Wednesday 11:55 am
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>>27040
How hard is it to imagine a scenario where parents vaccinated one child and not the other?
>> No. 27046 Anonymous
12th July 2018
Thursday 1:04 pm
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>>27040

I know a lot of families where one child is treated like gold and the other is treated like shite. It's the norm amongst dysfunctional families.
>> No. 27068 Anonymous
13th July 2018
Friday 5:28 pm
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>>27046
If my sister were struck by a bolt of lightning it would be my fault.
If I were struck by a bolt of lightning I must have done something to deserve it.

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