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>> No. 28411 Anonymous
16th April 2019
Tuesday 8:34 pm
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Okay fellas, I have no major problems going on in my life right now, in fact since January I've been doing pretty well.

That said, I've just gotten home from the gym and wanked for two hours straight, after telling myself I wouldn't do the same thing I did yesterday which was wank for two hours straight after work.

This is after wanking a shitload on the weekend as well.

It's fucking with my routine and making me squash my days. I like to have a wank to a sexual fantasy now and then, but fuck sake I hate doing it for two hours.

Just someone give me some support to not do this for the rest of the week.
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>> No. 28412 Anonymous
16th April 2019
Tuesday 8:52 pm
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>> No. 28414 Anonymous
16th April 2019
Tuesday 9:28 pm
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Why so long? I'm not saying I don't draw it out, but do you not just get bored after awhile?

Kill yourself, fundie.
>> No. 28415 Anonymous
16th April 2019
Tuesday 9:43 pm
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He has some pretty solid points about porn addiction at around the 5 minute mark.
>> No. 28416 Anonymous
16th April 2019
Tuesday 10:17 pm
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Find something to take your mind off it?

Read a book, watch a film, piss around on the internet (avoid pics of sexy ladies) etc etc.

I'm often just to lazy for a wank and can't be arsed but that might just be a getting older thing. Fuck knows.

2 hours does seem quite excessive, you cock must be an utter state lad. After the gym an all, I can barely be arsed to watch telly after work let alone rag the fuck out my cock for hours after being in the gym. How many tabs do you end up having open? Out of curiosity.

Anyways, good luck m8, you can do it! Or just find a way to spunk it up a lot quicker.
>> No. 28417 Anonymous
17th April 2019
Wednesday 12:15 am
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You need something to fill your time when you are on your own, the devil makes work for idle hands.

Find some sort of hobby that you can do on your own. The trick is you find something you want to do more than wanking.
>> No. 28418 Anonymous
17th April 2019
Wednesday 1:19 am
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He's also a mentalist. There are people with valid points about porn addiction that aren't horrible male chauvinists.
>> No. 28419 Anonymous
17th April 2019
Wednesday 1:20 am
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Would it be better if they were female chauvinists?
>> No. 28420 Anonymous
17th April 2019
Wednesday 1:41 am
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Set yourself a time limit before you start. Once you've spent five or ten minutes looking for a scene, you have to choose a scene and finish to it. It only requires a tiny amount of self-discipline, because you get the immediate reward of orgasm rather than the prolonged dopamine hit of searching for the perfect scene.

More broadly, think about what might be lacking in your life and work on fixing it. As a rule, people don't spend ages on porn sites for no reason, they do it because it's a good way of anaesthetising yourself from uncomfortable feelings. Much like drinking, it's a good way of taking your mind off things you'd rather not think about and pass the time in a dull haze. If you're spending an increasing amount of time wanking, it's probably because there's something that you're unhappy about but don't want to confront.
>> No. 28421 Anonymous
17th April 2019
Wednesday 8:43 am
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OP here.

The problem isn't that I don't have anything yo do (I have plenty), it's my lack of control.

I'm not keeping tabs open as I found out a while ago that the amount of choice you get on a tube site basically makes it impossible for you to stay hard because you're riddled with i decision. I'm getting hyped up by certain factors and just end up wanting to keep going and going, and when I cum after two hours I basically have his massive comedown.
>> No. 28436 Anonymous
21st April 2019
Sunday 10:17 am
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My wanking habits are somewhat similar. I don't tend to enjoy a quick one, it just feels like a perfunctory release of jizz after which I feel just sort of tired and disappointed. There's none of the satisfied relief that comes after a good fuck.

Where I differ from you is that I don't tend to watch porn. I've always felt like porn is sort of bad for you, in a "too much of a good thing" kind of way. Instead my poison is talking dirty to strangers (mostly lassies, occasionally laddies) on dating sites and hook up apps and what have you. I'm not sure that it's entirely better than porn but it doesn't come with the same sense of being spoiled for choice. When I do go for actual porn it's only the most ridiculously depraved hentai or furry porn.l, so it doesn't contend with my expectations of actual sex. I think the key is simply knowing when there's a time and a place. I do sometimes feel like I'm wasting time having an all night wank marathon, but then again, I don't see how that's inherently worse than simply watching telly and scrolling through social media like your average person.

I think a big part of this is the inherent shame you're supposed to feel over masturbation. And a lot of that is a huge gender double standard. If you think about it, there's nothing wrong with a lass "being in touch with her sexuality", even if she's spending hours gaping herself with Bad Dragon toys every night. But when it's a lad doing it he's a pathetic semen encrusted saddo. You have to see past that and realise there's nothing to be ashamed of in it.

Think about it the way you would with alcohol. As long as you're not spending time wanking when you should instead be socialising with friends, or doing responsible adult things like cooking and cleaning, or just anything you'd consider to be neglecting other needs in order to wank, Ai don't think you necessarily need to change. If you do, think of it the same way- When you try to cut down drinking, you take yourself away from the things that cause temptation. Put parental controls on your Web browser to create some semblance of an obstacle to just opening the porn tabs right away. Keep off the computer in general, in the same way you'd avoid the offie you normally buy four cans from after work.

Apologies for rambling a bit but I hope some perspective helps.
>> No. 28473 Anonymous
4th May 2019
Saturday 1:40 pm
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OP here again, thought I'd check up on this to see if there was anything new.

You've probably got the most relevant outlook to me here, dunno if I made myself clear but I don't really watch porn all the time, in fact I end up wanking a lot due to what you said, wanking while chatting to lads and lasses.

There's some good news though, since this thread I've been exhibiting a lot of control. The other night I got it over with in about 15 - 20 minutes after a week of not even doing it, without becoming an overstimulated mess. I've been controlling it a lot better after the gym too.

On that note as well, haven't really bothered chatting to anymore to get off because it tends to be a black hole for me where I just wanna keep going. Gonna keep on with how I've been doing.
>> No. 28482 Anonymous
10th May 2019
Friday 3:58 pm
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I wank 5 times a day and have a one terabyte porn collection. I want to abstain from porn and only wank using my imagination when I'm legitimately horny like I did in the good old days before the internet. How do you tell the difference between wanting to have a wank to relieve boredom and when you're legitimately horny?
>> No. 28483 Anonymous
10th May 2019
Friday 4:06 pm
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I think there's a lot to be said for a week of cold turkey and seeing how you feel.
>> No. 28494 Anonymous
14th May 2019
Tuesday 4:51 am
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I think you have to relearn the difference between that mate.
>> No. 28498 Anonymous
15th May 2019
Wednesday 12:42 pm
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>have a one terabyte porn collection
Weak shit my dude and this is after a significant recent prune. But I see myself as more of a "curator" than some fevered wank-addict.
>> No. 28866 Anonymous
25th August 2019
Sunday 12:47 am
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Update: I ended up trying nofap/noporn for a couple of weeks and it turns out I'm not unusually horny, I'm just addicted to porn. I noticed that whenever I was feeling bored, frustrated, or anxious, I'd want to watch some porn and edge to take the edge off. It leads to a helluva lot of wanking when boredom, frustration, anxiety are your three primary states of being.
>> No. 28867 Anonymous
25th August 2019
Sunday 1:56 pm
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Wanking is a way to get the parasympathetic nervous system going, I think. Chronic stress was my trigger for a lot of porn use. As life eased up I could relax in different ways.
>> No. 28868 Anonymous
25th August 2019
Sunday 2:16 pm
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Wanking feels nice. If there's sod-all else in your life that's nice, you're probably going to wank like a bonobo on Viagra. We often over-use the word "addiction" to mean "one of the few pleasures in an otherwise grim life".
>> No. 28869 Anonymous
25th August 2019
Sunday 3:42 pm
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You may be right.

I'm also a good example of how habit change can come about because of a shift in my circumstances (generally busier but less stressed, easier time falling asleep, less time to watch porn, etc.) rather than just relying on sheer willpower.

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