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>> No. 28802 Anonymous
4th August 2019
Sunday 2:55 pm
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What is the cure for avoidant personality disorder?

I don't want to be alone anymore but I'm so shy I can't even have a simple conversation with someone.
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>> No. 28803 Anonymous
4th August 2019
Sunday 5:02 pm
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There is no cure, but you can manage the symptoms effectively and lead a fulfilling life. Your primary line of attack is to treat the social anxiety that underpins the disorder.

This post covers the basics of your clinical treatment options >>27190.

In the case of social anxiety, the most important intervention is simply exposure. If you get into a consistent routine of interacting with people, your anxiety will gradually start to diminish. Treatments like medication or psychotherapy can be a really big help, but you need to put the work in. There's a cycle of anxiety and avoidance - you feel anxious in social situations, so you avoid people, so you feel even more anxious next time. You can reverse that cycle, but it requires consistent effort over a long period.

Think in terms of small, manageable goals. Do at least one thing every day that makes you feel uncomfortable but not completely terrified and reward yourself for doing it. If you're highly socially withdrawn, a good starting point might be just going to the corner shop every day to buy a snack. If you're OK with that sort of situation, you might want to go to the library and ask a librarian for a recommendation, or try asking strangers for directions. Over time, you can work towards more meaningful interaction like an evening class or a hobby group, then work from just getting in the door towards conversations and friendships.

Always keep in mind that it's about consistent action over time. Very small improvements to your anxiety will eventually add up to a huge change if you stick at it. Imagine feeling 1% less anxious about social situations - it's a tiny, almost imperceptible change, yes? If you can reduce your anxiety by 1% every week, you'll be 40% less anxious after a year and 75% less anxious after two years. I think you'll agree that a 75% reduction in anxiety would be life-changing, but you get there 1% at a time. Even the smallest improvement in your self-confidence is important and worth celebrating, because a big change is made of hundreds of tiny changes, each building on the last.

What one thing are you going to do tomorrow to confront your fears? What's your goal for the week? For the month? For the year? Think about it, write it down and do it.

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