/emo/, my girlfriend, of a few years now, a bit back admitted to me that she believed she was a lesbian.
Now, I am fully aware a bond between two women can be one of the most gorgeous breath-taking events that can take place, and that one can experience and share... possibly with a larger audience (all the better), on earth. Well, taking into consideration that they do not resemble anything closely to: Rosie O'Donnell (thank the heavens she does not, and is very fit!).
With that said: No, she's not into threesomes or orgies (that I know of anyway). We've discussed this in the past, not as propositions, but as analyzation of other relationships. So suggesting a threesome would be out of the question. Although, it'd probably be a great way to end the relationship: Sort of like exchanging a position of power with another official, days after election day. Again though, the likelihood of this happening however, would be very highly unlikely.
That aside, would it be best to part ways in such circumstances? Or should I stick it out, taking into considerations that her: desires, wants, and needs are that of another woman. All while in the back of my mind coming into terms that she will eventually want to leave me for another girl, regardless of how much she loves me.
I say this as she didn't state she wanted to end the relationship, not yet anyway. More than likely due to not finding that possible perfect girl yet.
While we do have our downfalls, I do adore and get along with this girl very well (the most I ever have with anyone), nonetheless, with all this into play: I am bit hesitant to say whether the relationship can continue for years to come without fully addressing this issue/desire.
I was fully aware she was attracted to girls prior entering the relationship (she's had a girlfriend before), and was completely willing to face the consequences it may present. Regardless, a relationship is a relationship and I knew it would still be hard to deal with in such circumstances.
Now, suppose this were a joke. She would have that type of humour, but signs point otherwise in regards to her interests and character. So while it may have been a playful joke, I am still fully aware she thinks of girls in that kind of way. So suppose it is, however: I believe them to be subconscious thoughts regardless, judging from past events that have taken place.
So it seems half-jokingly, if it is a joke.
tl;dr: Should I do a barrel roll?
Also, to her: Hello! if you see this. Don't post. Just message me via IM.
>>4073 >I was fully aware she was attracted to girls prior entering the relationship (she's had a girlfriend before)
There's your problem. If she's lesbian, get out of the relationship. If she's bisexual, get out of the relationship. In case this hasn't been said before; all bisexual females are vapid whores. There are no exceptions to the aforementioned rule.
is your relationship based on two people who love each other and want to stay together regardless of the odds or is it based on my 'sexual preferences'
cos surely what matters is that you both love each other and you express that through the physical side.... not that you both want to jump each others bones and you express that through saying I love you.
>a bond between two women can be one of the most gorgeous breath-taking events that can take place, and that one can experience and share... possibly with a larger audience (all the better), on earth.
Your girlfriend agrees. And that's why she doesn't want your dick anymore. Too many men hype up lesbianism as the sexiest thing, then complain when their girls begin to agree.
Well, I would like to think it's based on both. I'd say sex is a good portion of your relationship, it's not the foundation of it, but it definitely is part of it. Thus sex preference is just as relevant as the love for one another. Not on the same level, of course, but it's there in any relationship.
All the more if one or both have a high sex drive.
Not too sure on this theory. Apparently she was into girls when she was much younger or admired them etc (since sex isn't quite comprehended at a younger age, not in technical detail anyway) just as many other people before her have. Thus avoiding any men hyping up lesbianism, as I don't believe she grew up in that type of environment where men are talking about how hot lesbianism is.
Speaking from a similar experience, I would just get rid of her as soon as. Depending on what kind of person you are, you can either completely cut her out of your life, which will be a complete heart-wrencher if you're in love with the girl, or if you can go the other way and still keep in close contact, but you may end up getting too pissed off with her discussing her exploits with you.
If a girl's straight and is starting to lose interest, you can always change to accomidate if you're that bothered about her. If she's into girls, there will always be something you can't provide that she wants.
Frankly, you were idiotic to head into the relationship in the first place (as I said, I was in a similar relationship so I'm as much of an idiot). Girls like that are more open minded and fun to fuck, but the'll always be something you can't give her when the two of you are locked into a relationship.
It's going to be shit either way, but you need to get rid of her.
Sometimes a clean-break is better, my friend. Moreover, I've found that I'm more or less likely to get over a woman I truly love if I cut off contact her after the split, get on with my life, then perhaps see her again after a lengthy period.
If she's just another gf and not "the one", then remaining in contact whilst she inevitably goes on about her new sexploitations, is a piece of cake.
Yeah best to break it off. She can't say she's a lesbian and still want to be in a romantic relationship with you; that doesn't make any fucking sense, and the outcome will only end up hurting you in the long-term. You can still remain friends.
OP, I would seriously question anybody who claims to have suddenly changed sexuality. Of course it does happen, but a) teenage girls and young women crave attention and becoming a "lesbian" is just wacky and sexy enough and b) what the fuck man why would you buy that sort of thing.
If its a "phase", you'll ride it out in a few months.
So I thought I'd add to this as it's not worth starting a new thread about.
Been knocking round with a girl for the last couple months, she's mental (properly, has bipolar and is one some kind of antipsychotics) and is also bi.
Anyway, knew things weren't going to go anywhere because of the above, but she's hot so I was going along with it for a bit for the getting laid aspect.
this morning got a text from her saying she didn't think it was working (well duh) and apparently she is not used to being around people who are 'so sure of themselves' (which I found fucking hilarious) and that I don't take things seriously (because basically life is a big ol' game and if you do take it seriously you get depressed... oh wait) so she couldn't talk to me - i.e. she knew I wouldn't be interested in her fucking whining about how shit her life is.
In summary as >>4074 states - she is a vapid whore
I am trying to angle for fuck buddies so I can bone her when she is on an up cycle.
I no longer have a relationship that was going to go nowhere with an amicable split and the possibility of some no strings sex (which was the only bit of the relationship that was satisfying).
>>4184 Truly mental birds are impossible to deal with and if you stick around them, will bring you down to their level. You're better off out of it to be sure.
This person is truth. Take it from people who've been through the hell for you, crazy, overly-insecure women are the WORST case of relationship nut. Paranoid, contradictory (with expectation of sympathy), fight-picking, jealous, mentally-selective.
Get out of it. You'll just end up going through a sham of a relationship which will inevitably end up in a massive shitstorm. Spare yourself the torment.
You could stick with her and just do scissoring with her to satisfy your urges. Use your bum hole as a vagina, rub her bits and wear a dress or something.
Or just do this. If you can't sever the connection and end up staying "in love" and hanging around like a puppy and not actively looking for another relationship or sabotaging potential ones then you need the complete clean break and cannot remain friends. Up to the individual or situation.
The guy going out with the mental bird is a bit of a cad, but then she's probably not brilliant either. At least he's not fooling himself.
Compatibility is important, as is at least one or - even better both - in the relationship being stable and hopefully relaxed/good natured. Crazy self-cutting emo girl might be cute but if she's batshit insane and unstable you're probably not going to get far. Better not to make the emotional investment in most cases.
