i've got an embarrassing manproblem here. namely... premature ejaculation.
i broke up with my girlfriend of a year around 3 months ago. it was a difficult break up, i was in love with her, but i'm well on the way to getting over her completely. note that before and during this relationship i have never experienced this problem. very soon after breaking up with her, a friend of mine began to comfort me. she was pretty hot, and i needed the company so we smoked weed together and bonded deeper than we had before. obviously this lead to a sexual relationship. now, i fucked this girl 3 times, and 3 times i couldn't finish. didn't matter how into the sex i got, we'd go for over an hour without breaks, i just could not even get close to climax. i put this down to the hurt i was still feeling from the break up.
this made me uneasy so things quickly fizzled out with us, and i started seeing another girl - same thing happens. we fucked, i couldnt finish, and rather than explain this to her, i faked an orgasm and let that be the end of it. i saw this girl again like 2 weeks later, and i got drunk and again we had sex. this second girl isn't much to look at in the face, but when i moved her into a doggy position and she arched her back - my god, dat ass. she had the roundest arse i've ever seen, and i am most definitely an assman. i pounded away, until i started to feel it creeping up on me - yes! the tickle of the O! aphrodite's love pump! cheesy orgasmic metaphor!
i came.
but this was no clean orgasm, oh no. there was something far more sinister that came with it. since then, every time i have had sex i have not lasted more than 2 minutes.
what the fuck.
i'm known for my sexual prowess. i've had 3 hour sessions before. threesomes. sex in all maner of public places. if this continues, my sex life is ruined. girls talk, you know.
although it was doggy that did it for me that time, it doesn't matter about the position any more. as soon as i'm in, i've got two minutes tops. i've tried numerous things... pulling out, acting like i'm changing position to give myself some 'relief' time, but as soon as im back in ive got no time. i tried that thing where you clamp your hand around the base of your cock, but that doesnt seem to work either. i just spooge as soon as im back inside.
>>4542 Hmm... have you tried having a wank (or two) earlier in the day to lower your sensitivity?
Alternatively, rather than pulling out to 'change position' and give yourself some time to calm down, why not try pulling out to go down on her for a while and thus give yourself more time to calm down?
I'd suspect this is a temporary thing, by the way, so if your current sexings are with this other / second girl and she's vaguely approachable you could try talking to her about it - perhaps she'd be willing to go down on you before you penetrate her, for example.
Every man suffering from pre-mature ejaculation has specific enemies. Your enemies are: doggystyle position on round arses, and eye-contact/emotional attachment to sex.
The former, when she isn't looking at you, makes you cum too fast, because you're emotionally wounded and sexually starved. The latter puts you off, because you don't want to risk getting too close to another woman on a more than purely physical level.
I've been in a 5 year relationship now; (Still am!) and I sometimes suffer from the premature ejaculation issues.
Usually eye-contact, them moaning or doggy throw me way off track into a two minute splooge.
How do I combat this? Get fucking leathered. I can't cum when I'm pissed. But I'd rather take a fustrating 40+ minutes of sex than an awkard 5 minute job.
I suggest practicing self control. A lot of guys just rely on the numbnesss from harsh wanking habits and "death grip syndrome", thick condoms or some similar aid to give them unnaturally longer sessions. Self control can do wonders in almost any situation though.
If you can learn it then you can pretty much choose when you want to ejaculate no matter what is going on. It's partly mental and partly physical (muscle control downstairs and learning the right movement and pacing). You won't need pills or anything for that, just lots of practise. At least the practise is pretty fun and you should get a gradual improvement.
Also - People on the net will try to sell you all sorts of crap you don't need, be it books, gadgets or pills. Don't fall for it. They are just vultures.
