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>I STRUGGLE TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THIS AND THE LOUIS CK THING.
Louis CK habitually wanked at young comedians after gigs, often in the dressing room. No preamble, no apparent expression of interest, just "is it OK if I get my dick out?" out of nowhere. He was the tastemaker in the comedy industry and had the power to make or break the careers of the young women he was wanking at. The behaviour was habitual, obviously inappropriate and there was a substantial power imbalance. It's almost certainly not sexual assault, but it's clearly exploitative - the women CK wanked at could have legitimately feared professional retribution if they said no.
The woman who made the allegations against Ansari had been on a date with him after a week of flirting by text. She doesn't work in TV or comedy, so there was no professional imbalance of power. Based on the account given in the Babe interview, Ansari's behaviour looks fairly sleazy, but there's enough grey area to suggest that he might deserve the benefit of the doubt. The main complaint is that he failed to appropriately interpret non-verbal cues that she wasn't fully consenting; Ansari can legitimately argue that these cues were subtle and unclear and he simply misread the situation. There are no other allegations against Ansari so far.
If there's a broader lesson to be learned from this incident, I think it isn't "Aziz Ansari is a sex pest", but "young women need to be given the confidence to clearly express their boundaries".