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Your idea of success is particularly narrow, though. I don't feel qualified to tell you if I'm an Alpha or not, but I have a good career, nice house, an attractive girlfriend, a few cars, and more disposable income than I know what to do with. None of that makes me particularly happy, though, nor did I particularly have to cut anyone's throat to get where I am. I think the idea of the competitive, dominant man is something you entertain in your twenties, then eventually realise that competency, clarity, and confidence are the actual markers of a high achiever, and for every bloke who gets somewhere by climbing over the corpses of others, they are the lucky few who didn't simply fall off the pile like the rest. I know from experience, and certainly with age, that most people roll their eyes at a bloke with big biceps shouting at people because he thinks that's how you command respect. It gets old, fast.
Personally I know my success has a lot to do with my razor sharp empathy and emotional intelligence. I've found that I've always been able to command the respect and effectively lead a team of men AND women simply because I'm good at understanding and talking to them. I've never once had to raise my voice at someone in the workplace, despite it being considered a requirement by a lot of young leaders in the industry. I suspect you'd consider this way of managing people to be very feminine, but it has certainly enabled the material lifestyle that you proscribe as Alpha. I do display plenty of 'manly' skills and mannerisms, I work(ed) with my hands and was very skilled, ambitious, confident, loud, etc, but I was also the person people would come to if they wanted to talk. I feel like that was a very powerful trait to have as a leader, and still do.
I'm sure most of us here that have ever been any sort of manager has come into contact with this personality seminar, or similar. The typical 'Alpha' traits are all red, the 'feminine' stuff is blue, and the nerds and that are green. The point of this assessment is to push people into the middle as a 'hub', where they can be flexible and dynamic in their assessment and interaction with others. That happens to be where I score on this test, and I don't think you can do that without having a good mix of traditionally masculine and feminine traits.
Sage for veering into tedious management lectures.