>>30766

This is basically why I made the post.

>>30767

Just to follow-up on this I have to point out once pornhub deleted all unverified videos following allegations of non-consensual content being uploaded I noticed a lot of dodgier-looking free sites immediately cropped up.

>>30768

That if anything is what moved me toward buying porn, it cut out being in that mire of questionably moderated websites.

Interesting post, thank you for sharing. I have a couple of questions and observations, if you don't mind letting me ramble a bit, and maybe telling me what you think.

I don't really understand how one becomes a porn addict. I see a lot of myself in your post- I'm a complete fetish deviant, and I've long since left regular porn behind for the realms of hentai and furry porn, which indulges altogether more imaginative kinds of lust. Regular old porn where it's just a video of two people fucking does next to nothing for me, there's just no substance to it. All night wanking sessions on the come down from an acid trip with a fat spliff burning down on the bedside table have been a more frequent indulgence than I'd like to admit throughout the course of my 20s; indeed that's how I came to confront the fact I'm most likely bisexual, and at any rate I love having my prostate tickled.

The difference is I'm really not ashamed of any of it. It doesn't feel like a problem to me at all- I might spend hours edging myself over an elaborate and highly unusual fantasy, but once I've spaffed my load? Serenity and relief washes over me. My urges entirely vanish for an hour or two, and my mind isn't troubled at all. It's just another part of my day, and I go about my business afterwards the same way you would as if you'd just finished doing the dishes or built a MÖRBYLÅNGA for the living room. It doesn't affect my "real life" sexuality, although as you might reasonably expect the frequency and nature of my habits changes depending on how sexually pro-active my partner is.

Was it the sheer frequency of it? Was it clouding your mind at inappropriate times, and you couldn't resist it? Was it encouraging unhealthy attitudes towards your real sex life? What made you decide to confront this habit as if it was a problem, and not just something you do?

The reason I ask is because there are certain internet communities that have become fascinating to me. The attitude that porn is some sort of toxic mental carcinogen seems to becoming rather widespread amongst younger lads in certain parts, with this whole "nofap" cult spectacularly reviving a bizarre modern reincarnation of 1890s Quakerism; and I believe the attitudes and philosophy of those groups is every bit as unhealthy as an overindulgence in even the worst sort of porn. They believe that denying themselves masturbation will help them keep their focus on real sex with real women, and bettering themselves in order to be more appealing to women. Now, you really don't have to be a sexual health expert to see the flaws in that approach. It becomes a vicious cycle for them.

As with nearly anything in life, I believe the true way lies with all things in moderation, and that the real problem for these lads lies in a lack of self confidence, and a fractured relationship with their sexuality. They cycle between repression and obsession, because they have never had the opportunity of positive sexual encounters to frame their instinctual desires against. It's like, society, maaan.

Of course, I don't mean to suggest you're one of them, OP. But I see some similarities in your reasoning, which made me curious how you came to those conclusions. Why did porn make you feel bad?

>>30770

I'm not the OP, and I don't want to confuse the issue, but just in case there are some younglads reading that are facing similar issues to me and it helps them somehow...

There's a few ways in which pornography and masturbation make me feel bad, and it actually doesn't have much to do with "shame" or associated stigma. For me it's more:

1) The physiology of it. Sex and orgasms are genuinely draining (for me, at least). Despite being otherwise physically healthy, or indeed maybe it's because of the high activity level in other parts of my life, an intense experience like an orgasm can actually lead to overstimulation, fatigue, and irritability. At its worst, I could even feel cold or flu like symptoms if I'd masturbated multiple times in succession. What's more, this tends to happen more when I masturbate than when having sex with a partner, maybe because the latter takes longer and I have the chance to relax/go through the proper refractory stages afterward.

2) Psychologically, it feeds pretty negatively into anxiety. I used sex and masturbation as a crutch when I was younger to get over feelings of anxiety, almost like a dopamine or serotonin button. The associated irritability and fatigue I describe above may either be a direct symptom of this association, or it might be another physiological thing that exacerbates it.

3) Similarly, it has a horrible effect on me with depressive symptoms. I find I just have more energy and interact with people differently when I haven't been through an intense experience like orgasm. But on a more tangible level, there was nothing worse for me during depressive episodes when I'd lose all track of time, my circadian rhythm would be all over the place, my work and leisure time blended meaninglessly, and on top of that I'd lose hours of the day to long edging sessions which were essentially a way of self-soothing for existing anxiety anyway.

Conversely, I want to bring up that pornography actually had some benefits for me. It's debateable, but I seriously doubt I'd be as sexually open and comfortable with people as I've been in my relationships if I'd not had some exposure to it. I think it helped both to broaden my personal tastes and also helped me view sex in a "live and let live (if they're consenting adults)" kind of way.

TL;DR - My issues were (still are) primarily to do with physiology, associations with masturbation specifically, time management, and self esteem rather than any social or cultural issues surrounding porn.

>>93475

It wasn't even an argument you spacker, it was a complete guess which I presented openly as such.

Go sharpen your hatchet on someone who was actually trying to argue with you.

>>93477
>which I presented openly as such
Except you didn't. But please do continue to spout uninformed opinions in the finest .gs tradition.

>>93476
I worry about puberty blockers a bit. It's not great being behind your peers in that stuff, regardless of their being temporary. Am I worrying about nothing?

>>93475

>Nobody argues seriously for abolishing marriages

A lot of the early gay rights campaigners did precisely that. The Gay Liberation Front weren't campaigning for acceptance, they saw themselves as part of a broader left-wing struggle against what they saw as the oppressive nature of heteronormativity; they drew support from Marxists, radical fisherpersons and anarchists. Gay marriage was antithetical to the people who first started agitating for gay rights - rather than achieving liberation, they would see it as an acceptance of the oppressive structures they sought to overthrow. Many of the people who organised the first Pride march are horrified by the way in which gay people have acceded to straight values.

From the Gay Liberation Front Manifesto (1971):

The oppression of gay people starts in the most basic unit of society, the family, consisting of the man in charge, a slave as his wife, and their children on whom they force themselves as the ideal models.

The ultimate success of all forms of oppression is our self-oppression. Self-oppression is achieved when the gay person has adopted and internalised straight people's definition of what is good and bad."

[i]It is because of the patriarchal family that reforms are not enough. Freedom for gay people will never be permanently won until everyone is freed from sexist role-playing and the straight-jacket of sexist rules about our sexuality. And we will not be freed from these so long as each succeeding generation is brought up in the same old sexist way in the patriarchal family.

Conservative sociologists have pointed out that the small family unit of two parents and their children is essential in our contemporary advanced industrial society where work is minutely subdivided and highly regulated - in other words, for the majority very boring. A man would not work at the assembly line if he had no wife and family to support; he would not give himself fully to his work without the supportive and reassuring little group ready to follow him about and gear itself to his needs, to put up with his ill temper when he is frustrated or put down by the boss at work.

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>>93479

Puberty-blockers are reversible; puberty isn't. They give gender-questioning and trans-identifying children the time to make informed decisions about their future. I'm no expert, but I'd imagine that being a late bloomer is much less traumatic than unwillingly going through puberty as the wrong gender.

Yep. I wrote a big 'Stop Polticising Police' with orange and black marker pen. They can't miss it.

I said yesterday I was going to spoil, but it was raining all evening and I never bothered. Sorry, I let you both down and I'm sorry.

I drew a dick on my ballot but I think they got the wrong idea.

>>93451
>I drew a dick
Another vote for Cressida!

>>93451
They count those for the incumbent, you've naused that right up.

>>33534

A dozen bootnecks in a paddle boat would be a better navy than Iceland's, I wish people wouldn't talk about the Cod Wars like they were an actual military conflict.

Never forget the Fourth Cod War.

>>33534
We have so few ships to operate in support of HMS Queen Elizabeth that if the French fishing fleet were retooled as fast attack boats they could probably sink the damned thing.

>>33537

The planes'd sort it.

>>33535

Indeed remember that time that we just decided it was too important for us to not to control Iceland and we just took it over in a morning, and by the evening the Icelandic government had just accepted British rule.

>>443622
Well done, you're a cretinous inchworm.

>>443623
Have a fuckin' whinge there, cuz.

>>443634
n1 m8 dem 2 wont no wot hit em

>>443635
Go and have an angry wank.

>>443636
Bet you'd like that, cuntbubble.

>>6360
Age / fatness are a factor here.

No. Some jeans and trousers are made with 2% elastane, which gives them a subtle stretch without the bunched-up look of an elasticated waistband.

>>443541
I feel your pain.

>>443530
I was lucky to get my work to organise my trailer license and I got my LGV as well. All because like twice in the past 5 years I have had to transport some equipment.

It's annoying because if I passed my test 3 months earlier I wouldn't need to do them. Instead I was among the first lot to do the theory test, which was just a pen and paper multiple choice test that took me 15 minutes to blast through.

Just shat my sleep schedual through a bin bag by "having a nap" earlier in the evening. Five hours is way too long for a quick kip though, that's a full on sleep, men have won wars having slept fewer hours than that.

Also do you need a car to go to the tip or can you just rock up with a bag of old crap on foot, like a tramp who just found out about Marie Kondo? God, that's a dated reference.

>>443589
My local tips don't need a car, but you do need to book at the moment; if you're on foot though, I doubt you're bringing that much so I'm sure you could blag it.

>>443589
I have visited my local tip on a bicycle that I then threw away at said tip.

>>30738

>This place hasn't changed since 2011 m8. We just have more generals now. I distinctly remember a enlightened discussion on the merits of air ionisers around that time.

I don't see how at all that is relevant to OP turning into a NIMBY.

>>30741

>Ofcourse i don't actually know that this person was peeping at the kids

This is the part that's the problem.

>>30741
I for one would rather not be part of a community of paranoid curtain twitchers who scream carpet-bagger! every time a lone man pauses to check their phone within half a mile of a playground.
That kind of behaviour has a much more corrosive effect on the community as a whole than the occasional potentially creepy guy who's motives the OP jumped to conclusions about looking over a pool fence.

For example:
https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/parenting/kids/most-men-are-reluctant-to-help-lost-kids-worried-they-will-be-called-a-pervert-new-research-shows/news-story/96f86745202e32acc4122898d36d6889

I remember reading an article about a similar survey from the UK a couple of years ago with similar results but google isn't being particularly helpful.

Maybe the issue here is my perception with regard to children. Both my parents were abused, so i've been vaguely aware of that sort of thing from too young an age. It's like i'm trying to push too far the other way. Projection, init?
Just for context, >>/emo/30452 was my thread also.

I still think the pool guy's was unusual behavior, and i sort of recognised the alleged culprit as someone who was locally known to be engaging in disproportionately aged relationships (though i didn't know that until after i spoke - he looked back at me).
The day previous to this i recognised someone else in the same general location who was historically accused of public masturbation before children. This must have been playing on my mind.

The recolection of these 2 factors seems to add more weight away from the 'just let it be' attitude apparent here (which i may well be misunderstanding). I'm moderately aware of the process by which we search for complimentary evidence and discard anything contrary to our conclusions, by the way.
This is emotionally charged so it's difficult to let go - how could someone forgive themselves for discarding the safety of a child for fuck sake.
Where is the ballance between hypervigilance and complete apathy?
How do people develop their ability to appropriately detect and mitigate threats?

I'm not sure where to go from here. It's quite possible i made a mistake in my comment to the guy looking into the pool - i've made such faux pas before though of lesser consequence.

>>30745
>Most men are reluctant to help lost kids

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>>68718

When I were a lad, we mainly just sat around on street corners looking sullen. Sometimes we'd aimlessly wander about looking for something to do, sometimes we'd persuade a bigger boy to buy us a bottle of cider, sometimes we'd just kick a can around or lob stones at something.

It's impossible to communicate the sheer intensity of pre-internet boredom to someone who has never experienced it first hand. Internet boredom is a different thing, it's a vague beige paste of mediocrity that isn't bad enough to be irritating but isn't memorable in any way. Pre-internet boredom was having literally nothing to do, a void that gnawed at you like hunger.

>>68719

Am I being thick and missing your sarcasm or are you really not familiar with TikTok?

I'm being thick aren't I

>>68724
Dunno, but I've never used? Seen? Partaken of? Sucked at the teat of? tiktok.
If you just get a stream of things, how does it tune for your tastes? Is there a 'bail out' button? I assume so, but this has to be the first major internet thing that's completely passed me by. Well, that and twitter.

>>68724

He's describing television.

>>68716
Why the fuck are you posting this in /iq/ you utter fucking carpet-bagger case?

>>442902

Just shove a snapped darkmilk up yer bum. Post results in an /emo/ thread when everything eventually turns necrotic.

Lads, I need you to settle an argument. Is it normal to feel hungrier after having a poo?

>>443582
I don't think so.

>>443582

I can't say I've ever felt this myself. If anything I have less of an appetite after being haunted by a shit.

>>443582
I need to shit after eating so it makes sense to me that shitting would make you hungry, there's only so much space in your digestive system.

>>68715

I'm surprised the explosion wasn't large enough to take out the camera man. Does China just not have any health and safety, or is it just a large enough country you can find someone on an industrial scale who just doesn't give a fuck.

>>68723
Chinese government/society simply doesn't place value on individual lives beyond their value as a worker.
The arguments there for implementing higher safety standards come down to a matter of financial costs vs demand for rapid growth and industrial output.

>>68727

The thing is it extends well beyond the industrial. They will poison baby formula with toxic plastics if they think they can get away with it. It seems like a mega corporation hellscape that operates on not being the person holding the hot potato when the music stops.

Sometimes when I'm feeling misanthropic I wonder if this is just supply and demand in action. That if Britain had a billion people, we'd ignore all the safety rules too. That a lot of the things we take as coming from our good nature or different culture have always had amoral pragmatic justification as well.
Like how public health became a big issue in 1900s Britain because about half the volunteers for the Boer war were turned away on medical grounds. Not out of charity and shock at the state of the poor, but out of fear for how we'd run an empire with hardly anyone fit to be a soldier. But Britain isn't that big of a country, China is. It's not such a big deal to reject 50% of soldiers if that still leaves you with 750,000,000+ candidates, so of course you'd leave the cuddly public health interventions until later...

>>443535
Why are the Argie bases so close to ours?

>>443537

>Why are the Argie bases so close to ours?

Have they learned nothing.

>>443538
>Belgrano II

Shame it isn't on the ice shelf, it could do with sinking.

Punch arseholes

Not being gay, I think it would be fantastic to do a casserole

>>443559
Oh that bass line reminds me of this

>>9124
Did you report this? Do you want me to delete it so you can fix your typo? You never said in the report message.

>>9127
I was just blindly clicking and assumed the button was "delete" quite foolish given how long I haven't been able to delete posts... . But, no, it doesn't matter, thanks.

I know no one cares anymore, but I've got some shit to say. One of the arguments I've heard from the creeps who wanted this Superleague, though it's been around for a while now, is that young people are turning off from football because matches are "too long" and are instead opting to watch clips on Twitter and YouTube. I find this irritating because the powers that be have made football as difficult as possible to watch and if you aren't willing to or able to fork out for a subscription or three to watch the games you're shit out of luck. Things have been eased somewhat in this regard by measures undertaken during the pandemic, but I can't stress how much it irks me to hear the forces of arch-capitalism whinge that fewer and fewer people are willing to scramble across their massive West Bank wall sized barrier to entry. Not only that but they then decide that the best thing to do is make the "product" even more exclusive and hard to access. I've no doubt the Superleague would have resulted in matches being played at all kinds of silly times so the rights could be sold more easily internationally too.

None of you like football and this story's fading into the distance a bit, Old Trafford scrapping aside, but this is one of those things that kept going around and around in my brain so I wanted to get it out somewhere.

>>I can't stress how much it irks me

>>9130
That's a very valid point. I also find the whole thing slightly suspect, with all media outlets being absolutely 100% unquestioningly on the side of FIFA and UEFA, the cartoonishly corrupt greed-obsessed psychopaths who awarded the next World Cup to Qatar and who refuse to speak out about the fact the stadiums for that tournament will be entirely built from dead slaves. Of course I accept that the European Super League was a big smelly poopoo of an idea, but if we can't find anyone to stick up for it, then FIFA and UEFA have carte blanche to do whatever they want, really.

I'm calling it now.

Steve is H. They've been setting him up as the one person it can't possibly be, which means it's definitely him. Bet your house on it, lads.

Do not actually bet your house on anything, ever. Except this, it's a sure thing.

That was a bit of an anticlimax.

>>23689
Yes, it was.

It's a bit shit really. My m8 plod spends most of their time in Keighley busting cannabis farms / bent migrant taxis/ underage prostitution run by laplanderstani eskimo OCG's but yeah BBC telly.

>>23686
The magnificent bastard did it. He actually went and got a couple of photos of Nesbitt and cast him as Sir Not Appearing In This Film.

>>15715
Apologies for that lads, my auto-renewing script was broken, fixed again.

Can we please have 'hide thread' fixed. I will make you a nice cake if you do.

>>15736
You're going to look at Carol Vorderman every day and you'll bloody well like it.

>>15737

I didn't want to say it, but yes, I am fucking sick of her. I am prepared to take direct action to end this menace if necessary.

Interesting.

Ice pops are fantastic, but I've always been a slush man at heart. I've long considered buying a commercial slush machine for home. You can get a used one for about five hundred quid, but I'm already conscious of being a bit of a man child, I think that might push me over the edge.

>>14322
You could put a few freeze pops in a food processor and lightly put it on.

I don't agree those long thin ice pops (is that what they're called?) are better than ice cream. I've never enjoyed the texture of literal ice. Indeed when you refreeze ice cream it gets those ice crystals all over it and that really impairs the quality, for me.

The bigger Ice lollies like that Fruit Pastilles one I can tolerate. Maybe they are frozen better, or something.

If you ask me, slush is far more effective at cooling off than any ice pop out there.

So much so that I drove 300 miles to buy this the other day. Not bad for £120. The left side is not working currently but it looks like it just needs a thermistor.

I accept this is a mental purchase, but they usually go for seven times that price so how could I resist?

Working out the ideal margarita recipe for it will be my next project.

>>14339
That's an excellent purchase. Look forward to seeing it working.

>>24825
I'm hoping the Series X's cooling system staves off hardware failure. If I run a graphically intensive game it gives off a fair amount of heat, but once I quit it it's back to room temperature in minutes. Compared to my PS4 Pro which is hot to the touch even when doing nothing but downloading games, and it retains that heat long after it's turned off.

Microsoft have made it so that you don't need Xbox Live Gold for free to play online multiplayer games like Apex Legends, CoD Warzone, Fortnite and Rocket League.

https://news.xbox.com/en-us/2021/04/21/online-multiplayer-free-to-play-games-unlocked/

>>24914
It's alright, I would never ever buy an Xbox or any other Microsoft console ever again in my entire life so I'm covered.

Curry's have Forza Horizon 3 for £4.97 if anyone wants a physical copy of it; it's probably cheaper than a digital one since it was pulled from the Microsoft store.

https://www.currys.co.uk/gbuk/gaming/console-gaming/games/microsoft-xbox-one-forza-horizon-3-10155168-pdt.html

EE are doing a bolt-on for £10 per month which gives you the Xbox game pass and unlimited mobile data for gaming. I guess this is Microsoft's way of trying to muscle in on the portability of the Switch.

https://ee.co.uk/gaming

>>93132

You'd have a point if it was more the case that he'd been getting the lads to suck him off for good grades, otherwise I'm not sure it's really as comparable as you seem to think.

>>93141
The Twitter-woke community will often say it's a misogynistic hate crime just to make women feel slightly uncomfortable; you don't need to sexually assault them to be a bad person. And I don't know about you, but if one of my school teachers took me to a strip club, I'd feel pretty bloody slightly uncomfortable.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXmvatkMJsY

Broken Britain. That said, I don't think I could watch GMB on a regular basis without actually feeling my brain decay.

>>93162
>if one of my school teachers took me to a strip club, I'd feel pretty bloody slightly uncomfortable

I think that depends entirely on the teacher.

>>93261
There's no way I'm watching all 12 minutes of that, but the black woman is ghastly. She's on Jeremy Vine on Channel 5 most weeks, and she specialises in reactionary NPC opinions that have not been thought out at all. Every boomer meme in the world is a viewpoint she genuinely holds (although I doubt she has considered any of them) and I just want to drop in (I promise to sage) to say she's absolutely horrific.

>>27910

It's astounding nobody has thought of putting fancy chains on them like a Kensington lock. Keeps it safe from pickpocketing as well as signalling class.

>>27911
Some googling found this. Certainly not fancy, but I'm trying to think why most people don't already have one of these, myself included. Would I find it too annoying to clip and unclip when I need to leave it to charge etc.? I dunno.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVFcUjfG_c0

>>27912

Not quite as classy as a nice gold or silver chain, though.

>>27912

I might order some of these for work. People mostly me have a habit of dropping their work phones off of airbridges etc.

I fear a metal chain would just bring to mind the wallet chains of the early 00s.

>>27912
I used to see these all the time but haven't recently.

I used to have a metal wallet chain and was relentlessly bullied for it even though I kept it inside my pocket and did save me from getting pickpocketed a couple of times when I lived in a particularly seedy area.

What does a woman actually feel when she gets turned off?

I mean, a man can feel his throbbing erectuon go flaccid so is it like they can feel their clit/flaps shrink and their wetness drying up?

>>68670
> IS IT LIKE THEY CAN FEEL THEIR CLIT/FLAPS SHRINK AND THEIR WETNESS DRYING UP?

Well, yes.

On the subject of menstruation, is it true that period mood swings are more of a cultural phenomenon than a physical one? I heard that East Asian women act normal during their periods because the mind virus of "period=bad mood" never took hold over there. Perhaps women in the west just use it as an excuse to act unreasonably.

>>68674
Chinks have weak periods because they have feeble children. Western women have heavy periods to reflect stronger birthing stock.

>>68674

It's definitely made up. There's nothing inherently making a woman unstable when she's menstruating, just the fact she's likely to be in a shit mood because of the cramps and such. It's basically just an excuse to take it out on the people around them.

Western women enjoy lots of excuses to act like cunts, when you think about it. Pretty whale poacheric of us to keep on indulging it. Nobody gives me a free pass to be a knobhead if I have a headache.