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>The funny thing is, from a certain age, it really is likely that you have seen most things.
>your parents only want what's best for you
That doesn't mean that they've learned much, or are in any position to give good advice. A lot of people have the false impression that they've got the world sussed, simply because they've become narrow-minded and set in their ways. Unless you're talking to someone who really has their life sorted out, you're probably getting some mixture of good advice, self-protective rationalisations and inherited prejudices.
If you've been stuck in a loveless marriage for 20 years, it's easier to believe that all marriages are secretly loveless than to get a divorce and have a shot at something better. If you're stuck in a job that you hate because you've got bills to pay, it's easier to believe that all jobs are awful than to confront the fact that you should have made better decisions in your youth. A lot of older people imagine themselves to be sage and worldly-wise, when really they're just bitter and cynical. They think they've seen everything, but their horizons have narrowed without them having noticed.
To give a somewhat extreme example of how we inherit beliefs about the world, consider how domestic violence perpetuates through the generations. The overwhelming majority of victims and perpetrators of domestic violence grew up in violent households. The hardest part of rehabilitation is getting the victim or the perpetrator to genuinely acknowledge that domestic violence isn't normal. Once they've made that realisation, the rest is relatively straightforward. Victims stay with a violent partner or (just as commonly) go through a succession of violent partners, because they think that's what love is. Serial perpetrators come to believe that they're the victim of an elaborate conspiracy by the police and social services, because they honestly don't see what's so bad about the odd slap, or punch, or mugful of boiling water. Their idea of normality is based on a completely abnormal environment, but they haven't had the opportunity to learn a different way of living.
On a more mundane level, every family has some kind of artificially narrow idea of what kind of lives are possible or worthwhile. Maybe your parents think that university is only for posh kids, not the likes of us. Maybe they think that if you don't go to Oxbridge, you're a total failure. Maybe your parents believe in the one and think that you can only find happiness through true love. Maybe they think that love is a fallacy and you should marry whoever your uncle Abdul chooses for you. Without meaning to, every parent raises their child in an invisible cage, even the laissez-faire parents, especially the laissez-faire parents.
Your parents do probably want what's best for you, but they probably don't know what's best for you and wouldn't know how to help you get it. They're only human. They've only lived one life. They can't know how things might have turned out for them if they'd done things differently. There are all kinds of possibilities that they've subconsciously discounted to assuage their own fears and regrets, all sorts of beliefs that they've inherited from their parents without ever questioning them. Like all of us, they don't know what they don't know. Think very carefully about who you take advice from and what their biases might be.