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So, my relationship with my partner is pretty solid. We're going on a few years together now, and have supported each other through sticky shit like job loss and things. For the most part our relationship is very loving, and we have a lot of mutual friends who are great people who I also enjoy hanging out with - even the 'girlfriends' whose main interests seems to be awful pop music and talking too much tend to be alright at the end of the day. However, I maintain that we should maintain SOME friends who are separate and don't know both of us massively well, specifically in the situation that IF we ever break up, we'll both need friendship circles there to support us who don't know the other party. That and it's just healthy to have people who know you outside of your relationship, imo. Makes you more interesting to be around and lessens the likelihood of you becoming one of those sad sacks with a shared FB account. I don't intend on breaking up with her, but I've been open with my reasons for not wanting to hang out with ALL of her fucking friends. Essentially, I think I love her too much to leave her without any support if a meteor does ever hit one of us or something, and having been through the loss of friendship circles due to a long-term relationship breaking down before I know how awkward it can get.
How can I best phrase this so that she doesn't pout at me when I encourage her to hang out with her mates but decline the invite for me to come too?