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I've not used .gs for years now, but I really wanted to vent and get some thoughts on a problem that's been keeping me up at night lately.
I met my current girlfriend on Tinder probably about this time last year, and we've been going out since last September. At this point, we more or less live together, and are very much in love. I'm a postdoc at a university, meaning a fixed-term contract after which I move on somewhere else in the world, and we are already anticipating our lives together in some new, exotic location (her career is completely translatable so moving internationally isn't an issue for her).
However, some quick Facebooking reveals that a friend of hers from her graduate programme is somebody that I had a few Tinder hook-ups with shortly after I moved here, a year or so before she and I met. The two of them aren't especially close friends, but her name has come up in conversation a couple of times, and they have mutual friends with whom they are both quite close.
I don't have a clue what to do. In my head, I'm rehearsing the talk that I have with her beginning with — as I did here — my discovering this information by happenstance through social media, and even that is difficult as there's a non-zero chance that this could be a dealbreaker for her.
Have any of you guys had any experience with being a bit of a flooze catching up with you later in life when you're genuinely in love?
Cheers in advance.