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Let it go. Let it go. Whatever the next line of that song is.
Two and a half years isn't a lot in the grand scheme of things. I know a lad who's been single for eight. He's a bit of a loser maybe but fortune simply hasn't smiled on him. Relationships come and go, sometimes quickly, sometimes not. The important thing is to just let things happen naturally. I met my current partner less than a month after my ex, a fact I was almost embarrassed about at first, and worried it would just be a rebound, but she's brilliant and I'm glad the wheels of fate put us in that position.
With all the things you've been through it's understandable that you might not want to commit to anything. If anything I'd say it's not been long enough, because clearly you still harbour some bitterness and resentment. You shouldn't feel like you are too sensitive or whatever, some people just take knocks harder than others, and clearly you open yourself to a partner. That makes you vulnerable when they do something like they did, but it also makes you a much more compassionate and caring lover when you find the right one.
You just have to keep in mind that not everyone is a bastard. A lot of them are, but I think wwhen you've been through a couple of relationships with cheating, emotionally abusive slags, you can see it all the more clearly when someone is genuine. You know what signs to look out for and when you realise you've found somebody without any of them, it's a feeling of sheer bliss. It might be hard to stop paranoid, suspicious thoughts creeping in when you've had trauma inflicted before, but you have to keep in mind what trust actually is. Trust is blind faith and that's all it can be.
That's the hardest part about any relationship I suppose, but like I keep saying. When you find the right one, you know it. You start to recognise all the incompatibilities you knew about, deep down, in your past relationships and you'll know when it's right.