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>> No. 28283 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 10:47 am
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At work most of my colleagues are at least double my age. Often at less busy times they engage me in conversation to pass the time. However, they regale me with boring stories that don't go anywhere or physical complaints e.g. moaning about their knees or neck pain. I tend to zone out during these conversations with the occasional nod or "yes" as I can't be bothered to listen to these pointless tales.

Unfortunately, sometimes they can go on for 15-20 minutes. And I can only get them to leave if I stop responding and stare at the floor. I am conscious about addressing the issue as these are my superiors and I don't want to be rude to them. What's a nice or polite way of not having to sit through their conversations?
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>> No. 28284 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 10:51 am
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Change job.
>> No. 28285 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 10:55 am
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I dunno', but the phrase "oh, I see" is a really great one for convincing people you're listening.
>> No. 28287 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 12:04 pm
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Steer the conversation into your own boring shit. Talking about your girlfriend is a classic example but I'm sure you could bring up flossing or whatever young people do these days to pass the time.

>However, they regale me with boring stories that don't go anywhere or physical complaints e.g. moaning about their knees or neck pain.

I feel attacked. You'll become a boring old man one day too.
>> No. 28289 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 1:07 pm
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I feel like there must be some sort of lateral thinking solution to this. Like 'souring the milk'

if they engage you in conversation like this drop at the end of it 'Oh by the way could you help me with this boring task', that might put them off engaging you.

Or you need to set yourself up as someone who they don't want to engage in that way because they don't see you as the sort of person who there is value in doing that with. Maybe start talking to them enthusiastically at cross purpose like you don't understand, or are caught in your own narrative or misunderstanding the emotional tone of their story. If telling these stories to you becomes hard work for them they will stop without you having to confront.

The other more virtuous option I have for you is to try steer the conversation into other topics and see if they connect with you over those. They might fill the space in future with talking about shared interests rather than boring stories. Try randomly bringing up your hobbies ideas or interest to them you might strike gold.
>> No. 28292 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 7:59 pm
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That seconds option actually sounds quite entertaining.
>> No. 28293 Anonymous
31st March 2019
Sunday 8:00 pm
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I used to be really bad at talking to people older than me too, but at some stage (probably getting older myself) I realised that they are people too, and as old and boring as they seem now they too were young and exciting once. You just have to find out a bit more about who they really are, under the boring old fart exterior.

Some people really are just boring old facts, of course. There's one bloke at work I couldn't hold a conversation with if you paid me that wasn't just about the weather. But I think it's worthwhile developing small talk skills just to make your day less awkward in that regard. You just have to reply with questions- Don't just say yeah, oh, cool, yeah. Keep them talking for a bit, and then they feel like they've been listened to and tend to go away of natural causes.
>> No. 28306 Anonymous
2nd April 2019
Tuesday 1:40 pm
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Thanks for the well thought out responses. Unfortunately I can't be bothered with it all and as per >>28284 I've handed my notice in. The whole work environment, this notwithstanding, has become toxic in general.
>> No. 28307 Anonymous
2nd April 2019
Tuesday 2:36 pm
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I like it when they start telling the names of all the different roads they took to get to a place, that's my favourite.

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