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My wanking habits are somewhat similar. I don't tend to enjoy a quick one, it just feels like a perfunctory release of jizz after which I feel just sort of tired and disappointed. There's none of the satisfied relief that comes after a good fuck.
Where I differ from you is that I don't tend to watch porn. I've always felt like porn is sort of bad for you, in a "too much of a good thing" kind of way. Instead my poison is talking dirty to strangers (mostly lassies, occasionally laddies) on dating sites and hook up apps and what have you. I'm not sure that it's entirely better than porn but it doesn't come with the same sense of being spoiled for choice. When I do go for actual porn it's only the most ridiculously depraved hentai or furry porn.l, so it doesn't contend with my expectations of actual sex. I think the key is simply knowing when there's a time and a place. I do sometimes feel like I'm wasting time having an all night wank marathon, but then again, I don't see how that's inherently worse than simply watching telly and scrolling through social media like your average person.
I think a big part of this is the inherent shame you're supposed to feel over masturbation. And a lot of that is a huge gender double standard. If you think about it, there's nothing wrong with a lass "being in touch with her sexuality", even if she's spending hours gaping herself with Bad Dragon toys every night. But when it's a lad doing it he's a pathetic semen encrusted saddo. You have to see past that and realise there's nothing to be ashamed of in it.
Think about it the way you would with alcohol. As long as you're not spending time wanking when you should instead be socialising with friends, or doing responsible adult things like cooking and cleaning, or just anything you'd consider to be neglecting other needs in order to wank, Ai don't think you necessarily need to change. If you do, think of it the same way- When you try to cut down drinking, you take yourself away from the things that cause temptation. Put parental controls on your Web browser to create some semblance of an obstacle to just opening the porn tabs right away. Keep off the computer in general, in the same way you'd avoid the offie you normally buy four cans from after work.
Apologies for rambling a bit but I hope some perspective helps.