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>> No. 28619 Anonymous
13th June 2019
Thursday 7:02 pm
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I've been at university as an undergrad for way too long. During that time I've changed course, and repeated various years multiple times. Uni have been very supportive, offering me multiple chances to try again and again, but my mental health has been rapidly deteriorating over this period. I'm on my final chance at taking this year, and I have so much outstanding work they're unlikely to let me do the work over summer. My mental illness is pretty crippling, rendering me unable to do anything, let alone academic work. So in a week's time, I'm likely to be told my time is up.

How do people come to terms with failing uni? Going in there was so much pressure put on me, I was the first of my family to go to uni, I was going to get a good degree and have a £50k salary. But it looks like I'm not going to live up to my family's expectations. I'm in the process of applying for jobs and benefits, the Jobcentre have been surprisingly helpful. I feel I'm maybe not cut out for uni, at least while I battle my demons, but it's hard to come to terms with the fact that I'll forever be known to my loved ones as the child that failed uni. The only thing I was good at growing up was academia, but I don't even have that anymore. I feel like I've completely lost my identity.
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>> No. 28620 Anonymous
13th June 2019
Thursday 8:21 pm
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Not every decent job requires a degree.

Failing doesn't make you a hopeless case, you just have to think outside the box a bit. I never bothered with uni, and while I've had a lot of shite jobs, I eventually found my feet in healthcare science, where in-work learning is valued as much as academic. I'm not exactly loaded but I'm no pauper either, I'm doing alright.

I have a jumbled mess of overlapping NVQs and BTECs I've done over the years, and I have the opportunity to try and attain funding for a degree, but frankly I can't be arsed. I'm nearly 30 and know I don't have the willpower to do one any more. Money isn't everything, so really, I don't consider it worth the hassle.

Sure, maybe sometimes I wish I'd have just stuck with school when I was younger. But I had crippling anxiety as a lad, and barely had the discipline to get through college. I simply wouldn't have managed it at all. Some things are just not meant to be, no sense in being bitter over it. I'd probably be an insufferable prick if I was more successful in life anyway, the humility life has taught me is probably one of my few redeeming qualities.

You'll be reyt, mate.
>> No. 28621 Anonymous
13th June 2019
Thursday 8:54 pm
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It was tough, since I was pressured so badly to go to uni. I am the first in my family too. I went through a very bad mental breakdown, dropped out, acted like I was going uni while I slept in the library, and convinced everyone that I graduated. I even faked chest pains and other shit on graduation day, and had the ambulance take me to A&E.

That was 4 years ago, although it is a massive lie, I think it worked out in the end. I am now a civil servant, earning shitty wages doing "business support."
>> No. 28622 Anonymous
13th June 2019
Thursday 9:18 pm
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Have a look at apprenticeships. Some of these are degree level:

>> No. 28623 Anonymous
13th June 2019
Thursday 11:21 pm
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>How do people come to terms with failing uni?

I failed my Masters and had a similar experience of losing my identity as an academic. Don't worry, soon as you get a career you will have that label to live within and nobody will give a shit about school.

Obviously remember that leaving uni won't magic away your problems though. One of my uni mates dropped out of his undergraduate degree, fell into a decent job in banking but that slipped through his fingers because he still had the same issues.

>I am now a civil servant, earning shitty wages

There's no need to repeat yourself.
>> No. 28624 Anonymous
13th June 2019
Thursday 11:41 pm
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>There's no need to repeat yourself.
I thought that too until I met cunts who don't know how to use a computer and are senior, earn ridiculous amounts with a very fat pensions and redundancy packages...
>> No. 28651 Anonymous
15th June 2019
Saturday 5:20 pm
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I'm in my mid 30s. The only one of my mates making reliably over £30k dropped out of uni and has plodded his way up the ladder as an accountant.

Failing uni feels huge when you're in the midst of it, but it's nothing like as big a deal to anyone else as it is to you.
>> No. 28656 Anonymous
15th June 2019
Saturday 6:54 pm
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>There's no need to repeat yourself.

My mate's a civil servant and he's on 80k a year.
>> No. 28667 Anonymous
16th June 2019
Sunday 11:55 am
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>The only one of my mates making reliably over £30k dropped out of uni and has plodded his way up the ladder as an accountant.

I'm 30 and I'm the only one of my mates from school/college earning over £30k, possibly even £25k. I do have a degree but I ended up taking an entry level admin job on £12k and working my way up, doing industry qualifications (which are far more valuable than my degree) as I went.

I guess it's all relative. My parents never earned much more than £20k (I think my Dad peaked somewhere around £22k, my Mum a bit less) and we were better off than most of my friends so, when I was growing up, I saw earning more than £20k as 'making it' whereas some people would have gone to university with six-figure starting salaries in mind.

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