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>> No. 28777 Anonymous
27th July 2019
Saturday 1:17 am
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I think I may be becoming a workaholic. In fact, I would say it has been obvious to everyone but myself with my superiors and my partner telling me to stop working off the clock.

It's hard to really put into words but I'd say I take a good part of my identity from my work. It just feels good and right to be in the middle of some chaotic problem where I don't have time to think about anything else besides keeping moving. Now I'm coming to terms with it because the passed few Friday and Saturday nights I've felt stressed and restless with my own time. I'm finally taking some holiday time next week but I kept catching myself today thinking "oh, I should make sure everyone has my number and know they can always ask me things". The strange thing is that I still procrastinate on the boring things so my work-life is a chaotic mess of projects that take my fancy or things I do just because I'm bored.

At any rate, do any of you lads have useful wisdom on this. Should I just get a hobby so I can pretend it's work and do that all the time?
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>> No. 28780 Anonymous
29th July 2019
Monday 2:07 pm
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Imagine you've just inherited a shitload of money never to have to work for bread anymore.
Then you got sacked from your current job.
What would happen?

Sage because I can't say anything useful besides 'bugger to that kind of working regime, it sucks'.
>> No. 28781 Anonymous
29th July 2019
Monday 3:05 pm
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Fuck off to the countryside for the afternoon on Sat/Sun, no phone.
>> No. 28783 Anonymous
29th July 2019
Monday 5:42 pm
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I think feeling useful and skilled is one of the most important aspects of self esteem and general happiness. In the male psyche specifically, I think that's more likely to manifest through work; women can always use being a mother and home-maker to fulfil it.

I think that's why you tend to notice people in low-wage, dead end jobs, are the sort of people with active hobbies like being in a band on the side or aspiring to be a programmer or some such. But if you take a great pride in your actual day to day wage slavery, and it fulfils your need to feel useful and skilled, it can be hard to find ways to get away from it. You pour yourself into it because you come to see it as your purpose in life, and become addicted to the dopamine hit you get from fulfilling it.

Different people have a different capacity for work/leisure balancing. Some people are all about work and no leisure, some people are the polar opposite. Both could stand to learn a thing or two from the other, if you ask me. You're no better off working yourself to death and never stopping to enjoy life, than you are sitting on your arse the whole time and achieving nothing.

So yes. Get a hobby. Use it to wean yourself off work, and start to enjoy time spent doing things for your own sake. Make it something that feels "productive" like building model aeroplanes or whatever, something with a tangible reward for the time spent on it rather than just a time waster; like a nicotine chewing gum helps get a smoker off the fags.

Try to organise your work projects a bit too so that you don't have loose ends to worry about when you're not there.

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