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I think feeling useful and skilled is one of the most important aspects of self esteem and general happiness. In the male psyche specifically, I think that's more likely to manifest through work; women can always use being a mother and home-maker to fulfil it.
I think that's why you tend to notice people in low-wage, dead end jobs, are the sort of people with active hobbies like being in a band on the side or aspiring to be a programmer or some such. But if you take a great pride in your actual day to day wage slavery, and it fulfils your need to feel useful and skilled, it can be hard to find ways to get away from it. You pour yourself into it because you come to see it as your purpose in life, and become addicted to the dopamine hit you get from fulfilling it.
Different people have a different capacity for work/leisure balancing. Some people are all about work and no leisure, some people are the polar opposite. Both could stand to learn a thing or two from the other, if you ask me. You're no better off working yourself to death and never stopping to enjoy life, than you are sitting on your arse the whole time and achieving nothing.
So yes. Get a hobby. Use it to wean yourself off work, and start to enjoy time spent doing things for your own sake. Make it something that feels "productive" like building model aeroplanes or whatever, something with a tangible reward for the time spent on it rather than just a time waster; like a nicotine chewing gum helps get a smoker off the fags.
Try to organise your work projects a bit too so that you don't have loose ends to worry about when you're not there.