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>> No. 28840 Anonymous
23rd August 2019
Friday 11:11 pm
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Oh fuck. I am 27 yo male virgin. Never touched a girl. I am fucking tired od this shit. I am not shy. Every friday and so today i go out into the streets looking for something to do but i return home done nothing. How do I change it whete do I start? I dont have any friends
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>> No. 28844 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 12:32 am
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Well I guess part of the question is what has gone wrong up to this point. Have you tried engaging with people you like in the past, what happened there?

And how have you ended up with zero friends?
>> No. 28845 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 6:06 am
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>Every friday and so today i go out into the streets looking for something to do but i return home done nothing.

Plan what you're going to do before you set off rather than aimlessly prowling the streets.
>> No. 28852 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 11:16 am
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If you're not shy then why haven't you tried picking up drunken bints on your Friday jaunts?

I would probably start working on the "no friends" bit first. Ideally you could find some sort of club where you can bond with people over shared interests, but if not, amateur team sports would be a good bet. I read somewhere that exercise enhances social bonds on a hormonal level, and the effect is even more potent when backed up by the camaraderie of team sports.
>> No. 28857 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 1:41 pm
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Well, if something isn't working then you need to try a different strategy. If you have a stable job and don't live at home then there's always speed-dating where women are forced to interact with you. I don't know what you're expecting to achieve by wandering the streets the nights or going to bars on your own.

>Every friday and so today i go out into the streets looking for something to do but i return home done nothing.

Is this a lyric from somewhere?
>> No. 28858 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 1:58 pm
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Billy Joel?
>> No. 28862 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 4:23 pm
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This might be anecdotal, but for what it's worth, my sexual relationships basically come down to meeting people through the following channels:

a) mutual friends
b) work colleagues
c) themed get-togethers intended for people to mingle (i.e. meetups, clubs)
d) online apps (I've had the most success with Bumble, where girls confirm their interest first)

So those are some more concrete suggestions. But as other lads have pointed out, it sounds like your problems may run a bit deeper. You can gradually overcome social isolation with a few positive changes here and there. For example, finding a new (or any) job automatically puts you into contact with people, moving to a new area will give you new neighbours and a reason to attend local meetups.

I think you should try focusing on the problems you can control and generally leading a good fulfilling life, meeting people will come naturally from that. Don't let it knock your confidence that you haven't had sex -- I'm sure you have your legitimate reasons and struggles.

Many people end up with absolutely dysfunctional sex lives despite early "success". Think about the people who have sexless relationships or marriages, those who are cheating, developing risky/dangerous sex behaviours, or hide their true sexual orientations. Not having sex until a late age is certainly not the worst thing that can happen in someone's sexual development
>> No. 28883 Anonymous
28th August 2019
Wednesday 12:08 pm
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I have been told that Hinge is Tinder for hideous and desperate people. Try that, if you're still around as I don't think you've replied once.

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