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>> No. 28958 Anonymous
20th September 2019
Friday 6:04 pm
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Why is it always me calling my friends for a chat or to come and visit them? Why do they never contact me first? Fell like the relationship is quite one-sided and they don't value it.
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>> No. 28961 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 12:58 pm
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>>28958
Fuckin' same I get checked on enough to make sure I'm still alive is basically what it seems like.
>> No. 28962 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 7:15 pm
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Perhaps you're the leader - friends await your call.
Perhaps your friends have got better things to do.

Honestly, the reasons i neglect contact with my 'friends' are;
1. I have nothing interesting to say or share. I do literally nothing but eat, sleep and bum around.
2. Even if i have something interesting to share, they might not be so enthusiastic. Who really cares to hear how many foxes i chased around the beach last night.
3. It's possible i don't actually like them.
4. It's possible they don't actually like me.

The only times i think to contact the people i know are when i need support, feel lonely or need a skill they've developed. I purposefully don't contact them during these times because i'd rather be 'the guy who doesn't call' than 'the guy who only calls when he needs something'.

/apathy
>> No. 28963 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 8:08 pm
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>>28962

>Perhaps your friends have got better things to do.

In my experience that's about it.

I've had a similar experience and now decided that I should stop making the effort, since then things have really died down. Turns out I just thought that my friendships were closer than they are. I'm a sociable and friendly guy anyway, so I think most people just assume they don't need to reciprocate.

I'm, rather weirdly, on the look out for people to hang around with (see: an actual social life) at the ripe age of 30. Importantly, I need to ensure I don't set a precedent for this to happen again— that's done by me being less laidback and not keeping one-sided friendships going, as I have before.
>> No. 28964 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 8:18 pm
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>>28963

Someone always says this, but get a sociable hobby. I think that blokes are just a bit crap at being friends, so we inevitably start to drift apart with age. That's massively magnified if you're not a big drinker, because it's just a bit odd for a few blokes in their thirties to meet up for coffee or go shopping or whatever it is that women do of a weekend. We need a reason to actually arse ourselves to go out and see people, whether that's a five-a-side team or a heavy metal band or a model railway club.
>> No. 28965 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 8:43 pm
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>>28964

Truth.

I used to be in a couple of bands, and I only really realised once they both packed in that it was really the only social life I had. I tried to get them out for drinks or whatever a few times afterwards and they usually can't even be arsed to make that effort. I go for the occasional pint with my work colleagues now and that's pretty much it; they're a good set of folks so it could be worse, but I think this is a pretty inevitable part of aging for blokes.

I had to drop one mate pretty much entirely because he'd always flake out and cancel, he tried getting me on a few online games but I wasn't really interested spending my time on his terms if he can't be arsed returning the favour. Doesn't feel good to do though.

I just do things with my other half instead. It's easier and as a bonus I get to fuck her afterwards as well. Hos before bros.
>> No. 28966 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 9:21 pm
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I stopped talking to my mates because I was too ashamed of what a loser I was/am.
>> No. 28967 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 9:38 pm
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As >>28962 says
I have nothing new to tell them or want to share with them.
>> No. 28968 Anonymous
21st September 2019
Saturday 10:08 pm
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>>28967
Well same here, I don't even like talking about myself, but I still message them to see how they're doing because I genuinely care about them.

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