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>> No. 28986 Anonymous
30th September 2019
Monday 2:42 pm
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I'm gonna be 40 next year and I'm shitting it. I haven't done anything in life and I'm still living with my parents due to disabilities.

How to cope with mid-life crisis?
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>> No. 28987 Anonymous
30th September 2019
Monday 3:00 pm
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>>28986
What exactly is it that you haven't done?
>> No. 28988 Anonymous
30th September 2019
Monday 4:24 pm
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>>28987

job
sex
money
social life
travel
got own place
etc

I've just spent my youth shut away in my bedroom masturbating
>> No. 28989 Anonymous
30th September 2019
Monday 5:22 pm
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>>28988
In what way does your disability hinder you? Not too specific, just so people have a better idea. Do your legs not work or do you constantly have the runs or are you a bit mental, what's the deal?
>> No. 28990 Anonymous
30th September 2019
Monday 7:32 pm
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I once read somewhere that one of the facets of being "enlightened" is to be free of that pesky ol' internal dialogue that can cause people so many problems and to live "at one with everything in the eternal present" or summat. Maybe you could look into meditation.
>> No. 28991 Anonymous
1st October 2019
Tuesday 4:06 am
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>>28990

Arguably the most important concept in Buddhism is "dukkha". The word is impossible to precisely translate into English, but the closest word is probably "dissatisfaction". Pain is dukkha, sickness is dukkha, wanting something we can't have is dukkha, having something and losing it is dukkha, wanting things to change is dukkha, wanting things to stay the same is dukkha.

The goal of Buddhist practice is the cessation of dukkha, which is achieved by following the Noble Eightfold Path. By living a morally virtuous life, gaining insight into the nature of reality and learning to focus the mind through meditation, we can achieve a state of liberation (nirvana).

Traditional Buddhists believe that nirvana allows us to escape the cycle of death and rebirth, while secular Buddhists simply believe that it allows us to achieve true inner peace - no fear, no yearning, no anger, no greed, no pleasure, no pain, just a complete acceptance of reality as it is, not how we would like it to be.

That state of being might seem like it would be terribly flat and meaningless, but really it's the opposite. Think about what it means to completely and unconditionally accept another person. I can't say whether I've ever met an enlightened being, but I have met a few monks who treated me with absolute acceptance; these were undoubtedly the most profound experiences of my life.

This channel is an excellent guide to Buddhist thought, without any waffle or nonsense:



From a religious Buddhist perspective, I can recommend the teachings of Ajahn Brahm and Ajahn Amaro. They're both British blokes who were ordained in the Thai forest tradition, which is a no-nonsense working-class school of Buddhism. They've got loads of talks and guided meditations on YouTube. The robes and chanting are a bit weirdy-beardy, but if you can look past that, there's loads of really useful stuff to learn.



Sage for being a hippie.
>> No. 28992 Anonymous
1st October 2019
Tuesday 12:06 pm
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>>28990
I'd written about this in one of the mid-week/week-end threads. Drank a bit too much one day, woke up on the next one with perfect silence in my head.
Whilst I can't say anything about enlightenment I can vouch that it's pleasant in its own way. I woudn't be remembering that morning so fondly otherwise.

Sage for excessive spirituality, if you catch my drift.
>> No. 28996 Anonymous
1st October 2019
Tuesday 2:19 pm
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>>28988
>got own place
It might be easier than you think to find an affordable bedsit or small flat that can accomodate disability.
>travel
Travel will start with a visit to your Mum every week, from there you can step out into town and further a field.
>social life
Perhaps find a church or charity coffee shop. After a while you'll get to recognise some regulars. Just sitting around people can be enough society at times.
>money
Being disabled would mean you're elegible for PIP, right, and housing benefit?
>sex
All this time about town will definitely cut into your masturbation habit. You'll start to notice more women, and they'll start to notice you.
>job
Who knows where a voluntry possition at that coffee shop might lead? Perhaps you'll be the best damn sweeper they've seen and be reccomended for a job in Dominoes.

I'm learning not to head-first into things, but dip toe and gently wade into comfortable waters. Sometimes i slip or fall, but footing can be found without panic. A step starts with a single journey, and all that.

>>28991
>The goal of Buddhist practice is the cessation of dukkha, which is achieved by following the Noble Eightfold Path.
Is it?
>Traditional Buddhists believe that nirvana allows us to escape the cycle of death and rebirth.
Do yeh fear death?
>> No. 28997 Anonymous
1st October 2019
Tuesday 2:52 pm
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>>28996
Not OP, but this is good advice. If you put yourself into these kinds of situations you'll be suprised how events can precipitate onwards into new experiences. It's not always easy to follow through with it all, but it is certainly worth it when you do. The phrase "the world's your oyster" is more astute than it gets credit for. Be like General Patton's Third US Army: just keep barrelling onwards until you run out of fuel or hit a fortification full of Jerries, then carry on some more.

About time I followed my own damn advice.
>> No. 28998 Anonymous
1st October 2019
Tuesday 3:53 pm
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>>28991
According to this Vinay Gupta guy, Hinduism sees enlightenment as a fringe activity that isn't for everyone.

http://vinay.howtolivewiki.com/blog/other/my-thoughtmenu-on-enlightenment-3644

He also did some talks on meditation where he mentioned some potential pitfalls to meditating if you have pre-existing mental issues. I found it pretty interesting considering how everyone these days is talking up the benefits of meditation.

http://files.howtolivewiki.com/.meditation_2015/transcripts/Vinay%20Gupta%20on%20Meditation.pdf

> One of the things that will tend to come up in this state of profound nothing-to-be-doneness, this kind of regal indolence, is irritations at an emotional level. Because our lives are filled with incomplete emotional transactions, trauma, or if you’re unlucky, post traumatic stress disorder. There can be an ocean of incomplete emotional stuff. The stuff which can simply be put down are the petty emotions like the murderous desire to have revenge upon the person who has finally succeeded in scuffing your new white shoes. Eventually this will just go away. The hard stuff is the deep emotional trauma. The places where our parents betrayed us. The places when death came into our lives when we were far too young to deal with it. People that we might have accidentally got killed in a car accident if we were profoundly unlucky. All kinds of really bad real-world stuff that leaves us scarred and broken.

> These kind of issues have two levels. There is the primary trauma level where there is still the open wound of the thing that happened, and the secondary trauma level, where our world model gets broken by the fact that this has happened. The primary emotional trauma, meditation is not a great way of dealing with. The primary emotional trauma is best dealt with by therapy and getting a hug or potentially things like MDMA for PTSD. All of those emotional trauma-related workloads have to be worked out somewhere if you’re going to be doing a lot of meditation, because meditation will tend to stimulate them. But meditation is a not a great way of resolving them, because if the emotional injury causes you to feel isolated and alone the best place to work that out is not when you are isolated and alone because you’re meditating. You need secondary and tertiary mechanisms for processing the emotional stuff that will come up. Meditation alone is not enough. It will cause re-traumatisation for things which are isolation-based problems. However, in terms of coming to peace with emotions which you should have felt and choose not to, things you distracted yourself from because you stayed busy, things that you just always blocked out from thinking about, the places where you have to feel things that you already feel and acknowledge the feelings you already have, all of those kind of processes can be done alone on a mat. What can’t be done is the stuff where you’ve become disconnected from humanity because you’re not going to get more connected to humanity on your own. That’s quite important to remember. A lot of people will say that meditation will get everything. I don’t think it will - at least it’s not the short path through everything.

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