Not a lot, really. It's more the other way around if anything, you can guess what kinks somebody might have from their general dress sense, expressed political sentiments and general worldview, etc. But I don't think their sexual predilections have much bearing on who they are as a person.
At least, in general, you are more likely to already know someone well enough to get a sense what they are really like already, before you will be in a position to know what their true deepest darkest fetishes are. You might sleep with someone on the first date, but it's rare they will open up about their CNC role reversal furry pre/prey abduction roleplay piss fetish until at least the third or fourth.
I noticed maybe a year ago that I feel really strongly about my fetish. I am into one thing, one thing above all others, and I wank to it probably over 99% of the time. And it's not necessarily always a nice thing; you sometimes see videos where it's happening for real and the person in the video is really having a terrible time. Anyway, I think it is absolutely fascinating that those videos are simultaneously the hottest shit ever, and also the most vile and evil atrocity I can imagine. Nothing boils my blood quite like a genuine, nonconsensual example of the thing I'm into. It makes me so angry that I would happily endorse the death penalty for anyone who does it. I would hang them myself, and then I would go home and have a wank over the thing they did.
When you consider all the Americans on the religious right who support gay conversion therapy and turn out to be gay themselves, and the outspoken fisherpersons who fantasise about being raped, I do wonder if it's not just me, and lots of people get turned on by the thing they consider to be despicably evil.
I don't know if I'm a particularly unusual exception or what but none of the above applies to me so I'm inclined to disagree with these generalisations. It seems entirely likely to me that people with strongly hypocritical kinks seem more prevalent than they are simply because of how egregious the contrast is.
I've been around and what I've seen in others tends to evidence more for the theory that what turns people on is what they associate with their first sexual awakenings, and not this theory that it's just a perverse inversion of their broader personality. Not everyone, but probably the majority. Studies on the sexual imprinting of rats also supports this view. You can't identify a foot fetishist from their politics, but you can identify someone who had an unusual encounter with women's shoes as an early adolescent.
>>467029 People who find themselves sexually imprinted on acts they're taught are deeply shameful are probably more likely to be angry about those acts due to their physical responses to them, as well as shouting all the more loudly about how bad those things are. But those will be extremes, the slightly less loud around them aren't necessarily into the same things to a slightly lesser degree. They're probably into something else entirely while sharing the politics for other reasons.
Oh definitely, but that's just kind of the bog standard of how a lot of fetishes work. It's a sort of reverse psychology, agency reclamation, and fear arousal in varying degrees and intensities. I used to have one like that, one which I would have thought very few blokes are into and would be very hesitant to open up to a partner about, but nevertheless I found a surprisingly large amount of people into it in those dark seedy corners of the internet, and have a lot of mucky sexting involving it with a long distance acquaintance at one point.
But eventually I sort of grew out of it, and I did feel quite melancholy about that. I was sort of thankful on one hand, as a sign of my sexuality perhaps balancing out and becoming a bit more normal as I gained more real life sexual experience and spent less time chasing extremely niche fetish porn online, but at the same time I felt like it took a lot of the spice and thrill out of my sexuality. I was on some level ashamed of it, but part of the turn on and part of what I liked about it was undoubtedly rooted in that shame. I can still get off to it nowadays if I go looking, but it never gives me quite the same powerful stonk on that it used to.
I think in general, a lot of people just don't like the implications of that sort of theory, as well evidenced and logical as it might be. You follow the line of thinking and basically most fetishes go from being something spicy and erotic but ultimately safe and harmless, to being kind of horrifying and genuinely disgusting, not just dirty in a fun way. But it sort of goes for everything, we are products of our environment in every sense, as you get older you become more self aware of a lot of the things that influenced parts of your personality, in retrospect. I'd say it's more just a correlation that you had certain experiences and faced certain situations or dynamics, that affected your personality, which in turn makes you predisposed to certain turn-ons, not a direct link between just having a girl bully you in school and later ending up into femdom.
The whole "You only argue against that because you secretly get off on it" seems like the sort of thing people want to believe is true because it lets them discount opinions they disagree with. Obviously it's complicated - for example stress in later life resulting in a desire for a situation where that stress is reversed or obviated entirely (say, a CEO wanting to be dominated or a person who feels weak having a power fantasy) can easily happen without needing an adolescent trigger.
I think I've mentioned here before that I have a preference for East Asian women that becomes a little uncomfortable to think about sometimes on how people might view me. There's cultural baggage attached to this from actual race fetishists and you can see the stereotypical politics that come with it online from far-right extremists who play it as racial domination with stereotypes of Asian women being submissive - and some truly godawful porn that results. I've even had Asian women tell me some real horror stories about guys they've dated turn out to be actual Nazis so it's not all online either.
For the record, it's absolutely the case that I just think they look neat and Miho Hatori's lyrics on 19-2000 probably did it if not the yellow power ranger. It's been the same for my partners too going in the opposite way as far as I'm aware. But the whole thing is so fucking messy at times and I've always been concerned that some picture from a romantic getaway is going to end up on a fetish website one day.
>>467032 >say, a CEO wanting to be dominated or a person who feels weak having a power fantasy
I've always wondered about the universality of this stereotype. What we know of villains of history who actually did have power over people is that you have figures like Beria who were mega-rapists while our regular CEOs seem to almost universally have some childhood trauma that compels them to succeed just to fill some impossible shoes.
Elon Musk seems to have been bullied extremely hard in school and you can see it in how he behaves like a desperate class clown but it seems like he has a fairly standard breeding fetish. I was bullied in school, act like a clown and have a breeding thing too
I tend to pursue larger women. It's probably bad optics being a normalish looking guy with a very fat girlfriend.
I think a lot of people see, I fucking hate this term I learned the other day, mixed-weight couples and think there's some weird dynamic going on. Which might be true in some cases. But people probably think the men are feeders, they're making their partner fat to control them, wanting to make them immobile.
I see in Take A Break-type magazines there's often stories about fat adult models wanting to be 700lbs and immobile so they eat 8000 calories a day in shakes and they're loving it etc. Makes us good faith plus-sized-women-likers look like wrong uns.
I suppose there's the other angle of pathetic men who have given up on life, hen-pecked by a vulgar and demanding fat cunt, the men are probably getting off on being a dogsbody for some gross pig.
>>467034 >I suppose there's the other angle of pathetic men who have given up on life, hen-pecked by a vulgar and demanding fat cunt, the men are probably getting off on being a dogsbody for some gross pig.
That's what I tend to think when I see a skinny lad with a fat woman.
Likewise, most white men I see with Asian women remind me of Napoleon Dynamite. They always have curly pubey hair.
I remember when I was in my teens being really into rule 34 but as I got older I no longer recognised any of the characters and a lot of it is just bad. Especially these days now that everything has a disgusting AI shine to it.
For this I blame watching mostly cartoons when I was younger, I didn't really like anything live action on Nickelodeon or CITV.
>>467035 Reading lots of talk from people who aren't sharing their thing in this thread.
>>467021 I like bitchy women. The type to insult and tease weaker men. Im not into full on femdom but one of my fantasies is a woman tying me to the bedposts and fucking me while calling me ugly, disgusting, unbearable to look at, you get the idea.
For what it's worth I don't think either of those things about skinny blokes with fat birds, I just assume the bird was in better shape when he got with her and has since let herself go. But you could probably just say that comes down to my deep seated maritime issues because I always assume the woman is the lazy selfish partner out of the two.
There may be exceptions. Also, I just thought of a married couple that I am friends with. They've been together 20 years and in that time, the lad has almost doubled in size. He was slim 20 years ago and he isn't outright fat now, but he is what you would probably call bulky. When you've been with somebody that long, it's probably safe to say that what they look like or how their appearance changes over time isn't normally all that important. At least if your relationship is still healthy.
>>467040 I never got the whole idea of being into being dominated or put down by a women, why do you think you're into it? I grew up with bossy older sisters and have studied in places with a fair share of tyrannical, combative girls so I feel as though my entire quota for female oppression has been fulfilled already.
On the other hand I do enjoy making stern and serious women laugh, but the appeal of that is more like a romantic thing than an actual turn-on.
I think more often than not a bloke can just carry a bit more weight before it becomes a detriment to their appearance. I like a curvy girl now and again but it really takes quite a unique and rare kind of girl for it to truly look good on her, ie better than she would look if she was slim. Whereas a man can very often look better if he has a bit of that dad bod/bear look about him, than he would if he was scrawny.
Having been in mixed-race and mixed-weight couples, the latter get far more grief than the former. A lot of people just don't have any shame about staring or making snide comments when they pass a skinny bloke with a fat lass.
>>467052 >why do you think you're into it?
I think it's the fact that the only women (besides my mother) that have ever really shown me any attention negative or otherwise have always been very dominant and often times combative. I got teased a lot by those types of girls when I was in school, which is when I think I developed it. I used to be friends with a lass who would punch me in the bollocks whenever I made her laugh, that was fun.
As someone with a mild femdom kink, I think it is mostly about role reversal and the subversion of expectation. The weak taking control over the strong, the implication on some level that the strong one is allowing it to happen. For a while I was really into gay furry porn where the dude with the bigger dick is the bottom. Same basic underlying principle there. The big dick is typically perceived as the superior so it's hot for them to be in the role of the inferior.
I'm probably a bit of an unorthodox example though. I generally detest humiliation and degradation etc, and that seems to be a pretty big element of it for many blokes. I think that's sort of like, a fundamentally different way of arriving at what might at first seem to be the same fetish, but it's a very clear distinction and I can't get into stuff involving it at all.
>>467059 My previous relationship was both mixed-weight AND mixed-race. My dad was really mean about it and refer to her as Rustie Lee or Tom & Jerry's Mum (not to her face, they never met), as she was black and rotund. My housemates (when I'd only known them for three weeks) all burst out laughing as she walked down the garden path to the house. Maybe the contrast between skinny awkward white lad and ebony SSBBW partner was a joke to them.
>>467065 One of my friends is mixed race and obese. She's with this extremely skinny guy who looks like someone has stretched skin over a skeleton, there's definitely something of the grave about him. They look really odd together, especially as she spent most of the time I've known her saying she was a lesbian.
>>467078 >You're in a thread about fetishes trying to get a rise out of me for talking about fetishes
Well I mean, I don't really get what is analogous between getting turned on by being dominated by women and looking at gay furry porn. But I will stop talking now.
