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>> | No. 467573
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>In a 2021 survey, 15% of men said they had no close friends, which is five times higher than in 1990. |
>> | No. 467574
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I think it’s online-ness that is killing us. I do actually have a close friend; she’s not my girlfriend but I simp over her and she enjoys the attention and it’s a mutually beneficial friendship. She has dozens of other friends who are the same, but I think I am more liked than most of them. And I still very much count myself among the ranks of the lonely. Anyway, the other orbiters and I are mostly decent people, with the exception of some of the elderly alcoholics who really are just pathetic, and there isn’t anyone who doesn’t deserve to be popular in my opinion. But we just don’t meet other people. It’s hard to do. Even my friend complains that she has almost no female friends, just tragic male followers, and she’d love more female friends but most women seemingly just don’t go out now. Everyone is lonely and something has happened to make our lives feel like we’re never going to meet anyone. And in my opinion, the thing that happened was that online dating was invented and social media filled up with thinkpieces warning women that they will be raped if they go out alone. So what woman would ever leave the house now? |
>> | No. 467575
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Young men, especially lonely ones, are a prime target for radicalisation. |
>> | No. 467576
467576
I remember being at university during the late noughties and it wasn't uncommon to see groups of students who'd be sat together but were barely interacting because they were glued to their phones. I've always chalked this up to them being stuck with people on their course waiting for their next lecture, but instead of trying to develop those friendships they were busy messaging other people. It's only gotten worse since then. |
>> | No. 467579
467579
I think there's an awful lot to this and it's definitely true we don't take it seriously enough. Part of that is down to what they call toxic masculinity and what have you, but I think it's also true, much as we (ie the mainstream discourse) don't want to admit it, the /r9k/ lot have a bit of a point. |
>> | No. 467580
467580
>>467579 |
>> | No. 467582
467582
Ironically, I think we tend to view even loneliness through an individual lense, as though it's a completely separate mental health problem for each and every person. The better question to ask is why have we completely dismantled those institutions in which people could socialise? |
>> | No. 467583
467583
>>467580 |
>> | No. 467584
467584
>>467579 |
>> | No. 467585
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>>467583 |
>> | No. 467587
467587
I've already written one of the posts in this thread, but I'm back. I wrote a massively long Facebook post to my real friends (yeah, you heard me) less than a week ago, on the 19th on November, about exactly this. The 19th of November is International Men's Day, you see. And I even tried to do some proper research for it. |
>> | No. 467588
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4b-movement.png ![]() ![]() ![]() >>467587 |
>> | No. 467589
467589
The truth is you can't separate it from women because women are a huge part of the problem. Not women individually or specifically, but the dynamic between men and women. This subject will always circle back around to that, because that's fundamentally at least half of the root cause. You can shut your hands over your ears and go lalalala if you don't want it to be true, but it is. |
>> | No. 467591
467591
>>467589 |
>> | No. 467595
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>>467584 |
>> | No. 467596
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This is why you lads don't have friends. |
>> | No. 467597
467597
>>467595 |
>> | No. 467598
467598
>>467595 |
>> | No. 467599
467599
I think [most of] you all make reasonable points but we're all blinded by what used to be social media bubbles but are now supercharged by algorithms. chronic masturbatorlad, fisherpersonlad and every other variation on these spectra can all accurately describe the world as presented to them but still find themselves unable to agree. We'd need quite extensive, carefully thought out and analysed studies to fully diagnose what's wrong, rather than relying on what we see, hear or feel. |
>> | No. 467600
467600
Most of these posts have bugger all to do with being lonely. They're primarily about being unable to get your end away, which while displaying a high level of comorbidity with loneliness, is not strictly the same thing. >>467582 has some valid points, as does >>467599 , but most of you are missing the point that being lonely isn't the same thing as being a raging nutter who wants to kill women and eat Greek statues. |
>> | No. 467601
467601
>>467597 >>467598 |
>> | No. 467602
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>>467601 |
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>>467601 |
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>>467601 |
>> | No. 467605
467605
Perhaps it’s worth asking: why would a man, with plenty of male friends but no female attention, still be lonely? Why doesn’t anybody, male or female, want to spend time with men? Surely that’s a little bit weird, isn’t it? |
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>>467605 |
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>>467601 |
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>>467609 |
>> | No. 467620
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oh great.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() Maybe we should have a meet up? That'll knock a percent or so off the loneliness stats. |
>> | No. 467621
467621
I was thinking earlier, after witnessing a couple of particularly retarded threads on 4chan and rudgwicksteamshow.co.uk, that both damaged my already low faith in humanity by the sheer confident idiocy and malice on display. |
>> | No. 467622
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>>467620 |
>> | No. 467623
467623
On closer inspection, there is no male loneliness epidemic after all. |
>> | No. 467624
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>>467623 |
>> | No. 467627
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>>467624 |
>> | No. 467628
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>>467627 |
>> | No. 467631
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>>467628 |
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>>467621 |
>> | No. 467669
467669
I reckon most blokes just need a hobby. Maybe a bit more scratch too but I won't hold my breath on that one. We're all getting older now so we know how it works; people around me garden, pick up some animal niche to obsess about, volunteer or do some sort of group exercise. They meet and chat with people with a common goal and get fulfilment from that. Or they have kids. |
>> | No. 467672
467672
Do men need male only spaces? Is it beneficial for men to have social groups and activities in which they can socialise solely with other men? When you see the gamers and the toy soldier hobbyists getting salty that they let women in the secret treehouse club too nowadays, is that just just narrow minded bigotry, or is there underneath that, perhaps, a valid objection that it takes away, or undermines part of the function of a male peer bonding space? |
>> | No. 467673
467673
>>467669 |
>> | No. 467677
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>>467673 |
>> | No. 467678
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>>467588 |
>> | No. 467680
467680
>Do you ever feel like Captain Picard in that episode where he never got stabbed? |
>> | No. 467684
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>>467678 |
>> | No. 467687
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>>467684 |
>> | No. 467692
467692
Blue Picard.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>467684 |
>> | No. 467694
467694
Trying to meet people outside of the internet as a younglad that doesn't live in a massive city is nigh impossible. There's nothing in my town that's geared towards people in the 18-21 range that isn't a nightclub or bar or whatever. Every gathering is either for pensioners or parents of toddlers. I reckon it wouldn't even help even if there were loads of things to do because people my age just don't really talk to people they don't know anyway. |
>> | No. 467698
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>>467694 |
>> | No. 467699
467699
>>467692 |
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>>467687 |
>> | No. 467701
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>>467694 |
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>>467694 |
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>>467694 |
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>>467716 |
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>>467716 |
>> | No. 467735
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>>467717 |
>> | No. 467755
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>>467735 |
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