I've done it now lads. I was stupid enough to express interest in teamwork within an MMO, now i have to plan a fucking campaign to present to my guild mates. I didn't realise talking about it means i have to actually fucking do it. I'm not prepaired for this shit. I've read it's best to deligate tasks in any cooperation but how can i expect these people to take responcibility for something i suggested? All I offered was a dream, an idea on what could be awesome, but what if all i can actually do falls short of that. Is it okay to give out basic gear that's barely up to the tasks at hand? Is it okay to expect other people to provide the fun? I wish i'd never gotten myself into this. I can barely turn my back and hide - i put my name on this, my reputation.
Tell us about the times you took it upon yourself to inspire others in the games you play. Preferably with a positive outcome that might help me push through this mess ive made.
I hope this is a positive growth experience for you OP. That you realise you aren't just an observer in life and what happiness you can make for yourself if you put the work in.
>Tell us about the times you took it upon yourself to inspire others in the games you play
Organisation of loads of things, I run an online blood bowl league which is mostly an excuse to keep in regular contact with friends I might not talk to regularly otherwise on discord. It has really come into its own during corona outbreak as something for people to do, It has become more than just playing the game but a community hub and people who met through it branch off and play other games from that, which is lovely.
>(A good day to you Sir!)
>Use your fucking spellcheck.
Let's see..
Prepared;
delegate;
responsibility.
My appologies for the transgression. I'm still working on that proofreading habit.
I've analysed the chatlogs and i think i've found the major problems in my approach. Most significant is my lack of consideration to play times and how to actually get people together.
I think the 'build it and they will come' mentality will be worth trying, here; so long as i can commit to a time that's reasonable for the others, some people should arrive. If they don't, it's on them. I think the point is to make a date, otherwise whatever's in the air has no place to land. Other than that i could try approaching pre-established groups.
Second most is my inadequate preparation. For the time being i can offer basic equipment to the party but otherwise it's 'bring your own'. I'm still working on an incentive other than 'to have fun' - but the interested parties seemed keen enough as it is. Still, it'd be nice to have a net gain at the end of it.
For the most part the situation is not as dire as i felt earlier. Just gotta sleep on it and not react to that adrenaline dump.
>>23583 Thanks, man. I can still make it work, even if the plan changes a bit. Flexability is surely a good trait to practise.
I used to like the idea of running multiple killsquad games in 4ok then somehow turning all the results into a picture of a bigger conflict.
>It has become more than just playing the game but a community hub and people who met through it branch off and play other games from that, which is lovely.
This is exactly what i want. As it is i'm seeing people coming in and out contact with me. I'd really like to learn how to maintain that.
>Thanks, man. I can still make it work, even if the plan changes a bit. Flexability is surely a good trait to practise.
Exactly these things operate on people’s good will and you can get more out of them if you act as always the positive force without judgement and roll with the punches.
Example I can I give is that in the BB league one of the players without communication just plain stopped turn up for matches with no explanation, plain ignored some people who tried to contact them. There were calls from offended parties to just remove them they were understandably pissed.
Eventually I was able to get through to them, and asked them if they wanted to be in the next season they told me they were depressed and withdrawn and it was for the best if I take them out of the league my response was
"That is a terrible shame. Personally I find these sorts of social things the best treatment for my depression, but I could understand if it becomes a chore for you and you feel socially obligated why it would be draining.
You still have one game left to play this season (vs [a friend they have in real life]) It would be great to see you come out of retirement for one last job!"
From that I was able to get them to play that one game and that was enough for them to sign up for the next season and become a highly involved in the league and the community.
The real problem there was they had built up an oppressive force they didn't want to face, and I could have easily played into that if I had approached the problem differently.
Was I definitely going to get them back? of course not, but the fact I was willing to be open and set my own ego aside I was able to be a force for good for them and get the best outcome for me and the league as a whole.