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>> No. 28694 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 10:26 pm
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My girlfriend is deep in a manic depressive episode and has come to the conclusion that she should end her life in the near future once she has 'a few things in place'. I think mainly financial and childcare type things as she has a child in primary school. There have been ups and downs before but in the past she was adamant that no matter how bad it got she would never consider suicide.

She is still sending me messages but has made it quite clear that we probably shouldn't be together anymore - 'find someone better than me etc.'

She has struggled for a while and is under a crisis team but won't reach out to them and is also refusing to take her meds. I think she has only told me about her intentions so far.

What the fuck am I supposed to do? I've been there and talked her out of dark times before, but this seems pretty final.

I've kept this to myself for the last day or so because we're still communicating and it's something at least. I know the first name of her nurse in the crisis team and also can get in touch with a relative she is close to if need be. I think it would cause a lot of pain to her and her family if they knew.
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>> No. 28696 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 10:29 pm
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>>28694

> I think it would cause a lot of pain to her and her family if they knew.

Apologies for being blunt, but it'll cause exponentially more pain if she kills herself. Get in touch with these people as soon as you can.
>> No. 28697 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 10:39 pm
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>>28696

I know and I'm leaning towards this. I guess I'm just hoping there's a more delicate way forward.
>> No. 28698 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 11:08 pm
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>>28697

It's reasonable to hope there's a more discreet path to take, but ultimately, somebody who is suicidal isn't in their right mind and they are unpredictable. It will cause alarm and she'll be pissed off, especially at you if she knows it was you, but they need to know, someone in this state of mind needs people in physical proximity who can support them and stop them doing anything daft.

I had a mate top himself earlier on this year. He had two kids with an awful bitch of an ex who was half the cause of it; but after all has been said and done it's those kids who will grow up without a dad who will suffer the most. He attempted it a couple of times before he succeeded, and we thought he'd come through the worst of it when it happened. The trouble is you can't take your eye off someone for two minutes in case they decide to string themselves up; never mind when their closest friends live a substantial distance away and couldn't reasonably be there for them if they wanted to.

You might think it would do more harm than good to get her family involved, but if she goes ahead and does it anyway you'll forever regret not doing something.
>> No. 28699 Anonymous
3rd July 2019
Wednesday 11:54 pm
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She has a medical problem and needs treatment. The nature of that medical problem means that she's unlikely to seek treatment of her own volition right now. Making sure she gets treatment is the moral equivalent of giving CPR to someone who has just gone into cardiac arrest - it's not technically consensual, but it could save their life and it's your duty to do so.

Contact the crisis team and let them know that she's off her meds and is actively suicidal. If you get a message that really worries you or the messages stop abruptly, call 999 and ask for an ambulance. She might not thank you for it right now, but doing nothing might play on your conscience for the rest of your life.
>> No. 28700 Anonymous
4th July 2019
Thursday 1:20 pm
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>>28694
Well, I've called up the crisis team. It seems like they'll follow up with her but due to data protection and whatnot I have no further involvement. The lady on the phone was almost nonchalant asking whether it was self-harm or suivide she was threatening and how soon she might do it. Quite surreal, really.

I've also told her cousin and sent a few screenshots of messages. She's fucking fuming at me now.

I'm worried that she will lie and be deceptive when dealing with the people I've told.

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