Alright lads, it's one of my mates' birthdays tomorrow. With it being the height of summer and him being a bit of an attention seeking sperg, it usually means we have a full day of events, mostly involving drinking.
The only problem is this year, he has scheduled (and I really mean that, dozens of messages from him with precise times and places) pretty much the same. And this is what gets me.
I'm in Hull like 50% of .gs, and I know cases here are lower than the UK average, but in some ways "going to a new-to-us slightly rough pub, before going to a slightly rough snooker club that stayed open when it shouldn't have, then probably going to some random rough pub down Holderness Road for the FA Cup Final, then going to a restaurant" just feels like the brainwork of someone who doesn't really care for the current moment.
I don't want to feel like an irresponsible wanker, and I don't want to get Covid. I'm fat myself, I have elderly relatives I'm only a degree of contact from, my coworker I'm in close contact with has elderly parents. It's unlikely but I just wish I wasn't being made to feel like this for the sake of his ego. I'll look a right cunt if I back out now.
>>29883 I would have absolutely no qualms about telling him to fuck off and go on his own. It just seems completely irresponsible to do this right now; you'll doubtless have a great time, given that we haven't been able to do this for ages, but also, you'll become one of those statistics.
You won't look like a right cunt if you back off - the numbers have started to go up, and you don't feel comfortable going, just say that. If he starts (particularly as you say he's an attention seeker), just let him go on his own.
At least you feel bad about letting him down, but if he's a reasonable person he'll understand.
It was my birthday a few weeks ago, and instead of the big night out I had planned I just invited a couple of mates over to my flat. Both of them made extremely tepid excuses and let me down the same day. My "friends" only like me when I'm selling them drugs or otherwise fulfilling the role of event planner, soon as I ask them over for a quiet drink and a chat they can barely disguise their indifference.
Don't put yourself at risk, if he has other mates to show up he won't be too gutted. But if you're going to bail on him, at least let him know early on and be honest about it, don't just make up some shitty half arsed excuse. That's the bit that actually hurts.
