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>> No. 30225 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 1:37 pm
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Girlfriend pregnant. It's what we wanted (I think?), but I'm still terrified. Please pray for me.
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>> No. 30226 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 1:51 pm
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>>30225
If it's what you wanted, then congratulations. It is okay to be terrified of being a parent, particularly at first.

Becoming a Dad is the best thing I ever did. Every day, it gets easier to deal with.
>> No. 30227 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 2:54 pm
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Splendid!
All the best to all concerned, always nice to see a new life. Enjoy the good bits, suck up the bad bits, and no pissing about with phones, right?
>> No. 30228 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 4:07 pm
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Question. I'm not OP, but wondering. Does a woman not asking for marriage not just leave the door open for the guy to walk, when his brain flicks into "this isn't actually what I wanted" mode?
>> No. 30229 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 4:49 pm
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My friend tells me how much they loves their child every time we meet - it's been about 2 years of parenthood. He was visibly terified at the start, too, and has poor relations with the mother.

You'll be fine, man.
>> No. 30230 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 5:04 pm
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>>30225
Congratulations. Of course you're terrified. Don't worry, that's perfectly normal.

About this though:
>It's what we wanted (I think?)

Why do you say that?
>> No. 30232 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 6:33 pm
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Became a (reluctant) father at 25, horrific at first but actually alright in the long run.
>> No. 30233 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 7:03 pm
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Get ready for some of the best sex you'll ever have. Pregnancy hormones can be a wonderful thing, at times.
>> No. 30234 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 10:24 pm
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You lads are great, genuinely.
>> No. 30235 Anonymous
8th December 2020
Tuesday 11:07 pm
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>>30233
This might sound perverted but has anyone else noticed that women become strangely much more attractive when pregnant? A few weeks before they show that is. I suppose a rush or hormones is it work.
>> No. 30241 Anonymous
10th December 2020
Thursday 4:08 pm
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>>30235
I think its perfectly normal tbh. Some women look very attractive indeed when up the duff.
>> No. 30242 Anonymous
10th December 2020
Thursday 4:22 pm
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>>30235
They get a bit of a glow. There's a friend of a friend and her Facebook profile picture is very attractive because she's got a flushed glow to her face. None of the other pictures do anything to me, but that one with the rosy face just gets me.
>> No. 30244 Anonymous
13th December 2020
Sunday 2:16 pm
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Perhaps you lads would have appreciated more detail.

>>30226

This was comforting to read, thanks. Particularly:
>Every day, it gets easier to deal with.

I was totally floored and couldn't really do much on the day she told me, but I've since become more open to this new version of life.

>>30227
>no pissing about with phones, right?

One of the true .gs nuggets of wisdom.

>>30228

Legally speaking? Probably not. Psychologically? I've no idea. I can only speak for myself, it's very important for me to be around as a dad. I can't really see myself leaving unless I got the sense I was really a detriment to their lives.

>>30229

Thanks. Things aren't perfect with my girlfriend, but I do respect and care for her very much, and genuinely believe in her competence as a mother. I'd be far more panicked about the situation if it had been anyone else.

>>30230

To shorten the story as much as possible: the missus is older than me, 36 going on 37, and for various reasons she had doubts about her ability to have kids. I have soundly proven her wrong, but it happened sooner than either of us were expecting. I would have liked more time, but there are much worse circumstances under which this could happen.

>>30232

Thanks mate. Any further tips? Even in getting over that initial reluctance?

I'm graciously sidestepping all replies about bonking pregnant girls, only quietly agreeing it's a lovely upside.
>> No. 30245 Anonymous
13th December 2020
Sunday 2:55 pm
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>>30244
>I'm graciously sidestepping all replies about bonking pregnant girls, only quietly agreeing it's a lovely upside.

Just wait until you're woken up in the middle of the night and told "I really need you to fuck me in the arse right now."
>> No. 30246 Anonymous
13th December 2020
Sunday 3:55 pm
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>>30244

>To shorten the story as much as possible: the missus is older than me, 36 going on 37, and for various reasons she had doubts about her ability to have kids. I have soundly proven her wrong, but it happened sooner than either of us were expecting. I would have liked more time, but there are much worse circumstances under which this could happen.

The way I've always seen it, you either want kids or you don't, full stop, and if you're the former rather than the latter it doesn't make all that much difference when. "The right time" will come round before you know it and you'd only think, "Ah, maybe in another year..." like you would kicking any other can down the road.

Personally I'm never planning on having them, but anytime in my 30s would feel like the right time to start, 40s onwards is leaving it a bit late perhaps. A couple of my mates had kids in their early 20s and it ruined one of their lives, because the mum was a psycho, whereas the other one is the picture of a happy family man now.

So the moral of the story is probably just Consider if you are truly mentally and emotionally capable of supporting a partner with their own mental health issues, and everything will work out okay, as with all else in life.
>> No. 30247 Anonymous
13th December 2020
Sunday 3:59 pm
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>>30246

Ah yes, I forgot about that wordfilter modlads. n1, showed the best piece of advice this board has to offer what hit it.

I naturally meant "refrain from involvement with women of dubious mental stability".
>> No. 30248 Anonymous
13th December 2020
Sunday 5:44 pm
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>>30244
You're welcome. Keep us posted lad, some of us have been through this process before, and it can feel lonely.

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