Splendid!
All the best to all concerned, always nice to see a new life. Enjoy the good bits, suck up the bad bits, and no pissing about with phones, right?
Question. I'm not OP, but wondering. Does a woman not asking for marriage not just leave the door open for the guy to walk, when his brain flicks into "this isn't actually what I wanted" mode?
My friend tells me how much they loves their child every time we meet - it's been about 2 years of parenthood. He was visibly terified at the start, too, and has poor relations with the mother.
>>30233 This might sound perverted but has anyone else noticed that women become strangely much more attractive when pregnant? A few weeks before they show that is. I suppose a rush or hormones is it work.
>>30235 They get a bit of a glow. There's a friend of a friend and her Facebook profile picture is very attractive because she's got a flushed glow to her face. None of the other pictures do anything to me, but that one with the rosy face just gets me.
Legally speaking? Probably not. Psychologically? I've no idea. I can only speak for myself, it's very important for me to be around as a dad. I can't really see myself leaving unless I got the sense I was really a detriment to their lives.
Thanks. Things aren't perfect with my girlfriend, but I do respect and care for her very much, and genuinely believe in her competence as a mother. I'd be far more panicked about the situation if it had been anyone else.
To shorten the story as much as possible: the missus is older than me, 36 going on 37, and for various reasons she had doubts about her ability to have kids. I have soundly proven her wrong, but it happened sooner than either of us were expecting. I would have liked more time, but there are much worse circumstances under which this could happen.
>To shorten the story as much as possible: the missus is older than me, 36 going on 37, and for various reasons she had doubts about her ability to have kids. I have soundly proven her wrong, but it happened sooner than either of us were expecting. I would have liked more time, but there are much worse circumstances under which this could happen.
The way I've always seen it, you either want kids or you don't, full stop, and if you're the former rather than the latter it doesn't make all that much difference when. "The right time" will come round before you know it and you'd only think, "Ah, maybe in another year..." like you would kicking any other can down the road.
Personally I'm never planning on having them, but anytime in my 30s would feel like the right time to start, 40s onwards is leaving it a bit late perhaps. A couple of my mates had kids in their early 20s and it ruined one of their lives, because the mum was a psycho, whereas the other one is the picture of a happy family man now.
So the moral of the story is probably just Consider if you are truly mentally and emotionally capable of supporting a partner with their own mental health issues, and everything will work out okay, as with all else in life.