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>> | No. 32000
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The pronoun question upsets me more than it should. I'll probably refer to you online as you ask (I don't know about in person), but don't ask what you should call me. My gender is immaterial to conversation - refer to me as an arsehole for all I care. |
>> | No. 32001
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I would argue that not only are gender and sexuality too complex to be defined by a mere 1D spectrum, due to there being way too many factors involved (prime example: someone who is into men with vaginas could occupy the same space on the Kinsey scale as someone who's into women with penises or someone who's into enby neuters, yet they're evidently not the same). The kids with their extensive complicated labelling systems breaking the binaries aren't less right, they just haven't taken it far enough yet. None of the labels or their combinations can accurately describe anyone at any point in time let alone the fluctuating states that people travel through. But then I'd argue that identity as a whole is fundamentally illusory. |
>> | No. 32002
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I feel like a bit of an odd one out because I never have any conversations about pronouns and I've never had to establish my gender identity online. |
>> | No. 32003
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The thing that strikes me about the modern obsession with "identity", and I mean that specifically in the way pronoun people conceive it, not just a broader sense, is that it's really a fight to make "who you are" into something that you have first hand control over. You can insist that people see and refer to you a certain way; whereas in the past identity has always been about what other people see you as. In order to be a woman in the past (just as a low hanging fruit example) you had to look and act like a woman; but now you can just say you are and everyone plays along. |
>> | No. 32004
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You just sound like a level-headed person that hasn't succumbed to the idpol brain rot. |
>> | No. 32005
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I was at a house party a few months ago with a large number of Those Types, and they were of varying degrees of lunacy but broadly okay. I did actually get asked for my own chosen pronouns, which I felt was very considerate and proved that it's not entirely people just wanting to announce that they're more special than thou. Nevertheless, several women replied that they are she/they, which was new to me but I assume it means these women don't mind being either a she or a they. But of course, being an obvious biological female in each case, that really struck me as an affectation because who would ever refer to them as "they"? Every she/they was clearly just a she. The "they" was purely academic. |
>> | No. 32006
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Sometimes I want to ask pronouns but feel like that might actually be more offensive. Like if I see someone born a bloke, with dyed blue hair and a full face of make up, I would be prone to asking their pronouns, as they seem gender non-conforming. But then, is that worse - at best it means I don't immediately see them for their particular gender identity, at worst it means I see them as a bloke with dyed blue hair and a full face of make up. I lost my virginity to a "genderqueer" person who was born female, dressed in feminine clothes, presented as feminine in every way, had lovely great big tits - at that point are you even genderqueer when you fit into the female box in every way? Also it depends on the setting. When I used to go to my old uni's fisherperson society, everyone would ask people's preferred pronouns due to all the gender non-conformity in that subset of people. Found it odd they'd ask me, a bald man with a beard, what my pronouns were because there's like a 99% chance it's he/him, but I guess there are bald bearded blokes who don't identify as men. My previous job we had to have our pronouns on our identity card, again, working with lots of clients who aren't mostly cishet people. |
>> | No. 32007
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>> | No. 32008
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I've always been fascinated by how people seem to take neopronouns more seriously than neopronoun people themselves seem to do. You could do a solid materialist analysis of it (and i'm not even marxistlad) as a natural outflow of the near irrelevance of sex or gender when you're online. This is a place where maleness or femaleness pales in importance compared to the fact that you've made a minor punctuation error or said "your" when you meant "you're". In this environment, the default "he", the baggage of "she" and the pedants who crop up for singular "they" can all melt away and for all it matters you can replace those weighty signifiers with something that vaguely implies an affinity for rabbits or cute things. |
>> | No. 32009
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I don't have any issue with anyone identifying however they like, but I've always thought that they/them covers everything and is already baked into the language. People can specify if they want, but we could all just be "they" and it wouldn't make much of a difference, right? |
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