Not sure if more suited for /job/ or /emo/ but here goes.
I've noticed a girl that 'ghosted' me off a dating app has applied for a job I'm recruiting for, which would make me her line manager.
Her application is actually pretty good but I'm worried it might be awkward if she knows I fancy her.
For context, we arranged to meet up and swapped numbers just before the pandemic, but then she tried to reschedule and never replied to my response suggesting another day.
I'm tempted to text her letting her know that she's applied for a job I'm hiring for, but I'm worried that this would be inappropriate and could get me in trouble.
What's a guy supposed to do in a situation like this?
Tell HR about this potential conflict of interest and ask them how it should be handled. If you keep this to yourself, you're exposing yourself to risk no matter what you do.
We're a small organisation (around 10 staff) so we don't have a proper HR department, and to be honest I dunno if I would be comfortable telling them about this.
How would I be exposing myself to risk if I ignore it?
>>13444 >I'm tempted to text her letting her know that she's applied for a job I'm hiring for, but I'm worried that this would be inappropriate and could get me in trouble.
If you give her the job, you could be accused of favouritism. If you don't give her the job, you could be accused of spite. If she gets the job and an issue crops up down the road, whatever contact you had with her on the dating app could be used as evidence of your amorous/malicious intent.
Just tell your boss. As soon as you tell your boss, it's his problem, not yours. It might be mildly embarrassing, but it'll be far more embarrassing if it comes out later and it looks like you were hiding something.
