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>> No. 6225 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 1:05 am
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Lads, would it be wrong/sad of me to pay a professional photographer to take some pictures for a dating profile? I did a quick google and found £99 for a two-hour shoot. Told to bring a few changes of clothes and we'd travel around to get about 200 photos.

I just feel like I'm not able to sell myself well with the smattering of old photos of me drinking or the goofy selfies I take. Normally it's fine because I've at least been told by women that the awkward selfies look cute but I seem to be on a dry-spell which doesn't help with how things are at the moment. Posted in /poof/ because I feel silly and know every picture will be transparently staged.
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>> No. 6226 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 2:31 am
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Hire a friendly Amazon parrot to sit on your shoulder, lasses love a big green ball of fluff. I should know IYKWIM.

Seriously, it's not worth it unless the lass you're after fancies implied affluence, otherwise you'd be like any other user of the service, just looking and preening. Find a good picture of yourself being normal without a pint of beer in sight, post it.
>> No. 6227 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 7:52 am
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It's the kind of thing birds do, so I guess it might go down well.

In my experience, the most successful photos (by quite some margin) involve activity and a small element of mystery. Something as simple as a photo of you reading a book where the cover isn't clearly visible can markedly improve your reply rate, by creating a little spark of curiosity and starting a conversation.

My most successful profile photos have been a slightly artsy black-and-white photo of me fettling a strange mechanical object and a screengrab from a video of me falling off a ladder. It's basically the Ostrich technique or a clickbait headline, but it works - the photo poses a question and some people can't resist the urge to find the answer. I can't help being ugly, but I don't have to be totally boring.
>> No. 6228 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 8:16 am
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I think if every photo on your profile is obviously a professionally done image, it's going to end up looking odd or even just like a fake profile - you'd have to be careful to engineer natural looking or humorous images. If it was me, it'd all be funny - over the top or classically naff stuff like sitting on a posh car or being naked on a sheepskin rug. Then it at least looks like you're self aware, hopefully.

I think from my own experience and talking to and watching female friends swipe through, it's quite important to demonstrate you have a life - being out and about, having friends, holding a baby, these are all things that make you look like a human, and once you chuck in a couple of you doing something a bit more enigmatic (as >>6227 says), you're onto a winner.

One of my tinder photos is me in a tatty mechanic's overalls, covered in grease, with my head in a Land Rover engine bay, and this picture was always the most remarked upon image in the collection. Land Rover maintenance is not fun or sexy, I can bore the arse off even most car blokes, let alone some poor lass on tinder who's never looked under a bonnet in her life, but photographic evidence that you're capable of something other than watching The Chase and thinking about tits is a huge head start on most lads in the dating market.
>> No. 6229 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 9:10 am
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> but photographic evidence that you're capable of something other than watching The Chase
You're demonstrating competence lad. Women love that.
>> No. 6230 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 1:00 pm
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It's not that much money in the grand scheme of things, I'd ask for samples of her work and go for it if I liked them. Just remember that it isn't going to guarantee anything, I think various factors conspire to make online dating a bit rubbish for lads if they're lookers.
>> No. 6231 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 1:25 pm
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>evidence that you're capable of something other than watching The Chase and thinking about tits is a huge head start on most lads in the dating market.

A thousand times this. If there's one peice of advice every lad out there needs to hear, if they'd never hear another dating tip in their lives, it's this.

Just don't be a boring fucker and you're sorted. The problem is lads don't realise what boring really means. Being into nerdy, obscure or traditionally unexciting things isn't boring- being a couch potato with no interests or hobbies to speak of is.

As sexist and dated as it might seem, men are defined by what they can DO. The most unattractive bloke is one who doesn't DO anything.
>> No. 6232 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 1:35 pm
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I think the caveat on this is don't be a boring fucker, unless you're attractive, in which case you can be more boring than watching paint dry whilst The Archers plays in the background, and you'll be fine.

I had a housemate who literally knew nothing about what was going on in the world, had zero interests outside of looking good and Manchester United Football Club, lived in a completely spartan room, and ate the same meal three times a day (plain chicken and rice; do not get me started on the toilet situation).

Trying to have a conversation with him was about as engaging as having a conversation with TV static, and he was so completely inept at anything manual it was scary. I once had to explain to him over the phone how to open a thumb-latch gate, and another time he drove 100 miles on a rapidly deflating tyre because he didn't know how to change a wheel, didn't have a pump, and didn't even consider how that might be dangerous. He didn't even know his car HAD a spare wheel, much less how to change it.

All this said, he was attractive. He looked a bit like Zayn out of One Direction, and his Tinder was constantly going off. Every time we were out he was fighting off girls left, right, and centre. At that point, all this shit about being interesting and having a personality went out of the window. It only applies if you aren't attractive.

Now, I'm not saying that's only true one way round, but still.
>> No. 6233 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 2:24 pm
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I think most of us already know that, and there's no point denying it. But I also think it's pretty rare for a lad to actually be attractive, in a real and genuine sense. Blokes are just more likely to be ugly and forced to compensate for it than birds, and even an ugly bird doesn't have to do much compensating. Having a vagina is the only compensation a lot of lads require.

Even then, I'd say an attractive lad should make the effort to be interesting as well as hot, otherwise all he's going to attract are vapid TOWIE types. As most people discover as they age, finding a lass who has an IQ higher than her bra size matters a great deal.
>> No. 6234 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 3:16 pm
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I don't really get why people give a fuck about 'dry spells'. I went 10 years without a fuck and to be honest i wish i hadn't broken the rythm.
>> No. 6235 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 5:33 pm
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They really do. My job isn't particularly difficult, but if you aren't trained in it, it looks impenetrably confusing and important. I'm really just there to step in if something bad happens, which it really never does, but all the lasses who work in other departments treat us like we fucking own the place, they love it. The running joke is they'll fuck anyone in the place who gets issued a radio to carry around, and I do think that tiny, tiny signifier of authority or being trusted for your skills is enough to look attractively competent.


We've said it before on here buy your hobby could be literally watching paint dry as long as you're able to talk passionately about it, people will be drawn to that.


You're not wrong, but I also think women (in general) are attracted to the idea of a bloke or what he does over what he looks like. Obviously if you're out looking for a one night shag in a club or on tinder, the boy band lookalike is going to win out, but in just about every other context the ruggedly ugly fucker who builds garden furniture on his days off will be a more attractive proposition.

Never forget that Daniel Craig is considered highly attractive. He's just a Gordon Ramsey who has been put in the microwave for 30 seconds less than the original, but he runs about with a gun on films so he's right up there.
>> No. 6236 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 5:44 pm
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>You're not wrong, but I also think women (in general) are attracted to the idea of a bloke or what he does over what he looks like.

Not on Tinder they're not. The ugly lad will get downvoted so much that he won't even be shown to new people. We could test this with a big dating site vapid attractive lad vs ugly car maintenance lad catfish profile face off.
>> No. 6237 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 5:55 pm
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I figure that you can't have a dry spell if you never had a wet spell in the first place.

I find myself deleting and re-making my Tinder once every month or so, because that exact thing happens to me. I get about 2 days of occasionally getting matches and then that's it, never shown again. I've tested this with friends and despite being in the same room as them and me being able to see them, it simply does not show me to them.

People will say that Tinder isn't real life, etc etc etc but the fact of the matter is that Tinder isn't some niche platform that only a few people use; it's a massive part in the whole dating scene these days and you simply can't discount it.
>> No. 6239 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 6:02 pm
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I suppose it depends on your definition of ugly - my point is that most lads don't look like models but still do fine. I'm bald and one eye is droopier than the other, i don't have a particularly square jaw and i'm not really buff - if I'm being generous I'm a 5/10 at best, but I still match plenty of people on tinder.

I have no doubt a Calvin Klein model gets inundated with matches, far more than I'll ever see (if you really want to get into it, go see how many matches and messages even a fairly average lass gets), but it's not like I can change that.
>> No. 6240 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 6:43 pm
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>if I'm being generous I'm a 5/10 at best, but I still match plenty of people on tinder.
You're either misjudging how attractive you are, or you need to start a business where you oil lads up and take pictures of them with spanners and Land Rover bits.
>> No. 6241 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 7:15 pm
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Maybe I'm a 6/10 then.

I dunno though, the latter might be the case. Try and tell me this bloke couldn't bag a twentysomething instagram model if he wanted - he's holding a raccoon for fucks sake. You only get that sort of character building from fighting rust and oil leaks for 30 odd years. He is everything a woman wants.

>> No. 6242 Anonymous
19th July 2020
Sunday 8:30 pm
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