My t-shirt collection is all solid colours with a dominance for the wicking activewear ones because they never crease and are good if you get warm. I'm wondering though if I, I 30-something man, could get away with maybe some band t-shirts? Definitely more difficult to dress around but would give some variation and personality.
They're not cheap though so I thought I'd ask you /poof/s first.
If it's bands from your youth that were significant or still are, then why not. Newer bands that kids listen to now, probably not, at your age. Only if you've just turned 30.
It's a tricky one. As you head towards forty, the line between "guy who is still cool and relevant" and "sad cunt who won't grow old gracefully" becomes increasingly narrow. If you're going to go for it, I'd err on the side of vintage and subtler monochromatic designs to avoid the "dad at Download festival" look.
The lower-risk strategy is to smarten things up a bit - maybe mix in some button-down shirts, some leather trainers, some jeans with a slightly more tailored fit. If you're sticking with t-shirts, perhaps something with a marl or a subtle stripe and make sure it fits.
>>6805 I've, somewhat, recently started buying band merch from groups and artists basically no one's ever heard of. Not for reasons of pretense, I just don't like feeling like a billboard, plus no one's going to challenge me to name all the tracks on Hello Nasty like I fear they might if I wore a Beastie Boys hoodie or something. It sounds like smaller artist's merch is cheaper than what you're describing too, so maybe this is something to consider, I don't know.
>I just don't like feeling like a billboard, plus no one's going to challenge me to name all the tracks on Hello Nasty like I fear they might if I wore a Beastie Boys hoodie or something
I've never understood this, why are people worried about it? For one thing I don't think it has ever once happened in real life, and for another, surely you're only going to wear the merch of bands you actually like enough to name a few songs by, at least? I say that as someone who's worn virtually nothing but band shirts my entire adult life, since I was a skinny teenage mosher, up to being a handsome and rugged model of Peter Steele-esque manliness as an adult.
What otherlad said about fit is bang on anyway, fashion isn't some arcane art, just 90% of it is in making sure your clothes actually fit well. My other half keeps getting me clothes that are too big, like she thinks I'm either lying about my size, or that she expects me to grow into them; but the reality is I just never wear them because they would make me look like an orphan wearing hand-me-downs. Then she'll ask me why I never wear what she buys me, as if I'm speaking an alien language whenever I tell her it's the wrong size.
>a handsome and rugged model of Peter Steele-esque manliness
You can get away with anything if you look like that. Fashion is a trickier business if you've got pipe cleaner limbs or a beer belly, or, worst of all, both.
It's the same guy we are thinking of, but rest assured, it was self deprecating to an extreme degree; he's just been quite an influence in the overall style I've always gone for. Because obviously alternative lassies love it.
I mean. If I did a bit of working out I could probably look something like that. I just don't have much incentive because being tall and having long hair has been enough to pull birds all my life anyway. Maybe I'll get on that one day if I need to shore my ego up a bit.
>>6810 >My other half keeps getting me clothes that are too big, like she thinks I'm either lying about my size, or that she expects me to grow into them
I've got the suspicion that my girlfriend intentionally buys me bad clothes. For example, when I needed a new winter coat she bought me a Regatta one that would have been fine if I was going on a hike but look a bit daft for regular wear. She's also bought me t-shirts from Asda before but they're unshapely and you can tell they're just cheap tat.
I just generally hate when women force their ideas of good men's clohing on you. It can't hurt to take notice and pick up some pointers from lasses when you first start dating as a younglad, because at least for me the biggest shift in my sense of clothing in my life came with that. But women don't understand when a lad then at some point just wants to go his own way with it. They don't see somebody who has developed his own sense of style and clothing, and instead they want to turn you into their wet dream of what they like to see a man wear. Again, nothing wrong with taking a few pointers from that, especially for the time after the two of you will have split up again. But what I mean is, women can't leave well enough alone. If that makes any sense. I don't mind being given a handsome looking shirt for my birthday, which I will enjoy wearing if I feel comfortable in it. But to many of them, it's more about their idea of what they want you to look like than it is about letting you be free to have your own style.
>>6817 I think it's either because she thinks dressing sensible and boring is a sign of maturity or she's trying to make me look less appealing to other women.
> or she's trying to make me look less appealing to other women.
Never discount that possibility, especially if your girlfriend or wife buys you objectively shit clothing. Women don't do that sort of thing obliviously.
I think in the cases like you're describing it's just because they have the idea that they know best, like because you're a bloke you've no idea what you're doing. I've had partners over the years do a similar thing when it comes to cleaning and such, even when my place has been spotlessly clean they'll come over and point out that it's messy or dusty or whatever, regardless of the objective truth in front of them, because they just blindly assume you don't know how to clean.
It's a bit weird, but just one of those prejudices a lot of us still have to some degree have even in this modern politically correct age I think, like assuming women can't drive or put up shelves or whatever.
I'm not saying there aren't blokes whose sense of self is so underdeveloped that they don't know how to dress well or keep their place clean and tidy. In fact, one lad I know moved in with his girlfriend (and now wife) straight from his parents, so he has effectively never had to look after himself in his life and has always had everything like that done for him either by his mum or his wife. He'd probably be completely helpless sewing on a button or frying up a steak.
In that sense, spending some time on your own and having to learn or teach yourself all those things can give you self reliance. And because I've been there, women tend to be perplexed when they realise that I can cook, clean, wash clothes and all the other things that men are seen as being generally shit at. But it's also why I don't like being treated like an overgrown ten year old when it comes to those things. Including the kind of clothes I like to wear.
>But it's also why I don't like being treated like an overgrown ten year old when it comes to those things. Including the kind of clothes I like to wear.
Well, precisely. It's caused me a fair bit of friction over the years because, knowing I can indeed look after myself and aren't a manchild, I find it incredibly patronising when a lass assumes and treats me like I am.
I think somewhere in a lass's mind, they also want to make you look unfuckable for other women. Because if you're the dependent manchild/overgrown boy, there will be less competition from other women and you yourself will be afraid to wonder what else is out there, in an almost Kantian way.
It's mostly the fat mumsy types who are that way. But while most lasses want a blokey bloke of some description whether they admit it or not, they know that the blokier their bloke is, the more they have to fear other women.
