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You do get exceptions to this. My last ex sucked my knob like a demon and I was basically only her third or fourth proper sexual partner, she had been in a decently long lived relationship throughout her teens and early twenties until I met her but by the sounds of it he wasn't up to much. I don't think it's as much a case of having an older/more experienced partner to teach you what to do. I think it's more about the intimacy you mentioned, and a natural selflessness that people either have or don't based on other aspects of their upbringing.
I find that the biggest key to sexual chemistry is that they get turned on by the idea of turning you on, and vice versa. I had, until not too long ago, assumed that was a fundamental, natural part of sexuality. That's what makes the chase, the flirtation, the saucy messaging so fun. However, it turns out that there are some people who view sex in pretty much same way as masturbation, only "better" because somebody else is doing the work. The girl who gave me this realisation basically flat out said that she could make do with a dildo if it wasn't for the fact she couldn't quite reach far enough to get the right angle.
Those people can still seem like a really good fuck at first, but you'll gradually notice that they simply don't give much fulfilment. Even if they tick all your deviant fetish boxes you'll eventually begin to feel a cold because they're not doing it for the enjoyment of satisfying one another, it's purely a transactional exchange of orgasms.
Which goes back to the original point. The really pretty girls out there are much more likely to be more selfish, I think. The same probably goes for men, and that's what I think makes for bad sex more than anything. Actual skill comes naturally with time as long as you're not self centred with it.