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It's a weird one. I've been talking about it with my lass for a few years, starting the dialogue by trading a pegging for a threesome. Which still hasn't materialised, but now out of nowhere she'll bring up this domme friend I have who she knows fancies her, and she's been out for a drink with my slutty ex who's invited us to a rave next month, and generally seems quite happy with the idea now she's comfortable with the idea that our relationship isn't contingent on it happening.
Would it be something she'd want to be involved in, or in the room, or out of sight/out of mind kind of thing?
Some people are great with overriding their ego and experiencing compersion, but others aren't, and never will be, and you'll break them by trying. If you can do enough to make her feel like she's in a great relationship and she's secure enough not to get physically jealous, then that's great. If she's expressing discomfort, back off and see if she's willing to talk about that discomfort and the reasons behind it.
Personally I've tried easing my lass into it by making friends with sex positive people, chatting on Whiplr/Feeld (would be active on fetlife but I can never be arsed to make a profile), and approaching it from that angle rather than trying to set up dates or anything. That way she's getting comfortable with people and we'll probably eventually end up in some sordid situation with them, but there's no rush and no pressure and as a result she's a lot more willing to bring it up herself.
In that vein, if your lass is kinky and for example, has expressed an interest in ropes, you can meet people and learn stuff at a Shibari session, easing yourself into a community of generally sex positive people without the direct agenda of banging them.
Aside, this seems to be a common theme on /emo/ at the moment. Kind of curious as to why.