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>> | No. 32916
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I thought we should just make a thread to moan and talk about the dating scene. There seems like 2 of us who are now on the arse-end of it in our 30s so I thought we could at least serve as a warning for others. |
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>>32916 |
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Aye, me an' all. 31. |
>> | No. 32919
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This is me isn't it? The French lass and I have started an "arrangement". Whoever misses a day doing their respective exercise routine has to buy the other some cheese. |
>> | No. 32920
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I might be in this pool soon. At least the female friends I have are people I'd want to date anyway, so I can start there while obsessing over the wording of my tinder/bumble/hinge/feeld/get profile. |
>> | No. 32921
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Thinking about getting sectioned again. Within the context of a psychiatric inpatient unit, I'm quite a catch. I've got most of my own teeth and only one personality. |
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It's the hope that kills you on these things. After a couple of months of being single I hopped back on Bumble at the weekend, spent all day Saturday talking to a nice Kazakhstani lass, we had a moan about our exes and it felt like she was at least a little interested in me, then the next day I messaged her and *poof*, she unmatched me instantly. I didn't even make any tediously obvious Borat jokes or anything. Oh well, she was out of my league anyway and was probably talking to a dozen or so other blokes, back to swiping through the rubbish heap of obese single mums and loony BPD types, I suppose. |
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>> | No. 32930
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I was going to complain that there aren't any women who post on this site, but after reading all this fucking whining, I'm not so sure about that. |
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Well, turns out the lass I had a good feeling about is off to live at the other end of the country for at least a month. |
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>> | No. 32989
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I just went on the most boring date of life, conversation like getting blood from a stone. Women have told me about guys like this before, ones who don't know what to say or are simply too shy, I didn't think I'd get one as a bloke. |
>> | No. 32990
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Sentient Lamp tells story.png ![]() ![]() ![]() I was talking to a woman on a dating app and things were going very well so I segued the conversation into what her perfect first date would be, she said something fun, thinking about it I said it's been awhile since I've been bowling and we could take out our frustrations on the pins (inside joke) if she was free sometime. Also that if we get drunk enough there's a karaoke bar nearby. |
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She's right about the mountains. |
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I met a milf at a jazz club but I was about 7 pints deep and her whatsapp profile pic makes her look older and less attractive than I remember. She could be one of those people who look better in 3d real life than in photos. |
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I've definitely peaked lads. Last night I shagged the fittest bird I have ever, and likely will ever, shag. |
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png.png ![]() ![]() ![]() Went for a walk with the French lass. Still no clue what's going on in her head but she's good craic. |
>> | No. 33009
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I had a lovely date with a beautiful woman (we talked about books and cats over wine) but from experience what happens now is I'll become smitten and then get burned. How do I escape this nightmare without incidentally sabotaging the chance for long-term happiness? |
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>> | No. 33032
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Took the French lass to a play, met a friend on the way there who said something like "You're basically going on a date aren't you?". When he was gone she asked if I wanted it to be a date, I said yes and after the play she came back to mine and we got maybe 2 hours of sleep. |
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Lately I've been bumping into the problem of holidays. Women will either go on a date and reveal that they're about to take one or will reveal while messaging that they're currently on a two week holiday. |
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French lass says she's scared of commitment so no labels [yet] but wants us to be exclusive and spending her birthday just the two of us. I think I may no longer qualify for this thread. Ta lads. |
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So I complained a while ago that I had just hit it off with a lass when she had to move away for a period of time. |
>> | No. 33109
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What are the best ways to let someone down gently if I decide they're not shaggable on a date? Just give me some stock phrases that won't make me sound like too much of an arsehole or a woman and won't cause a scene, thanks. |
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There's not enough /101/ here. |
>> | No. 33112
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Every woman I meet is going to the Canary Islands lately. Posted in /101/ because I'm getting cockblocked by an archipelago that requires me to maintain some level of conversation over a week. |
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condoms_contraception_w700.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() Condoms are bollocks. It's like some plot to stop people sleeping around because nobody can be arsed with it. |
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Who the fuck is losing an erection from simply putting a johnny on? I know they aren't everyone's preference, but if this is happening frankly you should either see a GP or you don't really fancy the bird in the first place. Christ alive. |
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I found early on that a regular condom would cause me stiffy issues, even as a full on turbohormone teen. The "large" always felt better. |
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My dating life is a bit like the set up to a racist joke at the minute. I've got a Mexican, a Pole and a Czech girl in my inbox, but no English birds seem interested. |
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Expose yourself.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>33166 |
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>> | No. 33226
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>what do your parents do? |
>> | No. 33338
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So how are you two faring? It's been a while since I've heard anything out of this thread so I'm guessing you've both shacked up with a fit foreign lass for the summer. |
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A lass stood me up today, or, she would've if I didn't text to check we were still on just before we were due to meet. |
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>> | No. 33957
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Frasier_Crane_at_KACL_radio_station.png ![]() ![]() ![]() Following a first date yesterday my date messaged me afterwards to say that she could tell she wasn't my cup of tea but she wished me all the best. I didn't think much of it at the time, it was only coffee and a walk so fair enough I deleted her number and don't expect to ever see her again. |
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>>33631>>33957 |
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It's just exhausting isn't it. I'll share the usual familiar story: |
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maxresdefault.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>34006 |
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I am the real 006 and I think someone's playing silly buggers with you otherlads. |
>> | No. 34027
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The only piece of dating advice I have is one I've repeated here many times, which is to Just Be Confident. |
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>> | No. 34097
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I've got a woman on my mind all the time now but as it happens I'm getting a lot of interest from other women. It leaves me in a bit of a Catch-22 because I don't want to waste people's time but at the same time it's not like anything has been secured yet. |
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large_70_1208_Hopper_Soir_Bleu.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() I got excited for a girl and just came back from our second date. She didn't feel any romantic connection between us though, I feel she didn't even try during our date. |
>> | No. 34132
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Started dating for the first time this year after kind of giving up. Went on a couple of dates with this girl, we got on really well, and she seemed keen. Then out of nowhere, ahead of our third date she sends me this: |
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sds.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>34132 |
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>> | No. 34567
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Untitled.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() There's a trend I've noticed in London of therapy being romanticised and that certain people will even view it as a green flag. It became really strong just after the pandemic which also saw an explosion of video call therapy/counselling services being advertised. |
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>> | No. 34609
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I matched with a lass from Hull so I opened with what I thought was a bit of perfect Hull banter. You know, tenfoots, Beverly, chip spice, all that. Turns out she wasn't a Hull native, so all of that was lost on her. Instead I couldn't help myself and I said "Christ, imagine living anywhere else and then moving to Hull." |
>> | No. 34670
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You know what, I think it's going to be a struggle this time. In the past I've never really had any issues going on the apps and if not pulling, at least getting a bit of attention to keep the conversational skills polished. Something has always come along in the end. |
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>>34670 |
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Also, birds sending fucking voice messages constantly. |
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Hinge in the places I've lived the past five or so years has been full of vapid bints (and whatever the male equivalent of a bint is.) |
>> | No. 34680
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Allow me to vent: |
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>>34680 |
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>> | No. 34729
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So how are you two doing, any luck lately? Or am I the only lonely single .g this Christmas? |
>> | No. 34730
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What are some good ideas for daytime dates when you and/or the bird you're trying to shag aren't particularly in the mood for drinking? |
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tringali3.png ![]() ![]() ![]() >>34729 |
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I lass sent a voice message and I stupidly replied to her with one and now she won't stop. I'm coming to terms with the fact that I'd rather be single over Christmas than deal with this. |
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>> | No. 34782
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Lass cancelled on me for a date, well not even a date just that thing where you say let's get a drink to chat in person. Always puts me in a bad mood where something like this happens because you can try and give them the benefit of the doubt and play it cool but in reality you know it's probably a bullshit excuse, and it means this one's another dead end you should just drop. Just frustrating because it was the first promising one I'd spoken to for a little while and we were getting on well. |
>> | No. 34783
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became newly signle and fired up the old dating site |
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I'm seeing a lass tomorrow who seems like she may be quite clever and interesting, which doesn't happen often, and I am a bit nervous about it. I'd quite like not to blow it. |
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Untitled.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>34795 |
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>> | No. 34799
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Usually I'm in favour of dating the insane, it's only fair, but if she's getting too drunk to walk on a first date after telling you about her self-harming, that's a really bad sign. Moving fast doesn't mean Ayrton Senna at Imola. |
>> | No. 34805
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I think you are all overreacting, it's quite clear by the wording of the post that our hero recognises this girl isn't exactly marriage material, he just still wants to get his end away for the trouble of staggering through town with a drunk lass draped over him like a sack of spuds. Can't really say fairer than that if you ask me. |
>> | No. 34810
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(left on read the day after the date even though they explicitly talk about being into you on the actual night) |
>> | No. 34811
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I'd like to complain about schedules. Specifically how the kinds of jobs that women tend to do (more of) have them working non-standard days so organising time together actually becomes a bother. Things would've been easier when the only people working on Sunday were priests. |
>> | No. 34813
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Riddle me this: If the LGBTQIA+ mafia are so tolerant and accepting and all that, how come the only times I've ever been rejected on the basis of being a furfag is by people from that group? |
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You lot are being very judgemental about a woman who didn't want to wear a tail plug. Calm down already. |
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Say you met a lass who was interesting to talk to, she has interesting and weird interests. But, knowing I probably sound like a cunt, she's also not very attractive. She doesn't look after herself and dresses conservatively like an orthodox Jewish woman. |
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>>34838 thick wrists and below-the-knee length denim skirts |
>> | No. 34852
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The knowledge of Facebook's Are We Dating The Same Guy? groups is a source of paranoia for me. From what I've read they've evolved from groups set up to detect cheaters into women posting guy's images and asking for the 'tea' before they ever go out with them. |
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Apparently your longest relationship lasting a few months is considered a "major red flag". Gonna have to start rehearsing even more lies to pretend to be a regular human person. |
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It was all going so well, she was fit and charming. Someone who was intense about who she is and comes with a great arse, who was also subtly complimenting me on my looks and hobbies. She mentioned that she has a high-libido and then hit me with the question: |
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I'm really struggling to find anybody remotely interesting lately. |
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Let's say you get drunk with a lass who can really handle her booze, but by the time she gets horny enough to shag, you're too tired and wasted to. What's the solution to this apart from drinking less? |
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Matched with a really cute looking lass the other night. Turns out she's a musician too, great sense of humour and we seemed to really click and had a great chat for an hour or so. Wished me a good day for the morning, looked forward to chatting again, etc. |
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The problem with living in an international city is that even on some of the more reputable apps you get women who waste your time because they live abroad. I just spent a night chatting with a girl who just revealed she's moved to Nice to do a masters but hasn't updated her profile. |
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Apologies for drawing this into this kind of discussion but I need somewhere to express this. |
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A woman I dated a couple years back messaged me out the blue on Whatsapp this morning to say 'Hi [Anon]'. I remembered her because I fell head over heels for her and then she ghosted me after she got back from holiday so I messaged her 'long time no see' and asked if she was still at her place nearby and then got nothing back - she was probably just seeing who the number was. |
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Fuck sake, you get a bit of heat forecast and suddenly everyone wants to go a date at the weekend. If I were a bird |
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Finaly put on my big boy boxers and plucked up the courage to ask one the fit (the fittest) birds at work and she said yes! I thought the asking was that hard part, now i actually got to go on the date. Iv not even been close enough smell a girl for the past 3 odd years, now I got to take a proper fit one out! I feel like the dog that caught the car it was chasing haha. |
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I cancelled on a date with a pretty lass last week because I just couldn't be arsed. I'm starting to regret it a bit, but at the same it me, if I sincerely couldn't be arsed to go and meet her, then it's not a great sign is it. |
>> | No. 35198
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Hinge is weird. It keeps highlighting extremely boring women as "most compatible" with me. Maybe I'm boring too but these are clearly people with no interests or backgrounds in common with me. I know the type and we have nothing to say to each other, nor a desire to. Then it has the "Standouts" tab which is always full of interesting and attractive women. So it clearly knows my taste at this point, why is it trying to set me up with the wrong ones? |
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Lacan said that "there's no such thing as Woman, Woman with a capital W indicating the universal" and I think there's a truth here*. Not just "Woman" but Man - Mankind - in the sense of every individual. Basically, the root of most of these issues is the gulf between who people are and who we perceive them to be, or what a sought-after imagined ideal partner would be. Whether that means a toxic relation caused by deifying them, commodifying them, expecting them to deify you or even more granular mistaken assumptions we make about their feelings, beliefs, behaviours or any other boxes we think they tick. |
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Have any of you lads only had success with foriegn birds? |
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theick.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() Don't be ugly in Yorkshire. You might get yourself in trouble. |
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>>35228 |
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Who pays on the first date for you? Everyone I meet seems to be confused on this question. Women seem to think that the guy should pay on the first date, and the men I ask seem to think it's a given that as a guy you'll pay. |
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>>35230 |
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>>35201 |
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I'd spent a week chatting to a woman and I thought we had a good connection going with inside jokes already coming up. On Friday evening we organised for a date on Monday and we exchanged numbers, we said we were looking forward to it and I left it at that. Then I messaged her this evening to check up that we're still on and she tells me she didn't appreciate the lack of contact for the past couple days and therefore said she'd give the date a miss. |
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I met a woman through a dating app last week, one where on our profiles we're both looking for a long-term relationship and want to one day have children. |
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>>35263 |
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Ran the flag up on Hinge, got a few matches but they say nothing like. I gave them an opener dunno what that's about. Stumped up the cash for a week to see who's "Liked" me, nowt. Week came and went, got a couple more matches. What's the craic there? They all paying to pick and choose from the lads who gave them a like, save them the swipe? |
>> | No. 35272
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I just ignored friend-lass, deleted the messages and her contact. No good will come of it. If she sends a third I might ask what's going on but I doubt she will. |
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>>35272 |
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>>35272 |
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pleyedrayttintaeeshaunds.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35279 |
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Is "Otters hold hands while they sleep so they don't float away from each other" code for something or what? |
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35283
Untitled.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() I've been chatting to a lass who has multiple pictures of herself in the UK on her profile and we seem to get along but after organising a date and talking about what we wanted she said she was deleting her profile because she doesn't believe in dating multiple men and to message her on whatsapp where she gave me her number. Odd but on the whole she seemed genuine, we'd organised to meet up and was actually worried about me being a bit too well versed. |
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>>35283 |
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Dating apps get a lot of shit these days but I still think they're not only the most viable way to meet partners but also a lot of the functions they provide can't be replicated elsewhere. |
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>I'm attracted to masculinity |
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>>35300 |
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Fuck me I haven't seen anyone say straw man in years. It's like being back in the good old days. |
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>>35312 |
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35317
A decent lass makes your life better, whether you have self-esteem or not. It's akin to saying "money doesn't buy happiness" — it actually does, but to a certain point. |
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>>35316 |
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Collectively, men, as a gender, need to drive a harder bargain. |
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35347
This feels like reading an old /r9k/ thread. Full of reductive sexist psuedo scientific bullshit. Depressing tbh. |
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>>35347 |
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>>35347 |
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Does anyone remember when /r9k/ posters would tell each other to smear a bit of cum on their necks like it was aftershave in order to better attract women? This was probably ten or more years ago now, but it definitely happened. I've not got the best memory, but this is seared into my neurons forever. |
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>>35350 |
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I don't know where you lot are going with this but I will say that people definately noticed when I spent £60 on some BOSS aftershave over when I used to wear Joop. Like all things you need to spend a bit of time, money and effort I guess. |
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>>35357 |
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35359
Wearing it has only ever got me complaints from partners that I don't smell like myself. |
>> | No. 35360
35360
I've said it before, but I've had compliments from women when I've had to use my son's Lynx. They're not some mystical arbiter of taste. |
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>>35357 |
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35362
Dating in their 30s? Surely any decent woman has settled down with a husband at that age nurturing children. Any single woman dating in their 30s is likely to have lots of cats and 'fishing didn't tell me about my body clock' issues. |
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>>35360 |
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>>35362 |
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Molto.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35363 |
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>>35368 |
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>>35367 |
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>>35374 |
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35379
Seven hinge matches the past month, two of whom are putting more effort into the conversation than I am. Judging by other people's complaints that's not bad going. |
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35380
>>35379 |
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>>35380 |
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35389
Dating in your mid-30s is scary. |
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>>35389 |
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>>35389 |
>> | No. 35392
35392
I struggle to keep (appropriately) younger women's attention but for whatever reason the demographic 5-20 years older than me find me very appealing. They're not all unattractive but it's not something I've ever been into really. Is this normal? Do women try to date younger as much as men do? |
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0_q95i3Ma24k-hxBtK.png ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35392 |
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>>35393 |
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>>35391 |
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>>35393 |
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8911634fdae3d4c051e936f9b95e5ad6d23a32140b861438b6.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35396 |
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>>35398 |
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0_scar-main.png ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35399 |
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>>35396 |
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>>35400 |
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NINTCHDBPICT000493616658.png ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35402 |
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>>35403 |
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>>35403 |
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He piled upon the whale's white hump the sum of all the general rage and hate felt by his whole race from Adam down; and then, as if his cock had been a mortar, he burst his hot heart's shell upon it. |
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>>35405 |
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>>35412 |
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>>35412 |
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jeonqmi-monkey.gif ![]() ![]() ![]() It's hot, I'm horny and I want to fuck. |
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>>35417 |
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>>35419 |
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>>35421 |
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35467
>A couple have become engaged a mere five weeks after their first encounter on Tinder, following an "intense five-day date" in Malta. |
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>>35467 |
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35470
I went on what I thought was a lovely date with a lass on Sunday but now I think she's letting me down with 'work' and has added on her profile that she's looking for men who 'aren't keen on showing masculinity'. Not really sure what I did there. I only got positive signs and she even thanked me afterwards for a wonderful time and accompanying her. |
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>>35470 |
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>>35470 |
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35495
There's a lass who has been on-off texting me (by which I mean just barely, like every couple of weeks maybe) for a couple of months now, and keeps suggesting we meet up, but then nothing materialises. However, we do share a specific niche interest that has made me reluctant to simply sever contact. (Yes, it's a wierd sex thing) |
>> | No. 35496
35496
I'm more tolerant of a decline in someone's writing than I should be when it comes to dating. I was talking to a medical doctor-lady this week and we were getting along, I even turned a blind eye when she said she was into astrology. But then her messages got more and more garbled as she got comfortable and I had to knock it on the head yesterday because she spelt my fucking name wrong. |
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>>35495 |
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>>35496 |
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>>35499 |
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40040-If-You-Can-t-Handle-Me-At-My-Worst-274192271.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() After all of the insistance I wasn't open enough. When I was open with my feelings it was met with "this isn't a constructive conversation" even when I expressly explained something was important to me. I see now there was never any actual consideration of my feelings they just wanted their ego stroked. Sure I told them I loved them 10 times a day. But why didn't I tell them 50 times a day obviously I didn't love them I suppose. They seem to take that stance when there wasn't constant reassurance. |
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>>35501 |
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>>35501 |
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I feel like I need a couple new dating profile pictures but I'm a boring cunt and professional photographers are expensive. Not ruinously expensive but I also have a distinct feeling they'll just want to do some generic pictures of me in a coffee shop and surrounded by graffiti. |
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>>35529 |
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>>35502 |
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>>35536 |
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>Despite what anyone says it's unwise to upfront advertise you are a gamer, toy soldier hobbyist, or any of that lot |
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>>35538 |
>> | No. 35552
35552
A took a Filipina nurse on a date and now she has become infatuated and messages me all the time. We seem to get along but she's not impressed me yet after one date. There's a complication as well that she seems insecure with relationships, probably from past men messing her about, which makes me more fearful of hurting her. |
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>>35552 |
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>>35554 |
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>>35557 |
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Proper dieting is actually pretty hard. People generally by their mid 30 have let themselves go and might not have done regular exercise for a decade and the time taken to reverse that trend tends to be beyond them. It isn't unrealistic to need to go on an intense diet for a full year to correct course and and the people who want to do that wouldn't let themselves get into that position in the first place. |
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>>35559 |
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>>35556 |
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>>35563 |
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maxresdefault.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35565 |
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35567
I guess I'm seeing a Filipina now then. Not looking forward to everyone assuming I got her in a catalogue. |
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>>35567 |
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35569
Roast dinner at the pub, long dog walks, F1. |
>> | No. 35570
35570
The whole point of Bumble was supposed to be that the bird messages you first, which they never did, so they have a feature now that even offloads that responsibility back to the bloke with a daft prompt thing. |
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>>35570 |
>> | No. 35572
35572
I keep becoming physically and emotionally connected to anyone who shows romantic interest in me on dates. So I dig myself deeper and deeper into uncertain and often flawed relationships - which makes me very vulnerable to people looking to rush into a relationship but also puts off good matches because I want to rush into physical and emotional intimacy. |
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>>35569 |
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4425937.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35576 |
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>>35576 |
>> | No. 35605
35605
I broke it off with a girl yesterday after a week of passionate dates - she'd fallen for me but I knew that deep down we weren't compatible which was confirmed by trying to get to know her deeper and I eventually decided it was right to break it off. I'd prolonged this because we had chemistry and wanted to give it a fair shake which was stupid in hindsight. I made sure we didn't sleep together until I was certain if I wanted to pursue things of course. |
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>>35613 |
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Lads, what if we're the problem? |
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>>35615 |
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>>35615 |
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35632
More a pre-emptive dating woe - I just started working at some place, and we have a Serbian outsourcing office, and 'the girls' from Serbia happened to be over this week...and one of them is utterly ridiculous. |
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>>35632 |
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>>35642 |
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Drastic increase in matches this week, nothing I've done to warrant it. Must be the start of the annual rush to not be alone over winter. Good time to get back on the apps. |
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>>35650 |
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>>35650 |
>> | No. 35673
35673
Lass wants to speak over the phone tonight. Not keen. She's not into texting, which is fair enough, but I am much happier face to face if we're going to have an actual conversation. I've always hated speaking on the phone. |
>> | No. 35674
35674
So it's either due to cuffing season or what I was doing wrong is sending an opening line with my Likes, because I've given up on that and discovered Hinge won't let you have more than eight conversations open at once where it's your turn to reply. I've had to unmatch about four people in the past two days. |
>> | No. 35677
35677
Decided to branch out onto other apps instead of just Hinge and Bumble. Installed OKCupid this morning and I'm already up to... Let's see... |
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>>35677 |
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35679
Now GTFO.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>35677 |
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>>35678 |
>> | No. 35682
35682
I'll do well with a bird, get a date set-up and then immediately start to lose interest. Then as we go on dates as she starts to fall for me I'll lose interest further and further until I end up dumping her probably too long after I should. |
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>>35682 |
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>>35684 |
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>>35685 |
>> | No. 35687
35687
I slept with a woman, didn't use protection, then slept with her a week later and *then* the next day, the inside of my dick is itching, like uncomfortable for an hour or so at a time. |
>> | No. 35688
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>>35687 |
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>>35688 |
>> | No. 35690
35690
Should I delete the photos of me and my ex on my instagram account? I'm not keen on social media malarkey at all, but instagram has been a fairly consistent way to arrange dates with random birds I meet on nights out. Not sure if having my ex on there sends the wrong message to potential new prospects or if it provides some sort of "social proof". |
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>>35690 |
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>>35691 |
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>>35692 |
>> | No. 35694
35694
This woman is asking me about my kinks and thinking about what actually gets me off has turned into a whole rant in my head which I don't want to burden her with so I'm putting it here. I haven't slept with her so it's not about her. The opposite if anything as she's actually asking for once. I catalogued all the little fantasies I have that I've never had the chance to explore with any of the many people I've slept with as I was so focused on their pleasure and I realised something. What gets me off, what I'm really into, is when whoever I'm sleeping with isn't just "consenting" but is actively enthusiastic about it. Sex is communication, it's a conversation and I feel like most of the time the burden is on me to do all the talking. You think you're a submissive? Does that mean actively doing anything? Do you get off on taking orders, being degraded? Or does it mean you just want to lay there while I try to get us both off? Maybe if you're feeling generous you'll ride me for a bit or briefly go down on me. That's not sexy, that's perfunctory. If you want to devour my body like I want to devour yours then show it, don't just lay there and moan when I find the right spot. Use your body, try to devour mine. Grind the right spot against me. Breathlessly complimenting my performance after the act is nice but it's not the same thing. Is this internalised misogyny? Are they still clinging to the notion that women are supposed to be passive in bed, just be present to allow themselves to be serviced then judge the other's efforts and technique? Or is it the other way, the divine feminine is blessing me by allowing my unrepressed male sexuality to ravage her body? I'm being sexist - this can equally apply to many male submissives. Insecurity and laziness means you put the onus on someone else to make all the effort. Judge, lest you be judged. Being a selfish lover is not a kink, this is just using kink as an excuse. Equal division of labour, equal division of emotional labour and everything else - why doesn't that extend to the bedroom? |
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35695
>>35694 |
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>>35694 |
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>>35694 |
>> | No. 35698
35698
Come to think of it, I've also been asked before about what I like in bed and honestly I'm very vanilla. I don't really have a thing, I just like to be in charge, missionary is best and to have a lot of it. Maybe a nice cuddle and chat too. |
>> | No. 35699
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>>35697 |
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>>35699 |
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>>35700 |
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>>35701 |
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>>35702 |
>> | No. 35722
35722
Second date with the kink-curious lass lasted 26 hours and involved things you wouldn't normally do on a second date. Well beyond just vanilla sex but it didn't feel desperate or like either of us were being used, it was just sexy, safe and openly communicative. She's a good egg. |
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>>35722 |
>> | No. 35727
35727
Went on a strange date last night. The lass had only had two relationships in her life, once when she was 16 and then she met a man over the pandemic that she broke it off with because he wasn't making the effort. |
>> | No. 35728
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>>35727 |
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>>35727 |
>> | No. 35756
35756
You lot have any common lines to use when sending an opening message to a woman on dating apps? You' know when her profile doesn't really have anything to comment on. |
>> | No. 35757
35757
>>35756 |
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>>35756 |
>> | No. 35761
35761
I don't know why it is but I'm shit on Hinge, very rarely get matches, but I pretty regularly get them on Bumble, Tinder etc. Doesn't seem to make a difference if I like the picture or send a message or respond to one of those "would you rather things, I just really don't perform well on that app. |
>> | No. 35852
35852
I fucking hate knickers knacks as a gift. By virtue of my own love and respect I feel a need to keep and display them. But all they are is fucking junk. A way to misuse space. A curse bestowed on the other person to make sure they forever have clutter. |
>> | No. 35853
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>>35852 |
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>>35853 |
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>>35854 |
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>>35855 |
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>>35856 |
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>>35857 |
>> | No. 35864
35864
I'm thinking about getting some new pictures done for my dating profile but I can't think of a good 'action' picture. From my research you're supposed to have a picture of you doing an activity that shows you being interesting but it's winter, I'm not action man and I've got a face with a lovely personality attached to it. |
>> | No. 35865
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Bollocks to all that, how do I become catgirlnip? |
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>>35865 |
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>>35867 |
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>>35871 |
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>>35876 |
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swap.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >Kandi Raver |
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>>35879 |
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>>35878 |
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>>35876 |
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>>35879 |
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>>3588 b |
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>>35889 |
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Can we go back to complaining about how we keep getting rebuffed on Hinge by fat lasses who look like our sister? Cheers m8 thanks m8 bye. |
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>>35891 |
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>>35892 |
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>>35890 |
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>>35894 |
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Fuckin pair of you, give it a rest, jesus. I'm embarrassed for you now. |
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>>35864 |
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>>35896 |
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35906
Been maintaining a nonchalant distance but tempted to throw my lot in with maladaptive obsessiveness and pretend I'm being romantic. The sheer nerve of these bints who don't instantly reply! |
>> | No. 35993
35993
Hypothetically, if I turn gay and be the bottom, do I then get to be the one who puts zero effort in and has everything done for me on the basis that I might let them stick it in me at some point? |
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>>35993 |
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36060
Cat girl fancier here. I think I might have finally found someone with too many red flags even for me. Just came out and abusive relationship, Non binary PTSD tattooist with a face full of peircings, low self esteem, chronic health conditions, integrates meme phrases into normal conversations, over shares about their suffering like it was a hobby and violates the half your age plus 7 rule. |
>> | No. 36063
36063
I think a lass is trying to slowly ghost me which is, well she can fuck off because I'm a catch, but I have one of my favourite t-shirts over at her place that I've had for 10 years. |
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>>36063 |
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>>36065 |
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>>36064 |
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Update: I'd asked on Monday to meet and she gave me Wednesday, without a time. But now on Tuesday evening I get |
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>>36074 |
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>>36074 |
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>>36079 |
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Untitled.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() T-shirtgate is nearly over. For fucks sake, why couldn't she have just sent a text at literally any point rather than dragging this out? Why would I want to go on a non-date? |
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>>36081 |
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I don't want to wade in to yet another gender debate, but I will say that I'm old enough to have female friends who complain that they're becoming "invisible" in middle-age. By some coincidence, those women all used to be thin and conventionally attractive. |
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>>36098 |
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>>36099 |
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>>36097>>36102 |
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>>36104 |
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>>36106 |
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>>36107 |
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Side rant. I hate the argument being presented here of "you need better friends". Regularly in life I am making the most of the people around me without being overly critical of them: Sure they are flawed. But it isn't like there is a collection of truly wonderful people I've deliberately skipped over. |
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>>36110 |
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>>36109 |
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>>36113 |
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>>36114 |
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Longstandingissueslad is projecting again is he? |
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>>36117 |
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>>36118 |
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>>36117 |
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>>36120 |
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Just so we're clear I'm Feminazilad, and nothing to do with Longstandingissueslad. Death to moids and all that, never mind this "friendship" nonsense. |
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>>36120 |
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>>36122 |
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I've started seeing two women. |
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>>36150 |
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>>36150 |
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>>36151 |
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>>36152 |
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This is definitely drifting into /emo/ territory but I've been talking to a girl who used to date a friend, she is very attractive shared some interest with me. No sexual spark. When she starts opening up about her trauma and vulnerability suddenly I have a boner for her. |
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>>36183 |
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>>36183 |
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>>36183 |
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36195
I hit it off with a younger lass in a pub and slid into her DMs, inviting her out to go see a specific old movie we talked about. She was totally into it but the only screening was 3 weeks away, so I suggested meeting up for a drink a lot sooner than that (strike while the iron's hot innit). Ghost town afterwards. She was enthusiastic about going to see the movie so I'm curious if inviting her out for a drink made her realise that my interest was beyond platonic, hence the ghosting (asking her out to see a movie should've made it obvious but I dunno, Gen Zs seem bit retarded). It's either that or my attempt at parlaying things into a drinks date was too clumsy or eager. I should probably get on the apps where all this malarkey is a bit less murky. |
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36196
>>36195 |
>> | No. 36198
36198
I don't think I'll date a Japanese lass again. The one I recently broke it off with had an advanced degree in English and was working in this country but even ordering at a restaurant was difficult for her and when I probed into her favourite book to get some depth it was Never Let Me Go which, while yes a book, raises some questions and ultimately it's always the same problem that you can't get any depth due to the language barrier. The Japanese propensity for coming out with odd new forms of racism is refreshing though, they believe that we don't wash our ears and that Japanese people have terrible night vision. And they make this noise to express curious surprise... I'll probably date a Japanese lass again. |
>> | No. 36203
36203
Scenario 1: bird is physically fit but mentally shit |
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>>36203 |
>> | No. 36206
36206
Someone recommend that I try Breeze as the next big dating app. I don't like it, the gimmick is that you get a set number of matches at 7pm and then if you both swipe on each other you select your availability and the app organises a first date. |
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>>36203 |
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>>36206 |
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>>36206 |
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36221
One of the problems with dating in London is that a lot of people feel like an entirely different economic class to me and their lives are so far removed from my experiance. They might like me but I don't see how I'm supposed to have a relationship with someone who travels the world on a whim and spends an entire month in the tropics in January because she doesn't like the weather. |
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>>36221 |
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>>36209 |
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36254
Non-Llama Feel.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() I went on a second date with an amazing woman and everything went wrong. I got a message an hour before that the cocktail bar had been booked for a private event, my backup was an interesting one I saw on google maps that had been taken over, the restaurant was unimpressive, the garden walk turned out to be closed and the art exhibition too when we finally got to them. Eventually she just said she had a bit of work to do and left. I guess I'll try with a proposal for a third date tomorrow morning, acknowledging that it's gone wrong and I'm coming with an exciting new plan. Fuck all chance though. |
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>>36254 |
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>>36258 |
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>>36258 |
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>>36258 |
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options.png ![]() ![]() ![]() >>36261 |
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>>36259 |
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>>36259 |
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>>36265 |
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36270
I keep going on the apps when I've had a few drinks and a bit of charlie, and I'll have a few good conversations with promising matches that seem to be going somewhere.The trouble being that these connections inevitably fizzle out over the next couple of days and never go anywhere, because I just can't be arsed like I could when I was buzzed. |
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>>36270 |
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36274
SGqQOId.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() When you find yourself a nice cocktail bar/pub for some easy first dates and then the barman starts acknowledging you as a regular. For fucks sake man, play the game. |
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>>36274 |
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>>36275 |
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>>36254 |
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>>36278 |
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>>36279 |
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>>36280 |
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>>36280 |
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>>36282 |
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>>36279 |
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36296
What's the deal with dating apps and users alternating between feast and famine? I feel like I'm just firing messages off into a void at the moment where a few weeks back I was getting annoyed at the attention. I have a feeling it's an algorithm doing it which might suggest I make a fake second account to fire messages back and forth with so I'm logged as getting engagement. |
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>>36296 |
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>>36297 |
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36328
Yesterday I went out with a woman who complained about the cocktail bar's unique glasses the whole time and once I got her talking she had a terrible vibe about her that she'd just suck your entire life out of your body with tedium. For example it says that I'm atheist on my dating profile which I assume is why she came out with a story of going on a date with a Christian man and fobbing him off immediately because she 'doesn't believe in organised religion' to impress me, I mean fair enough but why do I care about that? I appreciate the irony |
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>>36298 |
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36339
People say that dating apps don't work but they can't get off them. It's a problem that gets to the heart of moving from a curated digital world back into a more organic, human one. The problem with real life though is that a lot of the rules are unwritten, and the fear of being seen as a "creep" has, paradoxically, made men more hesitant and left some women feeling invisible. |
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>>36339 |
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>>36340 |
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>>36341 |
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>>36343 |
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>>36342 |
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>>36345 |
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>>36353 |
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36359
I grow ever more weary of the way it's seemingly acceptable and normal for women to engage in narcissistic headgames. |
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>>36359 |
>> | No. 36362
36362
image_2025-06-15_110505812.png ![]() ![]() ![]() This isn't a dating moan so much as a friendship moan: I worked with a nice girl in about 2016. She was married. She seemed to quickly warm to me and we became friends, talking about life and confiding about how shit the office was. As things went on, I got the sense that she was trying a bit too hard to force emotional conversations and that she saw me as some sort of backup boyfriend, which I just wasn't interested in. At one point she tried to express her "feelings" for me, and I remember it seeming off and not really believing her. I told her that the feelings weren't reciprocated, and besides, she was married. Things soured at some point when she said something I found insensitive, exactly that kind of headgame otherlad describes, which I suspect was to see whether I cared or if she could get under my skin. |
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>>36360 |
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36366
Currently wasting away the supposed prime(?) of my early 30s living with my ex, so dating is not an option. Can't help but feel if/when I can date again I'll be left with slim pickings - surely any decent woman my age will already be taken? |
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>>36363 |
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>>36366 |
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>>36366 |
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>>36374 |
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36419
I've tipped back from famine into feast and it's quite stressful to now have to plan multiple dates this week. There must be a pattern to this stuff. |
>> | No. 36420
36420
Theoretical question - I'm in my thirties, and I'm in a ten year relationship. If my wife were to die tomorrow (I won't kill her), and in six months I hit the dating scene, would me having been in a ten year+ relationship including marriage help or hinder me on the dating scene? Do bitches love a divorcee or widower? |
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>>36420 |
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>>36420 |
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>>36420 |
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>>36425 |
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>>36426 |
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36450
I see a lot of thought has gone into advising the guy who likes to think about all the shagging he could get up to if only his wife wasn't still knocking about. |
>> | No. 36451
36451
I went out with a woman last night and I thought we had a great time, we ended up kissing a lot, talked about future dates, life plans, our past and it took us ages to say goodbye. We were just going for dinner originally but ended up spending 5 hours talking and sat in a nearby park. I sent a follow up message this morning and it was left unread, did the profile picture zoom trick and it turns out she's deleted my contact and she's gone from the dating app too. |
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>>36451 |
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>>36455 |
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>>36451 |
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>>36458 |
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>>36459 |
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36466
I'm feeling a little frustrated with the woman I'm seeing. She wants to start a family - okay, if it'll make her happy. But she wants to do it exactly her way, cohabiting immediately which means one of us moving. For me to move means giving up the career I've been working on, to a far smaller house with no privacy indoors or out. She could move to mine and continue her career, and I've suggested many compromises but she won't budge. Either I give her everything she wants her way, on her timetable, while she gives up nothing, or I'm a selfish bastard leading her on like her ex did. |
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>>36466 |
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>>36466 |
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>>36466 |
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>>36470 |
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>>36469 |
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>>36472 |
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>>36473 |
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36495
Do you ever say something to a woman and just instantly watch even the most nascent hint of attraction leave her body? This isn't really a moan, more an observation. Nevertheless, if she asks what you're reading and it's Hitler's Last Gamble by Jacques Nobecourt, change the bloody subject. |
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GQNB4FSWwAAQzs0.jpg_large.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>36495 |
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>>36496 |
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>>36495 |
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>>36498 |
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>>36499 |
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>>36501 |
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>>36506 |
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>>36506 |
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Snoop.jpg ![]() ![]() ![]() >>36507 |
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>>36510 |
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>>36511 |
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>>36511 |
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36514
An attractive woman has set up a coffee stand in a local park I have to walk through on the way to work. The coffee is overpriced so I try to avoid it but she's already got me once before where I realised I basically had nothing to talk to her about as she made my coffee. This morning she smiled and said hello to me, I was already running late for work but I'd probably have been her best customer of the day if I wasn't. |
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>>36510 |
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>>36514 |
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The difference won't make much sense unless y you saw the rumeo trouble. |
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>>36515 |
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>>36520 |
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>>36521 |
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>>36521 |
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>>36520 |
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>>36523 |
>> | No. 36527
36527
A mediterranean m8 of mine plays the numbers game. He constantly approaches women outside of the traditional contexts of pubs and clubs (e.g. when we're just walking somewhere, in shops, public transport, or in a museum) and says stuff like "hey I think you're really cute blahblahblah I'd like to get to know you better, can I get your instagram or number". Nine times out of ten he fails but he does it so often that it works out for him. |
>> | No. 36530
36530
I was organising a date with a woman over an app, she said she was happy to go out but is organising her brother's birthday party so we'd have to find a time around that. I said not to worry and to feel free to prioritise family over some stranger on an app, but said I could be flexible outside of tomorrow or Tuesday so to let me know if there's an evening free later in the week where we could go for a dinner date. |
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>>36527 |
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>>36530 |
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