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>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 30404 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 6:45 pm
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I enjoy solitude too much. For as long as I can remember I've preferred being alone, keeping to short sentences whenever anybody makes an effort to be my friend. Now I'm in my late 20s and have nothing going on in my life except work. Pre-pandemic I'd go to the cinema but I was kind of stuck on ideas on what else to do by myself besides work. Now the cinemas are shut so I've got nothing else going on. Even video games don't cut it anymore.
>> No. 30408 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 8:34 pm
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>>30404

Try hobbies that err on the side of creativity and expression rather than consumption.

There's nothing wrong with taking in a film or piece of music or whatever, but if you can begin creating films or participating in the culture surrounding film (even if only virtually for the moment) you can be as solitary or as social about it as you like. There are lots of people looking to collaborate on their creative hobbies, and even if you're more of a film critic most people enjoy bouncing ideas off others.

Failing that, there's all sorts of other projects you can take up depending on your interests, but I've a feeling your problem may have more to it than a lack of ideas.
>> No. 30409 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 9:33 pm
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>>30408

I've said this before, but learn to crochet. It's piss-easy and it turns you into an instant fanny magnet.

Also get a dog. A cute one.
>> No. 30410 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 9:42 pm
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>>30409

I don't disbelieve you, but I am interested in the logic behind it.

I've learned that nobody, women or otherwise, care about my main hobbies of car collecting/restoration/maintenance, woodworking, and electronics. But show a woman that you have like five houseplants or know how to make a casserole, and her knickers don't even make it past the front door.
>> No. 30411 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 10:34 pm
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I was off sick with depression most of January, triggering work to invite me to a performance review. The anxiety I'm feeling because of that, combined with worsening of depression and the fuckery of changing medications, has made me get signed off for the rest of February. I feel like I'm going to lose my job, and if I do my life will be over.
>> No. 30412 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 10:51 pm
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>>30410

I dunno m8. I think it implies that you're sensitive but have the confidence in your masculinity to do something traditionally feminine. You could probably spin some kind of cod evolutionary psychology argument - facial symmetry and a powerful physique imply that you've got high-quality sperm, but if you haven't got that then you can at least imply that you'd be a nurturing father.

It might just be the novelty though, like how blokes get over-excited if a woman shows an interest in traditionally masculine pursuits or does the manic pixie dream girl thing. You don't want to look boring, but you also don't want to look like a dangerous nutter. There's probably a sweet spot between being boyfriend material and gay best friend material. I'm more of an empiricist than a rationalist and I suspect that our software is just full of weird bugs that don't necessarily make any kind of sense.
>> No. 30413 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 10:53 pm
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>>30411
Are you in a union?
>> No. 30414 Anonymous
16th February 2021
Tuesday 10:59 pm
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>>30413
Yes, I'm trying to get in touch with the local rep, emailed them at the weekend and still not heard anything.
>> No. 30428 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 10:36 am
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Thanks to lockdowns I haven't met a person I feel physically attracted to in months. It has created a weird frustration within me.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ljm9CDRAhMQ
>> No. 30429 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 3:05 pm
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>>30428

When all this is over, there's going to be a really weird phase where everyone will be incredibly horny but with totally atrophied social skills. It'll be like being fifteen again.

Also:


>> No. 30430 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 7:59 pm
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>>30429
> When all this is over, there's going to be a really weird phase where everyone will be incredibly horny

Remember this time last year when we all thought that it'd all be over by summer and we'd all be fucking like rabbits once the all clear was given?

On the plus side maybe there's a market for Face Johnnies. Strawberry flavoured face masks - ribbed for her total fucking horror. Or maybe you could put other peoples' faces on then so I could imagine I was pumping a Gillian Anderson and she could be gazing up at the face of Ashton Kutcher or whoever women think is attractive in this foul year of our lord.
>> No. 30432 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 8:20 pm
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>>30408
>You can begin creating .. or participating in the culture surrounding
>There are lots of people looking to collaborate on their creative hobbies

This is very much apparent across creative subcultures on Youtube - they sometimes even send gifts between channel operators as a form of content.
How would you break into such groups - simply start contributing and wait for recognition, or actively seek to network and put your work in view? There must be an affective medium between the two.
>> No. 30433 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 9:53 pm
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I started reading Frankie Boyle's "new" book this morning and got to the part on the fifth page of the introduction where he said "Perhaps the prospect of meeting your end in an epidemic is different when you have comprehensively fucked your own life up; part of me thinks that if I die now, I can call this thing a draw." and never even made it to chapter one because I had to go back to bed and waste away another Sunday in the dozy comfort that out there is at least one other cunt who understands who utterly fucking miserable I am.
>> No. 30435 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 10:23 pm
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>>30429
As a lifelong spergic virgin (spergin?) whose social skills never really advanced past that of your average fifteen-year-old, part of me hopes this will come true - finally, people whose standards are low enough! I'm not getting my hopes up, though, especially if it's a slow and steady opening up.
>> No. 30436 Anonymous
21st February 2021
Sunday 11:34 pm
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>>30430
>Remember this time last year when we all thought that it'd all be over by summer and we'd all be fucking like rabbits once the all clear was given?

I think a lot of people just started bonking anyway. Much as the government and press have completely failed to explain how dating actually works in each iteration of the rules beyond 'do videocalls' like we're living in a religious free school.

>>30435
Don't worry, most people never progressed past fifteen even before the pandemic hit.

>> No. 30437 Anonymous
22nd February 2021
Monday 12:07 am
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>>30436

I think I loved that video. Thank you.
>> No. 30451 Anonymous
23rd February 2021
Tuesday 10:23 am
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Im 33 and a lad from my year in school died over the weekend. I haven't heard the cause yet, but if it was by his own hand that'd make him the second lad from my year in school to do so in a six month period. Pretty bleak.

I hope you are all taking care if yourselves. This year has been rough, but we are close to moving past it and relegating covid to be just a crappy memory
>> No. 30463 Anonymous
23rd February 2021
Tuesday 3:23 pm
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>>30436
>Don't worry, most people never progressed past fifteen even before the pandemic hit.

Does that mean I never passed 10?
>> No. 30465 Anonymous
24th February 2021
Wednesday 11:47 pm
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Just no desire to do even the most basic things anymore, I feel constantly bereft.
>> No. 30466 Anonymous
24th February 2021
Wednesday 11:51 pm
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The only way out is revolution or war. So the only question left is, which side are you on?
>> No. 30467 Anonymous
24th February 2021
Wednesday 11:55 pm
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>>30466
Your first mistake was believing we were ever getting out.
>> No. 30468 Anonymous
25th February 2021
Thursday 12:25 am
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>>30467
I never said the dirty fucking hippies would win, I just said that they were right.
>> No. 30473 Anonymous
27th February 2021
Saturday 4:25 pm
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I recognise that this is just a load of buts and the answer is simply to go sit outside and get used to it, but i'm really anxious about going out at the moment because the weather is nice there are a lot of attractive people about wearing pretty clothes.

Being fat adds an element of shame but it's like this every fucking year regardless.
>> No. 30474 Anonymous
27th February 2021
Saturday 11:24 pm
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Do you ever come across people that are so sweet and kindhearted that it makes you feel bad? As in they're just so absolutely unprotected by their very core being from all the horrible shite in the world that it pains you that they have to experience it anyway?
>> No. 30478 Anonymous
28th February 2021
Sunday 8:30 am
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>>30474
I wonder how they manage it.
>> No. 30479 Anonymous
28th February 2021
Sunday 10:31 am
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I've been pretty emotionally vulnerable lately, I can't decide if this is me losing my mind from isolation or if this is me healing enough that I can feel my emotional pain again.
>> No. 30495 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 6:34 pm
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Online dating is bad. I want to delete my accounts, but the coming opening of things and lack of any other options is holding me back. Hinge, which was my favourite, now puts the people it thinks I'm best matched with and puts them in a separate queue in which I'd have to pay a could of quid to message them, it's a cruel thing to do, really.

The lasses I end up talking to can almost never be bothered to put any effort into the conversation, and they often ghost, presumably when someone more attractive or interesting comes along.

I wonder if the constant flow of reminders of just how poorly I do on the open market, exactly how disposable I am, is going in on some subconscious level.
>> No. 30496 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 6:38 pm
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>>30479
I've honestly felt just the same lately, and I'm not really an emotionally vulnerable person. I think we're all suffering a bit.
>> No. 30497 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 6:55 pm
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>>30495
> Online dating is bad. I want to delete my accounts, but the coming opening of things and lack of any other options is holding me back.

It's always been a fucking wasteland but it's only got worse with the pandemic. Dating as whole is basically dead right now unless you're under twenty and think you're invincible or over fifty and can't wait to pop your clogs anyway and would rather do it with a wet knob.

The online part allows us to keep up the charade of being interested/involved/out there, but as no one's really wanting to actually meet up and do anything (and it's not like there's a fuck of a lot you could do anyway due to the various lockdowns and tier systems we've been through) it's all just turned into another version of "chat to a woman through an app until she gets bored". IDK about you lads but if that's the game we're playing I'd rather just go on some cam site and pay a pair of eastern European sisters £50 to piss on each other like what you see on efuckt and that.

> Hinge, which was my favourite, now puts the people it thinks I'm best matched with and puts them in a separate queue in which I'd have to pay a could of quid to message them, it's a cruel thing to do, really.

Tinder have been doing something similar for yonks. I have > 50 people who've liked me sitting behind a paywall. Oh and don't forget to buy tinder platinum so people actually see your likes if you've been on the app for more than a few months. At the end of the day they're bastard companies looking to make bastard money by being bastards.

> The lasses I end up talking to can almost never be bothered to put any effort into the conversation, and they often ghost, presumably when someone more attractive or interesting comes along.

I've said this before but this is the nature of dating apps in this foul year of our lord. You either get a date set up within a couple of days or things are just going to peter out; only with the current situation no one's doing any actual dating so things just peter out by default. It's not you, or me, or anyone else who's choosing to use dating apps at this current moment; it's just not going to work out.

I've never really used any of them but I think if I were looking to actually date seriously I'd probably try Match or e-harmony or whatever the actual paid for "serious dating" sites are. Apps are for hook-ups and hook-ups aren't happening right now. Leading ourselves on by chatting to a lass for a couple of days only to get inevitably ignored probably isn't doing any of us any good.

Sage for a good old proper ramble.

>>30478
>>30496
Well, that's all three of us in the same boat then. Sigh.



I wonder if the constant flow of reminders of just how poorly I do on the open market, exactly how disposable I am, is going in on some subconscious level.
>> No. 30498 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 6:59 pm
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I recently saw ThatGirl-I-Like™ having a photo taken of herself posing with a park statue. The thought that she might be creating a dating profile picture hurt, but even more was the realisation that if I created one too - and by some chance our accounts met - I would feel such shame and embarassment to have even put myself before her.

I have a stack of wood and enough tools to start doing something with time. I have used enough excuses not to. If I make only a bench or table, that could get the ball rolling onto better skills and greater self esteme.
>> No. 30499 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 8:01 pm
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>>30495
>Hinge, which was my favourite, now puts the people it thinks I'm best matched with and puts them in a separate queue in which I'd have to pay a could of quid to message them

You what? My Hinge does nothing of the sort and the algorithm is clearly bollocks so you would never pay for it. If Hinge has changed for you then it's obviously marked you as a soppy bollocks to fleece. Delete for your own good and take your rage out by repetitively lifting heavy objects, getting a hobby and making pulling your spud a bit more special by going the extra mile.

As for the rest, just get Bumble and have the lass open with "hey" or a shit pick-up line rather than you putting initial effort in - sounds like what you need anyway and if she's an accidental swipe you will still get an ego boost.

>>30479
>>30496
>>30497
You're feeling down because February is the shittest month of the year with the winter and general tedium. It's Spring now and we have those bank holidays coming up. It'll get better.

>>30498
Have you tried talking to her?
>> No. 30500 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 8:21 pm
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>>30499
> It's Spring now and we have those bank holidays coming up. It'll get better.

Not to be a contrary cunt but a bunch of spring bank holidays under lockdown or whatever "no pubs and no mates in the park" tier they throw us in just doesn't sound like a whole bundle of laughs.

We'll either get through this or we'll die, but until then it's going to be a whole lot of waiting around. People have been wondering why chess has spiked in popularity recently, but along with cryptic crosswords it's something that everyone doing more than a couple of years gets into while doing time. We're essentially a global population on a Cat-B regime, we'll be all be reading war and peace soon enough.
>> No. 30501 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 8:45 pm
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>>30499
>My Hinge does nothing of the sort
Yes it does, You're just not paying attention. Press the star on the bottom row.

>and the algorithm is clearly bollocks so you would never pay for it.
It's the spirit of it that I'm opposed to.

>take your rage out by repetitively lifting heavy objects
I can't. The gym is closed.
>> No. 30502 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 9:20 pm
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>>30501
It's such a shame that no heavy objects exist anywhere but the gym, except for the ones glued to the ground.
>> No. 30503 Anonymous
1st March 2021
Monday 11:16 pm
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Almost experienced hope, but it was... NO! I DID A TYPO! FUCK OFF BRAIN! I'm still doomed, but I'm not going to try because I misspelt the name of a writer who's been dead for four-hundred years.

I'm sorry if this post reads as contrived, but that was all real time, honest.
>> No. 30508 Anonymous
4th March 2021
Thursday 2:14 pm
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I am never going to have sex.
>> No. 30509 Anonymous
4th March 2021
Thursday 2:29 pm
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>>30508
You can pay people who are very nice and make you feel comfortable about the whole thing to have sex with you. That wont fix the reason why you're miserable though.

Humans crave human interaction and companionship, most people can't function properly without it.
>> No. 30510 Anonymous
4th March 2021
Thursday 2:46 pm
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>>30509
I never said it would stop me being miserable, but it is rather the mark of someone who has not made the most out of life. When Napoleon was my age he was giving the Austrians and their allies a hiding in Italy.

>Humans crave human interaction and companionship, most people can't function properly without it.
Oh, I'm well aware.
>> No. 30511 Anonymous
4th March 2021
Thursday 3:08 pm
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>>30510

When then bang a prossy as other lad said, unless there is a more emotionally meaningful component you care about that you have failed to allude to.
>> No. 30512 Anonymous
4th March 2021
Thursday 3:08 pm
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>>30511

*well then
>> No. 30514 Anonymous
4th March 2021
Thursday 5:39 pm
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>>30513
Utter rage at not being able to delete my own botched-quote posts.
>> No. 30515 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 1:08 am
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>>30509
>>30511
I would advise against this. You probably won't get your pecker hard, it will be awkward for the both of you and it won't solve the deeper issues that makes you a virgin. I speak from experience when I tell you to find a girl who will have you and which you can plough one morning - she might not even be able to tell, the first time two people have sex it is usually awkward and there's not much to 'get'.

Work out what's going wrong - unemployment, lack of risk taking, poor character, bad fashion. Fix that, to be honest so long as you have a job then Earth girls are easy.

>I can't

Then get some guy friends at least. A man needs his boys.
All of this being after the plague passes
>> No. 30516 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 2:03 am
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>>30515
There are escorts who specialise in taking people's virginity and they enjoy what they do and are practised hands at putting people at ease.

You don't walk in, she demands you disrobe, and then get timed with a stop watch till your time is up. It's a lot more holistic. People who have hang ups over virginity tend to have hang ups over sexuality itself, they know that.
>> No. 30517 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 9:06 am
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>>30510

>When Napoleon was my age he was giving the Austrians and their allies a hiding in Italy.

It's probably these kinds of idioms stopping you getting laid, m8.

Try more like "when Lemmy Kilmister was my age he was getting arrested by Canadian border police on drug charges".
>> No. 30518 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 9:11 am
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>>30517
That or find a bird who's really into Peep Show.
>> No. 30519 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 10:20 am
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>>30518

Everyone is into Peep Show, hardly makes for a good partner.
>> No. 30520 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 10:50 am
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>>30519
You reminded me of my suspicion of people who bring up they have never seen star wars like an achievement, what are they trying to prove?
>> No. 30521 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 11:42 am
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>>30520
That they haven't been tainted by low-brow mainstream culture. They probably read history books and encyclopedias.
>> No. 30522 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 12:03 pm
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>>30521
>That they haven't been tainted by low-brow mainstream culture. They probably read history books and encyclopedias.

Once again the arch villain of britfa.gs strawman strikes.
There is nothing wrong with not liking something even with mass appeal, I don't think I've ever watched a full episode of a soap opera when I wasn't forced to. But that is different from making it your personality to be purposefully contrarian (I don't bring it up like it is some sort of victory). And I doubt highly the kind of person who I think about blurting this info out after they have had a few too many Weatherspoon cocktail pitchers is really the intelligentsia, who is just too good for it.

What I am getting at here, is similar to your one 'gay friend' in the 90s, or the internet atheist of 00s, or the cliché vegan. The person who didn't happen to be those things, but made it their entire persona in a weird over compensation.
>> No. 30523 Anonymous
5th March 2021
Friday 2:22 pm
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>>30521

Amusingly, isn't there an episode of Peep Show about this, but Ghostbusters instead of Star Wars?

Other lad is right now. The most intelligent and accomplished person I know spends most of his time watching cartoons. He is a bit weird though.

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