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>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 27529 Anonymous
14th October 2018
Sunday 5:55 pm
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Can you recommend a DIY recipe for anal bleach? It's something I've wanted to try for a while but I don't trust the stuff they sell in gayshops.
>> No. 27530 Anonymous
14th October 2018
Sunday 6:37 pm
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>> No. 27531 Anonymous
14th October 2018
Sunday 7:10 pm
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I would have thought they were one of the most trustworthy places to buy it.
>> No. 27532 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 12:31 pm
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In all honesty >>27528 does have a point regarding teeth whitening.
>> No. 27533 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 6:27 pm
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> Why would you spend all that money on drilling and capping and filling to rescue your poor teeth and then weaken them with elective bleaching?

I wasn't really aware that bleaching your teeth weakens them in any way, so that's interesting to know. I'm more-or-less religious about my mouth guard now but there's always a day where you're late and you forget the bugger in the freezer and if one of those days coincides with a day where some lemon really lamps me one then I don't want my teeth weakened.

Honestly my teeth are not that bad colour wise, it's more one broken tooth and a couple of chipped ones (plus a couple that are going to need root canals sooner or later), and I'm not looking to end up looking like a male model or anything. I'd just like to get my teeth a couple of shades lighter. Are there any options for that that don't envolve severely weakening your teeth?
>> No. 27534 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 6:36 pm
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It weakens them in the same way stone cleaning damages statues. I wouldn't be too concerned really.
>> No. 27535 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 6:49 pm
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Brush your teeth more often, maybe use a charcoal toothpaste. Completely cut out coffee, tea (black or green), red or white wine (yeah believe it or not white wine also stains your teeth but not to the extent red does, got that one directly from my dentist), smoking and cola. Cut out fruit juices or anything acidic really, including tomatoes and tomato-based meals. Or start self-tanning and by comparison, the natural colour of your teeth will seem whiter. I'd suggest just learning to live with the colour and really focus on fixing the broken ones. You mention that some may need root canals one day and there's some research that suggests whitening procedures affects the quality of the living pulp in the teeth and is associated with increased likelihood of extraction, if that at all sways you. One day you'll be old enough to appreciate function over form as you'll have stopped giving any fucks about your appearance round about when your nose hair starts growing beyond the ends of your nostrils, and then you'll be glad you can still chew things.

Is stone cleaning achieved with peroxide? Actually please don't bother answering me as I'm clearly on a dental health related crusade and have gone too far to stop now. I'm just not sure why anyone would unnecessarily get anything oxidative inside their mouths. Stop putting bleach on your feckin teeth you spiv.
>> No. 27536 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 6:56 pm
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Not him but I had to buy a nose hair trimmer at 26.
And don't get me started on my ears.
>> No. 27537 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 7:08 pm
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By any chance are you also balding or do you have the start of a receding hairline, but still have to shave most days?
>> No. 27538 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 7:41 pm
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It's a little thinner at the temples than it used to be, but my actual hairline is the same as when I was 18. I've not got a particularly thick or full beard either.
I've just inherited the gene off my granddad that makes birds-nests grow out of your ears and nose.
>> No. 27539 Anonymous
15th October 2018
Monday 10:03 pm
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Not him but I fit that description.

I take solace in the fact that I look good bald with a big beard.
>> No. 27540 Anonymous
16th October 2018
Tuesday 3:14 am
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Bleach on your teeth may be less harmful than charcoal toothpaste. That stuff is like sandpaper, but toothpaste. That's not healthy.
>> No. 27541 Anonymous
16th October 2018
Tuesday 3:16 am
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I think the best looking bald people have some facial hair and glasses to balance it out, apart from the fact they all look the same, like Michael Stipe here.
>> No. 27542 Anonymous
16th October 2018
Tuesday 3:18 am
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I don't know why Neil Strauss is wearing glasses after he had laser treatment but it looks fine.
>> No. 27543 Anonymous
16th October 2018
Tuesday 3:19 am
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>> No. 27544 Anonymous
16th October 2018
Tuesday 10:51 am
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>apart from the fact they all look the same

I had considered that - but none of my friends are bald, and from now on I'll just be careful to never befriend or be seen with any other bald bloke (sorry purps), to avoid the comparison.

I don't wear glasses so that separates me from the moby, moby, moby, micheal stipe etc. of it all.
>> No. 27545 Anonymous
16th October 2018
Tuesday 11:39 am
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I thought that was the principal from community before reading your post.
>> No. 27546 Anonymous
18th October 2018
Thursday 1:21 pm
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28 years on this Earth and I have finally figured out how to deal with arseholes. It's so fucking simple I just never thought of it before...

Ask them about their dads. It's as simple as that. They crumble like a house of fucking cards. They won't bother you again. They'll just be done.

I have father issues myself but jesus, if someone is offering you unsolicited, brutally honest, "advice" this will knock em for six. If someone is moody and expects the world to just kind of fall in line... same deal. I literally asked my father about his father (a man he was once happy to tell me all about whilst beating and torturing me) and suddenly he had better things to do. It's so fucking easy I feel like it has to be a cheat somehow.
>> No. 27549 Anonymous
19th October 2018
Friday 1:13 pm
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Could you provide examples?
>> No. 27553 Anonymous
21st October 2018
Sunday 4:45 pm
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My girlfriend just tearfully told me she slept with someone while we were forced into a long-distance relationship for a couple of years. I told her I don't really care - in fact secretly I'd love an open relationship. Wondering how I can now use this to put that on the table.
>> No. 27554 Anonymous
21st October 2018
Sunday 5:23 pm
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Why haven't you suggested an open relationship up to now?
>> No. 27555 Anonymous
21st October 2018
Sunday 5:29 pm
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He didn't think she was open to it.
>> No. 27556 Anonymous
21st October 2018
Sunday 6:34 pm
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The problem is, since she clearly is in the mindset that "sleeping with other people = bad", I would have to assume that she would very much care if you shagged someone else.

I think the only real way to do this is to outright tell her you think the best way forward for the relationship is an open one. You really need to get this conversation out of the way eventually if it's what you truly want. If it's just a fleeting fantasy then I wouldn't bother, as you do risk weakening the relationship in her eyes. But if she thinks that way, maybe it's for the best.
>> No. 27557 Anonymous
22nd October 2018
Monday 12:45 pm
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I didn't stop drinking all night, ended up on the mind website but I couldn't stop myself from crying hysterically for long enough to make a coherent phone call. I should call my psychiatrist.
>> No. 27558 Anonymous
22nd October 2018
Monday 1:33 pm
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Yeah you should do that.
>> No. 27559 Anonymous
23rd October 2018
Tuesday 7:53 pm
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The thing is, I did. At the beginning I told her long-distance relationships are well-documented as difficult, and we should be able to freely date other people until we are together again. And she reluctantly agreed, so I started seeing other people. Eventually however she said she wanted to stop it and for us to be "fully committed" to each other. Now this has happened, and only a couple of weeks before we were together again. It's out of the blue and goes against everything she said before. And it is kind of why I think I might be able to convince her it is healthy for us to have sex lives that aren't necessarily exclusive to each other if I talk to her about it again.

At this point you lads probably think I'm being played for a sucker. But she isn't like that, she was genuinely terrified about confessing to me and thinks I'm weird for being alright with it.
>> No. 27560 Anonymous
23rd October 2018
Tuesday 10:02 pm
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>At this point you lads probably think I'm being played for a sucker.

Not necessarily, but I've certainly heard "But she isn't like that" a large number of times, and it's very rarely accurate.

>she was genuinely terrified about confessing to me and thinks I'm weird for being alright with it.

Well, this is my point - regardless of your feelings on the matter, the fact is she, from her perspective, betrayed you in what obviously feels like a major way to her. She's betrayed your trust whether or not you're actually okay with it. It's up to you to decide whether that matters or not, but to me it would be a concern.
>> No. 27561 Anonymous
24th October 2018
Wednesday 8:16 am
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She'd forgive me the same. We've been under a lot of pressure.
>> No. 27625 Anonymous
30th October 2018
Tuesday 5:21 pm
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Psychiatrist is refusing to allow me to go back on a medication I stopped because he thinks my depression and anxiety, which have both got markedly worse since I came off the medication, is just my normal personality. Considering going to the GP and getting them to prescribe me it, as it was working before the psychiatrist told them to take me off it.
>> No. 27630 Anonymous
30th October 2018
Tuesday 11:01 pm
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six years of mental health experience lad here; what were you on, how long were you on it, and were you pulled off cold turkey?

I've yet to meet a psychiatrist who wants to give you *less* drugs. They do usually want to switch you from the fun and additive pills to the not-fun and addictive pills, though.

E.g. Mine is currently using quietapine in order to reduce my night time dose of clonazepam and then doubled the dose because my blood lithium levels came back dangerously high and put me back on a dose that had previously left me with a low blood lithium level. Sigh.

Just give me a big fat pile of signed undated prescriptions for valium and I won't bother you until next year stop making everything so fucking complicated you human spunk bucket.
>> No. 27633 Anonymous
31st October 2018
Wednesday 8:16 pm
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She fears that you would OD, and that those signed undated prescription slips would give her a lot of legal headaches.
>> No. 27635 Anonymous
1st November 2018
Thursday 12:55 am
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I've been diagnosed as suicidal twice and had to in and pick up my meds weekly.

People who are really liable to commit suicide are under the care of a "crisis team" and they will literally come to your house and hold your nose until you swallow ( like in face fucking porn but less enjoyable).

I've experienced this oncee at a psych unit where I was held on a preliminary (they didn't have have a pdoc to assess me) Section 13 until they had to let me go because their "holding time" was up.
>> No. 27636 Anonymous
1st November 2018
Thursday 1:39 am
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>and they will literally come to your house and hold your nose until you swallow

Fucking hell. That would not make me feel much better
>> No. 27637 Anonymous
1st November 2018
Thursday 2:45 am
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Ironically, once the pills kick in all your grandiose thoughts about suing the NHS just happily dissolve.

If one were like Alice, one might think it all a conspiracy.
>> No. 27670 Anonymous
3rd November 2018
Saturday 2:47 am
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I think I need new friends. Like, a totally new social circle without any of the baggage of my current one. We haven't fallen out, but various recent events and circumstances make me think it'd be better for my mental health if I could move on and keep different company.

Where do I even start? My work colleagues have a pretty close relationship, but I kind of feel like that doesn't count.
>> No. 27671 Anonymous
3rd November 2018
Saturday 9:23 am
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Join clubs related to you interests www.meetup.com
>> No. 27672 Anonymous
3rd November 2018
Saturday 9:26 am
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Go and do a thing with other people, get to know some of them, invite a group of them to the pub afterwards, start a WhatsApp group. The world is full of people in a similar boat. You can find loads of things to do on Meetup. Most universities and FE colleges run casual evening classes in a variety of subjects.


If you have a history of mental health problems, I'd highly recommend trying a support group. It can be a slightly weird experience, but it can also be an enormous relief to take off the mask for a bit. I'll never forget the feeling of making a group of fellow mentaloids roar with laughter about my most pathetic suicide attempt; the most shameful chapter of my life had finally become just a funny anecdote, at least in that room. MIND have a directory of peer support groups on their website.

>> No. 27673 Anonymous
3rd November 2018
Saturday 11:07 am
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Since when has the casual pursuit of formal adult education been acceptable around here?
>> No. 27674 Anonymous
3rd November 2018
Saturday 11:16 am
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>> No. 27675 Anonymous
3rd November 2018
Saturday 11:52 am
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An N7 is by far the best qualification you can attain.
>> No. 27698 Anonymous
5th November 2018
Monday 11:11 am
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I had the most wonderfully sordid activity planned out with an attractive young lady I was chatting to on an online dating site and then her account disappears entirely. I'm not sure if she got cold feet and blocked me, if she was cat fishing and decided to block me/was banned.

Regardless it is a terrible shame when you get all excited and are really looking forward something and it brightens up your entire day and then it is just snatched away from you. I'm trying to focus on how good the anticipation felt, but this pisses on my corn flakes.

We are but prostates to capricious gods, they tease us and shove things up our arses for their amusement.
>> No. 27727 Anonymous
10th November 2018
Saturday 3:37 pm
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What's the next step down from suicide? If topping yourself isn't an option, what can you do?
>> No. 27728 Anonymous
10th November 2018
Saturday 3:42 pm
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The traditional option would be to ruin your life entirely, either with drink, drugs, complete social alienation or a mixture thereof. Then you're supposed to just drift away from society until they start ignoring you.

I wouldn't recommend it, though. What's making you feel the way that you do?
>> No. 27729 Anonymous
10th November 2018
Saturday 3:47 pm
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>Then you're supposed to just drift away from society until they start ignoring you.

I'm sort of there already. I've failed at everything I've ever bothered attempting, got no mates left, not that there were many to begin with, I'm increasingly paralyzed by anxieties and insecurities and I have £1.99 in my bank account. Needless to say I'm unemployed too. I'm just sort of over the whole "trying to sort things out" shit, because I can't and I won't and who even cares if I do?
>> No. 27741 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 1:59 pm
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Been to visit the family this weekend. Within 5 minutes of arriving they commented on my weight loss (I used to be obese, now I am just overweight), which is fair enough, but they made me weigh myself so they could see how much I weigh, which made me uncomfortable. Then every meal I ate over the weekend they'd be saying stuff like "careful with that, you might get back to 20 stone again" and shit like that. It's just unnecessary and I don't see why they did it. I guess they think it's banter, but it is something I'm quite sensitive about (and something which is difficult to control considering I'm on two medications that cause weight gain).
>> No. 27742 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 2:14 pm
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>they made me weigh myself

How does this happen? Next time you tell them to fuck off at this point. If talking you into weighing yourself is just banter then so is changing the subject to Auntie Sheila's drinking or cousin Dave's affair or whatever. I don't expect it to go well but if this is what you have to put up with you have nothing to lose.
>> No. 27743 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 5:25 pm
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It bothers me slightly that even though I barely know her yet I'll never be able to listen to that song again for the rest of my life without thinking of her, and that even though we haven't broken up yet I can feel it coming in the missing words between the beats of her sentences.
>> No. 27744 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 6:44 pm
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Trust me, it won't be forever. Time heals all wounds.
>> No. 27745 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 7:29 pm
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Without begging for sympathy, there are girls from 15+ years ago that I still remember when I hear a song, or it's a certain month, or I remember a certain book, or author, or any of a dozen other things. I think it's just the way I'm wired.

If the third world war doesn't happen first, I'll be dieing alone in some shitty furnished flat, and this song will come on on the "golden oldies" radio station I leave on to keep the loneliness at bay, and I will remember her.
>> No. 27746 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 7:45 pm
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Better put in the effort to make the relationship work, then. That way when the song comes on, you can call her into the room to dance to it with you.

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