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>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 27267 Anonymous
7th August 2018
Tuesday 12:09 pm
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>>27266
How old are you?
>> No. 27268 Anonymous
7th August 2018
Tuesday 1:23 pm
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>>27267
23.
>> No. 27269 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 12:52 am
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>>27266

Sounds to me like your fustration is misdirecting because you don't know where you are going with it all and you feel like there is presure on you to know.

What is it do you like doing? there is nothing wrong with drifting for a while and dicking about as you make your mind up.
>> No. 27274 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 5:14 pm
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>>27268
That's very very young to have decided you have 'fucked everything up'. You genuinely have your whole life ahead of you.
>> No. 27275 Anonymous
8th August 2018
Wednesday 8:11 pm
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I can't stop myself from obsessing over mistakes I made half a year ago that have ruined my happiness and severely altered the course of my life since. I'm trying to get away from the people involved by starting a new job but probably I'm just turning my back on people who would support me. But I hardly care any more, just feels like I'm doomed to fuck everything up.
>> No. 27276 Anonymous
9th August 2018
Thursday 12:49 am
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>>27275

>I can't stop myself from obsessing over mistakes

That can genuinely be a sign of chemical imbalance.
>> No. 27277 Anonymous
9th August 2018
Thursday 2:20 am
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>>27268

That's exactly the age I was when I fucked up uni. I got a job about 6 months later, got good at it and now I'm 30 next year and could feasibly retire.

I realise I'm lucky but I too thought I'd ruined my life when I messed up uni. Far from it. Not to mention you can still get funding for another degree if you've only been there one year.
>> No. 27278 Anonymous
9th August 2018
Thursday 2:48 am
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>>27275

Do whatever makes you feel positive and optimistic about the future. If you sincerely believe that the people you're getting away from are a bad influence on your life, then you're entirely right to get away from them. If you're only breaking away from them because they remind you of unhappy thoughts or memories, you might want to think about how you could maintain a relationship with them on a more positive basis.

It might sound glib, but there's really no point in worrying about the past or beating yourself up for prior mistakes. It's clearly making you miserable and you can't go back in time and fix things. It might be more productive to try and learn from what happened to make positive changes in your life.

You can't stop yourself from thinking negative thoughts, but you can change how you think about those thoughts. You can remind yourself that they're just thoughts. They don't control you, they don't define you, they're not necessarily true, they're just electrical impulses in your brain. Next time you notice yourself having a negative thought, imagine that it's being said out loud by Donald Trump or Mr Bean. You'll probably notice that the thought seems a bit sillier and a bit less painful. That's a really important tool - you don't have to take your own thoughts seriously. You can learn to recognise the annoying little troll inside your brain and stop believing what he says.

We're all doomed to fuck some things up, but do you really think that you're doomed to fuck everything up? If you rack your brains, you can probably think of loads of things that you've succeeded at. They might not have been perfect triumphs, but you did them and a good thing happened as a result. If you've had successes in the past, it's highly likely that you'll have successes in the future, even if you might fuck up a few times along the way. I'm sure that you have skills and experience of some sort, I'm sure that there are things about you that people like. You might not be perfect, but you don't have to be.

Evolution has wired us to focus on negatives, because that's what kept us alive on the African savannah - it's no use being brilliant at gathering berries if you're crap at running away from lions. As hunter-gatherers, failure was usually a matter of life-or-death. That inbuilt programming is a bad match for modern life, where the cost of failure is usually much less than the cost of not trying at all. We often avoid things like job interviews or first dates because we're afraid embarrassment, but if we approach the situation rationally it's clear that we have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Making a tit of yourself a few times is a small price to pay if the eventual outcome is getting a great job or meeting the love of your life.

Sometimes, shit things happen to us and there's no way of putting a positive spin on it. We didn't gain any useful experience, it wasn't character building, we didn't learn anything about ourselves, it was just shit from beginning to end. In that case, you've got a choice - you can let it define you, or you can choose how to define yourself. The facts are the facts, but you get to choose the story you tell about yourself. Your mistake can be the dead end that brought everything to a screeching halt, or it can be a painful detour on the road to something better. You can be the bitter old sod who pissed his life away, or you can be the man who picked himself up and built a life he could be proud of.
>> No. 27280 Anonymous
10th August 2018
Friday 6:28 pm
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>>27269
The pressure comes from my parents never helping me with fuck all, or offering too then never following up. I can't hate them because they weren't awful to me, but their idea of raising me was just being "nice" all the sodding time. Whatever, that's not strictly relevant. And yes I understand moaning about your parents is disgracefully teenlad-ish behaviour.

I liked doing my uni course but the commute was a chore, and seperately I just felt overcome with anxiety and nerves thinking about the work I needed to do. It was also a subject that required more than just one person to hand on a fairly regular basis and I'm a billy-no-mates who lives in the sticks. I don't have social anxiety, just to clarify that point. I can speak to people just fine, what I can't do is focus on an academic task without being overcome by shame and embarrassment. It's like I get imposter syndrome without even having achieved anything. Equally once I've failed at something like this (it's by no means the first time) that shame does bleed into how I interact with others, and usually that means I avoid them wholesale.

I've been drifting for absolutely ages, this was supposed to be it. I lied about my GCSE's just to get on the access course.

>>27274
Not if I fucking neck myself.

>>27277
Yeah, but you probably have ideas and ambition and an employment history. And I never even got funding for this one.

Sorry if I sound like I'm having a go at any point in all that, I'm only angry at myself.
>> No. 27282 Anonymous
10th August 2018
Friday 9:11 pm
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>>27280


>Yeah, but you probably have ideas and ambition and an employment history.

No mate. I was completely directionless and had never worked a day in my life at that point. I practically begged for a job as a dishwasher and was only eating the food they gave me there. I definitely thought that was the end of my life too but the reality is I was barely out of my teens. Honestly if you weren't getting funding, you're probably better off out of it, I certainly don't think any degree is worth 30 grand of your own money straight out.

The thing here is that instead of just getting wrapped up in your own shame (and nobody but you cares as much as you do about this, we all are our own harshest critic) you should remember that you can use this feeling and learn from it and avoid any future wall-pissing. I can fully relate to impostor syndrome during studying, I've worked out now that's exactly what I did - I was so scared of failing, of someone 'discovering' that I didn't know something, that I never could bring myself to try.

If I was 23 again I'd go straight into applying for apprenticeships in my area of interest. It's a lot harder to feel like a sham when you're actively doing the job and you're expected to learn by doing, and it would just work better for me than traditional studying ever could. It's shite pay, but it's free education and more money than you get paid to go to uni, certainly.

I have a feeling you'll dismiss that out of hand but please think about it for a little bit.
>> No. 27283 Anonymous
10th August 2018
Friday 11:19 pm
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>>27280

>The pressure comes from my parents never helping me with fuck all, or offering too then never following up. I can't hate them because they weren't awful to me, but their idea of raising me was just being "nice" all the sodding time. Whatever, that's not strictly relevant. And yes I understand moaning about your parents is disgracefully teenlad-ish behaviour.

That is not a source of pressure though is it? You are well within your rights to resent them for saying they would help and not, that's their fuck up. But that isn't what I asked, I asked why you feel pressured? There are people your age that are perfectly happy bumming around doing fuck all for their future having fun and exploring for no other reason than to please themselves there are people who never move beyond doing that, so why do you feel pressure what is it you think will happen?


>I liked doing my uni course but the commute was a chore, and seperately I just felt overcome with anxiety and nerves thinking about the work I needed to do. It was also a subject that required more than just one person to hand on a fairly regular basis and I'm a billy-no-mates who lives in the sticks. I don't have social anxiety, just to clarify that point. I can speak to people just fine, what I can't do is focus on an academic task without being overcome by shame and embarrassment. It's like I get imposter syndrome without even having achieved anything. Equally once I've failed at something like this (it's by no means the first time) that shame does bleed into how I interact with others, and usually that means I avoid them wholesale.

That shame and embarressment you feel for academic tasks why do you think that is? What is wrong with them, or you doing them? Be honest.

>I've been drifting for absolutely ages, this was supposed to be it. I lied about my GCSE's just to get on the access course.


You can drift forever if you want to, join a hippy commune, journey to India ect. It seems like you are putting very low value in what you were doing before? why? What was wrong with it?
>> No. 27307 Anonymous
25th August 2018
Saturday 3:41 pm
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In the times of whinging about the shite hand fate had dealt to me I sometimes re-call that there are folks who have had it even shittier. While that doesn't really make me feel better it reminds me that it could be worse. Trite and banal, yes, but that's where I'm at in the moment.

I can't accept it - nor do I seek to - and shrug off the desire to get something better for myself but there aren't any obvious ways to go for it.
>> No. 27308 Anonymous
27th August 2018
Monday 7:47 pm
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It's probably time to reevaluate your life when you end of listening to The Postal Service at gone midnight because a girl almost half your age who you met on Tinder used some of their lyrics as the caption to a photo she posted on Instagram.
>> No. 27309 Anonymous
27th August 2018
Monday 8:00 pm
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>>27308

Definitely. Nobody wants to go out with someone with the exact same tastes and interests as them, that would be boring as fuck. Instead of trawling Ben Gibbard's Wikipedia page, I suggest you consider just talking to this bird about stuff you like instead.
>> No. 27310 Anonymous
27th August 2018
Monday 8:15 pm
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>>27309

Oh I did, until about four o'clock in the damn morning. I think I'm too old for her, despite our shared enjoyment of music made when she was three years old.

Didn't stop me sitting and maudlin over many a fuck up in love past, mind.
>> No. 27311 Anonymous
28th August 2018
Tuesday 10:38 pm
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>>27310

This post is tangentially related to yours, but I've been thinking about age and stuff a lot recently.

It's a different kind of appreciation and there will be little in common about your actual lives. Use it as a gateway to her pants obviously, but nothing more. You don't need to feel bad about it unless you start craving much more than shagging her.

I was thinking about this the other day at work. The new lad mentioned something about having a taste for early 00's nu-metal. And it occurred to me that that music must seem to him the way Metallica and Megadeth etc did when I was his age, music that was current approximately the time of my birth, whereas nu-metal is the stuff I tried my best to forget about ever liking as a teenlad.

I'm old enough by now that I've "dated" a lass who was nearly a decade younger than me, and although it wasn't quite a pedo-type age gap, the difference in upbringing and background memory is enough to make things feel really weird sometimes. I would talk nostalgically about everyone's childhood pokemon obsession, while she was basically learning to walk at the time.

The moral of the story is I've decided from now on I'm not going to go out with a lass unless she remembers falling out with a mate who wouldn't trade back your fucking Alakazam.
>> No. 27312 Anonymous
28th August 2018
Tuesday 11:17 pm
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>>27311


>> No. 27313 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 1:11 am
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>>27311

>The moral of the story is I've decided from now on I'm not going to go out with a lass unless she remembers falling out with a mate who wouldn't trade back your fucking Alakazam.

You know that still happens with 5 year olds now right? Alakazam is litterally a pokemon in the newest game that came out 2 years ago, that you can still only get it to evolve through trading. And it isn't some nostalgic thing from your childhood no one cares about it is in some ways bigger than star wars.
>> No. 27314 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 1:15 pm
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>>27313

Showing your age there mate. How many kids do you think trade in person rather than just over the Internet?

No 8 year old today is going to be sat in the classroom seething at Joe after dinner break because of a stolen Gengar.
>> No. 27315 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 1:51 pm
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>>27314
Of course they are.

Online trading with someone you don't know irl is a mugs game, there are certain pokemon that you can only get to evolve through trading whilst they are holding a rare item that is burnt in use.
You need someone you trust to make that trade or someone is going to fuck someone over, and then the other person is going to tell their mum.
>> No. 27316 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 4:22 pm
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>>27315

Do keep up lad.

The done thing is that you both have an evolvable pokemon to trade. Kadabra 4 Kadabra.
>> No. 27317 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 4:27 pm
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You keep arguing about Pokemon and neither of you will have to worry about women anymore.
>> No. 27318 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 5:50 pm
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>>27316

From what I remember you can't check the items for online trade which is relevant in the example I gave.
>> No. 27319 Anonymous
29th August 2018
Wednesday 6:01 pm
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>>27318

You go on pokemon Web forums before and share your Nintendo ID thing apparently, they're not daft these younguns. It's all pre arranged and kosher, the sort of life skill that will see them good drugs and good hookers later in life
>> No. 27320 Anonymous
30th August 2018
Thursday 2:57 am
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>>27311

> It's a different kind of appreciation and there will be little in common about your actual lives. Use it as a gateway to her pants obviously, but nothing more. You don't need to feel bad about it unless you start craving much more than shagging her.

I'd like to say that I've gotten soft in my old age, but to be honest I think I've always been kind of soft in this way; if I like a lass enough to shag her then I'm probably going to like her enough to want something a bit more.

I've got nothing morally or ethically against shagging girls for a week or a month and then just fading out of their lives, it just always feels a little bit sad-making for me. What was it that Holden Caulfield said? "Don't ever start shagging anyone. If you do, you start missing everybody"? Something like that, anyway.

> I'm old enough by now that I've "dated" a lass who was nearly a decade younger than me

The biggest age gaps for me were five years when I was 21 and the girl was 26 (and what an experience that was, I basically learned everything I know about shagging from those six months or so) and six years when I was 30 and the girl 24. I'm not sure how much of an age difference I could handle now, probably ten to fifteen years max before my own personal "this feels weird" alarms would start to go off.

I think if there's anything to be learned from all this it's that the constant reboots of popular culture allow us to build almost false rapports with people much younger than us due to the fact that we all share the same recycled culture that's been being spat out at us for the last eighteen years.

You can still shag university age girls today just by knowing about Harry fucking Potter for christ's sake. I remember when I had to memorize passages from Phillip Roth and Will Self novels in order to appear halfway shaggable to an English Lit student. How times have changed, indeed.

Sage for serious candidate for rambling post of the year.
>> No. 27321 Anonymous
30th August 2018
Thursday 3:29 am
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I see the age gap thing crop up on here a lot, but in my own experience, there's only so far you can go with 'we both remember pogs'. I saw a 20 year old for a bit when I was 28, if anything our different memories of childhood fads was a talking point rather than a brick wall. I think that sort of age gap isn't particularly massive though, we're essentially the same generation, only real difference is that the internet was slower for me. Maybe it's different for you 35+ year old lads who had a truly different childhood, at least in terms of the digital age.

There's better reasons to avoid uni age girls than cultural ones, though. Typically they just have no idea what they're on about and haven't worked out how to give a good blowie yet. And unless you're into the whole 'daddy' thing, teaching someone that sort of thing is a bit odd.

I think I'll stick with those hovering around 30 now, forever. Any younger and it's just weird once I'm wrinkly.
>> No. 27322 Anonymous
30th August 2018
Thursday 3:45 am
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>>27321

> I think I'll stick with those hovering around 30 now, forever.

Dodgy vintage that for birds, unless you're into single mums with more baggage than a 747.

Really 24-27 is prime age for lasses no matter how old you get. Still young enough to be in good nick, experienced enough to be a lot of fun, but just old enough to not insist on dragging you out to tiresome clubs and will instead let you take them out for dinner before blowing your muck right up their chocolate bonbon factory.
>> No. 27323 Anonymous
30th August 2018
Thursday 3:53 am
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>>27322

That's fair, I did sort of mean 30 would be the maximum. And in my neck of the woods if they have kids they had them in their teens, though I see your point.

I think I said 'around 30' as I'm sat looking at my missus and she's 30 in October.
>> No. 27324 Anonymous
30th August 2018
Thursday 1:12 pm
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>>27322

Eh, it's a moving target these days. 30 is "two kids and a council house" in my hometown, but it's "living in a flatshare and trying to get your career going" in That London. A lot of people I know are knocking on 40 and still miles away from settling down.

Personally, I think there's a lot to be said for older women. Guardian Soulmates is full of fit divorcees in their late 30s and early 40s. If you can overlook a few stretch marks and wrinkles, you can do very well for yourself. Some of my best dating experiences have been with professional single mothers, because they're too busy to play games - they just want a decent meal, a grown-up conversation and a good hard shag. It's like the highlights package of a relationship.
>> No. 27329 Anonymous
31st August 2018
Friday 9:02 pm
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Thinkin’ ‘bout suicide again, tea-bee-aitch.
>> No. 27330 Anonymous
31st August 2018
Friday 11:50 pm
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>>27321

You're right that seven or eight years isn't a huge gap in relative terms. But I think what I realised with my 21 year old ex (I'm 28 too funnily enough) is that things started moving a lot faster for her sub-generation. We had enough in common, but even though I was only a few years older than her really, at times I often felt like a bit of an old far when she was using some daft app that I had thus far dismissed as teenage bollocks or whatever; and we'd often get into arguments where she wanted to do things I advised her against out of honest concern and my own life experience, but did them anyway. People have to make their own mistakes, I couldn't expect her to listen every time, but when you're in a relationship, those mistakes often affect you too and it inevitably gets tiring.

She was alright in bed though. Probably just had a filthy mind because she'd been deprived of attention through her chubby teenage years. I've always found it to be the case that lasses who get a lot of sex from an early age are the worst at it, and their current age isn't really a factor. If they have an easy time with blokes, they don't put the same level of effort in. The ones who do it properly are invariably the least slutty and most outwardly reserved in my experience. They take the time to work you out instead of assuming you work the same as every other lad they've noshed off. Shy, slightly chubby nerdy lasses are the way forward lads.
>> No. 27333 Anonymous
3rd September 2018
Monday 3:55 pm
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I broke up with the Mrs a month or so back and whilst I'm mostly glad of it, doing alright, when I'm working on my own or have nothing to do I occasionally get into this cycle of thought that makes me quite angry and indignant about the whole thing.

I'm well over her and glad we broke up, but the way things panned out left her in the position to make me look like the bad guy, I'm the one having to try stay away from certain people and places in order to avoid a conflict. It's just bullocks frankly and I don't know what to do to stop myself seething about it on those occasions.

People just take sympathy for a lass without questioning it, and assume the bloke will be alright. I had very good reason to chuck her but it feels like nobody is really on my side and it's shit.
>> No. 27334 Anonymous
3rd September 2018
Monday 4:58 pm
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>>27330

I've found that people who have slept with loads of people seem to think everyone likes the exact same thing and just go through the motions.
>> No. 27335 Anonymous
4th September 2018
Tuesday 12:22 pm
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>>27324
Christ yes, you've not lived until you've been the distinctly younger, sexual plaything of another hardened career woman who goes to hot yoga every Thursday, has well-researched opinions on which Guardian writers she'd gladly stab in the eye with a lit cigarette and would rather drop dead than introduce you to her teenage kids. Ah, Louise. How I miss thee.
>> No. 27336 Anonymous
4th September 2018
Tuesday 3:34 pm
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Barring the misogyny guff, I've realised I'm basically every /r9k/ stereotype in the book. Oh, I'm clean shaven as well. Whenever I try thinking about my problems I get so overwhelmed as to be rendered fucked, I really can't stand it. However, I'm sure I will anyway.
>> No. 27377 Anonymous
16th September 2018
Sunday 10:31 pm
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I met a girl, we had a great time together. After 3 dates within a week and a half I can feel myself falling for her. I don't think I've ever felt this way about someone so soon.

Tonight she texted me saying it's been fun but she thinks she'd like to leave it now as she's "not interested in pursuing things". When I asked her what went wrong she says she's anxious in general, has a lot on at work and doesn't want to be "thinking about too many things I guess ?"

I wasn't expecting this.
>> No. 27378 Anonymous
16th September 2018
Sunday 10:53 pm
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>>27377

That's fucking shite. Sorry, mate.
>> No. 27379 Anonymous
16th September 2018
Sunday 11:21 pm
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>>27336
>I'm basically every /r9k/ stereotype in the book

What's it even like these days? I was there from pretty much the start until it started going to shit and turning into the gangbang of whining late on in 2008. It really was great in the very old days.
>> No. 27381 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 1:13 am
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>>27379

Didn't /r9k/ only get founded in 2008 in the first place? It was originally an auto-moderated /b/ brought in to fend off the constant spam-posts without resorting to captchas. Didn't it turn into the gigantic aut-fest somewhere around 2011? Honestly my 4chan history is very, very patchy.

>>27377

That is grim lad. Dating really is a wilderness sometimes, my commiserations.
>> No. 27383 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 7:04 am
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>>27381
It was formed early 2008 and the first 7/8 months were some of the most enjoyable I've had on the internet; the community was great and highly creative in those days. It started going to shit around the time of the US election because we were simply too nice and we'd listen to people about their problems, which led to a deluge of people whining about relationships and the inevitable "bitches and whores" shitfest. It went from a place for slightly awkward people to dick around and have a laugh to basement dwellers shrieking about normies and sucking the fun out of everything. One of the last things I remember is moot trolling the board by pretending he'd been rejected by a girl after taking her to McDonald's for a date.
>> No. 27384 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 10:51 am
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>>27383

I too remember old r9k fondly, it is a shame it will never return, it has place in the halls of golden ages of history alongside the late roman republic, and the enlightenment.
>> No. 27387 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 12:01 pm
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>>27379

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gresham%27s_law

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Market_for_Lemons
>> No. 27388 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 12:29 pm
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>>27387

I don't see the applicablity of coin debasement even in a metaphorical sense, (are you suggesting that lower quality posters joined, so people stopped putting the effort in to make better quality posts?)
>> No. 27389 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 5:09 pm
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>>27388

Yeah, basically. A relatively small proportion of shitposters and trolls can drag down the average quality of posts, driving away the better posts and starting a vicious cycle of declining quality. Some people will save their serious posts for a forum that isn't quite as trollish, some people will stop putting the effort in to make serious replies, some people will leave altogether, some people will get bitter and start acting like a cunt.
>> No. 27390 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 9:20 pm
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>>27389
Welcome to /emo/ from the day /*/ came along onwards.
>> No. 27391 Anonymous
17th September 2018
Monday 10:32 pm
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>>27389
I'd have said we had far more shitposters when this place was more active. There was always that one cunt who'd try shitting up every thread whilst getting the first post in.

The impression I get of this place at the minute is that there's a lot of lads lurking and ready to join in a conversation, but they won't start one themselves.
>> No. 27392 Anonymous
18th September 2018
Tuesday 9:24 pm
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>>27391

Is it any surprise? Some lads here will cunt off about quite literally anything, derail a thread and then piss off.

The mods never ban them though and I'm honestly not sure why, they used to be much more stringent, but now some cunt will argue about a minor point and nobody cares, thread ruined, discussion gone, everybody moves on.

It's not hard to understand why.
>> No. 27393 Anonymous
18th September 2018
Tuesday 10:20 pm
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>>27392

>The mods never ban them though

I've been here long enough to have learned that the mods are only ever either too heavy handed, or not banning enough. I can understand why it might seem like that from the outside, but I really don't see many things overlooked. I'm looking at the banlist now (I know, inherent bias here) and there's basically a ban a day on average. For our posting rate that a fair amount.

I'm really not trying to catch you out or anything by asking this - can you point to some posts you think should have been banned recently that weren't? Often someone will think a shitpost has gone ignored when actually some other post of theirs was the one with the ban label stuck on it.
>> No. 27394 Anonymous
18th September 2018
Tuesday 10:58 pm
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>>27392
I'd have said the issue was that discussions become too specialised. For instance, if you're not interested in the likes of car maintenance, the restaurant trade or computer programming then at times you're completely stuffed because that's the only topic being discussed and you either don't have anything to contribute to it or don't want to divert the thread to something else whilst it's still being discussed.

I'm not complaining about that, mind. I've learnt a lot from you robot moon ovens. I think we simply need more threads so there's more than one active conversation on the go.
>> No. 27395 Anonymous
18th September 2018
Tuesday 11:19 pm
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>>27393

>I think we simply need more threads so there's more than one active conversation on the go.

You're bang on there. Though /*/ changed our lives for the better, it did so at the cost of narrowing our focus.

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