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>> No. 23560 Anonymous
16th November 2016
Wednesday 6:49 pm
23560 Minor angst and existential dread, Mk. I
We tend to have a lot of repeated threads here, but I also get the feeling people don't tend to post in /emo/ unless it's a big issue.

With this in mind I suggest that we have a thread for stuff that's got you down a bit and you need to get off your chest, without it being major enough to make an entire thread devoted to it. We can also use it as a go-to for minor relationship advice, work problems, social drama, and things like that.

Everyone gets down from time to time, let's put some Sisters of Mercy on and wallow together for a while.
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>> No. 28828 Anonymous
22nd August 2019
Thursday 1:27 am
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>>28826
I meant while I'm that angry. I know I'm a hopeless cunt, but you could at least not make fun in /emo/, just allow me me mash my keyboard like a malformed moron in peace.
>> No. 28831 Anonymous
22nd August 2019
Thursday 8:25 pm
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I've realised binge eating is my anger management strategy.
>> No. 28836 Anonymous
23rd August 2019
Friday 12:52 pm
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>>28827

I read an article about Alex the parrot, followed by Chaser and Rico the border collies. They're all animals with wide vocabularies and apparent understanding of language itself, as opposed to just rote memorisation of sounds. The parrot, most fascinatingly, was shown his own reflection in a mirror, and asked "What colour?", which is the only example of any animal asking a question.

It warmed my icy heart quite thoroughly, until I got to this bit:

>His last words ("You be good, see you tomorrow. I love you") were the same words that he would say every night when Pepperberg left the lab.

Anyway it was a good read. Would recommend.
>> No. 28837 Anonymous
23rd August 2019
Friday 1:10 pm
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>>28836
>which is the only example of any animal asking a question

My cat's ask 'where is my food?' all the time.
>> No. 28838 Anonymous
23rd August 2019
Friday 1:14 pm
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>>28837

Cats don't ask. They demand.
>> No. 28851 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 11:15 am
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We're proper fucked now, lads. Not long until the feedback loop starts, the next 3-5 years are going to bring great and brutal change so this way of life is pretty much done. It's sort of freeing in a way, there's a weight off now nothing really matters. Going to try and live in the moment more and travel for the next couple years, while doing a shit load of drugs. Enjoy the ride down.
>> No. 28853 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 11:20 am
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>>28851
Just giving up like that? Pussy.
>> No. 28855 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 12:44 pm
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>>28851
Yeah WWIII's going to be tough on all of us.
>> No. 28860 Anonymous
24th August 2019
Saturday 2:53 pm
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I feel awful and reading about a man who raised £20,000 to take his cat on holiday didn't help one bit.
>> No. 28881 Anonymous
27th August 2019
Tuesday 6:05 pm
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I feel like a right cunt, but I don't know if I should.

I've been asked by a group of "friends" to chip in for quite an expensive present for another member of the group. I basically don't exist to them, and know for a fact they would never in a trillion years do the same for me. Hell, not one of them could be arsed to come to a meetup I tried to organise when I got back into the area.

If I don't chip in the money, though, I'll look like a dickhead. I don't want to lose the group; I've always struggled to make friends, and have resigned myself to being a bit of a doormat because it's better than the maddening loneliness of being couped up at home.
>> No. 28882 Anonymous
27th August 2019
Tuesday 6:46 pm
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>>28881
If you can, just ignore it and they'll have forgotten about it before long.
>> No. 28892 Anonymous
4th September 2019
Wednesday 1:36 pm
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At the chip shop i usually ask for a chicken pie, and they've come to know that i mean a chicken and mushroom pie. only yesterday i was served by an unknown person so i asked properly. The regular worker gave me a bit of a look, then when she handed me the package she called 'chips and a pie'. with audiable italics.

Usually i say my order, please and thank you. I don't engage in conversation. I don't make eye contact.

What does this mean? Why did she ackowledge the difference in my behaviour both times? Had i forced them into an unwanted familiarity with me?

I just feel a bit uncomfortable about it all, embarrassed that there's been some kind of communication between us. What did it mean that i behaved differently? I wasn't intimidated by the new person, she was a semi-mature woman, whereas the other is younger.

I get that i am overthinking a trivial encounter. I'd still like to understand the effect that changes of my withdrawn behaviour have on familiar strangers, though.
>> No. 28893 Anonymous
4th September 2019
Wednesday 1:40 pm
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>>28892
Maybe she felt that you still didn't need to specify because she'd have made sure you got the usual sort of pie anyway despite the new person. It's like you don't trust her or sumfink.
>> No. 28894 Anonymous
4th September 2019
Wednesday 2:00 pm
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I can't stop eating and wanking. Haven't crossed the streams yet so that's a plus.
>> No. 28898 Anonymous
4th September 2019
Wednesday 7:17 pm
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>>28894
You know this is the problems board, right?
>> No. 28899 Anonymous
4th September 2019
Wednesday 8:16 pm
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My dick aches but i don't know if it's from too much or too little wanking.
>> No. 28901 Anonymous
4th September 2019
Wednesday 11:51 pm
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My relationship is cold and dead but I'm still trapped living with my Ex till I can find a job.

This has turned my whole life plan on its head to the point I really don't have anything direction now, but I can't really dwell on that or how horribly broken hearted I feel right now or how cold and frustrating it all is and be self-indulgent, I have rather significant practical problems to solve and no safety net.

It is a real kick in the balls though that she is treating it as if it is my fault or I somehow doing it on purpose because I can't conjure the job I need so that I can leave her life forever for her convenience.

If someone has solid advice for how to get a flat large enough to hold a fairly decent pile of crap including large furniture on zero money in London please speak now.
>> No. 28902 Anonymous
5th September 2019
Thursday 12:15 am
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>>28901

I wouldn't let the material stuff bother you that much lad. Sell or get rid of the furniture, find a reasonable room for the time being, get your head together and get a bit of money saved. I'm sure you've got a friend or two that could store a bit.

You live in London, work is abundant- even if retail, you can support yourself if you go full time and take a room in a shared place. It's not glamorous, but it's hardly the time for glamour.

I'd also look at work as a salvation from this, something that allows you work through your experience and focus on something else. Two jobs is quite fun when you're working towards a decent goal, even taking one job seriously can be pretty fun, but that's largely how you choose to approach it.

>she is treating it as if it is my fault

At some length, you've got yourself into this position. Not saying it is your entirely your fault, but I am saying you probably could have saved a couple of hundred to help you out at a time like this- or done some things differently along the way. Similarly, the job you 'need' is a bit of a luxury at the moment that you don't have.

Play the long game: with even some decent effort you could be in a significantly better position within a year.
>> No. 28905 Anonymous
5th September 2019
Thursday 2:45 am
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>>28902
>I wouldn't let the material stuff bother you that much lad. Sell or get rid of the furniture, find a reasonable room for the time being, get your head together and get a bit of money saved. I'm sure you've got a friend or two that could store a bit.

Listen you Non materialist Hippy fuck Neil with if you aren't going to come up with anything better then 'rid yourself of earthly possessions man they OWN YOU MAN' please fuck off back to your commune.

>You live in London, work is abundant- even if retail, you can support yourself if you go full time and take a room in a shared place. It's not glamorous, but it's hardly the time for glamour.

What mentalist are you who thinks retail a) pays even enough for a flat share and b) the pay hasn't dropped to fuck and all thanks to immigrants willing to sleep in a pile like hamsters in some slumlords hovel?

>At some length, you've got yourself into this position. Not saying it is your entirely your fault, but I am saying you probably could have saved a couple of hundred to help you out at a time like this- or done some things differently along the way. Similarly, the job you 'need' is a bit of a luxury at the moment that you don't have.

I am well aware of my position and how I got here, my objection is to the idea that it is somehow my fault that people haven't responded to my applications yet.
The job I 'need' is the same sort of work I've always done for a wage that is enough money to pay for shelter and food and the first one of which answers, imagine thinking that is somehow me being unrealistic.

>Play the long game: with even some decent effort you could be in a significantly better position within a year.

I'll be in a lot better position if I don't sell all my stuff and work in a job that pays less than the cost of living you idiot.
>> No. 28906 Anonymous
5th September 2019
Thursday 8:06 am
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>>28905

With the possessions, I was talking about sunk costs. Furniture can be replaced quite easily and makes moving more manageable. That's an option.

Minimum wage is, just about, enough to get by. There are retail jobs that pay more than minimum, there are decent rooms around 400-500. You also have the ability to work more than 40-hours. These are also an options. Cold, hard, objective options.

They're just options, there is no need to get defensive. If you've been comfortable, with a partner and earning a reasonable amount, those options aren't pleasant. Having been in a similar situation, I'd move out as soon as possible, but I like getting stuff done.

>my objection is to the idea that it is somehow my fault that people haven't responded to my applications yet

It's not your fault that they haven't replied, but it's your fault that you don't have a job. People typically look at the end goal: my 'unrealistic hippie' suggestion was to start somewhere and go from there, at least you couldn't suffer being blamed then.

>I'll be in a lot better position if I don't sell all my stuff and work in a job that pays less than the cost of living you idiot.

Your real issue here is reading comprehension. Someone told you to go stack shelves and sell stuff you don't need, and you called them a hippie and swore at them. You basically called Jeremy Kyle a hippie.
>> No. 28907 Anonymous
5th September 2019
Thursday 8:47 am
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>>28901
>no safety net

You're irresponsible and you come across as a cunt. You do know where you're posting, right?
>> No. 28908 Anonymous
5th September 2019
Thursday 11:03 am
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>You basically called Jeremy Kyle a hippie.

Well the fact that you are saying the same advice as him might be the first clue it isn't real constructive advice and just a tool for provocation and berration.

>>28907

I'm posting in the wallowing thread. I'm sorry that I turn my nose up at advice that gets all the up votes over at r/relationship. But I'm not going to start eating myself when it is still perfectly reasonable for me to find a job that I can get by on. I just needed a teary because the stress was getting to me.
>> No. 28909 Anonymous
5th September 2019
Thursday 11:30 am
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>>28906
>Minimum wage is, just about, enough to get by.

Not to push /emo/ into politics, but this is just factually untrue: https://www.livingwage.org.uk/what-real-living-wage
>> No. 28910 Anonymous
7th September 2019
Saturday 2:06 am
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Finally in from a night out. It was a good friend's birthday so I was semi-obliged to go.

I fucking hate clubs. I have had girlfriends, I've had attention, but something about clubs makes me feel pathetically lonely and sad, everybody there either trying to avoid the people desperate to hook up or people desperate to find somebody to hook up with the make the night worth it.

I always feel a bit grim after it and strangely lonely.

There's a club if you'd like to go
You could meet somebody who really loves you
So you go and you stand on your own
And you leave on your own
And you go home and you cry
And you want to die

>> No. 28931 Anonymous
11th September 2019
Wednesday 7:34 am
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Burying my best mate today and I managed to travel halfway across the country only to forget my proper trousers. A shit day just got worse.
>> No. 28932 Anonymous
11th September 2019
Wednesday 2:36 pm
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>>28931
Would he care about your improper trousers anyway?
>> No. 28933 Anonymous
11th September 2019
Wednesday 3:44 pm
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>>28932
Probably not but then again he was a devout atheist and the service took place in a church. Bought some suitable kecks from a local charity shop for a bargain. Crisis averted.
>> No. 28934 Anonymous
11th September 2019
Wednesday 4:59 pm
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>>28933
They sound like top kecks.
>> No. 28935 Anonymous
11th September 2019
Wednesday 5:47 pm
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I'm not sure if it's just a bad day every other day or if I should really just hand my notice in and get out of my current job before I lose it.

The role isn't a fit for me and I'm not interested in the work but hey, that's any job right? I'm at a crossroads now whether I go through with it and get a clean slate. Both in mind and employment opportunities or convince myself it's another one off and just grit my teeth with it.

The way I've worded this makes it seem I really don't want this job anymore but I fear I'll pussy out again.
>> No. 28936 Anonymous
11th September 2019
Wednesday 6:15 pm
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>>28935
Find a new job before you quit this one. It not only means you won't be caught out but it helps you if you can say to your future employer that you are applying because you want bigger and better things.
>> No. 28937 Anonymous
12th September 2019
Thursday 6:19 am
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>>28936
My problem is my current job is 9-5 Monday-Friday and I need to give a months notice.
Meaning it's a nightmare to schedule an interview within "office hours" and I'm fairly certain any potential employer will be put off when I have to give a month's notice as opposed to someone who can start the next day.
>> No. 28938 Anonymous
12th September 2019
Thursday 7:02 am
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>>28937

Most employers understand this and will schedule around your current job. Four weeks notice isn't all that unusual.
>> No. 28939 Anonymous
12th September 2019
Thursday 8:34 am
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Alright. One more day of sitting about tossing it off reading wiki pages and then tomorrow is going to be the day you start sorting your life out. Do the dishes, put some washing on, good grief man.

I'm barely fucking clinging to existence frankly. Has anyone ever managed to off themselves by simply ceasing to be arsed going about the rituals of life? I almost went to work this morning because it's easier than facing the moral ambiguity of a day off.
>> No. 28940 Anonymous
12th September 2019
Thursday 11:03 pm
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>>28939
Ye, don't try and do everything. Put a wash on, or do some dishes. Small bit at a time is the way to start.
>> No. 28941 Anonymous
13th September 2019
Friday 2:45 pm
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Knowing you're going through a mental break/heading for a breakdown but just sitting there and letting it come is a wild fucking ride.
>> No. 28942 Anonymous
13th September 2019
Friday 9:59 pm
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>>28941
feels
i've been having auditory hallucinations and my memory and concentration have gone to shit i feel like a different person

(A good day to you Sir!)
>> No. 28943 Anonymous
13th September 2019
Friday 11:02 pm
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That manner of posting is rightly unnacceptable, but you modsods better not have given him one of your piss-takingly long bans, by which I mean anything over an hour.
>> No. 28944 Anonymous
13th September 2019
Friday 11:25 pm
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>>28943
/shed/ m8.
>> No. 28945 Anonymous
14th September 2019
Saturday 10:08 am
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I wake up every morning as me. I wouldn't wish this fate on anyone.

I'm not religious but I sort of feel like I should be. Maybe this is one of those psychological hells rather than the fire and brimstone type.
>> No. 28946 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 1:03 am
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Whenever I consider suicide I think that if I've reached a point where it seems like a viable option, I may as well just live as if I'm already dead, and suddenly I feel a sense of peace and freedom.
>> No. 28947 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 1:23 am
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>>28945
>>28946
So do something to redeem yourself.
>> No. 28948 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 1:47 am
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>>28947
> redeem yourself

Nice egoic delusions my man
>> No. 28950 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 8:20 am
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>>28948
You could say that to anyone using the word "I" but you chose to bring it up in response to that? Unless you think either poster can depress themselves to Buddhist enlightenment it seems unhelpful.
>> No. 28951 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 12:28 pm
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>>28947
>>28946 and I are not the same, so he may take what you said differently.

>Redeem yourself
But what can I do? Any efforts at self improvement may work in the short term but I usually end up worse than I started. Even so, nothing really changes when I do.
>> No. 28952 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 1:36 pm
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>>28951

Find something you can do that benefits others and needs regular doing.
>> No. 28953 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 8:48 pm
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I don't want to top myself, but I honestly dread waking up everyday. Why can I just die peacefully in my sleep?
>> No. 28954 Anonymous
15th September 2019
Sunday 11:52 pm
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>>28953
What's putting the willies up you come morning?
>> No. 28955 Anonymous
16th September 2019
Monday 1:13 am
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>>28954
The fact of living for another day. I try my best and put mu affairs in order hoping that I die in my sleep. I have been doing this for three years now. It is draining.
>> No. 28956 Anonymous
17th September 2019
Tuesday 10:51 am
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Why does it seem to be getting harder, lads? I've been alone my whole life but this past month all I've felt is that I'm in desperate need of a hug and someone to tell me things are ok.
>> No. 28957 Anonymous
17th September 2019
Tuesday 2:51 pm
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>>28956
Things are OK, lad. We’re all gonna make it.

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