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>> No. 30315 Anonymous
26th December 2020
Saturday 8:32 pm
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How do you go about finding a good wife? Otherlad scared me by talking about women in their 30s and baggage.

I know this sounds like 'how do I get a girlfriend' but I'm looking for something more where I can have children and all that stuff yet still be happy in the long-term. I'm not a bad catch (my mum gave me a note saying so) and even convinced women to be in a relationship with me but they never felt like people I saw a long-term future with. Always a catch like I'd have to go live in Australia or we'd be sexually out of sync or they're impossible to live with etc.

This is where the 'good' part comes in where I'm not sacrificing my happiness to settle for someone I can have children with or importing a mystery wife like a saddo - it's an impossible desire but I must've missed the class on this. I get that it's ultimately a roll of the dice so should I just grab someone with money and/or looks and hope for the best? Where do I go to find a wife? Should I copy television and construct a double life as a mild mannered accountant with a close web of work friendships and get in a relationship with Sue from sales after a drunken kiss at the Christmas party?
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>> No. 30316 Anonymous
26th December 2020
Saturday 8:46 pm
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The most effective way to find a woman is through widening your social circle and getting introduced to people that way. Beyond that, there's always Slimming World.
>> No. 30317 Anonymous
26th December 2020
Saturday 9:12 pm
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There's always a compromise in my experience. It's one of those situations where you have three requirements in a triangle, but you can only pick two. How you meet them is immaterial- I've had no better or worse luck on dating apps and the like than I have in real life through social circles, work or what have you.

Fit and easygoing, good job? Shit in bed. Good shag as well as having her life sorted out? Probably a bit of a chubster or intolerably needy. Clever and charming as well as a good shag? Trainwreck who can't keep a job to save her life.

That's oversimplifying the matter but it's very much the case I've found. I assume if you're fit and wealthy enough the class of woman you can attract is capable of ticking all three boxes, but I'm no Chris Hemsworth and I assume you're not either, so you do just have to decide what you'd rather concede I think. It's a very cynical view to suggest people "just settle for less" when they get to a certain age, but ultimately it's just about how long you're prepared to gamble on bigger money versus crashing out of the game empty handed. Often it's wiser to cash out early with more modest winnings.
>> No. 30318 Anonymous
26th December 2020
Saturday 10:37 pm
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- Bumble
- Church
- Societies at a decent uni
>> No. 30319 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 12:11 am
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Get those dating apps for religious people. Sign up to all of them. Swipe right on everyone (you can deal with what you don't want later).

That should do it.
>> No. 30320 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 12:56 am
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>>30315

The biggest question is why do you even want a wife, specifically?

If what you really want is a stable long-term relationship then those tend to come about from somewhat stable shorter term relationships, which again in turn come about from unstable short term relationships.

Unless you're paying some human trafficking seeking arrangements firm in the Ukraine* or getting your auntie from the homeland to set you up with a cousin wives don't tend to just fall into your lap, like.

If what you're really asking is "where do I find women of marriage material" then that's a whole other kettle of beans that I don't feel like getting into right now.

* Yes I know that someone's going to bitch at me that it's just "Ukraine" now. I'm old, OK?
>> No. 30321 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 1:33 am
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As an over simplified guess of someone who has never succeeded in such things but has had a lot of failures. Make friends with decent upstanding people, they will introduce you to other decent upstanding people. Eventually you will network into a wife. You probably aren't going to meet her through easy pick up routes of a club or online dating.

In terms of knowing when you have found them. If you get the feeling they treat you as expendable or of low priority, it will never be a good relationship long term.
Be willing to make big steps to accommodate the relationship if necessary, it isn't supposed to be a thing of convenience.
>> No. 30322 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 4:18 pm
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I honestly wish there were a formula on how to reach the right people with whom you share common interests and are romantically compatible with. Thinking about it, I'm sure some sociology or stats wonk has tried.

I've given the advice in other threads, but it may actually be more appropriate here: pursuing things that matter to you and that you're interested in, as fully as you can, in a way that brings you in touch with a greater number of people, is about as sure a way as any to meet someone with similar values and aims.

>>30321
>Be willing to make big steps to accommodate the relationship if necessary, it isn't supposed to be a thing of convenience.

Good advice. I'd also add that if the other person is up to scratch and someone you enjoy spending time with, you'll probably find yourself more willing to make the sacrifices. It's not all about gut feeling, but I've certainly noticed in myself I steer towards things I like and see a future in.

Anecdotally, I've been seeing girls where it felt like a drag and an inconvenience to walk the ten minutes to their flat, and other girls I've been more than happy to sit hours on the train just to see for the day.
>> No. 30323 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 5:04 pm
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Make your girlfriend complicit in a terrible crime, so you're both bound together by a secret that only becomes more awful with time. That way, neither of you can betray the other without ruining your own life.

Either that or find someone whose dreams matter more to you than your own.
>> No. 30324 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 5:36 pm
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>>30323
He could just impregnate his girlfriend. They usually tend to want to get married after that, if they don't want to abort.
>> No. 30325 Anonymous
27th December 2020
Sunday 11:17 pm
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MGTOW

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