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In my experience, the main purpose of an autism diagnosis is to provide an explanation for something that is otherwise extremely confusing and distressing. Once you know what you're dealing with, everything feels a lot better.
I, officially, don't have autism. But throughout my life, people I know have constantly been telling me, "Dude you have autism lmao", based on the fact that autism is the only mental problem they can name, and they want to play the genius expert in human nature. The fact that none of the countless doctors I've ever encountered have ever told me I'm autistic, and the test I found online that apparently picks up autism pretty competently said I am completely 100% not autistic, doesn't fit their narrative so they ignore it. In reality, I'm just weird, or potentially I guess I might have something else. Anyway, I often wonder if I might be wrong about myself and actually be autistic after all, and some points come up constantly:
1) Autism isn't something you either have or don't have. It's a spectrum.
2) This means, of course, that everyone is somewhere on the spectrum, and we're all a little bit autistic, even me.
3) People telling me I'm autistic as a self-aggrandising insult to discredit my conversational contributions means that even though it shouldn't matter whether I'm autistic or not, I really, really hope I'm not autistic, just so I'm right and the various bullies and wankers I have met are all wrong.
4) Any diagnosis is just based on a doctor's opinion. There isn't any kind of brain deformity or structural difference that you can look for to stop autism, and the doctor only really has what you tell them to base their diagnosis on. They don't know you, after all.
5) Imagine for a moment that I did have autism. What then? What would change? There are no anti-autism pills that would make me normal and cool. I probably wouldn't even get one of those cool "Please be patient; I have autism" hats that lets everyone know they need to be nice to me. Women wouldn't swoon over me suddenly, deciding that my personality is suddenly sexy now it's a chapter in a psychology textbook. My job wouldn't pay me more to compensate for the hardships of having autism. Literally all I would get is an answer to a question I don't care about, from a person who doesn't know me.
And again, some people really want that answer. I am now good friends with a girl I went to university with, who I liked but spent very little time with back when I knew her. She was very quiet and didn't really socialise much, and I stayed with my group of friends. Anyway, a few years ago, she had some serious emotional crisis, and tried to kill herself at least twice. Doctors had diagnosed her with various mental problems, and others had said she was just making it up for attention. Doctors are incompetent fuckheads, by the way.
Turns out she has autism. Lots of doctors had dismissed this when she suggested it, because female autism presents itself differently, and they didn't know this because, once again, doctors are fuckheads. All my friend's problems had stemmed from her not fitting in, struggling to make herself understood and struggling to understand other people, and never knowing why. Now she knows she has autism, she's much happier and lives a perfectly okay life. So there is a lot to be said for just giving someone that diagnosis if they want it. But again, from my perspective, I don't think I have autism and I much prefer just being a unique and special snowflake instead.
Here's the test I took, if you want to try it yourself. It was devised by Ali G's brother! https://www.aspietests.org/aq/index.php