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>> No. 12706 Anonymous
12th November 2018
Monday 6:44 am
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Morning lads, I have an issue that I think everyone has faced at some point involving new job anxiety. I think typing this out will ease my worry in itself but if you had any sage wisdom it would be most appreciated.

My new role is seemingly perfect, professional and I feel very lucky to have gotten it. I've also moved to a new city where I don't know anyone so it's a big step. The problem is that I worry I will either be fired or end up not making any friends at work. That would be heartbreaking and at 30 I feel less able to afford messing this up when I'm trying to put my life in order.

This isn't without some basis. I'm coming back into work after a long period hiding in academia and before that I struggled to hold down a job much less make workplace friends (I’m a little shy/awkward). University fixed that in more ways than one from building my self-confidence and people skills to simply getting me out of the call centre/data entry hell. Of course, I must acknowledge that university life is also very different to the real world so I don’t know how much my luck will have changed.

Anyway, I’m sure this is all very tedious to read but you can understand my cause for concern. How do I fit in and achieve job security? Would baking some cookies at the end of the week for everyone send the wrong signals as the rational part of my brain suggests?
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>> No. 12707 Anonymous
12th November 2018
Monday 7:00 am
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This'll sound daft, but talk back to people when they talk to you. If someone asks about your weekend then ask how theirs was.
>> No. 12708 Anonymous
12th November 2018
Monday 7:23 am
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>How do I fit in and achieve job security?

You're the new lad. You're not the first new lad and you won't be the last. Everyone is expecting that it'll take you a while to settle in to the job, learn the ropes and get to know everyone. Nobody is expecting you to be a total whizzkid or to be the life and soul of the party; trying to be either will just alienate people.

Be polite, be friendly, show willing and try to avoid any properly massive fuck-ups. If you can manage that, you'll be fine.

If you don't make any friends at work, that's no great tragedy. They might not be the kind of people you want to spend your free time with and there are plenty of other ways to meet people. If the job doesn't go as well as you hoped, that's no great tragedy either. Unemployment is at a record low and there are plenty of decent jobs for qualified people like yourself. As long as you don't literally burn the office down or bankrupt the company, you'll get a decent enough reference.
>> No. 12709 Anonymous
12th November 2018
Monday 10:10 pm
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> at 30 I feel less able to afford messing this up when I'm trying to put my life in order.

Logic dictates that you do not need to feel this way. You can afford to fail.
>> No. 12712 Anonymous
13th November 2018
Tuesday 11:29 am
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I've recently changed jobs too. I don't feel exactly comfortable as I tend to feel that I was taken because of no other candidates. I have to note that I don't have much evidence for that so maybe it's just a self-doubt. But maybe not.

I'm also not the most personable lad and a bit awkward and I really wish I could just carry it being aloof and not feeling uncomfortable. For some reason awkwardness usually takes over and I try too hard to appear 'normal'. The outcome is of course anything but that; about a year ago some other lad asked me if I could to not do that, in almost exact words 'you look like a tryhard, don't, you are okay'.

Sage for /emo/ bollocks.

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